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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago
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Why is it when i write a veri for someone i have met they wont put it on their profile or write me one because of upsetting a woman they meet regularly...doesnt make sense, is this a swingers site or a dating site?.. |
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over a year ago
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"Why is it when i write a veri for someone i have met they wont put it on their profile or write me one because of upsetting a woman they meet regularly...doesnt make sense, is this a swingers site or a dating site?.."
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"Why is it when i write a veri for someone i have met they wont put it on their profile or write me one because of upsetting a woman they meet regularly...doesnt make sense, is this a swingers site or a dating site?.."
Well I guess everyone has their own reasons for doing stuff which is their choice. As you are already verified I would maybe question why you really care?
Everyone is entitled to do what they want on there own profiles afterall.
We rarely give a verification unless begged and really couldnt care less if they display it or not, in fact rather they didnt, its more discrete.
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"Why is it when i write a veri for someone i have met they wont put it on their profile or write me one because of upsetting a woman they meet regularly...doesnt make sense, is this a swingers site or a dating site?..
steer clear if I were you - something is wrong there "
My thought exactly...i dont think you are getting the full story.Every single man i have met has been v pleased when i ask if he wants a veri. |
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"i do care what people think, daft i know...people can put pics of themselves getting up to all sorts but wont display veris...that is strange to me"
because its anonymous no other faces can be in the shot unless its a couple's profile... |
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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Everyone is entitled to do what they want on there own profiles afterall.
We rarely give a verification unless begged and really couldnt care less if they display it or not, in fact rather they didnt, its more discrete.
Mistress x"
good point we prefer it all on theQT
some people have their own perceived agendas for people... your lifes your own...
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"i do care what people think, daft i know...people can put pics of themselves getting up to all sorts but wont display veris...that is strange to me"
Best advice I can give is try not to care.... maybe you feel a little jealous of the fem the guy is talking about? Otherwise cant really understand why you do care? I appreciate it might be more difficult for singles and to be honest with you I dont consider a single meeting a single swinging anyway. So good question... what is it? Not dating, not swinging ... then what? Doesnt have to have a name I guess but maybe thats why its a little more confusing? Of course I only have the view as part of a couple and we do only meet singles ourselves so my view is coloured by these facts. Need to keep it light though or you wont enjoy it anymore and then whats the point...
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"i do care what people think, daft i know...people can put pics of themselves getting up to all sorts but wont display veris...that is strange to me
Best advice I can give is try not to care.... maybe you feel a little jealous of the fem the guy is talking about? Otherwise cant really understand why you do care? I appreciate it might be more difficult for singles and to be honest with you I dont consider a single meeting a single swinging anyway. So good question... what is it? Not dating, not swinging ... then what? Doesnt have to have a name I guess but maybe thats why its a little more confusing? Of course I only have the view as part of a couple and we do only meet singles ourselves so my view is coloured by these facts. Need to keep it light though or you wont enjoy it anymore and then whats the point...
Mistress x"
A very good point made.
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over a year ago
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Its not always jealousy. I know younger men who won't put a veri on for an older woman as they think that younger women will not play with them if they have been with older women
If they didnt like being with someone they wont verify either. they dont know how to say it wasnt good. |
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over a year ago
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"This is the reason I don't write verifications for peeps as there are some jealous people out there that decide to email me to stay away from that person.. I keep who I meet to myself. "
have to agree.
one woman wrote me a veri and enjoyed the time spent with me.
sadly she stopped others from meeting me and got very jealous when any other woman would talk to me in chat.
why? i just dont know.its a swinging site and she had a great time so in the end i stopped going into chat because i felt like everyone was ignoring me due to someone's lies.
it killed anyone meeting me for months and i have to look further away from home for them.
sometimes you just dont understand people's motives. |
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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago
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No i am not jealous, if i am seeing a guy for regular fun then why keep it a secret from another person who he is seeing regualar..just because she might get jealous about it, what about me,?..i have feeling too and it makes me feel like he is ashamed to make it known that he is seeing me too.. |
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"This is the reason I don't write verifications for peeps as there are some jealous people out there that decide to email me to stay away from that person.. I keep who I meet to myself.
have to agree.
one woman wrote me a veri and enjoyed the time spent with me.
sadly she stopped others from meeting me and got very jealous when any other woman would talk to me in chat.
why? i just dont know.its a swinging site and she had a great time so in the end i stopped going into chat because i felt like everyone was ignoring me due to someone's lies.
it killed anyone meeting me for months and i have to look further away from home for them.
sometimes you just dont understand people's motives."
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"This is the reason I don't write verifications for peeps as there are some jealous people out there that decide to email me to stay away from that person.. I keep who I meet to myself.
have to agree.
one woman wrote me a veri and enjoyed the time spent with me.
sadly she stopped others from meeting me and got very jealous when any other woman would talk to me in chat.
why? i just dont know.its a swinging site and she had a great time so in the end i stopped going into chat because i felt like everyone was ignoring me due to someone's lies.
it killed anyone meeting me for months and i have to look further away from home for them.
sometimes you just dont understand people's motives.
you should of not asked her to marry you then "
i thought our agreement was we kept that to ourselves.
trust you to spill the beans.
btw. i want the ring back.
you'll just be gurly then |
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"Its not always jealousy. I know younger men who won't put a veri on for an older woman as they think that younger women will not play with them if they have been with older women
If they didnt like being with someone they wont verify either. they dont know how to say it wasnt good. "
Well Im afraid guys who meet women they are ashamed to admit about is an age old thing not restricted to swinging or sites.... out on town and getting off with a girl they wouldnt normally and denying it to their friends etc.... this site reflects the population out there and also dare I say does not always attract the best in human nature? I guess in one way or another we are all here for a little mutual using so cant really complain. As long as you find the fun you seek try not to mull over the rest of it. Its just people being people and as we know we dont always behave as we should. Try to take confidence from swinging and not let it drain your self esteem. Remember number one rule.... FUN!
Mistress x |
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"Its not always jealousy. I know younger men who won't put a veri on for an older woman as they think that younger women will not play with them if they have been with older women
If they didnt like being with someone they wont verify either. they dont know how to say it wasnt good.
Well Im afraid guys who meet women they are ashamed to admit about is an age old thing not restricted to swinging or sites.... out on town and getting off with a girl they wouldnt normally and denying it to their friends etc.... this site reflects the population out there and also dare I say does not always attract the best in human nature? I guess in one way or another we are all here for a little mutual using so cant really complain. As long as you find the fun you seek try not to mull over the rest of it. Its just people being people and as we know we dont always behave as we should. Try to take confidence from swinging and not let it drain your self esteem. Remember number one rule.... FUN!
Mistress x"
wise words but for some its not so easy |
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"Its not always jealousy. I know younger men who won't put a veri on for an older woman as they think that younger women will not play with them if they have been with older women
If they didnt like being with someone they wont verify either. they dont know how to say it wasnt good. "
i meet younger men and thay have me on there feedback .. men do this as dont wish to upset others thay shag .... lots sleep with loads here and hiding fedback can help them keep others in the dark what thay are up too ...... simple thay dont wish others to know. As could look like real slappers , lol xx |
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"Its not always jealousy. I know younger men who won't put a veri on for an older woman as they think that younger women will not play with them if they have been with older women
If they didnt like being with someone they wont verify either. they dont know how to say it wasnt good.
Well Im afraid guys who meet women they are ashamed to admit about is an age old thing not restricted to swinging or sites.... out on town and getting off with a girl they wouldnt normally and denying it to their friends etc.... this site reflects the population out there and also dare I say does not always attract the best in human nature? I guess in one way or another we are all here for a little mutual using so cant really complain. As long as you find the fun you seek try not to mull over the rest of it. Its just people being people and as we know we dont always behave as we should. Try to take confidence from swinging and not let it drain your self esteem. Remember number one rule.... FUN!
Mistress x
wise words but for some its not so easy"
Thanks and I agree, not easy, especially for singles. I wouldnt swing as a single. With my partner, it works for us. |
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"that is true, i have veris from young guys who i do see regular...i agree this site is for fun and i do have fun, so why are people hell bent on spoiling it..?"
Please don't take offence but how did he spoil it my not wanting to give you a verification? Its the person choice after all.. I could understand if it had been a regular meeting but from what I understand this was a first meet.
Just move on from it and have fun and don't dwell on it.. I am sure there are loads more men out there that will be happy to provide a verification for you.. |
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"that is true, i have veris from young guys who i do see regular...i agree this site is for fun and i do have fun, so why are people hell bent on spoiling it..?"
People arent hell bent on spoiling it they are just trying to deal with their own jealousies and insecurities and unconsciously set little mind games in motion. People usually just forcus on how they feel and not how their actions will affect others. Human nature at its best Im afraid. As I say... they can only spoil it if you let them. If it bothers you just refuse to give verifications and if you are given them dont publish them. Rise above as it were. That way you wont even have to think about it or look.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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as its been said people will act badly towards others for no reason.
and as i say i stopped going into london chat as i feel like a leaper and most in there have decided to treat me that way.
just because someone is popular with people in the room means they only have to tell one lie and everyone believes it and treats you like your scum.
absolutely killed meeting people in my area because you get the brush off everytime.
does kill your confidence and its not easy to recover from. |
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"as its been said people will act badly towards others for no reason.
and as i say i stopped going into london chat as i feel like a leaper and most in there have decided to treat me that way.
just because someone is popular with people in the room means they only have to tell one lie and everyone believes it and treats you like your scum.
absolutely killed meeting people in my area because you get the brush off everytime.
does kill your confidence and its not easy to recover from."
How is Scotland near London... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people you should automatically give a wide berth - the ones with 101 verifications from the same person: terrority marking or what?
Some people do seem to get jealous and for the life of me I don't get it. But you have to question why some allow them to get away with it. If someone were to have an attitude about who I met, who verified me etc - instant block! |
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"And some will only show 3 or 4 ... i know a young man who swaps them around as say people dont like to see he has alot ...... up to him end of the day."
its easy for you Jo.
your a very attractive woman. |
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"as its been said people will act badly towards others for no reason.
and as i say i stopped going into london chat as i feel like a leaper and most in there have decided to treat me that way.
just because someone is popular with people in the room means they only have to tell one lie and everyone believes it and treats you like your scum.
absolutely killed meeting people in my area because you get the brush off everytime.
does kill your confidence and its not easy to recover from.
How is Scotland near London... "
my hone is in the south east gurly.
im based in scotland until next month then i move again. |
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why not stop being a 'victim' to what other people think etc.
dont mean to be harsh in saying that, but does sound like you are taking it all a bit serious and letting it get to you.
cant understand why anyone would want to get jealous about whom meets whom etc however as has been said it happens.
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"as its been said people will act badly towards others for no reason.
and as i say i stopped going into london chat as i feel like a leaper and most in there have decided to treat me that way.
just because someone is popular with people in the room means they only have to tell one lie and everyone believes it and treats you like your scum.
absolutely killed meeting people in my area because you get the brush off everytime.
does kill your confidence and its not easy to recover from.
How is Scotland near London... "
Was wondering the same myself... lol
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"as its been said people will act badly towards others for no reason.
and as i say i stopped going into london chat as i feel like a leaper and most in there have decided to treat me that way.
just because someone is popular with people in the room means they only have to tell one lie and everyone believes it and treats you like your scum.
absolutely killed meeting people in my area because you get the brush off everytime.
does kill your confidence and its not easy to recover from.
How is Scotland near London...
my hone is in the south east gurly.
im based in scotland until next month then i move again."
You are complicated  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"as its been said people will act badly towards others for no reason.
and as i say i stopped going into london chat as i feel like a leaper and most in there have decided to treat me that way.
just because someone is popular with people in the room means they only have to tell one lie and everyone believes it and treats you like your scum.
absolutely killed meeting people in my area because you get the brush off everytime.
does kill your confidence and its not easy to recover from.
How is Scotland near London...
my hone is in the south east gurly.
im based in scotland until next month then i move again.
You are complicated "
not really diamond.
im just re-locating as instructed to do so.
i'll settle down one day hopefully x |
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"And some will only show 3 or 4 ... i know a young man who swaps them around as say people dont like to see he has alot ...... up to him end of the day.
its easy for you Jo.
your a very attractive woman."
I think some woman feel hurt and when thay have got on with a person ... maybe better to ask them why? .... Did yo ask ???????? |
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what seems to be over looked is why the guy is tolerating being dictated to by someone whos "just a meet".if hes single why wouldnt he be meeting other people and getting verifications from others? maybe hes not so single or has said to the other person that hed meet with them exclusivly .something definatly doesnt seem totally upfrount with the situation . i damn sure if any person i met started getting funny i was meeting others they would be left in no doubt i meet who i please when i please and if they dont like it they can take a hike lol!
i personally be asking more questions about this as why is he so concerned about this other persons feelings and has absolutly no regard for yours?? doesnt add up ! |
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"as its been said people will act badly towards others for no reason.
and as i say i stopped going into london chat as i feel like a leaper and most in there have decided to treat me that way.
just because someone is popular with people in the room means they only have to tell one lie and everyone believes it and treats you like your scum.
absolutely killed meeting people in my area because you get the brush off everytime.
does kill your confidence and its not easy to recover from.
How is Scotland near London...
my hone is in the south east gurly.
im based in scotland until next month then i move again.
You are complicated
not really diamond.
im just re-locating as instructed to do so.
i'll settle down one day hopefully x"
That is one bossy person to instruct you to move |
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"And some will only show 3 or 4 ... i know a young man who swaps them around as say people dont like to see he has alot ...... up to him end of the day.
its easy for you Jo.
your a very attractive woman. I think some woman feel hurt and when thay have got on with a person ... maybe better to ask them why? .... Did yo ask ???????? "
btw Jo.
your typing is much better these days.
its great to see you getting better xx |
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"And some will only show 3 or 4 ... i know a young man who swaps them around as say people dont like to see he has alot ...... up to him end of the day.
its easy for you Jo.
your a very attractive woman. I think some woman feel hurt and when thay have got on with a person ... maybe better to ask them why? .... Did yo ask ???????? "
Good grief. One thing we know as mature women and can try to pass on to the younger ones is FOR GOODNESS SAKE DONT TRY AND GET SELF ESTEEM FROM MEN.... ITS SELF ESTEEM FOR A REASON!!!!! They are far too fickle and selfish when it comes to sex to be relied on. People who are bothered about their verifications are perhaps a little hung up on trying to prove something. Once you are verified as genuine thats all you need on here! Was once asked by a long term friend for verification cos we would look good on his wall!!!! Also insulting grrr! Not bleedin Facebook!
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" I think some woman feel hurt and when thay have got on with a person ... maybe better to ask them why? .... Did yo ask ????????
Good grief. One thing we know as mature women and can try to pass on to the younger ones is FOR GOODNESS SAKE DONT TRY AND GET SELF ESTEEM FROM MEN.... ITS SELF ESTEEM FOR A REASON!!!!! They are far too fickle and selfish when it comes to sex to be relied on. People who are bothered about their verifications are perhaps a little hung up on trying to prove something. Once you are verified as genuine thats all you need on here! Was once asked by a long term friend for verification cos we would look good on his wall!!!! Also insulting grrr! Not bleedin Facebook!
Mistress x"
I this she should ask and mail why ...... it will give her peace of mind ..... i dont care if i get them or not myself if i meet have a lovely time .... thats all i am looking for ...... |
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" I think some woman feel hurt and when thay have got on with a person ... maybe better to ask them why? .... Did yo ask ????????
Good grief. One thing we know as mature women and can try to pass on to the younger ones is FOR GOODNESS SAKE DONT TRY AND GET SELF ESTEEM FROM MEN.... ITS SELF ESTEEM FOR A REASON!!!!! They are far too fickle and selfish when it comes to sex to be relied on. People who are bothered about their verifications are perhaps a little hung up on trying to prove something. Once you are verified as genuine thats all you need on here! Was once asked by a long term friend for verification cos we would look good on his wall!!!! Also insulting grrr! Not bleedin Facebook!
Mistress x I this she should ask and mail why ...... it will give her peace of mind ..... i dont care if i get them or not myself if i meet have a lovely time .... thats all i am looking for ......"
true. can always stay in contact via other means if you like them |
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I Must admit the only problem i ever has is with Woman.Went to a Party once and this Woman came to me and told me"i had one of your fellows Last night"what the point of that was i dont know..as none of them are MINE its a Swinging site after all.All i said "Hope you had Fun".When He got in touch again for a meeting i said Thanks but no Thanks as i dont do DRAMA. |
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Some you see here mailing in forum who have no pics will telling people to read there feed-back to see thay are real ..... maybe some need it to feel good about them-selfs . Why thay need it so much. |
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op hasnt said its upset her or shes had confidence knocked by a verification not being given or showen. all she asked is why would person have issue not showing a verication for fear of upsetting others theyve met . a simple valid question . |
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she asked Why is it when i write a veri for someone i have met they wont put it on their profile or write me one
And i think she should mail them people ask them why ........ and if thay are nice truthfull people thay will tell her the truth . |
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she alredy knows why "for fear of upsetting others they have met " as she said herself in her post . she wanting to know why people would be funny over others verificatins as its a swing site not a dating site . i do agree with you as i posted earlier she should be asking the guy why he so worried about upsetting someone whos just a meet on here . |
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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple
over a year ago
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i did ask him and he says its because she lives close to him and knows where he lives and even though his wife knows, hes kids dont...and he is worried i will get bad mail from her but like i said i wud block her...he reckons she is crazy.. |
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thats cool if you meet regular he should be open with you . why then is he worried about hurting other peoples feelings by posting your verification and has no concern about your feelings ! your worth more than that .as i said something not ringing right with the situation .
if a guy was disregarding my feelings like that sorry id be moving on and meeting someone who showed me more respect .
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"i did ask him and he says its because she lives close to him and knows where he lives and even though his wife knows, hes kids dont...and he is worried i will get bad mail from her but like i said i wud block her...he reckons she is crazy.."
is he still seeing her ??and if hes blocked her then shell not see his profile andwhos hes met ! as for being worried about you getting nasty mail from her ..im sure you can look after yourself as you said and can just report and block IF that happened .
i had simalar exsperince a friend wanted to leave a verification but was worried i would get some nasty mail from an indervidual they had met .i told them to do what THEY wanted to ! if the indervidual got funny with me then it would a very short conversation where they would be left in no doubt id meet who i want and if they arent happy then not my issue lol! |
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This whole thread is just screaming 'possessiveness'.
It makes not one iota of difference if you have one veri or 100 but to actively seek to have a veri from one particular person is staking a claim on that person. You might as well erect a ten foot neon sign that says, "Hands off you bitches, he's MINE!"
The perils of being a singleton, I remember it well. So glad I'm off that particular merry go round. |
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very true some do seem to think they have a "claim" on meeting an indervidual .this certainly isnt the place for that sort of shite. jealousy has no place in swinging . i had it happen once and person was put very quickly back in their place !
here for a fun time not dealing with others issues ,im not jezza kyle lol |
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"This whole thread is just screaming 'possessiveness'.
It makes not one iota of difference if you have one veri or 100 but to actively seek to have a veri from one particular person is staking a claim on that person. You might as well erect a ten foot neon sign that says, "Hands off you bitches, he's MINE!"............"
I agree, that's how the whole thread reads to me, can't understand any other reason for the Op to be bothered. Maybe I'm missing something though. |
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"Why is it when i write a veri for someone i have met they wont put it on their profile or write me one because of upsetting a woman they meet regularly...doesnt make sense, is this a swingers site or a dating site?.."
I have met a couple of guys who wont display a veri i have written and wont give me one in return for that reason, they dont want to upset other meets they see regularly...dont get it but each to their own i guess |
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If ive had a good meet then i verify the person and they verify me if some one else doesnt like it tough shit. I wouldnt want to meet someone with a jealous streak. Its swinging not long term relationships |
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I don't understand all the fuss of verifications to be honest. I'd meet, have fun and then send them on their merry way until the next time.
My playmates and I like to keep what we do private: it's our business after all!
Some people do love a drama! |
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