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Felt bad about it

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

J and I met with a guy tonight for a mfm 3som, we had some drinks and had a lot of fun with him then went to his motel room (he had driven 2hrs to get there and got a room) well we all got naked and started to fool around and I noticed J was not really into it, anyhow she went down on him and she gagged and looked at me and shook her head saying no. Well we Left and the guy was mad, on the way home she told me he had a bad smell down there and now she feels bad because she liked him but could not go thru with it and I told her she has nothing to feel bad about.

What do you all think, should she sucked it up and went thru with it? She could have asked him to shower but once its there you can't forget it. What do you think?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

No she shouldn't just get on with it. As an adult he should know to check himself but mentioning freshening up could have been appropriate. He after all, travelled a fair distance.

I hope he doesn't read this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No she shouldn't just get on with it. As an adult he should know to check himself but mentioning freshening up could have been appropriate. He after all, travelled a fair distance.

I hope he doesn't read this."

Me to.....mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You could've suggested some playtime.in the shower that way you all can shower with out making one feel bad but agreed with other poster he should've freshened up after the long drive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No I don't blame her, she should not feel bad. A former partner of mine didn't wash before sex, and it's not nice. He should have nipped to the bathroom and washed his cock, balls and Ass. XXX

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By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

Dirty bastard serves him right.

Did you kiss your Mrs just to check she was telling the truth

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No I don't blame her, she should not feel bad. A former partner of mine didn't wash before sex, and it's not nice. He should have nipped to the bathroom and washed his cock, balls and Ass. XXX"

That I can totally agree with at least wash the main bits lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Dirty bastard serves him right.

Did you kiss your Mrs just to check she was telling the truth

Yes i did and i didn't question her at all. I think she did rite!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No she shouldn't just get on with it. As an adult he should know to check himself but mentioning freshening up could have been appropriate. He after all, travelled a fair distance.

I hope he doesn't read this.

Me to.....mrs"

Quite insensitive to put a post up about it if you know he's on here.

Poor fella.

You should have suggested shower play like the other poster mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No She shouldn't feel bad, turning up clean and fresh is basic good manners,, ,,think fishy pussy would you want your tongue in there? No of course not, same goes for the girls, why should they just "suck it up "!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No She shouldn't feel bad, turning up clean and fresh is basic good manners,, ,,think fishy pussy would you want your tongue in there? No of course not, same goes for the girls, why should they just "suck it up "!!! "

He travelled for two hours. Maybe he was clean before he set off. To diss him on the forums isn't right though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Knowing someone had been on a long drive and then sat around drinking I would have offered them a shower immediately anyway. Long drives always make me think there is a good chance of a sweaty gusset situation. And since a shower wasn't offered, the guy should have asked if he could have one. Don't know why anyone wouldn't want to be all clean and fresh before a meet.

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Knowing someone had been on a long drive and then sat around drinking I would have offered them a shower immediately anyway. Long drives always make me think there is a good chance of a sweaty gusset situation. And since a shower wasn't offered, the guy should have asked if he could have one. Don't know why anyone wouldn't want to be all clean and fresh before a meet.

Ruby"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ruby"

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By *eyMrJackMan over a year ago

Leeds

He travelled for two hours. Maybe he was clean before he set off. To diss him on the forums isn't right though

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I understand that but I'm sorry my kids are grown up and on their own I don't think I should have to tell another adult what to do, we showered before we left I think he should have also, we told him we were on our way. I would have showered at that time. We're adults we shouldn't have to be told

Ruby"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ruby"

They were in his motel room, he didn't have to ask them. X

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

He travelled for two hours. Maybe he was clean before he set off. To diss him on the forums isn't right though

Agreed"

Also, there are some really unfortunate conditions out there where people don't smell great, even straight after stepping out of the shower.

It's not an outbreak of something, or the occurrence of a problem, it's the way they are.

I have a friend with this problem and I once saw a documentary on a people who had the condition. It included a beautiful young woman.

It makes life horribly difficult for them, so I always think of them when this delay cate subject comes up.

I think the woman was perfectly within her rights to stop, but spare a thought for those folks - it's not impossible there was a reason.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think when people meet people they don't know there should be a minimum expectation of good bodily hygiene. The guy should have showered beforehand or got his infection cleared up or whatever the cause was.

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By *andemanMan over a year ago

bedforshire

Yep count me in with the bad hygine by by buster brigade. Even if he said he would meet you invthe room and went off first to shower.

Come on clean means more than D&D free.

Mrs has nothing to feel bad about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"J and I met with a guy tonight for a mfm 3som, we had some drinks and had a lot of fun with him then went to his motel room (he had driven 2hrs to get there and got a room) well we all got naked and started to fool around and I noticed J was not really into it, anyhow she went down on him and she gagged and looked at me and shook her head saying no. Well we Left and the guy was mad, on the way home she told me he had a bad smell down there and now she feels bad because she liked him but could not go thru with it and I told her she has nothing to feel bad about.

What do you all think, should she sucked it up and went thru with it? She could have asked him to shower but once its there you can't forget it. What do you think?"

Was she not into him before she smelt him? Your post reads like that to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It was his hotel room, he should have known he may have needed a shower. He could have had one without asking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's nothing more off-putting than poor hygiene... Or laziness or stupidity... Whatever the reason it's not that difficult to have a quick shower. Deepest sympathies to your Mrs!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He travelled for two hours. Maybe he was clean before he set off. To diss him on the forums isn't right though

He could have showered when he got to his room? I'd get ready when I arrived not when I set off.

No should play with someone when they don't feel comfortable. And personal hygiene is pretty basic stuff before a meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Quite right to bail out. If something smells bad - forgive the wordplay - then the best thing to do is call it a day.

The fact he appeared to have poor personal hygiene is down to him.

Epic fail!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jeez he was lucky to get a meet and then blew it by not showering .i always treat it as a date night so shower spray and aftershave all the way

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

My opinion is that if you want to swing you should be prepared to tell a person face to face that there's a problem and if you aren't you should keep it to yourself. If he's on fab its indiscreet and insensitive to make it public.

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By *ostafunMan over a year ago

near ipswich

not at all if everyone is not happy you have the right to say no and people should not get mad respect others wishes.

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By *tmmCouple over a year ago

harlow

"Jeez he was lucky to get a meet and then blew it by not showering .i always treat it as a date night so shower spray and aftershave all the way"

how true that is!

I do feel for people with medical problems and met a few in normal life but in a meet situation if there was smell I'd be out of there like a shot it's meant to be fun and there should be no "suck it up".

Fair play and I imagine you were polite about it but no matter how polite it would still be upsetting for him I know I'd be.

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

What do you all think, should she sucked it up and went thru with it? She could have asked him to shower but once its there you can't forget it. What do you think?"

no she shouldn't have gone through with it and its a credit to you both that you feel bad about it .

but the thought lays clearly at the guys feet . look if I'm meeting a play partner I basically make sure I'm super clean and smell super nice because everyone knows smell is a sensual sense so one makes sure one smells gummy .

I even chew mint flavour gum all the way to the meet that's how anal I am. if the guy had just put a bit of thought into the meet he would have made sure he was super clean and smelled divine so the thought lays in his court not yours in my opinion .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You shouldn't feel bad about it, hygiene is a must.

But perhaps you could of sent him a PM to explain rather than posting it here in the public forum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be mortified if I got a reaction like that. That's why I always " pop to the bathroom " to give it a little wash, even if I'd had a shower 20 mins before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No excuse for smelly anything. Water is plenty as is soap. I unfortunately have lost both taste and smell after a virus and I'm paranoid about the fact I dnt know if I do. But I was and shower every chance I get to be sure. Nice perfume sadly can't smell but they can. So she did right I would have told him in a nice way but I wouldn't have known which makes me gag.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have got straight in that shower and washed myself thoroughly before commencing any play. It's only right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

The only thing you need to feel bad about is this forum post imo. I bet he's mortified about this as well as your meet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be frank I think that you've all been a little naive and thoughtless.

He should have had the wit to realise that after a long drive a shower was in order and if he didn't realise it then you two should have suggested it.

Things have also not been helped by airing this on am open forum.

That said, no one should ever have to suck it up if they are not happy with the situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He should have had the common decency to state he needs a shower before anything happened. Dirty bastard with poor personal hygiene, no excuse. You shouldn't feel bad OP, cos you have standards!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The reason the guy didn't take a shower before playing was because he was afraid of getting robbed by this couple.

If they are in his hotel room and he is in the shower , what's stopping them from taking his valuables and leaving? Or worst cleaning out the mini bar...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My opinion is that if you want to swing you should be prepared to tell a person face to face that there's a problem and if you aren't you should keep it to yourself. If he's on fab its indiscreet and insensitive to make it public."

Exactly

How did you leave, got up and just left him without an explanation?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You shouldn't feel bad about it, hygiene is a must.

But perhaps you could of sent him a PM to explain rather than posting it here in the public forum."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He should have had the common decency to state he needs a shower before anything happened. Dirty bastard with poor personal hygiene, no excuse. You shouldn't feel bad OP, cos you have standards!"

Am I the only one who read that she wasn't into him BEFORE she went to his cock?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He should have had the common decency to state he needs a shower before anything happened. Dirty bastard with poor personal hygiene, no excuse. You shouldn't feel bad OP, cos you have standards!

Am I the only one who read that she wasn't into him BEFORE she went to his cock? "

I think she was into him before she had a smell

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"He should have had the common decency to state he needs a shower before anything happened. Dirty bastard with poor personal hygiene, no excuse. You shouldn't feel bad OP, cos you have standards!

Am I the only one who read that she wasn't into him BEFORE she went to his cock? "

No.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I agree that it didn't end well wish I would have handled it differently, but even if he would have showerd I was turned off at that point. I was into him before that we had a good.

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