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Is it just me or have we had a wave of fake profiles of late?
I know the single ladies have taken a little bashing on here just lately but, I've encountered so many timewasting couple profiles it's driving me barmy!!! I just don't get what they're getting out of it? Why would you want to talk rubbish all day about a prospective meet when you could actually have one?
I don't know whether I'm getting old and miserable but, I'm at the end of my tether. I've got verifications, can travel or accom and yet I find myself spending 95% of my time being messed around.
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what do you mean of time wasters?? how can they be wasting your time if you are messaging them?
people think we are time wasters because we haven't met in months and months but to be honest to anyone who things this, it is none of there business on how we use this site. |
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"what do you mean of time wasters?? how can they be wasting your time if you are messaging them?
people think we are time wasters because we haven't met in months and months but to be honest to anyone who things this, it is none of there business on how we use this site."
Sorry, I did mean to add that I have arranged several meets only for the dog to have died or the house burnt down!
I have no problem with people who don't meet for months or even people who haven't met at all. Afterall it's peoples choice as to how often they choose to meet.
My gripe is these people who spend hours chatting arranging a meet when they have no intention of doing so?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what do you mean of time wasters?? how can they be wasting your time if you are messaging them?
people think we are time wasters because we haven't met in months and months but to be honest to anyone who things this, it is none of there business on how we use this site.
Sorry, I did mean to add that I have arranged several meets only for the dog to have died or the house burnt down!
I have no problem with people who don't meet for months or even people who haven't met at all. Afterall it's peoples choice as to how often they choose to meet.
My gripe is these people who spend hours chatting arranging a meet when they have no intention of doing so?
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the thrill of the chase
that's how some people get their kicks
not advocating it, but it is an unfortunate reality |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we understand what you are saying , but it can take months before a date can be sorted for each side , we have a meet sorted for 18 june , 9th july and prob thats it for a while cos of other family stuff . so its hard if u want to meet but seem so vague if u cant arrange a meet till say august . so we r not fake just full pon busy all over , u look hot enough so im sure u wont struggle for long |
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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago
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We know where the original poster is coming from. We have chatted with several couples this year with a view to meeting. They are very chatty and all up for it, until that is actually setting a date, then it all goes quiet, no replies to messages or anything.
Its gotten so bad just lately that Karen has said enough's enough. We aren't meeting anyone at all for a couple of months, hopefully the user base may change 
That is explained to anyone that contacts us and anyone on our friends list understands whats going on and are willing to wait. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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same here! often it takes ages for us to sort something out 
but we do meet lol
and we are what we say we are - plus we ALWAYS mention, that it might take us a while to arrange a meet. But if arranged we hardly ever cancel. that doesnt mean we have never cancelled because with family you can never be sure!
But we dont make up excuses.
Think honesty is the best policy anyway.
Sandra x |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Considering the amount of couples profiles looking for bi females, I haven't managed to arrange a meet yet. Met couples at parties and GBs no problem, but arranging to meet them is just impossible.
Closest I got was a place and date, just needed them to text me the time (they didn't give me their phone number). No message! Then a month later they want to arrange a meet again. Ummmm, no thanks. |
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I had a meet arranged with a this young couple called William and Kate. They seemed like a really nice genuine couple and I was looking forward to the meet.
But then they cry off at the last minute with this story of how they have just had this big wedding and have to sort out some furniture back at their mums house.
Well she sounds like a right princess and he sounds like a right mummies boy. Feel like ive been right royally messed about.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Again this is why I arrange meets for clubs if no show or no click there is still plenty of fun to be had by both parties and find couples tricky its very hard to find a couple that you click with both people ie like wife but not husband etc gets too complicated. |
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By *obb2upCouple
over a year ago
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"what do you mean of time wasters?? how can they be wasting your time if you are messaging them?
people think we are time wasters because we haven't met in months and months but to be honest to anyone who things this, it is none of there business on how we use this site.
Sorry, I did mean to add that I have arranged several meets only for the dog to have died or the house burnt down!
I have no problem with people who don't meet for months or even people who haven't met at all. Afterall it's peoples choice as to how often they choose to meet.
My gripe is these people who spend hours chatting arranging a meet when they have no intention of doing so?
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Sadly it happens to us all...we had one poor unfortunate guy who's gran on his mothers side died...twice.
So your not alone.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh babe, I think the others are just not getting it are they? If a meet has been arranged and they dont show then later give a pathetic excuse i.e. had the wrong number etc, then they are time wasters. But as someone else said there are a lot out there that really only want to chat perhaps they are a bit lonely. I find you have to be really short with some people and tell them straight "I dont want to spend hours chatting I just want to meet and get on with it" and then there are some that are nice to chat to and make it plain you have no intentions of ever meeting them. 99% of the time it works for me. Good luck in the future  |
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By *obb2upCouple
over a year ago
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"Oh babe, I think the others are just not getting it are they? If a meet has been arranged and they dont show then later give a pathetic excuse i.e. had the wrong number etc, then they are time wasters. But as someone else said there are a lot out there that really only want to chat perhaps they are a bit lonely. I find you have to be really short with some people and tell them straight "I dont want to spend hours chatting I just want to meet and get on with it" and then there are some that are nice to chat to and make it plain you have no intentions of ever meeting them. 99% of the time it works for me. Good luck in the future "
I totally agree....works for us too  |
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"Again this is why I arrange meets for clubs if no show or no click there is still plenty of fun to be had by both parties and find couples tricky its very hard to find a couple that you click with both people ie like wife but not husband etc gets too complicated."
Completely agree, we meet all our friends at Tease, don't understand why people take a chance on private meets with strangers. Nothing beats meeting people in the bar and then..... |
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'We've had enough of all the crap'
That's why my misses never does any of the leg work on here, she just wouldn't tolerate it and that would be an end ot it period.
'Taking a break till the user-base changes/improves'... been on here many years and in all that time its never been any different.
'Fed up with couples'... what makes you think they are couples?
'95% are time-wasters/fakes'... yeah and the rest.
But on the other hand it is a fact that life often gets in the way. All our kids have flown the nest and we have our house to ourselves 24/7 but because of work commitments we can ONLY meet on Saturday evenings. One guy we were talking to wanted to meet, and we wanted to meet him, when we told him we didn't have a free slot for about 7 weeks we didn't hear from him again!
Does my misses chat/cam on line? NO
Do we dish out phone numbers? NO, only prior to meeting.
Do we 'look like' time-wasters? Probably... Are we time-wasters? Never in a million years
The dross you have to sift through is the 'work' you have to put in to 'reap the rewards', which when it comes right is well worth the trouble
We have had some great experiences and made some fantastic new friends... stay the course and don't let the idiots drag you down. They are doing you a favour, they are improving your people skills such that you will just get better and better at choosing the right people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course there are fake profiles on here, just the same as any other site, free or pay. It's just a fact of life, alwas was, always will be.
If people took this as the fun that it's meant to be they woulddn't always feel like their time had been 'wasted'
OK it's a bit of a pisser if you go to the trouble to arrange a meet and no-one turns up but to go to the extent of claiming that your time has been wasted because a few messages have been echanged then nothing .......
Get real for heavens sake  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Share your view. We even had one couple saying we could meet at a named hotel and we would receive telephone contact details. The couple,or individual was just looking for sex details from us and was getting off we guess from the messages. This had nothing to do with genuine enquiries. |
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"Share your view. We even had one couple saying we could meet at a named hotel and we would receive telephone contact details. The couple,or individual was just looking for sex details from us and was getting off we guess from the messages. This had nothing to do with genuine enquiries."
That game is VERY common but the more you get the quicker you will spot them Look on the positive side - these people are making it easier for you to spot them and therefore MORE difficult for the idiots |
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So it's not just single guys that have to deal with this then! In response to some posters, I'm not complaining about sifting through my bulging inbox!! What I do get pissed off with though is chatting to a certain couple who shall remain nameless for over 6 months. We finally had some free time and arranged a late night meet. I sent them my full adress, post code and mobile number. Received a text telling me they were en route, great I though I'll jump in the shower. Next text said "can you resend your post code again" sent that, got a text back saying the sat nav says 15 minutes. Waited 2 hours! Came back online and they'd blocked me!!! |
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"So what you really meant was that you have an axe to grind with a particular couple so you want to tar everone with the same stick ??"
No not at all, I could list quite a few similar experiences in the last few months.
My point is more to do with having difficulty understanding exactly what they get out of it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People cry off for many reasons, family issues, illness maybe they were d*unk when they arranged the meet and changed their mind in the cold light of day, maybe you said something which put them off you ... and of course some are fake.
What the fakes get out of it heaven only knows, but they are akin to 'tyre kickers' who come to look at the car you are flogging. You know they have no intention of buying it, but they come to have a look in any case - dreamers, wannabees ...life is full of them - not just swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course there are fake profiles on here, just the same as any other site, free or pay. It's just a fact of life, alwas was, always will be.
If people took this as the fun that it's meant to be they woulddn't always feel like their time had been 'wasted'
OK it's a bit of a pisser if you go to the trouble to arrange a meet and no-one turns up but to go to the extent of claiming that your time has been wasted because a few messages have been echanged then nothing .......
Get real for heavens sake "
Couldn't agree more! |
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I don't know if many others will be able to relate to this but it might account for some of the letdowns/no-shows.
When we went on our first few meets we were absolutely bricking it!!! I'm not even sure if we could explain why, because it really is quite irrational. We were both bursting with all sorts of mixed emotions, confidence would come and go, or maybe an attack of 'nice people don't do this sort of thing' etc.
However, as we are indeed a strong couple, or at least strong AS a couple, while one might be crashing the other would automatically support, that and the fact that if we make an arrangement we damn well keep to it is what got us to our first few meets.
Of course once we got to wherever there was never a problem, we just dive in lol. But the point I'm trying to make is that we can actually understand how some people can and do GENUINELY get cold feet when it comes to actually going to a meet with people with a view to having sex with them.
Not saying there are not loads of peeps out there pissing people around 'with intent' but also that there will also be genuine people with the best intentions who in the end just can't make the step. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would much prefer to talk to the time wasters who dont meet and dont lie just keep on shuffling their feet about meeting than meet the ones that dont admit they are a couple, meet as seperates and then say you who had clearly not asked for a couple were wasting their time when they decided they as singles would approach you but all they wanted was to meet someone willing to play with a couple, their single profiles dont hint that this is all they want and then one of them says i hope we can be friends after lying to your face about their intentions. give me the ordinary time wasters any time :D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suspect it could have something to do with an increase in membership.
That big ugly site for adult friends is total pants for getting meets but has a huge membership of pic collectors and cam watchers. I could imagine word is getting around that this site is actually good for meets so they're signing up here now and bringing their bad habits with them. |
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We have had quys calling us timewasters BUT they dont realise that we have a life outside of FAB and that we hold down important jobs.....a lot of ppl on fab are free ALL DAY for obvious reasons apart from when they collect there benefit. |
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"We have had quys calling us timewasters BUT they dont realise that we have a life outside of FAB and that we hold down important jobs.....a lot of ppl on fab are free ALL DAY for obvious reasons apart from when they collect there benefit. "
well said. |
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"We have had quys calling us timewasters BUT they dont realise that we have a life outside of FAB and that we hold down important jobs.....a lot of ppl on fab are free ALL DAY for obvious reasons apart from when they collect there benefit. "
*Their* benefit. I may be unemployed but I'm not stupid. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"its not just couples,
we are finding the single men being a complete time wasters and theres one or to so called single girls that wont meet either"
I've been in Bristol for two nights and have had 3 lovely single guys in that time. I think it is the luck of the draw, and getting to now each other.
I heard there are three clubs in Bristol. Maybe give them a whirl? |
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"We have had quys calling us timewasters BUT they dont realise that we have a life outside of FAB and that we hold down important jobs.....a lot of ppl on fab are free ALL DAY for obvious reasons apart from when they collect there benefit.
*Their* benefit. I may be unemployed but I'm not stupid."
Or judgemental
i wish i had an important job,then i could pay someone to cook,clean,wash,care for my disabled mother and son,and only come on here to judge others! |
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"We have had quys calling us timewasters BUT they dont realise that we have a life outside of FAB and that we hold down important jobs.....a lot of ppl on fab are free ALL DAY for obvious reasons apart from when they collect there benefit.
*Their* benefit. I may be unemployed but I'm not stupid.
Or judgemental
i wish i had an important job,then i could pay someone to cook,clean,wash,care for my disabled mother and son,and only come on here to judge others! "
Any job is important in todays society its difficult enough holding onto it |
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"We have had quys calling us timewasters BUT they dont realise that we have a life outside of FAB and that we hold down important jobs.....a lot of ppl on fab are free ALL DAY for obvious reasons apart from when they collect there benefit.
*Their* benefit. I may be unemployed but I'm not stupid.
Or judgemental "
If it's judgemental to point out ignorance then judge me as judgemental.
What, and indeed, evurrr. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would much prefer to talk to the time wasters who dont meet and dont lie just keep on shuffling their feet about meeting than meet the ones that dont admit they are a couple, meet as seperates and then say you who had clearly not asked for a couple were wasting their time when they decided they as singles would approach you but all they wanted was to meet someone willing to play with a couple, their single profiles dont hint that this is all they want and then one of them says i hope we can be friends after lying to your face about their intentions. give me the ordinary time wasters any time :D"
and breathe ....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes i would say so.
i get loads of couples who send a mail saying 'nice body' or ' your local,lets chat' then when you do they just delete the mail.
also lots of couple profiles with just a man on them with a promise to send pics of the wife.
i dont trust these at all to be honest.
but one thing. with all the bi-female profiles i see and all the couples asking for a bi-female to join them why the shortage?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have been swinging for afew years did this when you wrote to people from a contact magazine then went to clubs now also on a pay site so we know what we want from this and we consider timewasters to be the ones you chat with arrange to meet then disappear never to be heard of again
and have never got halfway to a meet and turned back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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true theres a lot of couples on here who arent couples at all!and with pics of other people on their profile!what really gets me is the couples who advertise there looking for a guy a to join them and then when u send them a nice polite message they block u WTF! |
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"we have been swinging for afew years did this when you wrote to people from a contact magazine then went to clubs now also on a pay site so we know what we want from this and we consider timewasters to be the ones you chat with arrange to meet then disappear never to be heard of again
and have never got halfway to a meet and turned back."
the problem is the ones who arrange meets then disappear will continue to do that here because this is a free site.
they dont so it on paid sites because they would have to pay again for a new name/profile.
but i understand what your saying.a woman i met recently told me about a guy who has been contacting her with a different profile for months.
but he alwys trips himself up and when she rumbles him blocks.but he's back a week later with a new one.
sad. |
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"Oh babe, I think the others are just not getting it are they? If a meet has been arranged and they dont show then later give a pathetic excuse i.e. had the wrong number etc, then they are time wasters. But as someone else said there are a lot out there that really only want to chat perhaps they are a bit lonely. I find you have to be really short with some people and tell them straight "I dont want to spend hours chatting I just want to meet and get on with it" and then there are some that are nice to chat to and make it plain you have no intentions of ever meeting them. 99% of the time it works for me. Good luck in the future "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we are not time wasters, as we cannot get a couple to meet us , even though some of the profiles say up to 99yrs, we msg them and get nothing back at all ,so who are the time wasters not us, we would love to meet a nice couple??????????????????????  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is plenty of that here!
Sadly Fabswingers is getting alot of new profiles are just fakes, so easy for anyone to join here to collect pics and mess people around, paying memberships will cut downs fake sh!te |
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"Again this is why I arrange meets for clubs if no show or no click there is still plenty of fun to be had by both parties and find couples tricky its very hard to find a couple that you click with both people ie like wife but not husband etc gets too complicated.
Completely agree, we meet all our friends at Tease, don't understand why people take a chance on private meets with strangers. Nothing beats meeting people in the bar and then....."
Clubs and partys are a much better way to meet people and even if you don't get to play with anyone you are still socialising and enjoying yourselves. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Not sure how making people pay would prevent this. There are loads of pay sites and they have even worse problems with fake profiles! I am a member of one and get lots of messages from guys saying 'thanks for yoru message' and I never messaged them! The site has done it to get the blokes to renew their membership.
So don't blame the fact this is a free site for idiots and pic collectors. It happens everywhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"true theres a lot of couples on here who arent couples at all!and with pics of other people on their profile!what really gets me is the couples who advertise there looking for a guy a to join them and then when u send them a nice polite message they block u WTF!"
I'm sure that when a couple advertise for a guy to join them, they will be inundated with volunteers. And if they're only looking for ONE guy, that's probably 99 unlucky ones. If they block you, don't take it personally, it just means that you're not the one they're looking for. The block at least means they have thought about you, and either you're not the lady's type, or the guy is intimidated by your six-pack LOL. The block saves you accidentally contacting the same couple again.
Keep volunteering, don't take blocks personally, and eventually you will reach out to the couple who are looking for you. |
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"We know where the original poster is coming from. We have chatted with several couples this year with a view to meeting. They are very chatty and all up for it, until that is actually setting a date, then it all goes quiet, no replies to messages or anything.
Its gotten so bad just lately that Karen has said enough's enough. We aren't meeting anyone at all for a couple of months, hopefully the user base may change
That is explained to anyone that contacts us and anyone on our friends list understands whats going on and are willing to wait."
wthis week alone we had been talking to a few couples and some bi / bi curious women on here, and as you say, all is gonig really well, and then we ask if they wish to meet, to which they say yes..so we then dontp ush, but simply suggest a few fee dtaes we have and ask if any are suitable..so we get the " yes so and so date is good", so we naturally then ask if we may speak to each other on the phone and say hello, swap details etc..and make arrangements..of ask for a couple of photos/facepics if were dealing with no photo profiles...then all of a sudden it just goes quiet, now I get it if you lose interest, but at least have the decency to message and say so we can move on ,otherwise were left wondering what we did wrong if anything ,as were very polite and friendly. have to say single women are the worst generally on here for this..so we lost al lthis week trying to meet one decent couple of woman till we finally gave up on saturday afternoon. why so much bullshit? its simple, message a bit, swap a few pics if meed be or put em up, and then talk on the phone, meet fuck go home or whatever..jeez.. its swinging not rocket science. |
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