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As the last thread we posted got hijacked by a debate on pricing for single guys we will try a different approach.
Question to anyone that are using clubs or have used clubs in the past what makes the perfect club for YOU? |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
It needs to be classy, clean, have socialising space and separate play space, decent modern music (nothing cheesy and 70s please).
The play space should be a mix of pubic and private.
It also needs to have different types of nights - ie couples only nights, greedy girls nights, couples and singles nights.
Ideally it would be very discerning with the clientele but that is somewhat subjective and would limit the commercial viability of the club!
It also needs to have strictly enforced rules with a zero tolerance to pressured or pushy behaviour.
A dress code should also be enforced.
One thing it most definitely should not ever do is have that stupid rule that everyone must strip to underwear at a given time - talk about pressure! It should be about fun and allowing people to get into the mood at their own pace. |
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"It needs to be classy, clean, have socialising space and separate play space, decent modern music (nothing cheesy and 70s please).
The play space should be a mix of pubic and private.
It also needs to have different types of nights - ie couples only nights, greedy girls nights, couples and singles nights.
Ideally it would be very discerning with the clientele but that is somewhat subjective and would limit the commercial viability of the club!
It also needs to have strictly enforced rules with a zero tolerance to pressured or pushy behaviour.
A dress code should also be enforced.
One thing it most definitely should not ever do is have that stupid rule that everyone must strip to underwear at a given time - talk about pressure! It should be about fun and allowing people to get into the mood at their own pace."
That pretty much echoes our own thoughts on what a good club should be, we also find a club with a jacuzzi preferable as it can be a bit of an ice breaker for conversation and initial physical contact. |
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over a year ago
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It should be all of what you lot have said so far but allso near a train station so thoughs who dont drive can get there easily with out getting a lift or paying a lot of money for a cab |
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All of which sounds like the club near me cjs.
Though I'd also like lingerie nights and a masked ball once in a while.
They already do fun for all, couples & fems, tv/cd admirers, kink, fancy dress events.
Massive, clean and tidy, great staff and clear no means no ethos. |
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I'd say a mix of Kestrels, Eurekas and OurPlace4Fun, the covered pool, the outdoor play space and hot tubs, plenty of rooms with two way mirrors, on the opposite side of the room to the door, so the watchers aren't crowded round the people going in and out, big orgy bed (with white line rule). Also love the idea of a massive couples room with the mirrored ceiling as a two way mirror so you can watch from the floor above. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Agree with much of what has been said already and to add another element into the mix (without hopefully opening another can of worms) for me another plus factor would be a policy of tolerance towards bi play regardless of gender and conversely intolerance of anyone that objected to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ide also list chameleons Darlaston. .although dress code for guys is shorts or a towel..for ladies can be anything sexy...and they do the different nights and themed events...social areas play areas private and public...2 big jacuzzis and also sauna and steam room... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Plus the ideal club would have ....
Showers.
A clean, good sized well maintained and fully filtered hot tub that is "policed" by appointed staff to ensure no one plays in it, for sanitary & safety reasons
Decent sized lockers.
Free condoms,... Towels, wet wipes, tissues, antibac spray provided.
Be clean, and the right temperature, fans in Summer,adequately heated in Winter.
A grope box or diff height glory holes would be good.
Free and easy parking right outside the venue.
Friendly staff.
A wide amount of differently furnished private playrooms, and with large mirrors in some.
Decent music played at a level where you can chat comfortably without having to shout.
Theme nights, and greedy girl nights.
Comfortable sofas in the social areas.
A good sized fully furnished dungeon.
A varied buffet.
Mood lighting, or areas of the club lit differently for different forms of play (dimmer switches in the playrooms would be an excellent feature)
I am sure there are other ideas, but this would be a great venue if it had all of this in my opinion.
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
Henley Arden |
"As the last thread we posted got hijacked by a debate on pricing for single guys we will try a different approach.
Question to anyone that are using clubs or have used clubs in the past what makes the perfect club for YOU?"
Fun4Two -voted best club in the world a few times.
FataMogarna
Both in Holland
Wish there was one like them in the U.K
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Fun4Two -voted best club in the world a few times.
FataMogarna
Both in Holland
Wish there was one like them in the U.K
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Never been to Fun4Two but have heard good things, must go and see for ourselves at some point. |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
Fun4Two is fun and certainly an experience but they still do that "strip down to lingerie at midnight" thing which we personally think is cringey and not particularly classy.
While not a club the best nights ever were at Fever in its heyday between 2003-2008. Cocktail dresses for ladies and smart dress for men. Separate social space to play space. And awesome sexy people from all over the world.
Ah the memories. |
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"Fun4Two is fun and certainly an experience but they still do that "strip down to lingerie at midnight" thing which we personally think is cringey and not particularly classy.
While not a club the best nights ever were at Fever in its heyday between 2003-2008. Cocktail dresses for ladies and smart dress for men. Separate social space to play space. And awesome sexy people from all over the world.
Ah the memories."
Heyday now there's a common theme with a lot of clubs, the club scene was a lot better between 2005 - 2010 don't know why but it just was. |
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"Scotland is sorely missing a club with a Jacuzzi, sauna etc. So that would be our top priority  "
Your not wrong there we went to the club in Edinburgh a few months ago and although it was very friendly it wasn't quite what we are used to from clubs in the Midlands |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
Henley Arden |
"Fun4Two is fun and certainly an experience but they still do that "strip down to lingerie at midnight" thing which we personally think is cringey and not particularly classy.
While not a club the best nights ever were at Fever in its heyday between 2003-2008. Cocktail dresses for ladies and smart dress for men. Separate social space to play space. And awesome sexy people from all over the world.
Ah the memories."
Actually the dress down at 10pm we thought was a fantastic idea. Ladies can still say in sexy underwear etc even but the guys must be in underwear or club wear like mesh tips etc.
It's a great leveller and facilitates play.
Unlike uk clubs where some folks are running around in boxers or sexy and others are fully dressed.
Just goes to show we are all different |
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"Scotland is sorely missing a club with a Jacuzzi, sauna etc. So that would be our top priority
Your not wrong there we went to the club in Edinburgh a few months ago and although it was very friendly it wasn't quite what we are used to from clubs in the Midlands "
I went there once and didn't like it. I go to cjs in Glasgow, used to go to Aberdeen regularly until it closed |
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I think you should stay how you like not forced at a set time, it's not a lady of the night establishment or a strip club, the owners should remember that paying to get in is keeping their swinging club going, so you should choose to wear what you wish classy and formal plus if you want to change than up to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perfect club? Probably a bit of a speakeasy deal where all it is is a bar open to the public like any other bar except with porn on and it made clear it's for swingers, kinky people, and anyone else who wants to go there for a sexy drink. Then, if you feel in the mood, you head to the back door, say a password and pay some dosh, and you get let into a big complex of play rooms, jacuzzi etc. We'd go there a lot just for a drink in the bar and to meet a wide range of people who ended up there for a laugh (not just swingers). If we liked anyone we'd see if they wanted to go into the club with us |
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"Perfect club? Probably a bit of a speakeasy deal where all it is is a bar open to the public like any other bar except with porn on and it made clear it's for swingers, kinky people, and anyone else who wants to go there for a sexy drink. Then, if you feel in the mood, you head to the back door, say a password and pay some dosh, and you get let into a big complex of play rooms, jacuzzi etc. We'd go there a lot just for a drink in the bar and to meet a wide range of people who ended up there for a laugh (not just swingers). If we liked anyone we'd see if they wanted to go into the club with us "
I've suggested before about the idea of attaching a swingers club to a regular night club, like a VIP area you can access if you "hook up" with someone. It might even appeal to a lot of vanilla girls as a safer option than going home with a stranger or taking a stranger home and it would mean guys that moan about paying higher entrance fees, then not getting laid, would just pay a regular club entrance fee, then only have to pay the additional fee if they "pull". |
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"Perfect club? Probably a bit of a speakeasy deal where all it is is a bar open to the public like any other bar except with porn on and it made clear it's for swingers, kinky people, and anyone else who wants to go there for a sexy drink. Then, if you feel in the mood, you head to the back door, say a password and pay some dosh, and you get let into a big complex of play rooms, jacuzzi etc. We'd go there a lot just for a drink in the bar and to meet a wide range of people who ended up there for a laugh (not just swingers). If we liked anyone we'd see if they wanted to go into the club with us "
Agree with this concept. In my opinion (male here) most of the UK clubs are too "samey" - your concept is interesting and would certainly appeal to us i.e. one night may just have a drink - then if the mood hits "move to the back room" kind of thing. Having discussed it with a few club owners the universal view was that, in the UK, it would attract "knobheads" out for trouble and the cost of ensuring safety would outweigh the money possibly made - shame because the club scene really does need freshening up in my opinion. |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"Fun4Two is fun and certainly an experience but they still do that "strip down to lingerie at midnight" thing which we personally think is cringey and not particularly classy.
While not a club the best nights ever were at Fever in its heyday between 2003-2008. Cocktail dresses for ladies and smart dress for men. Separate social space to play space. And awesome sexy people from all over the world.
Ah the memories.
Actually the dress down at 10pm we thought was a fantastic idea. Ladies can still say in sexy underwear etc even but the guys must be in underwear or club wear like mesh tips etc.
It's a great leveller and facilitates play.
Unlike uk clubs where some folks are running around in boxers or sexy and others are fully dressed.
Just goes to show we are all different"
Indeed we all are and wouldn't it be boring if we were all the same 
We just don't like being told what to do and when. Happy to strip off but when the mood takes us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't stand the whole clothes off thing. So unsexy. Our vision of the perfect swinging club would be a mix of a more enchanting pick up place mixed with social or private play areas if you want (hence our idea above). Nothing at all enchanting about a guy in a towel, boxers, or y-fronts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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With all the good ideas maybe we should all get together and create the perect club...but then again once done I am sure some would say we need this and prefer if that was this way ...or such..we have to remember that many clubs hover on the edge of financial loss...only the busier clubs turn profits...it's a business and creating a club from a biulding wouldn't be cheap.. |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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"With all the good ideas maybe we should all get together and create the perect club...but then again once done I am sure some would say we need this and prefer if that was this way ...or such..we have to remember that many clubs hover on the edge of financial loss...only the busier clubs turn profits...it's a business and creating a club from a biulding wouldn't be cheap.."
Unfortunately I think we in the UK are destined to for have the clubs we have. Not because of swingers or club owners but due to the attitude to sex and swinging in the UK.
Nearly all swingers UK clubs have had to fight to open against opposition that does not want a club anywhere near them. They'd prefer to have an empty building going to wrack and ruin.
Some have even been vilified in the press and radio. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, what's missing from the uk scene isn't yet more swinging clubs... it's swinging bars. Places where you can easily go out every Saturday night, bump into a crowd of swingers, and maybe pull someone back to yours for some fun |
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"Personally, what's missing from the uk scene isn't yet more swinging clubs... it's swinging bars. Places where you can easily go out every Saturday night, bump into a crowd of swingers, and maybe pull someone back to yours for some fun "
But don't clubs exist because not everyone can accommodate or you want to keep it out of the house? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally, what's missing from the uk scene isn't yet more swinging clubs... it's swinging bars. Places where you can easily go out every Saturday night, bump into a crowd of swingers, and maybe pull someone back to yours for some fun
But don't clubs exist because not everyone can accommodate or you want to keep it out of the house?"
Sure. But hotels could also facilitate that. The main issue I was making though is that there are loads of swinging clubs to choose from but there are no (zero) swinging bars. It's part of the reason the scene takes the form it does. If there was a swinging bar in each major town there'd be no need for Fab at all |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"Personally, what's missing from the uk scene isn't yet more swinging clubs... it's swinging bars. Places where you can easily go out every Saturday night, bump into a crowd of swingers, and maybe pull someone back to yours for some fun
But don't clubs exist because not everyone can accommodate or you want to keep it out of the house?
Sure. But hotels could also facilitate that. The main issue I was making though is that there are loads of swinging clubs to choose from but there are no (zero) swinging bars. It's part of the reason the scene takes the form it does. If there was a swinging bar in each major town there'd be no need for Fab at all "
A swingers bar/meeting place is an awesome idea. Full of likeminded people but not pressure to play as need to go elsewhere! |
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"Personally, what's missing from the uk scene isn't yet more swinging clubs... it's swinging bars. Places where you can easily go out every Saturday night, bump into a crowd of swingers, and maybe pull someone back to yours for some fun
But don't clubs exist because not everyone can accommodate or you want to keep it out of the house?
Sure. But hotels could also facilitate that. The main issue I was making though is that there are loads of swinging clubs to choose from but there are no (zero) swinging bars. It's part of the reason the scene takes the form it does. If there was a swinging bar in each major town there'd be no need for Fab at all "
The problem.with having open bars for everyone in would allow people to come and protest or cause trouble so doubt it would work.. only place I know has such is xtasia with flirts bar..separate to the club but still behind a security gate |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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"Personally, what's missing from the uk scene isn't yet more swinging clubs... it's swinging bars. Places where you can easily go out every Saturday night, bump into a crowd of swingers, and maybe pull someone back to yours for some fun
But don't clubs exist because not everyone can accommodate or you want to keep it out of the house?
Sure. But hotels could also facilitate that. The main issue I was making though is that there are loads of swinging clubs to choose from but there are no (zero) swinging bars. It's part of the reason the scene takes the form it does. If there was a swinging bar in each major town there'd be no need for Fab at all "
Of course you would need a contact site because with a bar you will only meet people who attend at that moment. Unless the bar can't hold 4000 people it's also limited to the number of people it can hold
It's just because of this restriction that retail shops are closing.A contact site allows 24/7 shopping with unlimited access.
Plus clubs or good clubs have themed rooms and facilities people don't or can't have st home like a dungeon.
I know of only 2 swinging bars and that's in Amsterdam and GC. If Holland and GC only have one each I think the UK chances are slim.
Swing bars great in theory but in practice don't work. |
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"With all the good ideas maybe we should all get together and create the perect club...but then again once done I am sure some would say we need this and prefer if that was this way ...or such..we have to remember that many clubs hover on the edge of financial loss...only the busier clubs turn profits...it's a business and creating a club from a biulding wouldn't be cheap.."
Indeed. Must be stressful running a club. |
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By *east88Couple
over a year ago
darlington |
For us the best sort of clubs. Where I think the some clubs get it wrong is the music and lighting, swinging and sex clubs for us are more than just a place to go fuck, it's a whole sensory experience, the build up before you go, choosing what to wear and what you might like from the night, you should arrive and the lighting should be subdued and dark on places, nobody wants bright lights, and the biggest let down is music, seriously how can feel aroused and sexy to crappy pop music and cheese songs, it's not a works night out where we the DJ has to cater for everyone and needs to get people up dancing. It's about music that is sensual, erotic, look at the fifty shades of grey soundtrack. Much more in tune for a swingers club. I find a lot of clubs are very much about the social aspect of which is fine, but if you want to listen to hi ho silver lining whilst doing a raffle and eating a buffet. It reminds me of a working mans club not a place that should make you feel, erotic and tingly and daring and risqué and sensual and horny.
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"It needs to be classy, clean, have socialising space and separate play space, decent modern music (nothing cheesy and 70s please).
The play space should be a mix of pubic and private.
It also needs to have different types of nights - ie couples only nights, greedy girls nights, couples and singles nights.
Ideally it would be very discerning with the clientele but that is somewhat subjective and would limit the commercial viability of the club!
It also needs to have strictly enforced rules with a zero tolerance to pressured or pushy behaviour.
A dress code should also be enforced.
One thing it most definitely should not ever do is have that stupid rule that everyone must strip to underwear at a given time - talk about pressure! It should be about fun and allowing people to get into the mood at their own pace."
I agree with all of those except the strip down bit ... i dont think it should be a rule all the time but i think it has its place occasionally as one of those "different types of nights" like a lingerie night maybe then if people arent keen they can just attend the other nights instead |
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" If there was a swinging bar in each major town there'd be no need for Fab at all "
I wouldnt go that far ... lits of vanilla bars but still lots of social media , meetup and online dating sites |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
Henley Arden |
"For us the best sort of clubs. Where I think the some clubs get it wrong is the music and lighting, swinging and sex clubs for us are more than just a place to go fuck, it's a whole sensory experience, the build up before you go, choosing what to wear and what you might like from the night, you should arrive and the lighting should be subdued and dark on places, nobody wants bright lights, and the biggest let down is music, seriously how can feel aroused and sexy to crappy pop music and cheese songs, it's not a works night out where we the DJ has to cater for everyone and needs to get people up dancing. It's about music that is sensual, erotic, look at the fifty shades of grey soundtrack. Much more in tune for a swingers club. I find a lot of clubs are very much about the social aspect of which is fine, but if you want to listen to hi ho silver lining whilst doing a raffle and eating a buffet. It reminds me of a working mans club not a place that should make you feel, erotic and tingly and daring and risqué and sensual and horny.
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Gotta agree with this.
In a couple of UK clubs I think they are looking for dropped earings the lightings so bright. Talk about killing the ambience.
One DJ took his bad musical taste as a badge of honour!
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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"It needs to be classy, clean, have socialising space and separate play space, decent modern music (nothing cheesy and 70s please).
The play space should be a mix of pubic and private.
It also needs to have different types of nights - ie couples only nights, greedy girls nights, couples and singles nights.
Ideally it would be very discerning with the clientele but that is somewhat subjective and would limit the commercial viability of the club!
It also needs to have strictly enforced rules with a zero tolerance to pressured or pushy behaviour.
A dress code should also be enforced.
One thing it most definitely should not ever do is have that stupid rule that everyone must strip to underwear at a given time - talk about pressure! It should be about fun and allowing people to get into the mood at their own pace.
I agree with all of those except the strip down bit ... i dont think it should be a rule all the time but i think it has its place occasionally as one of those "different types of nights" like a lingerie night maybe then if people arent keen they can just attend the other nights instead "
As said before we have visited a few European clubs with the clothes change time and always found it great.
First, it's not a strip down to nude rule. The women are given a wide latitude, like mesh dresses, sexy clothes. Few if ever go nude.
For men it's under wear or club wear.
Everyone makes a effort with the guys in super boxers or club wear etc. Nobody's walking around with a towel wrapped around them or old cheesey underpants.
What it does avoid is people ( guys) still wearing trousers and shirts all night.
On our first visit we were a little self conscious but once changed we realised everyone else is changed now we believe it's a great rule.
We feel more uneasy in UK clubs when we are down to our sexies but standing at the bar next to guys fully clothed like a regular vanilla pub. |
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The sex bar (not just a swinging bar) would attract a wide range of people, far wider than that found on Fab. Thursday night lgbt night. Friday night couples only night. Saturday everyone. It would embrace the gay scene. It would embrace those who are looking for something more seductive and charming. Sure, you'd only ever have the luck of the draw of meeting whoever was there on the night but that'd only mean you should go more often.
Because it's just a sex bar there wouldn't be any stigma about going to a "swinging" club... and by identifying more with the lgbt and kink scenes it may even reduce the stigma around swinging (we have the right to come out as swingers too if we want!)
The thing is that it's a transparently great idea. A pick up joint for people open to casual sex... or not. Maybe just a bar where kinky people meet. It's not that they're bad ideas and never work out... or that people tend to prefer clubs because they offer something better...
...they don't even exist
It'd be nice if there was at least one in the uk. And preferably somewhere near Bournemouth (rant over)  |
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"For us the best sort of clubs. Where I think the some clubs get it wrong is the music and lighting, swinging and sex clubs for us are more than just a place to go fuck, it's a whole sensory experience, the build up before you go, choosing what to wear and what you might like from the night, you should arrive and the lighting should be subdued and dark on places, nobody wants bright lights, and the biggest let down is music, seriously how can feel aroused and sexy to crappy pop music and cheese songs, it's not a works night out where we the DJ has to cater for everyone and needs to get people up dancing. It's about music that is sensual, erotic, look at the fifty shades of grey soundtrack. Much more in tune for a swingers club. I find a lot of clubs are very much about the social aspect of which is fine, but if you want to listen to hi ho silver lining whilst doing a raffle and eating a buffet. It reminds me of a working mans club not a place that should make you feel, erotic and tingly and daring and risqué and sensual and horny.
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Yes that sort of club would be off putting to us. |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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"The sex bar (not just a swinging bar) would attract a wide range of people, far wider than that found on Fab. Thursday night lgbt night. Friday night couples only night. Saturday everyone. It would embrace the gay scene. It would embrace those who are looking for something more seductive and charming. Sure, you'd only ever have the luck of the draw of meeting whoever was there on the night but that'd only mean you should go more often.
Because it's just a sex bar there wouldn't be any stigma about going to a "swinging" club... and by identifying more with the lgbt and kink scenes it may even reduce the stigma around swinging (we have the right to come out as swingers too if we want!)
The thing is that it's a transparently great idea. A pick up joint for people open to casual sex... or not. Maybe just a bar where kinky people meet. It's not that they're bad ideas and never work out... or that people tend to prefer clubs because they offer something better...
...they don't even exist
It'd be nice if there was at least one in the uk. And preferably somewhere near Bournemouth (rant over) "
I think you have to ask why they don't exist. Because they don't work.
Its like saying let's open a live music pub with live sports on the Big TV screens at the same time along with a pub quiz running.
The sex bars the same. Great in theory but not in practice. Your spreading the audience too thin plus most couples do like to be discrete about swinging. Attending an open bar for all is a potential nightmare.
Coming out as swingers is fine until it loses someone their job.
Unfortunately the UK is still just too uptight about sex compared to Europe. It's getting better but still far behind.
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I would like a swingers club that's similar to a smart nightclub. Dresscode, dance floor, good music, nice decor. I like the ones where food is a available too. Not fussed about there being a spa facility. I do like a good selection of small and large orgy room. Not fussed about about private lockable rooms. A few nice social area are important too.
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"I think you have to ask why they don't exist. Because they don't work."
You can't argue that something doesn't work if it doesn't exist.
"Its like saying let's open a live music pub with live sports on the Big TV screens at the same time along with a pub quiz running.
The sex bars the same. Great in theory but not in practice. Your spreading the audience too thin plus most couples do like to be discrete about swinging. Attending an open bar for all is a potential nightmare.
Coming out as swingers is fine until it loses someone their job.
Unfortunately the UK is still just too uptight about sex compared to Europe. It's getting better but still far behind."
Going to a sex bar is far more discreet than going to a swinging club. Just because you're in a sex bar doesn't mean you're a swinger. The beauty is actually in the dilution. If the bar contains lgbt, bdsm, swingers, and ordinary people who feel like going to a bar with sexy people there... then you really could be there for any reason.
I'm not saying swingers should come out. But the more that people connect swinging with lgbt and bdsm, the more they'll think it's just yet another acceptable thing that some people do. Sex bars would create a wider community for us to be a part of and may even lead to making the uk less uptight about sex (I don't think it is btw... we have an Anne Summers in Bournemouth, a sex bar would be little different)
I'd be ok if they had existed and they'd failed because they were in practice a bad idea. But instead they seem like a fantastic idea that's just not reached our shores yet. (we loved them in GC) Until they do, swingers will have to carry on trying to organise local socials and doing it themselves. It would be tempting to describe it as a massive gap in the market... but how big is the market lol. Oh well. It's nice to dream though  |
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over a year ago
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"I think you have to ask why they don't exist. Because they don't work.
You can't argue that something doesn't work if it doesn't exist.
Its like saying let's open a live music pub with live sports on the Big TV screens at the same time along with a pub quiz running.
The sex bars the same. Great in theory but not in practice. Your spreading the audience too thin plus most couples do like to be discrete about swinging. Attending an open bar for all is a potential nightmare.
Coming out as swingers is fine until it loses someone their job.
Unfortunately the UK is still just too uptight about sex compared to Europe. It's getting better but still far behind.
Going to a sex bar is far more discreet than going to a swinging club. Just because you're in a sex bar doesn't mean you're a swinger. The beauty is actually in the dilution. If the bar contains lgbt, bdsm, swingers, and ordinary people who feel like going to a bar with sexy people there... then you really could be there for any reason.
I'm not saying swingers should come out. But the more that people connect swinging with lgbt and bdsm, the more they'll think it's just yet another acceptable thing that some people do. Sex bars would create a wider community for us to be a part of and may even lead to making the uk less uptight about sex (I don't think it is btw... we have an Anne Summers in Bournemouth, a sex bar would be little different)
I'd be ok if they had existed and they'd failed because they were in practice a bad idea. But instead they seem like a fantastic idea that's just not reached our shores yet. (we loved them in GC) Until they do, swingers will have to carry on trying to organise local socials and doing it themselves. It would be tempting to describe it as a massive gap in the market... but how big is the market lol. Oh well. It's nice to dream though "
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"I think you have to ask why they don't exist. Because they don't work.
You can't argue that something doesn't work if it doesn't exist.
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I think the reason they don't exist is more down to licensing laws in the U.K. and the do good'ers objections that would follow if one was to open. |
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"I think you have to ask why they don't exist. Because they don't work.
You can't argue that something doesn't work if it doesn't exist.
I think the reason they don't exist is more down to licensing laws in the U.K. and the do good'ers objections that would follow if one was to open."
Considering an "adult bar" is basically a strip club without the strippers, and we have a Rhino here in Bournemouth, I can't see it being a problem if done sensitively (blacked out windows, suitable neighbourhood etc). I'm not writing this to argue... only in the hope someone else is reading this and thinking "wow that's a great business idea" and wants to go and do it. Fingers crossed |
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Townhouse on the Wirral meets many of the above mentioned criteria. Well managed, great staff, good facilities, parking, security, free condoms, themed events.
I don't think any one club will meet everyone's needs but this one tries damn hard to do so. |
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"Considering an "adult bar" is basically a strip club without the strippers, and we have a Rhino here in Bournemouth, I can't see it being a problem if done sensitively (blacked out windows, suitable neighbourhood etc). I'm not writing this to argue... only in the hope someone else is reading this and thinking "wow that's a great business idea" and wants to go and do it. Fingers crossed "
Yeah fingers crossed sounds like a good night out |
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As a cpl with no interest in single males on non cpls only nights a area that is only for cpls therefore those looking for males can still have fun those wo don't won't be pestered |
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