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This post will make you hate me...... meh
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Seriously, it's true that we see lots of moaning about single males, but perhaps most comes from people new to the forums who don't realise that we've heard it all before, and probably in the last few minutes on another thread. We could call it tripadvisor syndrome, where many people only leave a hotel re_iew when they've had a bad experience and don't bother when they've had a good time.  | |||
"If there's one thing worse than a single male moaning, it's a literate single male moaning " | |||
"If there's one thing worse than a single male moaning, it's a literate single male moaning
Seriously, it's true that we see lots of moaning about single males, but perhaps most comes from people new to the forums who don't realise that we've heard it all before, and probably in the last few minutes on another thread. We could call it tripadvisor syndrome, where many people only leave a hotel re_iew when they've had a bad experience and don't bother when they've had a good time. "Compliment appreciated (I think ) and statement well made, I only hope that like me, people take tripadvisor (and therefore peoples opinions of singles on this site) with a pinch of salt. I have visited or worked in 57 countries, I know a "wrong-un" (when it comes to hotels) by my own experience  | |||
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"If there's one thing worse than a single male moaning, it's a literate single male moaning
Seriously, it's true that we see lots of moaning about single males, but perhaps most comes from people new to the forums who don't realise that we've heard it all before, and probably in the last few minutes on another thread. We could call it tripadvisor syndrome, where many people only leave a hotel re_iew when they've had a bad experience and don't bother when they've had a good time.
Compliment appreciated (I think ) and statement well made, I only hope that like me, people take tripadvisor (and therefore peoples opinions of singles on this site) with a pinch of salt. I have visited or worked in 57 countries, I know a "wrong-un" (when it comes to hotels) by my own experience "It was a compliment Thank god we only see the positive re_iews (verifications) on Fab Though that does mean that spleens get vented on forums instead | |||
"I think the previous poster was being slightly sarcastic. The Op was being told politely, that his post, though highly literate, was pointing out that he objects to people forever moaning about single guys on these threads. The reply was pointing out that the single guys, all tend to belong to the team of "me" and don't in fact read the other posts, where the same moan gets repeated over and over ad infinitum. Basically the moan goes "I'm single, and I'm male, and I'm not getting what I want!"....... Of course this thread is completely different! Isn't it? " | |||
"I think the previous poster was being slightly sarcastic. The Op was being told politely, that his post, though highly literate, was pointing out that he objects to people forever moaning about single guys on these threads. The reply was pointing out that the single guys, all tend to belong to the team of "me" and don't in fact read the other posts, where the same moan gets repeated over and over ad infinitum. Basically the moan goes "I'm single, and I'm male, and I'm not getting what I want!"....... Of course this thread is completely different! Isn't it? "I genuinely don't believe that I complained about not getting meets, however your _iew is so tarnished by either the forums or your experience that you believe that I am..... its ok the point of the thread went thataway! | |||
In a nutshell, while there are good people on here, single men, seem to get the rough deal but maybe it's because of the large number of the impatient ones that ruin it for the gems. | |||
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Fems don't whinge/moan too often either... they vent when they get abuse or bombarded with too much interest.
Disclaimer no2: All of the above is no way a whinge/moan... just my _iew. | |||
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" In a nutshell, while there are good people on here, single men, seem to get the rough deal but maybe it's because of the large number of the impatient ones that ruin it for the gems. "Someone that can see.... ah blessed be! This post is not about "meets" its about a section of the FAB community (BOTH men and women) being vilified classed as liars (in the majority), cheating (in the majority) and time-wasters (in the majority), which quite simply isn't true, to comment on this post as if it's a whine about "not getting meets" is to have missed the point. Single people should be allowed to enjoy the forums (as well as meets, clubs, socials etc.) as much as anyone else, but please tell me, how many of you would continue to read and participate in a forum where your opinion was undervalued due to your status and where your section of the community is consistently ostracised without saying something in your own defence....... Thought so | |||
" In a nutshell, while there are good people on here, single men, seem to get the rough deal but maybe it's because of the large number of the impatient ones that ruin it for the gems.
Someone that can see.... ah blessed be!
This post is not about "meets" its about a section of the FAB community (BOTH men and women) being vilified classed as liars (in the majority), cheating (in the majority) and time-wasters (in the majority), which quite simply isn't true, to comment on this post as if it's a whine about "not getting meets" is to have missed the point.
Single people should be allowed to enjoy the forums (as well as meets, clubs, socials etc.) as much as anyone else, but please tell me, how many of you would continue to read and participate in a forum where your opinion was undervalued due to your status and where your section of the community is consistently ostracised without saying something in your own defence.......
Thought so"Can I just say one more thing... Cheating is a very touchy subject as we have seen the proof with a couple of recent threads that got pulled (they nearly always do). Couples that swing together cannot be judged and accused of cheating on their partners if they are on here together (apart from those few that try and meet behind their partners back  )....
....therefore couples will be excluded from the cheating rants and sly digs.
I do say single guys are given a harder time... auto suspicion goes into overdrive when a guy can't accommodate etc.... and because females are in such short supply against high demand, they do get less of a lashing.
Again, not a dig... just my observation. | |||
" Can I just say one more thing... Cheating is a very touchy subject as we have seen the proof with a couple of recent threads that got pulled (they nearly always do). Couples that swing together cannot be judged and accused of cheating on their partners if they are on here together (apart from those few that try and meet behind their partners back )....
....therefore couples will be excluded from the cheating rants and sly digs.
I do say single guys are given a harder time... auto suspicion goes into overdrive when a guy can't accommodate etc.... and because females are in such short supply against high demand, they do get less of a lashing.
Again, not a dig... just my observation."It's an absolutely fair point (although I get contacted by FB couples that are both obviously cheating, how that one sits I dont know lol) and I take your point about couples getting abuse, and the proportionality, again absolutely right, more singles, more "wrong-uns" (in numbers but not necessarily in percentage) | |||
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I'm also going to show that I do agree that single guys do take a bashing... but also are much loved and appreciated by a lot of us
http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/62078 | |||
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) the vast majority are going to consider that I am wrong.
This is the basis of free speech, but the tone now seems to be that we must agree with the OP no matter what. Either that or I sense the implication that we are all beneath contempt?
I frequently advertise for men (multiples) to meet. I will often confirm in excess of 100 "single guys" for a meeting in the full knowledge, that if I am very lucky, 4 or 5 will show up! Now forgive me, but by my book 94 or 95 not showing up, having sent countless emails to me to confirm time, place, what I want to happen etc. etc. Makes the 95% that don't show, timewasters! Then multiply the instances this has happened by 75 or so (the number of times it has happened) then you can see, by my book, the majority of guys on here (and other sites) are complete timewasters. But that does not detract from the fact that we have met a lot of genuine "diamonds". The important thing to realise is that mathematically, the majority at least under those circumstances are indeed timewasters! You can't beat the math! It does not mean that we hate single guys, but statistically, we know most won't show up! | |||
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"Dear dear! the OP started in a jocular mode, but the tone is getting a little harsh now! Could it be that we are all entitled to an opinion, just not necessarily our own! I fully admit to being almost entirely self opinionated, but acknowledge that even when I am 100% sure i'm right (which from my point of _iew is 99.999% of the time ) the vast majority are going to consider that I am wrong.
This is the basis of free speech, but the tone now seems to be that we must agree with the OP no matter what. Either that or I sense the implication that we are all beneath contempt?
I frequently advertise for men (multiples) to meet. I will often confirm in excess of 100 "single guys" for a meeting in the full knowledge, that if I am very lucky, 4 or 5 will show up! Now forgive me, but by my book 94 or 95 not showing up, having sent countless emails to me to confirm time, place, what I want to happen etc. etc. Makes the 95% that don't show, timewasters! Then multiply the instances this has happened by 75 or so (the number of times it has happened) then you can see, by my book, the majority of guys on here (and other sites) are complete timewasters. But that does not detract from the fact that we have met a lot of genuine "diamonds". The important thing to realise is that mathematically, the majority at least under those circumstances are indeed timewasters! You can't beat the math! It does not mean that we hate single guys, but statistically, we know most won't show up!"The very same voice that missed the initial point of the thread now comes back to say that I do not accept criticism of my post, I accept criticism of its content and quite rightly I should, you critisicised the motivation behind it, and you were wrong. I apologise that you appear to have had so many time wasters, and it appears that confirming 100 people at a time does little to improve the mathematics in your favour. Your experience is your own, and of course you are welcome to share in this open thread discussing the matter, it is afterall the reason for a forum. I have only criticised people in this thread that have "missed the point" and _iewed it as a moan about not getting meets (I average two a week, i think thats "ok"). But where the poster is wrong I will disagree with them, and one thing is for sure, the motivation behind the original post (which I wrote) was not about meets, therefore anyone commenting on it being about meets is wrong, unless of course they are the other voice in my head | |||
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"As I understand you, you moan that "singles" get vilified on the forums.... I think you will find that the majority of posters are (as in our case) reacting to their own experiences. As I find it hard to believe that you as a single guy, have much experience of the antics of singles (single fems being quite rare). I don't understand the factual basis of your decision to defend the singles? As a theoretical discussion, it's fine, but most folks, having had experiences of timewasting, whinging, demands etc. etc. will continue to feel as they do. Most people simply speak as they find, your post seems to suggest that they think as justice would decree, which is a long way from the same thing. Boils down to "Life ain't fair, and that's the truth"!" 60% of my meets in fact nearer 70% are single females, but I do belong to a site "specialising" in that area, which would explain this. I also prefer to meet with single people, and as swinging is about choice (strange that single blokes do get choice, we aren't all rampant fuck anythings lol), I tend to choose singles, partly because, motivationally they have a stronger desire (in my experience) for sexual contact, i.e. they don't have a regular partner or husband. I am sorry that you find some of the "factual" basis missing, anecdotal evidence from reading these forums and swinging for quite some time, is valid as factual evidence, after all you used it in your previous post I have no wish to enter a "personal" disagreement with you. You disapprove of my post, thats fine, you think it is motivated by a lack of meets, thats fine too. My post is not to "lead" you to the same conclusion you have drawn, merely to discuss a phenomena that I experience on these forums on a regular basis | |||
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Ladies and Couples, please check me out as I don't complain....
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"sorry i got bored halfway thru the statistics, can i get the bullet points in short form? "You're not alone. I read government documents and letters from solicitors for a living, so that's saying something! | |||
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