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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
near bury st edmunds |
Hang about at swingers club, waiting to pounce on any action there is. Me and my O/H was disgussing this on the way home from a swingers club last night. Why do single men not understand they will get a lot further by making the effort to chat to ppl. They must realise couples dont find it attractive for them to sit right up close as they are playing, whap their cocks out and wank. This just makes them look like perv guys and NOt guys you would want to play with. We know guys who do extreamly well at swingers clubs and when we look at each one, its the same conclusion, they all tae the time to chat. Come on Guys get it together swingers clubs are NOt live porn shows.
Is it a wonder you have a moan when couples ask for more couples nights only at clubsx |
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sadly it is a never ending question love and me and my hubby felt the same after our third club meet.. however we have met some lovely single men at clubs too so it is not by any means all of them.
we once refused to go in the rooms because the walls in partners were covered with single men just waiting there and follwing any couples going in to the room |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I don't mind being watched - occupational hazard of shagging in a public room really. I do mind it when I am 'entertaining' a couple of guys and someone will grab my hand to wank them. I just pull away, but it makes me uncomfortable. |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"sadly it is a never ending question love and me and my hubby felt the same after our third club meet.. however we have met some lovely single men at clubs too so it is not by any means all of them.
we once refused to go in the rooms because the walls in partners were covered with single men just waiting there and follwing any couples going in to the room"
Ohh i agree its not all, we been going to our local two clubs over 2 years and met some great single guys, who we now consider good mates. It does out you off we had to wait till the ned of the night to play because of wall to wall guys last night. What gets me is, do they not realise they will get more out of it if they take time to chat lol. |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I don't mind being watched - occupational hazard of shagging in a public room really. I do mind it when I am 'entertaining' a couple of guys and someone will grab my hand to wank them. I just pull away, but it makes me uncomfortable."
One reason we now wont go to clubs what are mostly public rooms, dont mind being watched, but not by hoards of guys wanking lol.
The post is more about the fact that, whey would get more action, if they take time to chat, not sure why they cant see this lol. Maybe they like being wankers lol |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Hang about at swingers club, waiting to pounce on any action there is. Me and my O/H was disgussing this on the way home from a swingers club last night. Why do single men not understand they will get a lot further by making the effort to chat to ppl. They must realise couples dont find it attractive for them to sit right up close as they are playing, whap their cocks out and wank. This just makes them look like perv guys and NOt guys you would want to play with. We know guys who do extreamly well at swingers clubs and when we look at each one, its the same conclusion, they all tae the time to chat. Come on Guys get it together swingers clubs are NOt live porn shows.
Is it a wonder you have a moan when couples ask for more couples nights only at clubsx"
don't get me started.... as a single bloke it is actually one of my biggest pet peeves as well.....
and we were actually discussing this very topic in the club I was in last night....
it is the reason why I only go to the club that I normally do on one specific night.... because they tend to keep the patrollers and zombies as we call them out...
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over a year ago
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We have only been to a club on couples nights. Play with single guys but only at our place. Were thinking about a club on single guys nights but don't fancy being pestered as it would piss us off. A punch on the nose may offend persistent people. |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
near bury st edmunds |
"Hang about at swingers club, waiting to pounce on any action there is. Me and my O/H was disgussing this on the way home from a swingers club last night. Why do single men not understand they will get a lot further by making the effort to chat to ppl. They must realise couples dont find it attractive for them to sit right up close as they are playing, whap their cocks out and wank. This just makes them look like perv guys and NOt guys you would want to play with. We know guys who do extreamly well at swingers clubs and when we look at each one, its the same conclusion, they all tae the time to chat. Come on Guys get it together swingers clubs are NOt live porn shows.
Is it a wonder you have a moan when couples ask for more couples nights only at clubsx
don't get me started.... as a single bloke it is actually one of my biggest pet peeves as well.....
and we were actually discussing this very topic in the club I was in last night....
it is the reason why I only go to the club that I normally do on one specific night.... because they tend to keep the patrollers and zombies as we call them out...
Well said sweetheart, i just want to get hold of them and shake them, tell them to try a bit of chat etc etc, instead of standing about like a preditor. Guys can do so well in clubs if, they have some common sence and realise you have to put something in, if you want to get something in return xx
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We have only been to a club on couples nights. Play with single guys but only at our place. Were thinking about a club on single guys nights but don't fancy being pestered as it would piss us off. A punch on the nose may offend persistent people."
Some clubs are not too bad on a single guys night, they try watch the numbers of single guys, and try encourage them to engage in chat. I just do not get who single guys think this behavour is attractive. We mostly go on couples night, but as we cant accomidate we like to go once ever now and then for a MMF x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We really enjoy mmf. Guess we are lucky that we can accom. We will try a club when single guys are invited just to say we have done so. We can't say we have not tried at least once then. |
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Even as a single guy I see it as an unattractive thing...the pacing up and down peering in play rooms.
I do attempt to do the chatting thing, still go shy sometimes. Love spending time, in pool/jacuzzi and not just because couples are playing in them.
My general rule of thumb is if they are dressed, or don't use pool/hottub they will usually be moaning about lack of action later and leaving early.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"cos its like watching porn in 3d... only u might get some splashback? x
Haahaahaahaa...trust you!  "
hhehehe couldnt resist!
well look at it from this point of _iew please:
ur a single guy, ur i a club, peole are playing quite openly- u perverse whats happening, hoping to maybe catch someones eye(or hand), maybe get invited over.
Fear:
U ask if u can join and get told to fuck off- cock flops...wank ruined.
while I think most people should engage with people before playing, when the action starts in an open area.. last thing u want to do is approach and politely ask while someones getting fucked or fucking can u join in.
thats why most will wank in the backround- waiting for a possible invite.
So In my opinion,te guys pay a substantial bit more than other groups, not guaranteed to get a shag(quite rightly so), but should they not be permitted to have a wank if they arent getting a shag?????????
of course I'd rather be in there licking fannies n shagging or getting Bjs.. but it IS a reason why i dont frequent clubs on my own alot, when i can normally go elsewhere for an 'invited' shag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always think how sore they will be the following day. Im in the club for hours and see the same guys constantly stroking their cocks then going a bit faster if a woman looks over or walks past. Its got to be sore after all those hours.
And the risk of repetitive strain injury |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My favourite is when I glance over at a guy whose touching his cock. He tends to open his legs a bit more so the towel drops away and sensually moves his hand up and down slowly, with such a lascivious look on his face.
And I think - you git |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as somone who has never been to a club but thinking of doing next week (la chabre)and extremely nervous...what would you advise my etiquette to be ? "
The club you mention has a great website, including a long section on Advice for Single Guys. Read it, follow it, and you won't go far wrong! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is the one thing that put us off on a club visit.
We were in the changing room with a guy and he had the perfect opportunity to strike up a bit of conversation which would have broken the ice and stood him in good stead later on but he chose to say nothing but follow us everywhere.
We would have loved to had some male company that night but we were in the bar for over 2 hours and not one guys spoke to us, they just chose to crowd right round when we started to have fun.
Surely guys realise this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I see what the matter is the single guys have to make the first move to talk to people oh hang on if they do that they will be classed as pushy. Dammed if they do and dammed if they don't.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is the one thing that put us off on a club visit.
We were in the changing room with a guy and he had the perfect opportunity to strike up a bit of conversation which would have broken the ice and stood him in good stead later on but he chose to say nothing but follow us everywhere.
We would have loved to had some male company that night but we were in the bar for over 2 hours and not one guys spoke to us, they just chose to crowd right round when we started to have fun.
Surely guys realise this?"
Oooh...so the "perfect opportunity" was only applicable to the single male and not you!
Aaah...got it. 
Poor single men...don't stand a chance do they...poor bastards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thats why private rooms and couples only rooms are so busy,
If it's 'heavy' with single guys looking desperate and walking round with the stroke I always opt for a private room.
Sometimes when it's quiet I will go in an open room, however am very watchful of guys that will try and touch me without consent.
I think we all just ignore them, as we are all so used to them, however maybe if more people spoke up and asked them to go away they may get the point and try to change.
It's not just single guys though, Last time I was in a couples only room, 3 other couples came in and started playing, 1 bloke from the couples came over to me and actually got hold of my leg. He got his hand smacked for the privilidge and the 'dirty look'
Maybe they think if they dont ask they wont get told no, anyone that tries to touch me without asking gets a firm NO,
Why would I play with someone I wouldnt talk too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Myself and my Sir/partner went to a club last night. We were playing with each other in the round room and the single guys thought it was ok to touch me without asking first. He did tell them to stop, but we got so fed up we had to go to another room, which we shouldn't have to do..So annoying!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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never been to a club, but my suggestions would be :
- some guys find it hard approaching a woman when she is already with a man
- some guys find it easier to communicate via actions rather than words
- some men prefer the anonymity and don't want the whole chat thing
- some men just like to hover and wank rather than join in directly
- some guys lack self confidence but not sexual confidence
i suggest there may be various combinations of the above going on in any 1 club at any 1 time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"never been to a club, but my suggestions would be :
- some guys find it hard approaching a woman when she is already with a man
- some guys find it easier to communicate via actions rather than words
- some men prefer the anonymity and don't want the whole chat thing
- some men just like to hover and wank rather than join in directly
- some guys lack self confidence but not sexual confidence
i suggest there may be various combinations of the above going on in any 1 club at any 1 time "
and in the words of that song by i dont know who Some guys have all the Luck |
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i have no problem with the silent watchers/wankers. if i have chosen to play in a public room then watch all you like. but don't try to touch or join in without a clear invitation - that will just ruin the moment and then spoil everyones fun if i stop play and leave. 
also if you are thoroughly enjoying the _iew then no heckling - compliments will be gratefully received later, i love a compliment! and mind where any mess goes! if i want bukake i'm perfectly capable of making that clear! 
but i go to clubs FOR the single guys. i prefer nights when they're in because they are who i want to play with. but don't follow me arond like whipped puppy dogs hoping that if you loiter near me i'll pick you. i like confidence and i'm very sociable and approachable. you don't even have to be witty - hello, do you come here often? will actually work in a swingers club! 
so when people look towards you smile, if you're near them say hi, compliment anyone you think looks good. don't think it all has to be about sex, a conversation on how bad the traffic was getting there or how cold its got all of a sudden can pay dividends when an hour later the ones you spoke to briefly invite you to play or catch you eye as you watch and beckon you over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It sort of makes me think twice about going to a club. I don't mind men touching me as long as I like them and I want them to touch.
I thought 'NO' was supposed to mean no.... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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the annoying thing is that in any social situation normally.. how far would you get if you just sat in a corner and didn't say boo to a goose? so just because sex is on the table so to speak, why would the situation be any different???
I was playing with a couple in an open room.. and the wife in this couple had a brilliant way of dealing with it!
when everyone was creeping close... she stopped for a moment and said "anyone who bothered to say hi and find out what my name is can stay and play and join in... the rest of you.. no chance!"
the look on all these guys faces were priceless..they all looked at each other... then looked at me! I said.. "I ain't going to tell you!!!"...
they all sloped off one by one..... but it made the point fantastically....
why would you clam up so to speak in that situation... wouldn't you at least want to know the name of the person you are playing with????
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"This is the one thing that put us off on a club visit.
We were in the changing room with a guy and he had the perfect opportunity to strike up a bit of conversation which would have broken the ice and stood him in good stead later on but he chose to say nothing but follow us everywhere.
We would have loved to had some male company that night but we were in the bar for over 2 hours and not one guys spoke to us, they just chose to crowd right round when we started to have fun.
Surely guys realise this?
Oooh...so the "perfect opportunity" was only applicable to the single male and not you!
Aaah...got it.
Poor single men...don't stand a chance do they...poor bastards. "
Last time I was in Chams I realised if i didn't start talking to the guys I'd have a poor evening. Met two lovely guys that way.
Nothing stopping us from talking to them! Especially if you like the look of them. |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
near bury st edmunds |
"I see what the matter is the single guys have to make the first move to talk to people oh hang on if they do that they will be classed as pushy. Dammed if they do and dammed if they don't. "
I wouldnt say a guy was push if he came over to chat, Not at All, it would show us he is prepared to make the effort, and would get a lot further than a guy who just stood wanking. |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"the annoying thing is that in any social situation normally.. how far would you get if you just sat in a corner and didn't say boo to a goose? so just because sex is on the table so to speak, why would the situation be any different???
I was playing with a couple in an open room.. and the wife in this couple had a brilliant way of dealing with it!
when everyone was creeping close... she stopped for a moment and said "anyone who bothered to say hi and find out what my name is can stay and play and join in... the rest of you.. no chance!"
the look on all these guys faces were priceless..they all looked at each other... then looked at me! I said.. "I ain't going to tell you!!!"...
they all sloped off one by one..... but it made the point fantastically....
why would you clam up so to speak in that situation... wouldn't you at least want to know the name of the person you are playing with????
Love it i am going to try that next time. The post really was to just try and get across the message to single guys, to socialise at clubs and maybe you will get more out of it. Guess some guys dont like to join in just want, but then they arnt swingers are they, and shouldn't they be going to clubs what cater just for their needs lol
Fabio, you make sence most times, maybe you could make a fortune giving guys lessons on how to initiate chat at a club lol
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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Fabio, you make sence most times, maybe you could make a fortune giving guys lessons on how to initiate chat at a club lol
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nope!! 
it is just like for example.. that "improve my profile" posts that you see now...., there are those who "get it" and understand, and there are those who don't and just want maximum results with minimum effort...
I fully understand the way it is at the moment may be frustrating, but at least the way it is now you can work out who "does" and who "doesn't"... and there is a clear difference....
everything else would muddy the waters... |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
near bury st edmunds |
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Fabio, you make sence most times, maybe you could make a fortune giving guys lessons on how to initiate chat at a club lol
nope!!
it is just like for example.. that "improve my profile" posts that you see now...., there are those who "get it" and understand, and there are those who don't and just want maximum results with minimum effort...
I fully understand the way it is at the moment may be frustrating, but at least the way it is now you can work out who "does" and who "doesn't"... and there is a clear difference....
everything else would muddy the waters... "
yep like sone said to us when we started
you get out of swinging what you put in,
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Fabio, you make sence most times, maybe you could make a fortune giving guys lessons on how to initiate chat at a club lol
nope!!
it is just like for example.. that "improve my profile" posts that you see now...., there are those who "get it" and understand, and there are those who don't and just want maximum results with minimum effort...
I fully understand the way it is at the moment may be frustrating, but at least the way it is now you can work out who "does" and who "doesn't"... and there is a clear difference....
everything else would muddy the waters...
yep like sone said to us when we started
you get out of swinging what you put in,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as long as they follow the rules of the club... tug away"
i agree with that
i think single guys have a tough time at clubs
everyone likes different so its hard for them to know what to do
Id sooner guys just join in with me rather than asking etc but the OP ovbiously does not like this approch
hows the guys supposed to know person to person what you like
some women like to just get on with it, others like to chat first
if you dont like them tugging next to you, move away they have the same rights to be there as you but if its you that dont feel comfy with the situation its you that should move |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"as long as they follow the rules of the club... tug away
i agree with that
i think single guys have a tough time at clubs
everyone likes different so its hard for them to know what to do
Id sooner guys just join in with me rather than asking etc but the OP ovbiously does not like this approch
hows the guys supposed to know person to person what you like
some women like to just get on with it, others like to chat first
if you dont like them tugging next to you, move away they have the same rights to be there as you but if its you that dont feel comfy with the situation its you that should move"
This was NOT the point of my post, they can tug away all they want, Just not that up close i can feel it lol.
My main point is to a lot it makes them look like preditors for want of a better word. All i was trying to point out was after going to swinging clubs for 2 years the guys that seem to chat instead of standing and stareing do a lot better at getting invited to play. |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"as long as they follow the rules of the club... tug away
i agree with that
i think single guys have a tough time at clubs
everyone likes different so its hard for them to know what to do
Id sooner guys just join in with me rather than asking etc but the OP ovbiously does not like this approch
hows the guys supposed to know person to person what you like
some women like to just get on with it, others like to chat first
if you dont like them tugging next to you, move away they have the same rights to be there as you but if its you that dont feel comfy with the situation its you that should move"
Your right yes, they have the same right as you to be in the club. But if you do move away, chances are they follow you around. Short of telling them to F**K off, they don't seem to take the hint. And no, the OP doesn't like guys just to join in as she likes to pick who she plays with.
Everyone has there own preferance, and if you don't mind playing on a bed while a handful of guys stand inches away wanking, thats fine. The point is, if they are at the club to play, why not make a bit of effort and talk to people first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was in a club on my own I'd walk around smiling at the guys, making a cheeky comment as I walked by, talking to guys in the social area etc. Doesn't have to be about sex, but surely everyone can think of something to say.
I talk to lots of people in the club, to guys I'm not interested in playing with even, its part of the whole experience being friendly and sociable to those you share the same interest with. I wouldn't just sit opposite a guy and open my legs and start playing with myself and not smile or speak - though maybe that's where I've been going wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is the one thing that put us off on a club visit.
We were in the changing room with a guy and he had the perfect opportunity to strike up a bit of conversation which would have broken the ice and stood him in good stead later on but he chose to say nothing but follow us everywhere.
We would have loved to had some male company that night but we were in the bar for over 2 hours and not one guys spoke to us, they just chose to crowd right round when we started to have fun.
Surely guys realise this?
Oooh...so the "perfect opportunity" was only applicable to the single male and not you!
Aaah...got it.
Poor single men...don't stand a chance do they...poor bastards. "
We spoke to a wide number of people that night specifically the couples we had fun with.
There were two types of single guy there that night, the ones who were friendly and chatting away at the bar and the ones who just cruised the playrooms.
One type always seemed to be in the thick of the action and the other crowded round spectating.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I was in a club on my own I'd walk around smiling at the guys, making a cheeky comment as I walked by, talking to guys in the social area etc. Doesn't have to be about sex, but surely everyone can think of something to say.
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its not the same for single women as it is men tho is it?
I always go clubs alone, because im single lol and i never have problems there, most couples welcome single females chatting to them, the same cant be said for single guys
You only have to sit on the smoking area and listen to all the male halfs of couples bitching about single men to realise that, moaning they want to fuck their wifes but dont bring a woman with them, ive never heard a guy moan a woman for coming alone
single guys can have a hard time at club, theres so many reactions they can get from, as one couple said on another thread...a punch in the face to being welcomed with open arms.....how are they supposed to know whos approchable and whos not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Me and nik were in the corner of the round table room in chams and a bloke came right near playing with his cock.I told him go away,he did.spoke to other blokes and that's the way to go about it
Another time we headed to the jaq room,2 followed us,as nik was to start undressing they were playing with cocks under towel.I shook head and we walked off.
We have no prob with nice mannered males.
We are hopefully going on friday and if nik fancies a male she will play,if not they have no chance.
She does like ladies though at these places as its her only chance and I'm happy with that |
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Makes me cross when see or read the behaviour of many guys as it turns decent people away from wanting to even talk to me, never mind meet me, as all "single" men tend to get tarred by the same brush. Their crass rude behaviour is very much the same in sites such as this don't you find? Many guys simply assume that others are here purely for their use and sitting around just waiting to be fucked by them. Am talking about the "let's fuck baby" brigade. They get no "action" and then complain nobody is real. Sadly a lot of guys when it comes to sex sites and clubs switch off their big brains and start thinking purely with the little one down below with predictable results. Patience, good manners, sense of humour and general pleasant behaviour gets you a LOT further than boorishness. Not ALL guys are idiots some of us do keep the big brain switched on and know how to behave hahaha. |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Me and nik were in the corner of the round table room in chams and a bloke came right near playing with his cock.I told him go away,he did.spoke to other blokes and that's the way to go about it
Another time we headed to the jaq room,2 followed us,as nik was to start undressing they were playing with cocks under towel.I shook head and we walked off.
We have no prob with nice mannered males.
We are hopefully going on friday and if nik fancies a male she will play,if not they have no chance.
She does like ladies though at these places as its her only chance and I'm happy with that"
Do they have private rooms at chams that you could play in. |
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I think it depends how much these things bother you
i remember playing in the tiny room at chams on the top floor, i was on my back with some guy between my legs, next thing i know some guy walks in, stands there a min then just gets on the bed walks straight over me and knelt at my head, to be honest i found his cheek funny, stopped and asked him what he was doing, he replied thought id have a bj while i was watching but things like that dont bother me i just told him to bugger off and called him a cheeky twat some people just get so up tight about daft things, so what if a guy stands next to you, if a guy tugs his cock looking at you
If you went and got no attetion you'd moan, if you get unwanted attention you moan, things dont always work on your tearm
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Makes me cross when see or read the behaviour of many guys as it turns decent people away from wanting to even talk to me, never mind meet me, as all "single" men tend to get tarred by the same brush. Their crass rude behaviour is very much the same in sites such as this don't you find? Many guys simply assume that others are here purely for their use and sitting around just waiting to be fucked by them. Am talking about the "let's fuck baby" brigade. They get no "action" and then complain nobody is real. Sadly a lot of guys when it comes to sex sites and clubs switch off their big brains and start thinking purely with the little one down below with predictable results. Patience, good manners, sense of humour and general pleasant behaviour gets you a LOT further than boorishness. Not ALL guys are idiots some of us do keep the big brain switched on and know how to behave hahaha. "
Well that is lovely to hear. The clubs we go to, they guys like yourself do well. We dont always leave it to the guy to make the first move, we have spoken to guys at a club and not just the ones we want to play with, we make the effort to chat to the shy looking ones too lol
If we are at a Club and guys chat to us we ALWAYS chat back and are polight, even if they guy in question is not what im looking for in a play mate. I just cant beleave guys dont get that they will get more play in a club if they put more effort in. |
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maybe because they pay there money,,,usually more ....so they can watch what they like?
i feel sorry for some guys they get treated like lepers but soon as a fem clicks her fingers they are ment to run and be greatfull for whatever they get?
as always no means no and if anyone crosses that line thats a diffrent story but if you dont want a guy to watch ,,simple move to a room they are not in or tell them you dont want them to watch?
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I think it depends how much these things bother you
i remember playing in the tiny room at chams on the top floor, i was on my back with some guy between my legs, next thing i know some guy walks in, stands there a min then just gets on the bed walks straight over me and knelt at my head, to be honest i found his cheek funny, stopped and asked him what he was doing, he replied thought id have a bj while i was watching but things like that dont bother me i just told him to bugger off and called him a cheeky twat some people just get so up tight about daft things, so what if a guy stands next to you, if a guy tugs his cock looking at you
If you went and got no attetion you'd moan, if you get unwanted attention you moan, things dont always work on your tearm
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Im my case that is not true, i dont go looking for attention and im sorry but i like to choose who joins in my fun, not just see who turns up. Dont like strange guys standing withing inches of me wanking. Its not all about the sex, i like to choose a guy i find attranctive and have a click with. If i just wanted attention and guys to wank over me i would take part in a peep show or something similar. I never moan at a club from lack of attention, as we love the social side of it too |
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"I think it depends how much these things bother you
i remember playing in the tiny room at chams on the top floor, i was on my back with some guy between my legs, next thing i know some guy walks in, stands there a min then just gets on the bed walks straight over me and knelt at my head, to be honest i found his cheek funny, stopped and asked him what he was doing, he replied thought id have a bj while i was watching but things like that dont bother me i just told him to bugger off and called him a cheeky twat some people just get so up tight about daft things, so what if a guy stands next to you, if a guy tugs his cock looking at you
If you went and got no attetion you'd moan, if you get unwanted attention you moan, things dont always work on your tearm
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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Maybe couples get tared with the same brush at clubs after reading back on this thread. We talk to single guys at clubs and dont expect anything. We talk to single guys who look uncomfortable standing there alone. We dont expect anyone to jump into a room with us. We love the social side of clubs as well as the play side. All we do expect is a bit or respect and for me not to be treated like some sort of toy or a peep show for any tom dick or harry to wank over. Guys who come across as dirty guys out for a quick cheep wank, dont do it for me, i dont find their cheek a turn on. If they do want a wank do they really have to stand so bloody close?
Anyway, like i said before, the point of this post was in hope that single guys read it, and maybe a few would realise, they will get further if they just put in a bit more effort, and not get labled one of the crowd of wankers x |
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"I think it depends how much these things bother you
i remember playing in the tiny room at chams on the top floor, i was on my back with some guy between my legs, next thing i know some guy walks in, stands there a min then just gets on the bed walks straight over me and knelt at my head, to be honest i found his cheek funny, stopped and asked him what he was doing, he replied thought id have a bj while i was watching but things like that dont bother me i just told him to bugger off and called him a cheeky twat some people just get so up tight about daft things, so what if a guy stands next to you, if a guy tugs his cock looking at you
If you went and got no attetion you'd moan, if you get unwanted attention you moan, things dont always work on your tearm
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The thought of clubs makes me cringe. However, the kind of person I am I think your approach is one I'd would adopt.
Personally I don't see what the problem is if a bloke is tugging away while you're getting your grove on IN PUBLIC...but hey - as I don't go, maybe I'm missing the point somewhat.
If someone pushes his knob in your face - well that's a different matter, and I personally would whack it out the way...think that would get the message across! |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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I dont have a problem with them wanking, we just move away, my post was just trying to get across the message that we think single guys would do better to try and chat etc etc, instead of just wanking and waiting.
Yes i agree shoving a cock in your face is well out of order. Maybe im fussy as i only like guys i have picked to join in with our playnot just anyone who happens to be stood there wanking. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Makes me cross when see or read the behaviour of many guys as it turns decent people away from wanting to even talk to me, never mind meet me, as all "single" men tend to get tarred by the same brush. Their crass rude behaviour is very much the same in sites such as this don't you find? Many guys simply assume that others are here purely for their use and sitting around just waiting to be fucked by them. Am talking about the "let's fuck baby" brigade. They get no "action" and then complain nobody is real. Sadly a lot of guys when it comes to sex sites and clubs switch off their big brains and start thinking purely with the little one down below with predictable results. Patience, good manners, sense of humour and general pleasant behaviour gets you a LOT further than boorishness. Not ALL guys are idiots some of us do keep the big brain switched on and know how to behave hahaha. "
I don't think all guys do get tarred with the same brush.... peoples perceptions can change if you do make the effort, if you stand out then you stand out.. be that for the right reasons, or the wrong ones....
it is funny enough that amount of people that have said to me in clubs "you are not what i was expecting from a single guy" does make smile...
doors can be opened by some guys, just as doors can be closed by others..... |
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"I think it depends how much these things bother you
i remember playing in the tiny room at chams on the top floor, i was on my back with some guy between my legs, next thing i know some guy walks in, stands there a min then just gets on the bed walks straight over me and knelt at my head, to be honest i found his cheek funny, stopped and asked him what he was doing, he replied thought id have a bj while i was watching but things like that dont bother me i just told him to bugger off and called him a cheeky twat some people just get so up tight about daft things, so what if a guy stands next to you, if a guy tugs his cock looking at you
If you went and got no attetion you'd moan, if you get unwanted attention you moan, things dont always work on your tearm
The thought of clubs makes me cringe. However, the kind of person I am I think your approach is one I'd would adopt.
Personally I don't see what the problem is if a bloke is tugging away while you're getting your grove on IN PUBLIC...but hey - as I don't go, maybe I'm missing the point somewhat.
If someone pushes his knob in your face - well that's a different matter, and I personally would whack it out the way...think that would get the message across! "
mmm sassy i love a good whack x |
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I can't remember ever really having this problem.. but then if we are playing openly we will play with most guys there... They tend to look to master and if he shakes his head then they seem to Just take the hint...
And on my own I've just said no and that's that... Although on my own was at retro club and I found that the single men were so behaved.
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"maybe because they pay there money,,,usually more ....so they can watch what they like?
auds xx "
Well, theres a reason they pay more. But paying to enter a club doesn't give you the right to stand within inches of people wanking. I (the male half) find this very off putting. We pay our money as well, and we have the right to play without feeling hesseled.
Unfortunatly, a lot of clubs don't seem to have private rooms, if they had those as well as open rooms, at least you would have the choice |
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Sometimes it is about poor social skills and the inability to communicate appropriately with strangers.
I go to meetings all the team whereby I haven't met anyone before. Ill go in, maybe feel a little apprehensive, but just go to the coffee machine and strike up a conversation. I could just go in, sit there in a corner on my own and that would make it difficult to engage during the meeting.
Now admittedly trying to strike up a conversation with a woman whose wearing basque, stockings and suspenders is different but not impossible. Yes its more difficult to go up to a seated couple in the bar area and say, excuse me do you mind if I join you, but catch them at a more relexed time, at the bar, when they are walking round the club and make eye contact, smile, say hello, say something silly lilke, god its hot in here, anything you can think of. Maybe the couple or woman will blank them, or tell them to bugger off, maybe they have poor social skills, but I don't buy the fact that guys can't think of anything to make themselves seem more open and approachable than sitting there in dront of you, no smile, staring intently and wanking their dicks |
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Sometimes it is about poor social skills and the inability to communicate appropriately with strangers.
I go to meetings all the team whereby I haven't met anyone before. Ill go in, maybe feel a little apprehensive, but just go to the coffee machine and strike up a conversation. I could just go in, sit there in a corner on my own and that would make it difficult to engage during the meeting.
Now admittedly trying to strike up a conversation with a woman whose wearing basque, stockings and suspenders is different but not impossible. Yes its more difficult to go up to a seated couple in the bar area and say, excuse me do you mind if I join you, but catch them at a more relexed time, at the bar, when they are walking round the club and make eye contact, smile, say hello, say something silly lilke, god its hot in here, anything you can think of. Maybe the couple or woman will blank them, or tell them to bugger off, maybe they have poor social skills, but I don't buy the fact that guys can't think of anything to make themselves seem more open and approachable than sitting there in dront of you, no smile, staring intently and wanking their dicks "
Well said, and me or us as a couple, would never be rude to a guy who has had the balls to aproach us and tell him to bugger off.
But hey ho i guess some ppl who go to clubs dont mind being wank material or playing with totally strange guys they know nothing about and maynot even find a attraction with.
All i was trying to do with this thread is, a bit of friendly advice for single guys who attaned swingers clubs.
Happy swinging to all. AND SINGLE GUYS IF YOU DO SEE US AT A cLUB please come say hello x lol xx |
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"Unfortunatly, a lot of clubs don't seem to have private rooms, if they had those as well as open rooms, at least you would have the choice"
I can't think of too many clubs that we've been to that don't have at least one private room.
It seems that single guys really can't win unless they are mind readers. If they wait for an invite to play from us they will probably wait a long time but just joining in will work. If we don't want them we will just say no thanks politely.
If people play in open rooms then expect to be watched by men wanking. Expect to be touched gently as an introduction. That is how the club scene works in open rooms and why there are private rooms and couples only nights.
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remember first club we went to years ago in bury was in 20 mins i (m) went to the toilet came back was 8 men sitting all around the sofa on the arms and mrs said not one spoke to her just stared ,another time at our local club playing with a cpl in a locked room lad knd asked to come in we said no ten mins later he kicked the door str8 in i chased the fooker out the club into the street er naked to but in over ten years in scene only had a handfull of crap so take the good with the bad ,sum dont just get it lot more get tarred as long as chat be polite that ok with us . |
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I actually dont really see the issue with guys standing around doing it.. if in a public room... I see it as if you go there.. your going there because you like being watched..
I dont go on couples nights because I like the groups of single men.. and most clubs have couples only bits.. and I have not been to a single club that hasnt had lockable rooms.. although yes using one maybe a wait.
I normally look around and invite the guys..( well look to Master to invite them) and dont really have this business of trying to push themselves to close.. but maybe thats Master keeping them at bay..
although I do on occassion go to a club myself and never had the problem.. I just laugh and say no thanks.. and all is well.
I think that its lack of communication on all parts.. but then I dont like to do the talking to someone first.. and not bothered if I dont even recognise them an hour later..
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The common theme here is that everyone sees a place for single guys not only at clubs but in the scene in general.
It shouldn't go unnoticed that the guys on this site that seem to have the most success are the guys that send messages making an introduction to themselves that's then back up by a full and informative profile.
The same goes in clubs, the guys who are in the social areas making contact with people always seem to be in the thick of the action. The guys who just cruise the play areas always seem to be standing on the sidelines.
If a couple makes a choice to go to a club night where it's a mixed crowd, they should expect to be watched and expect that guys will possibly be wanking. If that's not on go to a night with no single guys.
When it comes to the point that they cannot move due to people who've not even spoken to invading their personal space then that's a different issue in our opinion.
Think the OP's advice is still spot on. |
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You know I have posted on this and always defend the single guys.. but I was at chams last night and you know.. I have never had so much bother in all my life with singles..
Now nothing I couldnt handle.. but.... I was suddenly thinking OMG.. does master normally keep them in line that much...
I had two guys basically try to get me into their room... ( did report it) and they followed me so i actually went and found a lovely Domme who then let me tag along with her group for the night.
BUt I had lots of people because I was there as a single girl.. just walk up to me and start trying to kiss and touch me... had a guy start trying to spank me because of my collar and I must like it... and got rather upset when I didnt...
and for the first time had people assuming that because I was wanting several men to play with..that I was wanting sex and trying to fuck me.. Luckily by this time I had someone looking out for me..
Now I went to retro club myself and was the only female there other than the club girls.. and didnt have this issue.. There really is no excuse for it.. Now I am not one of these people that is afraid to ask or tell someone what I want... but last night I saw the side that many couples are complaining about..
Now I still wouldnt go to couples nights as Master and I enjoy lots of men.... but there were a few times last night I was glad that I had tagged a long with a few other girls....
Although we did actually turn the tables and had guys running off from a group of women.. Funny that.. lol
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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AN interesting one...
Damned if you do, Damened if you don't. I think sometimes it is luck of the night and the people. Some days i have been in a club, not spoken to anyone but played with 4 couples. Other nights spoke to 4 couples and nothing happened.
Tbh it is a very fine line between being push but being assertive. One thing I have read is that if people are assertive then the chance of playing increase. One comment I would say..one mans assertiveness could be pushy.
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By *LBish OP Couple
over a year ago
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"AN interesting one...
Damned if you do, Damened if you don't. I think sometimes it is luck of the night and the people. Some days i have been in a club, not spoken to anyone but played with 4 couples. Other nights spoke to 4 couples and nothing happened.
Tbh it is a very fine line between being push but being assertive. One thing I have read is that if people are assertive then the chance of playing increase. One comment I would say..one mans assertiveness could be pushy.
We deffinatly would see it as Pushy, would see it as makeing a effort. Me personally dont like playing with a guy who cant make the effort to see what i am about first. I persoanlly think its a bit rude to want to play with someone and not at least make a little conversation. Guess im a fussy Bitch.
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By *DSRMan
over a year ago
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"Hang about at swingers club, waiting to pounce on any action there is. Me and my O/H was disgussing this on the way home from a swingers club last night. Why do single men not understand they will get a lot further by making the effort to chat to ppl. They must realise couples dont find it attractive for them to sit right up close as they are playing, whap their cocks out and wank. This just makes them look like perv guys and NOt guys you would want to play with. We know guys who do extreamly well at swingers clubs and when we look at each one, its the same conclusion, they all tae the time to chat. Come on Guys get it together swingers clubs are NOt live porn shows.
Is it a wonder you have a moan when couples ask for more couples nights only at clubsx"
maybe it's because swingers clubs charge single males more to get in and exclude them from so many events that they feel like scum so they act like scum as a result?
or maybe it's just lonely horny single males who don't get enough sex and have very high testostone levels to contend with
or maybe i'm fantastic and everyone ele is right
All i know is.. i feel like a chicken tonight, i love chicken |
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we have been to a few clubs and usually get a bit p'ed off that when we go to a room that you get a line of single guys get up and follow us but when downstairs they cant be arsed to even talk two word. Do they really think they have any chance with anything else. There are a few guys there that do talk and that made a difference |
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By *DSRMan
over a year ago
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" i feel like a chicken tonight, i love chicken
You sounded like an Aldi advert then "
Funny you say that... my chicken comes from Aldi... It's cowboy chicken.. Aldi chicken, becareful around these here parts... or you'll get stuffed |
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Interesting. In a geeky moment, I checked out the profiles of the couples taking part in this thread. Over half of the couples profiles made it clear that the couple was not interested in single guys.
So what chance a single guy getting a "fair hearing" when so many people have such a dim _iew of them and have them as guilty until proven innocent?
Wasn't sure whether or not to include single female profiles, so I didn't. If I have another geeky moment, I might revisit the matter. Or not. One or the other. |
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"Interesting. In a geeky moment, I checked out the profiles of the couples taking part in this thread. Over half of the couples profiles made it clear that the couple was not interested in single guys.
So what chance a single guy getting a "fair hearing" when so many people have such a dim _iew of them and have them as guilty until proven innocent?
Wasn't sure whether or not to include single female profiles, so I didn't. If I have another geeky moment, I might revisit the matter. Or not. One or the other."
Not interested? Of "not looking for single males"? The 2 aren't the same thing. |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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Not interested? Of "not looking for single males"? The 2 aren't the same thing."
In case anyone was wondering what that loud whooshing sound was, it was the above comment going right over the heads of a significant proportion of the people who read it (but probably never post).
(BTW guys I LOVE your username - sounds like a 80's cop show ) |
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