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How do people just do vanilla?
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over a year ago
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"I can see this is pretty controversial "
Not controversial at all ... it just shows that there's a whole spectrum of sexuality people enjoy and it's all normal. |
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over a year ago
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"Sex that involves no twists or kinkiness, and no S&M. Basically plain regular sex. Typically sweet and happy and very lovey-dovey.
I agree with all apart from the Lovey-dovey stuff "
I don't always get tied up and flogged when I have sex. Doesn't mean it's lovely dovey x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sex that involves no twists or kinkiness, and no S&M. Basically plain regular sex. Typically sweet and happy and very lovey-dovey.
I agree with all apart from the Lovey-dovey stuff
I don't always get tied up and flogged when I have sex. Doesn't mean it's lovely dovey x"
what is vanilla please |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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But that’s exactly what I mean.. “you don’t always” the fact that you do or that you would even consider it means that you’re prepared to try different things.. maybe I’m not making myself clear.. how do people just do the same thing and not want to try different things? That’s the point I’m trying to make |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Vanilla is underrated on here. Best sex I've ever had was vanilla... and yes, you certainly should explore other positions and kinkiness. But damn! Nothing quite like really deep fucking a long term lover in missionary position, her knees up so you can get really deep, and then cumming inside her. I'd leave Fab for that any day... and happily never look back, an utterly contented man  |
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"But that’s exactly what I mean.. “you don’t always” the fact that you do or that you would even consider it means that you’re prepared to try different things.. maybe I’m not making myself clear.. how do people just do the same thing and not want to try different things? That’s the point I’m trying to make "
i think you have a very odd perception of what other people do or don't do...i've never heard of anyone 'just doing the same thing'..even what you call 'vanilla' covers a huge array of things.. |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"How can some people just do vanilla? I know it takes all sorts to make the world go round but vanilla.. Really? "
Why does it bother you what other people do?
If they’re happy with it, why not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But that’s exactly what I mean.. “you don’t always” the fact that you do or that you would even consider it means that you’re prepared to try different things.. maybe I’m not making myself clear.. how do people just do the same thing and not want to try different things? That’s the point I’m trying to make "
It's just their mind set. I have friends that could never have sex again and when they do it's covers up ...lights out. They get embarrassed if sex is ever mentioned on group chat and don't give it another thought. I have other friends who enjoy sex. Have it regularly and talk about their sex life...not much but just general chat. Then there's me. One isn't more happy than the other x |
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"Vanilla is underrated on here. Best sex I've ever had was vanilla... and yes, you certainly should explore other positions and kinkiness. But damn! Nothing quite like really deep fucking a long term lover in missionary position, her knees up so you can get really deep, and then cumming inside her. I'd leave Fab for that any day... and happily never look back, an utterly contented man "
Exactly. My BDSM quiz came out as 90 something percent vanilla lol, and I don't need any kink to have fabulous sex! Nearly all the ladies will say missionary allows the maximum bodily contact with passionate kissing right through as well - beats me how anyone could NOT love it as part of normal repertoire!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Vanilla to me is missionary sex 1 on1. The Sex is very loving, but mostly lay down. As soon as one of you starts to assist by rubbing yourself or tweaking a nipple, it’s adding a little more than vanilla.
But everyone’s normal/vanilla is different.
I like what I think is vanilla, it can get very sensual and intense for me, especially when our bodies are pressed against each other.
Anyone who’ll thinks you can only have the best orgasms from pumping hard is missing out. In my opinion. |
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Where is the cut off line from being 'vanilla' a term I dislike to being some sexual beast who poo poos and looks down on those poor simple vanilla folk. I see myself as pretty vanilla apart from the odd bi mmf,from my experience on here lot's of men are the same.
When do you stop being vanilla? |
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"Vanilla is underrated on here. Best sex I've ever had was vanilla... and yes, you certainly should explore other positions and kinkiness. But damn! Nothing quite like really deep fucking a long term lover in missionary position, her knees up so you can get really deep, and then cumming inside her. I'd leave Fab for that any day... and happily never look back, an utterly contented man "
...but can I still have fun in a club occasionally? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Vanilla is underrated on here. Best sex I've ever had was vanilla... and yes, you certainly should explore other positions and kinkiness. But damn! Nothing quite like really deep fucking a long term lover in missionary position, her knees up so you can get really deep, and then cumming inside her. I'd leave Fab for that any day... and happily never look back, an utterly contented man
...but can I still have fun in a club occasionally?"
Shhh it'll be our little secret   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But that’s exactly what I mean.. “you don’t always” the fact that you do or that you would even consider it means that you’re prepared to try different things.. maybe I’m not making myself clear.. how do people just do the same thing and not want to try different things? That’s the point I’m trying to make "
I'm quite regimented in what I like, it's been the same for 15 years or so since I first discovered that sex gave me orgasms and I didn't just have to lay there!
I'll try different things but to guarantee me to cum I need the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or over my mouth and for me to reach down and rub my bean.
I have had orgasms in other positions but my sure fired tried and tested position has not changed. |
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"But that’s exactly what I mean.. “you don’t always” the fact that you do or that you would even consider it means that you’re prepared to try different things.. maybe I’m not making myself clear.. how do people just do the same thing and not want to try different things? That’s the point I’m trying to make "
I like to explore and experiment but just don't see any point in wasting any head space thinking about others who don't, or for that matter, those who are far more adventurous than me. Why would I? - someone else's sex life has nothing to do with me. The important thing is compatibility - two people who are both content with their version of vanilla would consider they had fantastic sex and that's all that matters, not other people's opinion of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But that’s exactly what I mean.. “you don’t always” the fact that you do or that you would even consider it means that you’re prepared to try different things.. maybe I’m not making myself clear.. how do people just do the same thing and not want to try different things? That’s the point I’m trying to make
I'm quite regimented in what I like, it's been the same for 15 years or so since I first discovered that sex gave me orgasms and I didn't just have to lay there!
I'll try different things but to guarantee me to cum I need the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or over my mouth and for me to reach down and rub my bean.
I have had orgasms in other positions but my sure fired tried and tested position has not changed. "
Marry me |
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"Vanilla is underrated on here. Best sex I've ever had was vanilla... and yes, you certainly should explore other positions and kinkiness. But damn! Nothing quite like really deep fucking a long term lover in missionary position, her knees up so you can get really deep, and then cumming inside her. I'd leave Fab for that any day... and happily never look back, an utterly contented man
...but can I still have fun in a club occasionally?
Shhh it'll be our little secret "
Ok, I won’t tell...promise  |
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"Apologies, (sex) same old missionary position.. with no imagination or incline to explore and experiment."
This post reveals why it's never worked for you. Are you REALLY that sexually boring in a relationship? Wow! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But that’s exactly what I mean.. “you don’t always” the fact that you do or that you would even consider it means that you’re prepared to try different things.. maybe I’m not making myself clear.. how do people just do the same thing and not want to try different things? That’s the point I’m trying to make
I'm quite regimented in what I like, it's been the same for 15 years or so since I first discovered that sex gave me orgasms and I didn't just have to lay there!
I'll try different things but to guarantee me to cum I need the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or over my mouth and for me to reach down and rub my bean.
I have had orgasms in other positions but my sure fired tried and tested position has not changed.
Marry me"
You'd squash me if you were on top of me! |
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Gave us a wry smile hearing a single guy speak about vanilla. Vanilla obviously has many meanings to many people. As a couple who swing we wouldn't consider ourselves vanilla. However a some seem to label vanilla as a sex position or non kink. Each to their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But that’s exactly what I mean.. “you don’t always” the fact that you do or that you would even consider it means that you’re prepared to try different things.. maybe I’m not making myself clear.. how do people just do the same thing and not want to try different things? That’s the point I’m trying to make
I'm quite regimented in what I like, it's been the same for 15 years or so since I first discovered that sex gave me orgasms and I didn't just have to lay there!
I'll try different things but to guarantee me to cum I need the guys full body weight on top of me with his hand round my throat or over my mouth and for me to reach down and rub my bean.
I have had orgasms in other positions but my sure fired tried and tested position has not changed.
Marry me
You'd squash me if you were on top of me!"
You'd enjoy your final moments though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But that’s exactly what I mean.. “you don’t always” the fact that you do or that you would even consider it means that you’re prepared to try different things.. maybe I’m not making myself clear.. how do people just do the same thing and not want to try different things? That’s the point I’m trying to make
I like to explore and experiment but just don't see any point in wasting any head space thinking about others who don't, or for that matter, those who are far more adventurous than me. Why would I? - someone else's sex life has nothing to do with me. The important thing is compatibility - two people who are both content with their version of vanilla would consider they had fantastic sex and that's all that matters, not other people's opinion of them."
I don’t mind exploring sex, and trying new things excite me. But it seems to me, esp on fab that sensual sex is ‘different’ or even concidered to be a kink.
I like what you wrote -fantastic sex is what matters. If the ‘vanilla’ isn’t working, try something else. Everyone has an imagination. ... |
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A thread like this would be more interesting if it didn't become a debate about definition. I am not a definition-fascist, and dislike labels, but isn't vanilla sex simply one-to-one heterosexual sex without kinks? As such it offers very considerable variety. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the OP is getting a bit of a hard time here.
I get where he is coming from.
I wouldn't enjoy a sex life without some kink and adventure!
Seb"
It's just different strokes for different folks isn't it. Some people only eat cornflakes for breakfast while other enjoy smashed avacado pea shoots and quails eggs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the OP is getting a bit of a hard time here.
I get where he is coming from.
I wouldn't enjoy a sex life without some kink and adventure!
Seb"
Nobody has given anyone a hard time have they?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Vanilla is underrated on here. Best sex I've ever had was vanilla... and yes, you certainly should explore other positions and kinkiness. But damn! Nothing quite like really deep fucking a long term lover in missionary position, her knees up so you can get really deep, and then cumming inside her. I'd leave Fab for that any day... and happily never look back, an utterly contented man
...but can I still have fun in a club occasionally?
Shhh it'll be our little secret
Ok, I won’t tell...promise "
Just as long as I don't come home to find you still dishevelled lying on the bed freshly filled with your lovers cum. Then I'd have to give you a real seeing to. Just so you didn't ever do it again... well not much  |
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"Vanilla is underrated on here. Best sex I've ever had was vanilla... and yes, you certainly should explore other positions and kinkiness. But damn! Nothing quite like really deep fucking a long term lover in missionary position, her knees up so you can get really deep, and then cumming inside her. I'd leave Fab for that any day... and happily never look back, an utterly contented man
...but can I still have fun in a club occasionally?
Shhh it'll be our little secret
Ok, I won’t tell...promise
Just as long as I don't come home to find you still dishevelled lying on the bed freshly filled with your lovers cum. Then I'd have to give you a real seeing to. Just so you didn't ever do it again... well not much "
Throw the quilt over me when you’re done, I’ll need a nap. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks to everyone who contributed on this thread.. certainly opened my eyes.
I’ll have a little think about what’s next on my next opening gambit and ensure I word it a little better. You guys are awesome and interesting.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Vanilla is underrated on here. Best sex I've ever had was vanilla... and yes, you certainly should explore other positions and kinkiness. But damn! Nothing quite like really deep fucking a long term lover in missionary position, her knees up so you can get really deep, and then cumming inside her. I'd leave Fab for that any day... and happily never look back, an utterly contented man
...but can I still have fun in a club occasionally?
Shhh it'll be our little secret
Ok, I won’t tell...promise
Just as long as I don't come home to find you still dishevelled lying on the bed freshly filled with your lovers cum. Then I'd have to give you a real seeing to. Just so you didn't ever do it again... well not much
Throw the quilt over me when you’re done, I’ll need a nap. "
If ever the phrase "get a room you two" was ever more appropriate |
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"Vanilla is underrated on here. Best sex I've ever had was vanilla... and yes, you certainly should explore other positions and kinkiness. But damn! Nothing quite like really deep fucking a long term lover in missionary position, her knees up so you can get really deep, and then cumming inside her. I'd leave Fab for that any day... and happily never look back, an utterly contented man
...but can I still have fun in a club occasionally?
Shhh it'll be our little secret
Ok, I won’t tell...promise
Just as long as I don't come home to find you still dishevelled lying on the bed freshly filled with your lovers cum. Then I'd have to give you a real seeing to. Just so you didn't ever do it again... well not much
Throw the quilt over me when you’re done, I’ll need a nap.
If ever the phrase "get a room you two" was ever more appropriate "
It’s the usual problem, distance. |
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"A thread like this would be more interesting if it didn't become a debate about definition. I am not a definition-fascist, and dislike labels, but isn't vanilla sex simply one-to-one heterosexual sex without kinks? As such it offers very considerable variety. "
Exactly!! I've been doing that for over 40 years and still love every second, and there's still plenty to keep it fresh and new ground if I want! I'm really glad I am not someone that needs more and more to get me off, I can think of nothing worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Vanilla is underrated on here. Best sex I've ever had was vanilla... and yes, you certainly should explore other positions and kinkiness. But damn! Nothing quite like really deep fucking a long term lover in missionary position, her knees up so you can get really deep, and then cumming inside her. I'd leave Fab for that any day... and happily never look back, an utterly contented man
...but can I still have fun in a club occasionally?
Shhh it'll be our little secret
Ok, I won’t tell...promise
Just as long as I don't come home to find you still dishevelled lying on the bed freshly filled with your lovers cum. Then I'd have to give you a real seeing to. Just so you didn't ever do it again... well not much
Throw the quilt over me when you’re done, I’ll need a nap.
If ever the phrase "get a room you two" was ever more appropriate
It’s the usual problem, distance. "
Oh! Well if that's the only mitigating factor I'll jump in the car. See you in about 3 hours. You do do overnighters don't you? |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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It seems that there are lots of different opinions as to what vanilla actually is.
But whatever your view on that, it’s clear some people are happy with it, so be happy for them. |
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"A thread like this would be more interesting if it didn't become a debate about definition. I am not a definition-fascist, and dislike labels, but isn't vanilla sex simply one-to-one heterosexual sex without kinks? As such it offers very considerable variety. "
So, you find definitions boring, but have completely failed to add anything to the discussion except another definition. Well done. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A thread like this would be more interesting if it didn't become a debate about definition. I am not a definition-fascist, and dislike labels, but isn't vanilla sex simply one-to-one heterosexual sex without kinks? As such it offers very considerable variety.
So, you find definitions boring, but have completely failed to add anything to the discussion except another definition. Well done."
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