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By *aykm33 OP Woman
over a year ago
doncaster |
Why do i catch feelings for guys who show me that im worth more than sex... Just to be told they aren't interested in more. It hurts like hell. And yes i know that this isnt a dating site, but we are all human and if 2 single people meet up regularly and share so much intimacy then feelings cant be helped  |
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By *aykm33 OP Woman
over a year ago
doncaster |
"Know that one  been told that a few times by the one's who have the courage. It sucks
* hugs * wish I could offer proper advice and support hun."
Thankyou its so hard  Hope you find what you want  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does hurt but you need to.detach your emotions from the physical act. It is difficult though. I feel your pain x"
How do you achieve that then?
Wouldnt be very sexy if you were doing it and your face was blank |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do i catch feelings for guys who show me that im worth more than sex... Just to be told they aren't interested in more. It hurts like hell. And yes i know that this isnt a dating site, but we are all human and if 2 single people meet up regularly and share so much intimacy then feelings cant be helped "
i would agree that it does hurt to most here but only the best looking get it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel your pain OP, I've been there myself by falling for a man, but we couldn't be together.
I try really hard now just to keep it at a 'friends' level and nothing more. If I feel I'm getting too close then I cool things down a bit by not meeting for a short while, and cutting down the contact inbetween meets.
It's not always easy but it's better than falling too deep. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feelings are natural, so enjoy them. I often often develop feelings for a guy if I see him a number of times. It enhances the experience. It can hurt more if the relationship ends of course, but they don’t need to know that I have feelings. And they certainly don’t need to give me anything more than what they are giving me anyway.
Mrs |
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By *aykm33 OP Woman
over a year ago
doncaster |
"Feelings are natural, so enjoy them. I often often develop feelings for a guy if I see him a number of times. It enhances the experience. It can hurt more if the relationship ends of course, but they don’t need to know that I have feelings. And they certainly don’t need to give me anything more than what they are giving me anyway.
Mrs"
I enjoy them and the connection is mindblowing, but like an idiot im too much and just ruin it all. I want to find my lifetime partner swinging or not. But it gets harder the more I get hurt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feelings are natural, so enjoy them. I often often develop feelings for a guy if I see him a number of times. It enhances the experience. It can hurt more if the relationship ends of course, but they don’t need to know that I have feelings. And they certainly don’t need to give me anything more than what they are giving me anyway.
Mrs
I enjoy them and the connection is mindblowing, but like an idiot im too much and just ruin it all. I want to find my lifetime partner swinging or not. But it gets harder the more I get hurt "
OP, you're not an idiot, at all. Your a human, a woman with wants, needs and feelings. Please go easy on yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feelings are natural, so enjoy them. I often often develop feelings for a guy if I see him a number of times. It enhances the experience. It can hurt more if the relationship ends of course, but they don’t need to know that I have feelings. And they certainly don’t need to give me anything more than what they are giving me anyway.
Mrs
I enjoy them and the connection is mindblowing, but like an idiot im too much and just ruin it all. I want to find my lifetime partner swinging or not. But it gets harder the more I get hurt "
Yes I would probably be the same if I were single. I might be because I’m not available for more, that any feelings I develop just stay as fantasy feelings.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can fall in love after a first date .
Yoy probably don't believe me or you'll tell me I don't know what love is .
Trust me I do ....
Just the way I'm. Made
Then when it goes pear shaped I go self destruct button BOOM ....
hence I'm single ..simple as that
Some of us are just made funny I guess |
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By *aykm33 OP Woman
over a year ago
doncaster |
"Feelings are natural, so enjoy them. I often often develop feelings for a guy if I see him a number of times. It enhances the experience. It can hurt more if the relationship ends of course, but they don’t need to know that I have feelings. And they certainly don’t need to give me anything more than what they are giving me anyway.
Mrs
I enjoy them and the connection is mindblowing, but like an idiot im too much and just ruin it all. I want to find my lifetime partner swinging or not. But it gets harder the more I get hurt
OP, you're not an idiot, at all. Your a human, a woman with wants, needs and feelings. Please go easy on yourself. "
Yes i guess that is true. Xx |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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Bollocks to the “this is not a dating site” brigade. I am prone to a few feelings and I’m not going to pretend that I’m different.
These days I’m very rarely interested in sex without a connection on some emotional level.
You don’t have to be someone you’re not just because you’re here.
V x
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By *aykm33 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Bollocks to the “this is not a dating site” brigade. I am prone to a few feelings and I’m not going to pretend that I’m different.
These days I’m very rarely interested in sex without a connection on some emotional level.
Agreed massively! I put the quote this isn't a dating site because most people say it. I need the emotions to run high on a sexual ground before sex happens.
You don’t have to be someone you’re not just because you’re here.
V x
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
Because you cant believe everything someone says to you...its the same old circle on here your only of interest until the next message or picture takes there interest then off they trot to their next conquest. Its just the way it is....unfortunately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think its quite natural for singles who meet one on one. We're not swinging, we're playing with fire. "
Definitely this. It's difficult for two people who meet regularly to detach their feelings. Sometimes one invariably starts to feel more than the other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel for you op. Chin up and keep plodding along. Emotions are difficult as has already been said try to be aware of them and if you are getting attached take a step back. He's loss tho.  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think its quite natural for singles who meet one on one. We're not swinging, we're playing with fire. "
Absolutely, and it doesn't only apply to you women! Some.of us guys can have these " feelings" too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex without feelings isn't good sex but knowing the difference between those feelings and love is the key.
I had a fwb for nearly three years and yes we had feelings for each other (I think him more so than me). You couldn't keep meeting for that long if there weren't feelings. It's been a couple of months now since it ended. I was sad and angry at how it came to an end more than anything else.
I very rarely think about him now.
Protect yourself and hold off on those kind of feelings, save them for people who deserve them. |
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By *aykm33 OP Woman
over a year ago
doncaster |
"Sex without feelings isn't good sex but knowing the difference between those feelings and love is the key.
I had a fwb for nearly three years and yes we had feelings for each other (I think him more so than me). You couldn't keep meeting for that long if there weren't feelings. It's been a couple of months now since it ended. I was sad and angry at how it came to an end more than anything else.
I very rarely think about him now.
Protect yourself and hold off on those kind of feelings, save them for people who deserve them. "
Thankyou for the advice. Sorry about your ending. It's a cruel game and i get it now xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women have evolved to produce bonding hormones when they have sex, this is a scientific fact. So you are more normal than you think.
I would say it's those of us who don't feel any kind of emotion when having sex that are the minority.
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"Why do i catch feelings for guys who show me that im worth more than sex... Just to be told they aren't interested in more. It hurts like hell. And yes i know that this isnt a dating site, but we are all human and if 2 single people meet up regularly and share so much intimacy then feelings cant be helped "
Of course your worth more, we all are!
Just remember those people were meeting you for sex, all the best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been there! It's horrible! Especially when all contact is completely cut and you've went from seeing each other regular and messaging all the time to absolutely nothing! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I'd get a lot less from the whole experience if there weren't some kind of feelings.
The ones that go a little but further... well, I figure that is a risk however I socialise or get my kicks I suppose.
When it's not reciprocated, or if the lifestyle gets in the way of that... yeah, it's a gut punch. Distraction helps! |
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If people dangle a carrot whilst we are hungry for fresh carrots, rather than dried bag, it's not a surprise that we'll become aware of our hunger. Some people also play games, having sensed that others are ready participants. They are to be avoided or stopped in their tracks the moment you notice it.
I usually play with people who aren't my typical ltr partners, so I don't get lured this way - but it can still happen, getting to know someone, open to them, trust them and be physically close etc.
It helps to know that this can happen and to devise a plan - when you are not feeling the effects of having been caught - so you can look after yourself as best as you can.
Variety helps me as well as limiting some elements of how we interact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I develop feelings for the guys I meet regular, it would be odd if I didn’t. It certainly makes for much more fulfilling sex.
I guess it’s different as I am married and my husband is completely aware of those feelings. The feelings are different to what I feel for my hubbie but they’re really fantastic and I couldn’t be part of this lifestyle if I didn’t embrace that!
I don’t have any advice for you but to keep doing what you enjoy and make the most of the opportunities that fab gives you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone who is genuinely single, I'm genuinely looking for love. I've stopped actively pursuing it through the dating apps. But I'm definitely open to it.
Obviously I'm happy to be disciplined and nsa on here, especially with couples where there needs to be a high degree of emotional maturity in being sexual with them. But I guess the fact that it's an option for me... and that I'm open to it... well I guess it makes me more vulnerable to it. If I develop feelings and they're inappropriate as far as the other party are concerned I know it's my issue that I have to deal with. That's an unspoken part of the responsibility of being on a site like this.
I'm ok with that though. Life's too short not to be vulnerable to love But then I'm a total romantic in that way  |
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By *aykm33 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"As someone who is genuinely single, I'm genuinely looking for love. I've stopped actively pursuing it through the dating apps. But I'm definitely open to it.
Obviously I'm happy to be disciplined and nsa on here, especially with couples where there needs to be a high degree of emotional maturity in being sexual with them. But I guess the fact that it's an option for me... and that I'm open to it... well I guess it makes me more vulnerable to it. If I develop feelings and they're inappropriate as far as the other party are concerned I know it's my issue that I have to deal with. That's an unspoken part of the responsibility of being on a site like this.
I'm ok with that though. Life's too short not to be vulnerable to love But then I'm a total romantic in that way "
Shame your not closer for a social |
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By *aykm33 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I develop feelings for the guys I meet regular, it would be odd if I didn’t. It certainly makes for much more fulfilling sex.
I guess it’s different as I am married and my husband is completely aware of those feelings. The feelings are different to what I feel for my hubbie but they’re really fantastic and I couldn’t be part of this lifestyle if I didn’t embrace that!
I don’t have any advice for you but to keep doing what you enjoy and make the most of the opportunities that fab gives you."
Thankyou |
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