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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just have one set of standards be it here on another site or out there in the real world. If you change them all the time then you dont have standards at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As monkey concisely said, supply and demand takes a huge toll on the sexual marketplace of Fab.
Anyone seeking a female has to lower their standards from what they can achieve in any other sphere (this goes for couples as much as single guys) not just in looks but in terms of manners and disrespect.
Anyone seeking a male can command an extremely inflated sexual price for their time. These people think nothing of demanding an athletic body type when they are a double airline seat, an intelligent playmate when they can't even spellcheck their profile and a laundry list of other demands some of which would be unreasonable for a supermodel to demand.
For us, do we lower our standards... Yes but only to their minimum levels. We aren't a free for all but we do pay attention to people we might not otherwise due to market realities. |
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Its not really about standards, if we like someone enough to have sex with then we will consider meeting, i think hygiene standards are a higher priority for us, We arn't looking for someone to date or a life partner we here for our own sexual gratification, so as long as we both agree we would have sex with someone then thats enough for us
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"I go for the same kind of guy that I would outside of fab. I like what I like and can’t change that nor do I need to. "
Being a single woman or couple on fab with the ratio of men, you really do get the pick of the bunch, it like being a kid in a sweet shop, thi only problem is actually getting to meet them lol, always a barrier somewhere, ie to far, work commitments, cancellation, life in general lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I go for the same kind of guy that I would outside of fab. I like what I like and can’t change that nor do I need to.
Being a single woman or couple on fab with the ratio of men, you really do get the pick of the bunch, it like being a kid in a sweet shop, thi only problem is actually getting to meet them lol, always a barrier somewhere, ie to far, work commitments, cancellation, life in general lol "
You see, I rarely see many that I’m attracted to on here. I don’t get excited like a kid in a sweet shop. Occasionally the odd guy I like the look of comes along. |
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"I go for the same kind of guy that I would outside of fab. I like what I like and can’t change that nor do I need to.
Being a single woman or couple on fab with the ratio of men, you really do get the pick of the bunch, it like being a kid in a sweet shop, thi only problem is actually getting to meet them lol, always a barrier somewhere, ie to far, work commitments, cancellation, life in general lol
You see, I rarely see many that I’m attracted to on here. I don’t get excited like a kid in a sweet shop. Occasionally the odd guy I like the look of comes along. "
Yes there's also that fact they have to be attractive in the first place, add that to the mix above its really quite difficult to actually get a meet lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So do people think Fab Swingers makes you raise your standards or lower then in terms of chosen lovers?
Thoughts on a postcard  "
No but I do think some though never had standards in the first place. |
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I'm either attracted to someone or I'm not. I'd rather have a wank and go to sleep than stick my bits in someone I'm not attracted to just so I could say I got laid... I don't understand people whose sex drive leads them to sex with people/objects they would normally find repulsive... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm either attracted to someone or I'm not. I'd rather have a wank and go to sleep than stick my bits in someone I'm not attracted to just so I could say I got laid... I don't understand people whose sex drive leads them to sex with people/objects they would normally find repulsive... "
Sex drive can make the unattractive attractive for a short period of time :- ) |
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"I'm either attracted to someone or I'm not. I'd rather have a wank and go to sleep than stick my bits in someone I'm not attracted to just so I could say I got laid... I don't understand people whose sex drive leads them to sex with people/objects they would normally find repulsive...
Sex drive can make the unattractive attractive for a short period of time :- )"
For some, maybe. But for me if the chemistry works then that is attraction. Someone doesn't need to be an oil painting to have animal magnetism, x-factor or whatever you want to call it. But then again surely that is the whole point of casual sex - you can enjoy it for its own sake without worrying what the kids will end up looking and acting like. Obviously if I was choosing a life partner to have kids with, I'd be looking for a very different set of attributes from casual partners, FWBs etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ive always been a fussy bastard, hence why im nearing 43 and still single.
Ive only ever had 2 relationships in my life too.
Unfortunately for me, i cannot attract those on Fab that i really fancy and therefore have accepted meets with women/couples i wouldn't normally go for in real life.
Somewhat sad but it is what it is.
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That's an interesting question. I tend to find it's more down to how their hands feel on me and their manner - which I wouldn't realistically find out anywhere else other than a club!!
I have surprised myself a lot in the past few weeks with really hot encounters with people I wouldn't have said were "my type". But their hands on me felt great and I had a hot time
So....not sure if that's anything to do with standards or just being open to new things. Cleanliness and smelliness is a must though obvs. They don't need to be intelligent or have my world views in order to feel good, and I may never see them again....so....
Longer term friends yes we'd have to be somewhat similar to click enough for more than a one off |
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I find the "I have to lower my standards here" thing quite daft. People do realise that sex isn't compulsory or necessary for survival, right? If you don't like someone, don't meet them. (and yes, I'm a woman and can choose fairly freely, but I did join fully prepared to not find anyone I was happy with and give up after awhile. I had no idea what this was about!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive always been a fussy bastard, hence why im nearing 43 and still single.
Ive only ever had 2 relationships in my life too.
Unfortunately for me, i cannot attract those on Fab that i really fancy and therefore have accepted meets with women/couples i wouldn't normally go for in real life.
Somewhat sad but it is what it is.
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Honest but brutal to anyone that you have met and read this. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
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I raise my standards to unrealistic levels and punch way above my weight on Fab with some delightful ladies. Some would say they are perfect in every way. In real life and in relationships I often go as low as my stomach can stand. Usually I end up with the neurotic spawn of satan. If my fab meets have read this, good. If my exes have read this, even better!  |
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"I raise my standards to unrealistic levels and punch way above my weight on Fab with some delightful ladies. Some would say they are perfect in every way. In real life and in relationships I often go as low as my stomach can stand. Usually I end up with the neurotic spawn of satan. If my fab meets have read this, good. If my exes have read this, even better! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I raise my standards to unrealistic levels and punch way above my weight on Fab with some delightful ladies. Some would say they are perfect in every way. In real life and in relationships I often go as low as my stomach can stand. Usually I end up with the neurotic spawn of satan. If my fab meets have read this, good. If my exes have read this, even better! "
Love this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive always been a fussy bastard, hence why im nearing 43 and still single.
Ive only ever had 2 relationships in my life too.
Unfortunately for me, i cannot attract those on Fab that i really fancy and therefore have accepted meets with women/couples i wouldn't normally go for in real life.
Somewhat sad but it is what it is.
Honest but brutal to anyone that you have met and read this. "
I dont beat around the bush. Im an honest guy. Simply answering and putting my situation forward to a genuine post |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As monkey concisely said, supply and demand takes a huge toll on the sexual marketplace of Fab.
Anyone seeking a female has to lower their standards from what they can achieve in any other sphere (this goes for couples as much as single guys) not just in looks but in terms of manners and disrespect.
Anyone seeking a male can command an extremely inflated sexual price for their time. These people think nothing of demanding an athletic body type when they are a double airline seat, an intelligent playmate when they can't even spellcheck their profile and a laundry list of other demands some of which would be unreasonable for a supermodel to demand.
For us, do we lower our standards... Yes but only to their minimum levels. We aren't a free for all but we do pay attention to people we might not otherwise due to market realities."
Fucking hell. If anyone meeting me feels like they’re lowering their standards they’d seriously get short shrift. I shall never fail to be flabbergasted by some people’s opinion of the women of fab.
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