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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago
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We are happy with "soft" non swap swing but are also happy to play full swap if the couple chooses swings that way. We think you will find many couples are like us. Just be up front with your limits and preferences and everything should be ok  |
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"Seems to be a real put off as soon as we say non swap the conversation stops even though it's on our profile. we wanna watch and join join with our own not just in clubs "
Make it absolutely clear on your profile where your boundary lies. That way anybody who reads it will know exactly what you want. E.g. No opposite partner touching at all or kissing opposite partners only, that sort of thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some couples like to play with each other while people watch but don't touch
Where's the fun in that?  what
It's obviously not for you but if other people enjoy it what's the problem?"
Its actually very sexy to just watch another couple have sex in front of you and to be watched
Ms  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some couples like to play with each other while people watch but don't touch
Where's the fun in that? what
It's obviously not for you but if other people enjoy it what's the problem?"
Where did I say there was a problem? I said where's the fun in that! |
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Plenty fun in watching others or being watched without the need to swap . being in close proximity to another couple doing the deed is a massive turn on for us and we are happy to join in with our own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have watched and been watched by other couples in the past and found it a huge turn on, Sometimes soft play with others mutual masturbation is equally a turn on. Whatever makes people comfortable can never be a problem. Just enjoy |
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"Some couples like to play with each other while people watch but don't touch
Where's the fun in that? what
It's obviously not for you but if other people enjoy it what's the problem?
Where did I say there was a problem? I said where's the fun in that!"
You rolled your eyes. That to me at least, indicates that it annoys you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some couples like to play with each other while people watch but don't touch
Where's the fun in that? what
It's obviously not for you but if other people enjoy it what's the problem?
Where did I say there was a problem? I said where's the fun in that!
You rolled your eyes. That to me at least, indicates that it annoys you"
Nope it doesn't, that's just your Interpretation. |
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One long term partner and I enjoyed meeting other couples for 'voyeuristic' fun. It's still very exciting to meet others, have fun evenings with drinks etc, then get naked and enjoy watching the other couple have fun.
Our limits were always soft-swing (masturbation/oral) with the other couples if felt comfortable, but we set the expectation that watching / non-swap would probably be as far as it went.
Full Swap is definitely not essential for an erotic evening!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although we openly play in clubs and sometimes not play with others so kind of the same thing ...its not really something that we would really enjoy if it was a private one to one meet . I'd say definitely tell others or make it clear( you have on profile ) before meeting as we had it with one couple who invited us to a room in a club and it made us feel awkward as we didnt know beforehand and in conversation it wasnt obvious so we left them to it.
Everyone likes different though so pretty sure there will be many who do enjoy it .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We find it extremely intimate and erotic without feeling the need to push our boundaries. Watching others stop what they are doing to watch us is an incredible feeling. |
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(Ray) yes for me playing with another woman other than Lou does nothing for me as it's not my thing I've done FFM before and hand on heart can say it wasn't what I wanted as I felt like I was cheating.
My pleasure comes from the confidence (which I find a massive turn on) that Lou can explore her naughty side more and that she feels secure (again big turn on for me) and that she wants me to be part of the experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I played with a new couple ,i suppose you could call it soft fun ,teasing watching etc ,great fun, we all enjoyed it .I think perhaps they would go a little further next time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Weve had no flak. the conversation just stops because of no swapping shame as we'd bring the porn haha "
The problem with relying on the term 'non-swap' to communicate your wishes is that it will mean different things to different people. You might want to make it clear on your profile that you only want to watch and be watched, without any physical contact. There are definitely couples into this - we did it ourselves when we first started out. |
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We've involved others on a few occasions (light touching mainly) but the majority of our club visits were to play in open rooms where we could be seen
We had a great hotel meet with a couple where we just shared a bed with them, no touching at all. It was so much fun |
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It is important to be clear about where your boundaries lie. We had a very awkward experience with a couple who didn't reveal they didn't want physical contact until the point of physical contact. We would still have met them had we known but as it was we were left very confused |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're a soft swap couple.
We're very happy to play and kiss with other couples but we're not ready for full intercourse swap.
We're clear about this from the offset.
We are open to thinking about full swap but we're just not ready for it yet. We personally feel this should be with a couple we feel completely comfortable with and trust. |
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