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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i know this thread has been done before and alot of people said it wouldnt bother them.well its not to of alot of people but before hes heart op garry had no problem with the couple we met but since then weve been honest that he has a scar and all of a sudden some of them dont want to know?  |
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By * starr -Woman
over a year ago
Burton on Trent. |
i have a huge scar down my back and then another one to the side of it.
it dont bother me and i hope it doesnt bother other people.
to me its just something to talk about and im not repulsed by scars,
good way to get clothes off i reckon  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have two long scars on the underside of my upper are, one goes from elbow to arm pit and both are fairly wide, about 2cm. Also I have a gun shoot scar to my lower left arm, long story lol. But basically never seemed to have bothered anyone.
Unless it's a horrific wound/scar I don't see what the problem is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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cant see why, i got stetch marks, they look like scars, do you think they could be worried he might have a heart problem? not everyone on here looks perfect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps it not the scar, it could be that your friends are a little nervous of his health? A heart op is a big thing and it may just worry people a little. |
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By *eaboMan
over a year ago
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i have two fairly large scars and people are either too polite to mention them or are not bothered. As has been said, if they are people you know they may be more concerned about his ticker than his appearance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have quite a thick, dark section scare thats been opened up more than once so hasnt heeled very well, but i have to be honest i have never felt the need to tell people about this before a meet, infact its never accured to me i should point out i have a ugly scare about the part of my body they are going to be most interested in, i find it odd you feel the need to tell people this.....thats just me tho
plus i have never had a guy go down on me, spot my scare and jump up in horror and run off  |
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I must admit ive had surgery just six weeks ago and have a large scar on my tummy now its making me a bit nervious again about meeting new people ..im not concerned about the friends i have because they all understand what ive been tho but new meets might not be so understanding |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If people are bothered by a scar then sorry bit shallow. It is not about scars etc it is about meeting and having fun with some lovely people and hopefully make some great friends along the way. I mean come on we all have things about us that we are self conscious about. Nope would not bother us in the slightest, what we look for is that the people are nice genuine and lets face it fuckable, ie an attraction. other than that don't care. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Scars don't bother me...in fact I find them interesting!! Maybe I'm a bit too upfront but I've often asked people about scars out of sheer curiosity, and found out some weird and wonderful things about people. Obviously I'd never push it if someone was uncomfortable talking about a scar, but so far that's never been the case x |
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"Scars don't bother me...in fact I find them interesting!! Maybe I'm a bit too upfront but I've often asked people about scars out of sheer curiosity, and found out some weird and wonderful things about people. Obviously I'd never push it if someone was uncomfortable talking about a scar, but so far that's never been the case x"
Same here. Be proud of your war wounds
C |
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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago
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"I must admit ive had surgery just six weeks ago and have a large scar on my tummy now its making me a bit nervious again about meeting new people ..im not concerned about the friends i have because they all understand what ive been tho but new meets might not be so understanding "
Do not let worry you, scars just apart of life.
May be we should have a club meet for people scars!
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"Scars are a part of living - if you haven't got any, then what have you been doing, ffs? Living in an ivory tower all your life?"
Well im almost 48 and this is the first scar ive ever had in my lifetime lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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scars are part of life! everyone has them! whether they are on the outside or inside! i think its just shallow people that want nothing turn their nose up, and are arent worth knowing anyway!
p.s. hope your fella gets better soon! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Him has a nice big scare from a hernia repair and will be getting another on the other side next month, Also has scars across four toes. This does not change anything until naked, which is when allergy spots can be noted.
We hope that these are not off putting in the heat of the moment.
Cuddles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a c section scar and no one as ever run for hills or commented on it. But saying that I have never felt need to tell anyone prior to getting naked.
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"If people are bothered by a scar then sorry bit shallow. It is not about scars etc it is about meeting and having fun with some lovely people and hopefully make some great friends along the way. I mean come on we all have things about us that we are self conscious about. "
Blimey!  That's a bit harsh. Why do they have to be shallow? Maybe they have a phobia or maybe it reminds them of something else, maybe they just have free will! 
I have two scars on my left wrist after a motor cycle accident. Quite promenant and I suppose people can see them on a social as I tend to wear short sleeve tops.. Yes, we have been given "thanks but no thanks" that could have been because at the time the scars were very red, but we just move on. No need to start calling people just because they can't handle something...
For those with scars, they are part of the road map that is your life, no need to throw it in peoples faces, but also, no need to hide.. If someone doesn't like em.. Move on and enjoy other people.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not calling anyone, gave my opinion. Surely if you had a phobia about scars then being on a swinging site, where the likelihood is that you are going to see a fair few naked bodies, in its entirety warts and all, is all but going to cause you stress then why on the site. Just my opinion not calling anyone ! |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"Not calling anyone, gave my opinion. "
!If people are bothered by a scar then sorry bit shallow"
And that's not calling people?
"Surely if you had a phobia about scars then being on a swinging site, where the likelihood is that you are going to see a fair few naked bodies, in its entirety warts and all, is all but going to cause you stress then why on the site. Just my opinion not calling anyone !"
People have many reasons for being on sites like this! Are you really saying that if people don't like one aspect of this, they shouldn't be on here? Sheeesh!  |
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personally, we would have more worry that he has had a heart op and nothing to do with the scar, just in case something happens during the night.
Em has some marking on her leg from when she was pregnant and she is terbily self consious about it, so she tends to hide her legs, even though they are bloody lovely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Scars are fascinating, i have loads (not intentionally!!) and they are part of me. I can track my life, and each and every one makes me who i am. From the scar on my hand where i tried to climb a barb wire fence (to get at cake! hahaha) to the 12 incher on my knee from racing the kids ponies, I have nothing to hide and a few stories to tell. I tell people i have them, not so they can cry off (although they can if they want) but as part of conversation.
xxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I am not saying that at all. What I am saying is simply, that if someone has a phobia about scars. Seeing someone's scars upsets them, then surely that person would avoid as best as possible not to meet people with scars or look at people's scars. So therefore if people are stood in front of you naked, probably 95% of the population have marks, scars, this would upset the person who has a phobia. My argument is this, if you don't have a phobia, which is if you read my post what I meant then why would it upset you to see someone with a scar. You are reading between the lines and not what the meaning is. If you have a phobia about spiders you don't like to go near them or see them. If you have a phobia about flying you don't fly. If you have a phobia about scars you don't look at them. Unless you are meeting people who you are stipulating in your profile that any prospective meets should not have any scars, then chances are someone who you meet may have a scar therefore would put you off. I think it is shallow that someone would be judged because they have a scar, same as I think it is shallow that because someone does not own their house is judged ( before you start, earlier post not by me I might add.) But then I guess that is the beauty of this site everyone has their own opinion, and it would be boring if we all agreed. Peace and love to you xx , Still think you are wrong though lol.  |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"No I am not saying that at all. What I am saying is simply, that if someone has a phobia about scars. Seeing someone's scars upsets them, then surely that person would avoid as best as possible not to meet people with scars or look at people's scars. So therefore if people are stood in front of you naked, probably 95% of the population have marks, scars, this would upset the person who has a phobia. My argument is this, if you don't have a phobia, which is if you read my post what I meant then why would it upset you to see someone with a scar. You are reading between the lines and not what the meaning is. If you have a phobia about spiders you don't like to go near them or see them. If you have a phobia about flying you don't fly. If you have a phobia about scars you don't look at them. Unless you are meeting people who you are stipulating in your profile that any prospective meets should not have any scars, then chances are someone who you meet may have a scar therefore would put you off. I think it is shallow that someone would be judged because they have a scar, same as I think it is shallow that because someone does not own their house is judged ( before you start, earlier post not by me I might add.) But then I guess that is the beauty of this site everyone has their own opinion, and it would be boring if we all agreed. Peace and love to you xx , Still think you are wrong though lol. "
Actually, I don't believe it is possible for anyone to read between the lines if it is not intended! You typed:
"If people are bothered by a scar then sorry bit shallow"
That was your first line and it was not qualified anywhere else on your post! I don't see anyones preferences as shallow, the ones that are shallow are the ones who have no preferences and will shag any shape, size and age! You know, the ones who can't understand others have preferences and perhaps standards!
Besides which, we are not talking about the small marks and blemishes that you say 95% of the population have! We are talking about a person who has had heart surgery and will have a pretty large scar! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If Gary is in good health and isn't self conscious about it then I don't see why it should be mentioned . I have scars and self conscious of them but never let them stop me having fun , Jen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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25 years ago i had tattoos removed from my arms.. i had 152 stitches. the scars are faint now but if your close by you can see them .. i have never been bothered by them and always thought if you dont like them dont look! but i do occasionally get some one who stares and askes me what happened .. i then tell them random stories.. bitten by crocodile, attacked by lion ...just what ever pops in to my head .. hahah there faces ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"25 years ago i had tattoos removed from my arms.. i had 152 stitches. the scars are faint now but if your close by you can see them .. i have never been bothered by them and always thought if you dont like them dont look! but i do occasionally get some one who stares and askes me what happened .. i then tell them random stories.. bitten by crocodile, attacked by lion ...just what ever pops in to my head .. hahah there faces ... "
Never been told any storied as weird and wonderful as animal attacks!! Might have to see what I can make up for mine on my ankle....hmmm x |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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"No I am not saying that at all. What I am saying is simply, that if someone has a phobia about scars. Seeing someone's scars upsets them, then surely that person would avoid as best as possible not to meet people with scars or look at people's scars. So therefore if people are stood in front of you naked, probably 95% of the population have marks, scars, this would upset the person who has a phobia. My argument is this, if you don't have a phobia, which is if you read my post what I meant then why would it upset you to see someone with a scar. You are reading between the lines and not what the meaning is. If you have a phobia about spiders you don't like to go near them or see them. If you have a phobia about flying you don't fly. If you have a phobia about scars you don't look at them. Unless you are meeting people who you are stipulating in your profile that any prospective meets should not have any scars, then chances are someone who you meet may have a scar therefore would put you off. I think it is shallow that someone would be judged because they have a scar, same as I think it is shallow that because someone does not own their house is judged ( before you start, earlier post not by me I might add.) But then I guess that is the beauty of this site everyone has their own opinion, and it would be boring if we all agreed. Peace and love to you xx , Still think you are wrong though lol.
Actually, I don't believe it is possible for anyone to read between the lines if it is not intended! You typed:
"If people are bothered by a scar then sorry bit shallow"
That was your first line and it was not qualified anywhere else on your post! I don't see anyones preferences as shallow, the ones that are shallow are the ones who have no preferences and will shag any shape, size and age! You know, the ones who can't understand others have preferences and perhaps standards!
Besides which, we are not talking about the small marks and blemishes that you say 95% of the population have! We are talking about a person who has had heart surgery and will have a pretty large scar! "
People have choices and preferences.
If someone doesn't want to meet anyone with a scar...... thats their CHOICE.
It's not shallow.
I hate facial hair. Should I be on a swinging site as many men have facial hair and I refuse point blank to meet anyone with it?
Or does the fact that I won't meet with anyone with facial hair, make me shallow....... cus obviously, I'm a swinger and therefore not picky or fussy and I have no freedom of choice or preference. |
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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago
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"personally, we would have more worry that he has had a heart op and nothing to do with the scar, just in case something happens during the night.
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Well that`s me fooked them! 
I had a quadruple heart by-pass ten years ago but believe me, if the medics thought that sex would be dangerous for me I don`t think they would have prescribed my Levitra to help me have a sex life! Four months after the op I was in a gym once a week where the instructor used to make us sprint on the spot for a minute! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am not saying people are shallow maybe some are all I ask is who would play with someone who had a scar. As for Garry s health its the fittest he's been in years. And now can go for hours lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think we tend to see our scars as bigger than they appear to others. I have had one across my waist above my belly since my early twenties. It bothered me for quite a few years and I would not wear a bikini. However, after asking a few peeps opinion on how it looked I braved it and have been kini-ing ever since. Since getting into swinging no one has ever been put off by it as far as I know and some have said that it hardly even notices. |
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