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Hi all, I’ve been on this site a couple of weeks now and struggle to get any sort of serious replies and mostly just get left on read. I’m always respectful in my messages so I’m not quite sure why I think it might have something to do with my age but idk. Any help with on how to improve my profile or what I should be messaging people would be greatly appreciated thanks. |
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"Welcome!! You’ve just got to be patient and see how it goes.
Clubs are a good place to go and meet people and make connections. Not sure what the clubs are like in Ireland "
I echo this. You have to get out there. Clubs, social events etc will give you massive leg up.
Even if you're respectful and genuine, without verifications you are at a massive disadvantage as a single guy.
Attend some events, give/receive verifications and this will give you the much needed bunk up you need. Then it's a case of continuing to persevere. Aim for 1 to 1 social meets to start with. As with the vanilla world most people will not invite you/goto their/your home without having met you and got a feel for what you are like.
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"Hi all, I’ve been on this site a couple of weeks now and struggle to get any sort of serious replies and mostly just get left on read. I’m always respectful in my messages so I’m not quite sure why I think it might have something to do with my age but idk. Any help with on how to improve my profile or what I should be messaging people would be greatly appreciated thanks."
You're very young and will be way below the lower limit for an awfully large majority of the site unfortunately. That's not to say that you aren't some people's type.
But your profile is extremely inspiring with generic text and photos that don't look like you've put much effort in to.
You have a webcam veri, but many, many people won't meet anyone without a meet verification or two (not necessarily play meets, can be socials and clubs) as there are far too many guys that get off on webcamming and arranging meets that they then have no intention of turning up to.
It's hard work for single guys, we know that, but you are just a young fish in a very large ocean right now. |
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"Hi all, I’ve been on this site a couple of weeks now and struggle to get any sort of serious replies and mostly just get left on read. I’m always respectful in my messages so I’m not quite sure why I think it might have something to do with my age but idk. Any help with on how to improve my profile or what I should be messaging people would be greatly appreciated thanks.
You're very young and will be way below the lower limit for an awfully large majority of the site unfortunately. That's not to say that you aren't some people's type.
But your profile is extremely inspiring with generic text and photos that don't look like you've put much effort in to.
You have a webcam veri, but many, many people won't meet anyone without a meet verification or two (not necessarily play meets, can be socials and clubs) as there are far too many guys that get off on webcamming and arranging meets that they then have no intention of turning up to.
It's hard work for single guys, we know that, but you are just a young fish in a very large ocean right now."
appreciate the help thanks, I’m not sure what type of pictures I’d should be putting up as I’m getting a lot of mixed replies tbh |
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"I’m not sure what type of pictures I’d should be putting up as I’m getting a lot of mixed replies tbh "
Look for people you'd like to meet, check their verifications and check the profiles of those that have left them....that'll give you some idea of what those you're looking for might be looking for.
But if you fill your profile with what other people tell you to, it's not YOUR profile any more..... |
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By *illmattMan 2 weeks ago
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"I’m not sure what type of pictures I’d should be putting up as I’m getting a lot of mixed replies tbh
Look for people you'd like to meet, check their verifications and check the profiles of those that have left them....that'll give you some idea of what those you're looking for might be looking for.
But if you fill your profile with what other people tell you to, it's not YOUR profile any more....."
Great advice from these guys |
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"I’m not sure what type of pictures I’d should be putting up as I’m getting a lot of mixed replies tbh
Look for people you'd like to meet, check their verifications and check the profiles of those that have left them....that'll give you some idea of what those you're looking for might be looking for.
But if you fill your profile with what other people tell you to, it's not YOUR profile any more....."
the thing is a lot of people don’t want to meet me because of my age unfortunately and yes I’m just gonna post whatever I want now |
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Although swingers come in all ages, it's more often something that people come to later on, normally after kids have left home or at least are old enough to be left for evenings. Your pool is considerably smaller than if you were 40-50 unfortunately. |
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Dont be pushy- remember you are 1 to maybe 30 women in the ratio- try stand out as much as you can in your messages.
Im years in the scene verified ran events and still i get ignored thats ok. Some will entertain some won’t. It’s just about being you attend events meet in socials. |
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