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Bias, Racism, and the BBC Double Standard
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" There is also a deep lack of cultural and religious understanding. Assuming all brown people are Muslim is ignorance. " I doubt anyone thinks Rastapharians are Muslim. | |||
"Let’s get straight to the point, because this mindset has gone too far and it genuinely hurts people. You cannot seriously call yourself “not racist” while openly saying you only want BBC (Big Black Cock), yet refuse to speak to, meet, or consider people of any other skin colour. Sexualising one race while excluding all others is not openness, it is racial fetishism mixed with discrimination. What makes this worse is that many people who think this way completely ignore everything that actually defines a person: personality, education, manners, values, appearance, and character. Some of the people you dismiss are polite, respectful, well dressed, highly educated, and successful, often far above average socially and economically. Pretending not to see this is not preference; it is selective blindness. Let’s also be honest about why BBC is singled out. It is not about connection, personality, or equality, it is about stereotypes. Using those stereotypes while claiming moral superiority or calling yourself “not racist” is hypocrisy. There is also a deep lack of cultural and religious understanding. Assuming all brown people are Muslim is ignorance. For the record, I am Christian, but more importantly, I believe in humanity above race, religion, or skin colour. Racism doesn’t always come as insults or hatred. Sometimes it hides behind so-called “preferences,” while quietly devaluing everyone else. The damage it causes is still very real. A fetish does not cancel out racism, it can actually be a form of it." Well said. | |||
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""Some of the people you dismiss are polite, respectful, well dressed, highly educated, and successful, often far above average socially and economically. Pretending not to see this is not preference; it is selective blindness." " There is a difference between looking for a life-partner and a sexy shag. | |||
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" There is certainly a fair few folks who fetishise race on Fab. Black men and Asian girls in particular. Hard to say where preference crosses over to a fetish, but we receive some pretty creepy messages based on Chels' race. Not a great way to try and initiate a conversation in all honesty. The profiles stating they only want a particular race, or that they don't want messages from certain races are a little odd, but we tend to avoid/ignore them." This is probably the best explanation without offending anyone. 👍🏾 | |||
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"Every time I’ve dated/met a POC I’ve told them I’m not fetishising them and I’m there because I find them attractive. Some times they have brought it up. It’s always well received. Their relief can be visible. It must be tough going on dates with people and having doubts that they see you for who you are." We're all human. If you cut me, do I not bleed? Can't remember the rest of the speech. ☺️ | |||
"Every time I’ve dated/met a POC I’ve told them I’m not fetishising them and I’m there because I find them attractive. Some times they have brought it up. It’s always well received. Their relief can be visible. It must be tough going on dates with people and having doubts that they see you for who you are." It has never crossed my mind that it is might be necessary or welcome to do this. | |||
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"Sexual preference is not racism." This is the way ❤️ | |||
"Just to clarify my point , because, as expected, many people read it superficially and reacted with insults or aggression simply because they believe their views are the only valid ones. I wasn’t trying to defend myself, and I wasn’t interested in arguing in a hostile space. My issue was never with sexual preferences. Liking big cock is no different from liking tight pussy ,that in itself is not a problem. My concern is with people who hide racist behaviour behind fetishisation. Recently this has become more obvious and, frankly, rude. Some people feel entitled to treat single men ,especially men from different skin colours and minority communities , however they like, while using “BBC” as a shield to say, “See, I’m not racist.” In reality, reducing Black men to a sexual object is just another form of dehumanisation. It’s not appreciation ,it’s objectification. Yes, some people may not complain because they get what they want, but a decent and self-respecting Black community recognises this behaviour and calls it out when they see it. Arguing with people who think this way is pointless , they don’t listen and don’t want to change. Real change comes when thoughtful people speak up ,including Black voices themselves ,and try to move the conversation away from this mindset. To be clear again: I have no issue with people who genuinely like big cock, just as others like tight pussy. The issue is rejecting someone purely because of their skin colour or race, without knowing or seeing anything about them, how they play or what skills they have in scene, and then hiding that racism behind a fetish. We can easily say “I like big cock” instead of normalising labels like BBC. This is meant to be an open space to express opinions freely, so there’s no need for swearing, mocking, or personal attacks. If you disagree, focus on the topic , that’s what a modern, open-minded scene should be about." Posting the exact same thread in different sections, then posting the exact same replies in those sections just makes you look like an idiot. You’re deliberately ignoring replies that don’t meet YOUR obvious agenda on here. | |||
"Well said...people cannot use bbc males as sex toys!" Damn x | |||
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"I wasn’t trying to defend myself, and I wasn’t interested in arguing in a hostile space. My issue was never with sexual preferences. Liking big cock is no different from liking tight pussy ,that in itself is not a problem. My concern is with people who hide racist behaviour behind fetishisation. Recently this has become more obvious and, frankly, rude. Some people feel entitled to treat single men ,especially men from different skin colours and minority communities , however they like, while using “BBC” as a shield to say, “See, I’m not racist.” In reality, reducing Black men to a sexual object is just another form of dehumanisation. It’s not appreciation ,it’s objectification." Their choice, not your concern (though you do seem to have a lot of concern on behalf of others), Move on, life is too short to worry about every single decision that people make. I don't particularly find black women attractive, my preference, that is only sexually but I treat them no different in everyday life to a white woman. But in your eyes I am probably racist, fine, I really don't care much for labels, it won't ruin my day. On the other hand I find Chinese women even less attractive, again thats sexually, but I suppose I'm not Racist there because they aren't brown. I'm not attracted to Gay men in anyway, by your warped reckoning that automatically pigeon holes me as homophobic. Some like white, some brown, some like large some not so, some to the left some will be to the right and we could go on and on, not everyone is going to think how you do, it doesnt make either party wrong or right. Just use the block button, don't engage if they aren't for you. Prob best to stop being concerned on behalf of the world, it will sort itself out regardless. And people will continue living with their sexual preferences and no doubt you will keep trying to find a way to shoehorn that into your agenda. Have a Great Day x. | |||
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"Let’s get straight to the point, because this mindset has gone too far and it genuinely hurts people. You cannot seriously call yourself “not racist” while openly saying you only want BBC (Big Black Cock), yet refuse to speak to, meet, or consider people of any other skin colour. Sexualising one race while excluding all others is not openness, it is racial fetishism mixed with discrimination. What makes this worse is that many people who think this way completely ignore everything that actually defines a person: personality, education, manners, values, appearance, and character. Some of the people you dismiss are polite, respectful, well dressed, highly educated, and successful, often far above average socially and economically. Pretending not to see this is not preference; it is selective blindness. Let’s also be honest about why BBC is singled out. It is not about connection, personality, or equality, it is about stereotypes. Using those stereotypes while claiming moral superiority or calling yourself “not racist” is hypocrisy. There is also a deep lack of cultural and religious understanding. Assuming all brown people are Muslim is ignorance. For the record, I am Christian, but more importantly, I believe in humanity above race, religion, or skin colour. Racism doesn’t always come as insults or hatred. Sometimes it hides behind so-called “preferences,” while quietly devaluing everyone else. The damage it causes is still very real. A fetish does not cancel out racism, it can actually be a form of it." I agree. Well said. | |||
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"Sexual preference is not racism." This. | |||
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"Sexual preference is not racism." 👏👏 | |||
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" There is also a deep lack of cultural and religious understanding. Assuming all brown people are Muslim is ignorance. I doubt anyone thinks Rastapharians are Muslim." 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"Sexual preference is not racism.👏👏" 💯💯💯 agree! | |||
"What a load of rubbish it's called preference. We ain't a fan of slim ladies so what's that called" Totally agree!! | |||
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"I think there’s a lot of hypocrisy in how people talk about “racial preferences” in swinging. This is a scene where people openly reject others over body type, age, height, looks—sometimes in pretty blunt ways—and it’s all brushed off as “just preference.” A guy can say he only wants blondes with big tits, a woman can say she only wants tall, tattooed guys, and no one calls that out as a problem. But the second race comes into it, suddenly it’s treated as something completely different. Why? Attraction in swinging is inherently selective and exclusionary that’s literally the point. Everyone is filtering everyone else. So either we accept that people are allowed to have preferences, even if others don’t like them, or we admit we’re applying a double standard. So which is it? Is this actually about preferences, or are people just uncomfortable with certain ones and drawing an arbitrary line?" Well said! We reject a lot of people who don't suit our preferences. We also get rejected because we don't meet other people's preferences. Ultimately, people don't like rejection. I'm sure the OP would reject a Gay or Trans person, does that mean he is homophobic? Just because we prefer black men does that make us racist? | |||
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"yawns " 💯 | |||
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