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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I started getting back into swinging some weeks ago. I've been to sauna, club, porn cinema, outdoor and one on one sessions and house sex party. However a close mate has just caught covid from grand kids and that's really made me re think things. As randy as I am, I'm reluctant to meet strangers as there's no way of being sure if they're unknown carriers. Anyone else still wary? |
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"I started getting back into swinging some weeks ago. I've been to sauna, club, porn cinema, outdoor and one on one sessions and house sex party. However a close mate has just caught covid from grand kids and that's really made me re think things. As randy as I am, I'm reluctant to meet strangers as there's no way of being sure if they're unknown carriers. Anyone else still wary? "
so you going to stay in forever covid will always be here
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"I started getting back into swinging some weeks ago. I've been to sauna, club, porn cinema, outdoor and one on one sessions and house sex party. However a close mate has just caught covid from grand kids and that's really made me re think things. As randy as I am, I'm reluctant to meet strangers as there's no way of being sure if they're unknown carriers. Anyone else still wary? so you going to stay in forever covid will always be here "
It's not about staying in forever it's about making informed choices
I feel the same and have only this weekend ventured back to a club
My friends and family are my priority so I personally won't arrange any meets or any other social engagements if I know I have something in the diary already in the next week
I must admit though I do suffer from anxiety and COVID made that worse, I don't live near my family but the fear of passing something on I don't know I have to friends who have elderly family nearby is very real
You have to move on at a pace you feel comfortable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Still wary of interacting with a lot of people but your friend caught it from grandchildren so where will you draw the line?"
I know. Thing is just before covid I was ill with another virus for three months and that wasn't life threatening but I felt like shit and wouldn't want a repeat. I've dipped back into the lifestyle as I enjoy casual sex but when covid hits close to home I get cold feet again. |
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"Still wary of interacting with a lot of people but your friend caught it from grandchildren so where will you draw the line?
I know. Thing is just before covid I was ill with another virus for three months and that wasn't life threatening but I felt like shit and wouldn't want a repeat. I've dipped back into the lifestyle as I enjoy casual sex but when covid hits close to home I get cold feet again. "
I understand. My approach is to take the risks I'm comfortable with. I wouldn't go to a concert for instance but I'm happy to go to an airport and take a plane journey. I suppose I take a risk vs reward attitude  |
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"I started getting back into swinging some weeks ago. I've been to sauna, club, porn cinema, outdoor and one on one sessions and house sex party. However a close mate has just caught covid from grand kids and that's really made me re think things. As randy as I am, I'm reluctant to meet strangers as there's no way of being sure if they're unknown carriers. Anyone else still wary? so you going to stay in forever covid will always be here
It's not about staying in forever it's about making informed choices
I feel the same and have only this weekend ventured back to a club
My friends and family are my priority so I personally won't arrange any meets or any other social engagements if I know I have something in the diary already in the next week
I must admit though I do suffer from anxiety and COVID made that worse, I don't live near my family but the fear of passing something on I don't know I have to friends who have elderly family nearby is very real
You have to move on at a pace you feel comfortable "
My personal approach is, I LFT before and after any higher risk activity - both to myself and others. And hide if I feel any hint of any infection, just in case. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I'm still aware that I can catch it and become very ill.
I've had friends and family admitted to hospital with it, and a couple barely made it home.
Thankfully no one close to me has died with it, but I am still washing my hands and being careful. |
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I think it's natural for it to hit home and you to question things when people you know get it.
It's a stark reminder and especially if they're unwell from it and not asymptomatic or "just a cold" type reaction it's only natural to feel extra cautious and wonder whether it's worth the risk to you and to others. |
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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago
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So glad I have had it! Must be terrible living like this still. Do you plan on remaining this anxious for a short, medium or long period of time? Maybe a timescale would help? Eg I will worry about catching it for 6 months/a year/2 years/a decade? Where is your line? |
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"What does it matter? Covid is going to be here forever like flu.
You can either hide away and waste your precious life or you can carry on and take reasonable precautions. "
Well yes, and sometimes one of the precautions can be passing on an opportunity and staying home if you've got something important coming up, especially if it's something coming up with others you care about.
Prioritising doesn't mean living in fear and wasting your life.
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"So glad I have had it! Must be terrible living like this still. Do you plan on remaining this anxious for a short, medium or long period of time? Maybe a timescale would help? Eg I will worry about catching it for 6 months/a year/2 years/a decade? Where is your line?"
My friends wife had it in March, she was on a ventilator, and in hospital for a few weeks. She's been jabbed and just had it again, this time didn't need hospitalisation. Having already had it doesn't mean you ain't getting it again.
I was anxious in the 2 weeks leading up to seeing my son as I'd not seen him since Feb 2020, coz I'd have been devastated if I got it and couldn't see him after 19 months. Other than that I'm gonna get it, course I am. But it's about making choices based on priorities. I went to work in the 2 weeks leading up to see him and that was it. However, once I was with my son we went to a gig so it's not like I lock myself away.
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"So glad I have had it! Must be terrible living like this still. Do you plan on remaining this anxious for a short, medium or long period of time? Maybe a timescale would help? Eg I will worry about catching it for 6 months/a year/2 years/a decade? Where is your line?"
Unfortunately anxiety have an end date, you can say from the 31st December I'm not going to let this effect me anymore
Believe me I really wish it was that easy but anxiety is crippling it can genuinely effect the way you live your life and until we start getting better funding to support those with mental health issues many will have to continue to suffer never knowing when we will reach that line you so casually mention |
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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago
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"So glad I have had it! Must be terrible living like this still. Do you plan on remaining this anxious for a short, medium or long period of time? Maybe a timescale would help? Eg I will worry about catching it for 6 months/a year/2 years/a decade? Where is your line?
Unfortunately anxiety have an end date, you can say from the 31st December I'm not going to let this effect me anymore
Believe me I really wish it was that easy but anxiety is crippling it can genuinely effect the way you live your life and until we start getting better funding to support those with mental health issues many will have to continue to suffer never knowing when we will reach that line you so casually mention "
Try HRT, it's great for reducing anxiety - perimenopause is a nightmare.
Not so much use for the op, but we don't know if his issue is anxiety either. Dealing with irrational anxiety head-on by applying logical thinking is a useful technique though |
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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago
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"So glad I have had it! Must be terrible living like this still. Do you plan on remaining this anxious for a short, medium or long period of time? Maybe a timescale would help? Eg I will worry about catching it for 6 months/a year/2 years/a decade? Where is your line?
My friends wife had it in March, she was on a ventilator, and in hospital for a few weeks. She's been jabbed and just had it again, this time didn't need hospitalisation. Having already had it doesn't mean you ain't getting it again
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1/100 chance of getting it twice, currently
Can't see myself being ill with it second third fourth times around. It was weird but not particularly exciting first time round
Maybe once I hit 70+ I'll start to worry
Flu scares me a lot more - that really did make me ill. Flu vaccines are pretty ineffective.
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"I started getting back into swinging some weeks ago. I've been to sauna, club, porn cinema, outdoor and one on one sessions and house sex party. However a close mate has just caught covid from grand kids and that's really made me re think things. As randy as I am, I'm reluctant to meet strangers as there's no way of being sure if they're unknown carriers. Anyone else still wary? you send me a private message say how your scared do go to work and litralkybscared to do anything then block me and maybe the problem isn’t covid but your mental health after listening to all the scaremongering "
It's a good point, with so much false and inaccurate and unhelpful information fed to us for nearly 2 years now, and even accurate and hpful stuff wears you down.. stresses of people's health and jobs, financial stains. Working from home... Isolation, not seeing friends and family. Being worried, anxiety and so on. Its going to take a while and a lot of patience for many people to regain confidence and well being. And that's not forgetting over 30k a day new infections... So it's very much still out there. It's a time to be understanding and kind. |
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"Strange how so many guys are worried about Covid risks and close contact but not by catching STD’s/AIDS by playing bareback.
We have to ask virtually every guy we play with to wear a glove!"
I'm not sure that is the case, there have been a great many bareback threads over the years on this site.
I think the difference is that in bareback you take the risk and bear the impact.
With covid if I take the risk it is unlikely I will be impacted significantly, but an elderly loved one might.
I'm sure if sti's were passing to family members by touch, then alot more would take precautions, as even if we are risk takers for ourselves, most will be risk averse for family |
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"Strange how so many guys are worried about Covid risks and close contact but not by catching STD’s/AIDS by playing bareback.
We have to ask virtually every guy we play with to wear a glove!
I'm not sure that is the case, there have been a great many bareback threads over the years on this site.
I think the difference is that in bareback you take the risk and bear the impact.
With covid if I take the risk it is unlikely I will be impacted significantly, but an elderly loved one might.
I'm sure if sti's were passing to family members by touch, then alot more would take precautions, as even if we are risk takers for ourselves, most will be risk averse for family "
It wouldn't sound too good either..
Imagine nan saying to the GP she had caught clap off her grandson. |
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Some clubs are asking for proof of vaccinations at the door. Those of the places you should be going to. Elsewhere nobody gives a fuck now. Have you been on a train? About 20 percent wearing masks while older people around. |
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"Some clubs are asking for proof of vaccinations at the door. Those of the places you should be going to. Elsewhere nobody gives a fuck now. Have you been on a train? About 20 percent wearing masks while older people around. "
Tbf 20% is better than I would have thought.
The government removed the mandate before thinking about the message so I'm surprised that many are as considerate of others.
I wore one in the supermarket at the weekend, but I did have a bit of a sneeze so seemed only polite. |
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"Some clubs are asking for proof of vaccinations at the door. Those of the places you should be going to. Elsewhere nobody gives a fuck now. Have you been on a train? About 20 percent wearing masks while older people around.
Tbf 20% is better than I would have thought.masks make no difference and it’s time to start living again
The government removed the mandate before thinking about the message so I'm surprised that many are as considerate of others.
I wore one in the supermarket at the weekend, but I did have a bit of a sneeze so seemed only polite. "
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1million people in UK had Covid last week or about 1 in 66... it’s endemic and here to stay. The probability of you, me or anyone avoiding exposure to Covid forever is pretty remote. We have to learn to accept its now a risk of life and know that thanks to vaccination the risk of coming to serious harm has been greatly reduced. |
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