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I seem to be stuck in a cycle of constant anxiousness, unable to relax or calm down.
I've cut out caffeine and alcohol,but sleeping is a real battle, concentrating at work difficult and even the smallest task put me over the edge.
Anyone got any tips for relaxing,I do belly breathing. |
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By (user no longer on site) 7 weeks ago
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Take some time off. Get away from people, screens and social media.
Look TRE (trauma release exercises), coherence breathing and consider 15-30 second cold showers to try and shock or provide contrast states for your sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous states.
If you need talk without judgement or fear, please
Reach out.
Keeps safe and don’t worry.
You aren’t alone. |
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First of all speak to a Dr or mental health person dont suffer in silence. I have propranolol to calm me and also citalopram.
Step away from doom scrolling on social media and try putting some music on. Get out when you can for a walk and do your breathing excercises.
Do you know your triggers? Can you avoid them?
You are not alone, its good to talk. You are welcome to pm me. |
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I was also prescribed propranolol for the extreme anxiety I used to suffer.
Now it’s not that bad, so I try to manage without medication. I used to be a total sceptic, but meditation podcasts/videos on youtube really help. |
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All anxiety is is heighten levels of catecholamines find out what raises yours and avoid them the main ones are alcohol, cigarettes, coffee and stress but if you body is having a hard time breaking down these fight or flight neurotransmitters it is likely due genetics mutations such as MTHFR or COMT, I have both btw and was having panic attacks all the time until I learned how to help my body break down these catecholamines. Most people never learn this and get reliant on anti anxiety medications for their whole life.do your own research on these genes and good luck 😉 |
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"I would go see a specialist - especially if it has just started. The person would have to wait months years for an appointment with NHS
Walking and exercise relax me but this sounds slightly more than that.
Has anything changed substantially in your life recently?"
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Another propranolol user here - that and yoga have massively improved my life in the past four years. The medication helps with the symptoms of the anxiety so the palpitations and dizziness and sweats don’t happen to me now which means I can concentrate on using the tools I’ve learnt from counselling and mindfulness to help my head with passing over the thoughts. |
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Speak with a professional. Try therapies that don’t rely on medication. Only use medication as a last resort.
The human mind and body is a strange thing, and we sometimes go through periods of extreme change. Anxiety, stress, depression. You can take comfort in knowing that you CAN get through this, and it absolutely will pass.
I wish I could give more specific guidance but I don’t know what is causing it for you.
All I can say is that I have been in your position, and I’d even wake in the night with panic attacks. I became so so on edge that I once thought a bird coming towards me was a plane about to smash into my apartment.
What helped me was time. That’s all there was to it. I listened to YouTube videos that helped make sense of it all. I did yoga. Went for walks. Started watching lighthearted tv shows. Went on a few trips away. And then it all melted away eventually. I think I’d just had loads of stress built up for so long that it erupted. Then dissipated. Maybe it’s the same for you?
The reason I’m so skeptical about drugs is that everyone I know who’s taken them (and it’s a lot of people) have then become reliant on them any time they’re experiencing low mood or tough times. I’m not sure how healthy that is for some people. |
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^^ I'm not sceptical of drugs, I think they're very useful in the short term for any health problem physical or mental. Antibiotics help you get over an infection, anti anxiety meds help you get over the worst symptoms so you can start addressing the cause. I wouldn't recommend either long term unless there was good reason.
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"^^ I'm not sceptical of drugs, I think they're very useful in the short term for any health problem physical or mental. Antibiotics help you get over an infection, anti anxiety meds help you get over the worst symptoms so you can start addressing the cause. I wouldn't recommend either long term unless there was good reason.
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Yes I agree they can be helpful. But I also with the long term part.
I don’t know a single person who has taken drugs for mental health short term. It seems once a person has had them once, they then ask for them repeatedly on-and-off, for life. (I’m just speaking of those know).
That repeated usage deprives people of the chance to build resilience and confidence in themselves. Which then doesn’t resolve whatever the issue was in the first place, and actually makes it worse because they think they need drugs. (Yes I know some people actually do, due to genetic issues. but most don’t)
numerous studies have shown that the medications themselves are currently being overprescribed, and 44% of prescriptions are given for longer than the recommended period. (And that’s just in a single time period - it doesn’t measure multiple occurrences).
Anyway i don’t want to detract from the OP’s call for help. I noticed that many people were encouraging medication. There are very viable and effective alternatives that don’t involve medication, that work long term. |
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"I seem to be stuck in a cycle of constant anxiousness, unable to relax or calm down.
I've cut out caffeine and alcohol,but sleeping is a real battle, concentrating at work difficult and even the smallest task put me over the edge.
Anyone got any tips for relaxing,I do belly breathing."
I've been suffering with this for over a year. Seen a few "specialists" all they seem to want to do is give me pills which I don't want. Actually struggled to leave the house because of it. However, I found using lavender on my pillow has helped and I've started to take vitamin D and magnesium supplements, along with eat better food, and more fruit and nuts (not the chocolate bar). |
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"^^ I'm not sceptical of drugs, I think they're very useful in the short term for any health problem physical or mental. Antibiotics help you get over an infection, anti anxiety meds help you get over the worst symptoms so you can start addressing the cause. I wouldn't recommend either long term unless there was good reason.
Yes I agree they can be helpful. But I also with the long term part.
I don’t know a single person who has taken drugs for mental health short term. It seems once a person has had them once, they then ask for them repeatedly on-and-off, for life. (I’m just speaking of those know).
That repeated usage deprives people of the chance to build resilience and confidence in themselves. Which then doesn’t resolve whatever the issue was in the first place, and actually makes it worse because they think they need drugs. (Yes I know some people actually do, due to genetic issues. but most don’t)
numerous studies have shown that the medications themselves are currently being overprescribed, and 44% of prescriptions are given for longer than the recommended period. (And that’s just in a single time period - it doesn’t measure multiple occurrences).
Anyway i don’t want to detract from the OP’s call for help. I noticed that many people were encouraging medication. There are very viable and effective alternatives that don’t involve medication, that work long term."
I'm not a medical professional but I'd opt for a combination of both. If someone is suffering in the present, especially with something like life limiting anxiety enabling them to feel better quickly so they can start the long-term strategies seems like a good option to me. |
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"I seem to be stuck in a cycle of constant anxiousness, unable to relax or calm down.
I've cut out caffeine and alcohol,but sleeping is a real battle, concentrating at work difficult and even the smallest task put me over the edge.
Anyone got any tips for relaxing,I do belly breathing."
Hi, happy to chat, I have a bit of knowledge in this area, please feel free to message. |
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Hi, I’ve been messaged privately with questions but I do not wish to respond to them privately, sorry, I also do not wish to share my full medical history nor info about doses or other medications. I hope you understand this isn’t really appropriate.
However, regarding yoga, it helps in terms of breathing and core strength but also in the moment whilst practicing (yoga) you cannot really think about anything else except the position and the moves to get to that position. This in turn helps your brain to learn how to move from one thought process to another and from places of anxiety into places of relaxation and calm. |
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By *hagTonightMan 7 weeks ago
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It could be a sign of dehydration, do you drink enough water? That is because there is a link between dehydration and anxiety and it is good that you have cut down on those things, because dehydration can negatively impact mood and potentially exacerbating anxiety, so by drinking enough water one can manage ones anxiety too  |
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"I seem to be stuck in a cycle of constant anxiousness, unable to relax or calm down.
I've cut out caffeine and alcohol,but sleeping is a real battle, concentrating at work difficult and even the smallest task put me over the edge.
Anyone got any tips for relaxing,I do belly breathing."
Something I use to quell anxiety is simply laying flat on the floor for 20 mins or so. Dark room, do breath work and settle (: |
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Magnesium supplements have helped me with anxiety and sleep
I find repeating small repetitive tasks quietens the brain
If I can’t sleep I listen to audio books nothing that requires concentration just mindless crap stuff
I’ve used medication short term and wouldn’t hesitate to again but I start them knowing they are a limited time - think of them as putting a cast on a broken leg just whilst it heals but planning on physio at the same time for when it’s removed |
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I can't offer much advice about anxiety,I suffer from depression at moment, but I do understand where you're coming from.
Don't feel you are alone. Find someone to talk to, see your GP and ask what is available - I mean as in help,not just medication alone.
Box breathing seems to be quite helpful for depression and anxiety if that helps?
Anyway, don't feel you're alone. There's a whole pile of help out there, you just need a bit of guidance to know where to look, which is why I recommend seeing your GP and they can put you in touch with the relevant people.
Keep safe. |
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"Take some time off. Get away from people, screens and social media.
Look TRE (trauma release exercises), coherence breathing and consider 15-30 second cold showers to try and shock or provide contrast states for your sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous states.
If you need talk without judgement or fear, please
Reach out.
Keeps safe and don’t worry.
You aren’t alone. "
Excellent advice for worsening anxiety.... Find out the valsalva manoeuvres that work for you... And also try to work on desensitising the impact of certain triggers through reflection and honesty xxx
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"I seem to be stuck in a cycle of constant anxiousness, unable to relax or calm down.
I've cut out caffeine and alcohol,but sleeping is a real battle, concentrating at work difficult and even the smallest task put me over the edge.
Anyone got any tips for relaxing,I do belly breathing."
Know your pain
I Mr suffer bad from it and it's what's stops us playing a lot of the time
Hate crowds and loud places
Currently on meds which help and do try and get to clubs as much as I can to try and combat it and not give in to it
Sometimes I'm better than others
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"I seem to be stuck in a cycle of constant anxiousness, unable to relax or calm down.
I've cut out caffeine and alcohol,but sleeping is a real battle, concentrating at work difficult and even the smallest task put me over the edge.
Anyone got any tips for relaxing,I do belly breathing."
Sorry to hear that op. It's a horrible condition, really debilitating and can take pleasure away from pretty much anything. I ended up seeing the Dr and as others have said propranolol helped a lot. Although he didn't tell me the side effects can make you tired. Identifying causes of course would be ideal and then coping strategies... Breathing, meditation, relaxation, exercise, identify 3 things that give you pleasure and go to one of those... To calm things a little. But if you've not already done so recommend a visit to your gp |
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"I seem to be stuck in a cycle of constant anxiousness, unable to relax or calm down.
I've cut out caffeine and alcohol,but sleeping is a real battle, concentrating at work difficult and even the smallest task put me over the edge.
Anyone got any tips for relaxing,I do belly breathing."
Lions Mane, excercise, oral sex, fresh air. |
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Are you of perimenopause or menopause age? If so I would suggest that may be your problem. I have terrible anxiety now I'm perimenopausal. I'm trying to get help for that atm. I'm on HRT. There are so many symptoms that are attributable to it so I'd read up on it a bit and see if that could be your issue.
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By *ou an usCouple 4 weeks ago
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"I seem to be stuck in a cycle of constant anxiousness, unable to relax or calm down.
I've cut out caffeine and alcohol,but sleeping is a real battle, concentrating at work difficult and even the smallest task put me over the edge.
Anyone got any tips for relaxing,I do belly breathing."
I “Buck” totally relate to this, work, life it all becomes too much, filled with anxiety and stress, feel less capable and don’t have the energy to do tasks previously easy, regularly struggle to get hard when needed and or would like to.
A nights sleep would be a real luxury.
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Hey crazy person here again that you hate and blocked but I feel morally obliged to help people. Unless you're in a shitty situation at home, work, family etc and have a real reason to worry about something (yes people are often in bad situations without fully knowing it and make endless excuses for bad people in their lives and no I'm not insinuating anything because I have no idea who you are) then I would put a weeks wages on it being your diet. Jordan Peterson struggled with anxiety and carnivore was suggested to him and he thought maybe he should continue eating salad but still had anxiety then finally bit the bullet and quit plants all together and the anxiety was gone, even if you believe plants are needed you could use it as an elimination diet to get to the bottom of your triggers by adding things back in one at a time after a while until you see what does it. My anxiety was probably at 8+9 and dissociating but since going carnivore it's 0! But one baguette or cake and it's back about 4-5 within an hour |
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By *bi HaiveMan 4 weeks ago
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"^^ I'm not sceptical of drugs, I think they're very useful in the short term for any health problem physical or mental. Antibiotics help you get over an infection, anti anxiety meds help you get over the worst symptoms so you can start addressing the cause. I wouldn't recommend either long term unless there was good reason.
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I'd agree they can be a useful short term solution. I used them for a short spell a couple of years ago simply to enable my brain to shut down properly to allow sleep, rest and remove the constant noise in my head. They worked really well, but in some ways too well and it was often difficult to function. So I stopped using them completely, but the time I did gave me the opportunity to learn and recognise certain triggers and causes, which enabled me to react better to certain situations when they arose. There's times even now I'm tempted to go back to them, but I've accepted things will never be 100% right and I'm lucky enough I guess to be able to deal with them in my own time and space now that I have next to no commitments that I'd have to try and deal with during any bad spells. I can just work through things at my own pace and if I need to just isolate myself and do virtually nothing to help let things pass I can. Living alone and being self employed gives me the means to do so without impacting anyone else and I really feel for those having to juggle childcare, work and managing interactions with partners.
I'd strongly recommend speaking to a professional and looking for a short term plan as any medication can often be trial and error to find both the right one and the right dosage. And be open to the prospect of it needing constant review.
Good luck. 🤞🤞 |
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Therapy and anxiety medication can really help. I have taken medication for anxiety before, and it has done wonders, but that's my experience. It could be different for you. Anxiety is awful, I really hope you find the help you need 💗 |
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Keep away from social media and the newspapers and TV-there is so much shite going on in the world it's causing a lot of unnecessary angst. Start thinking for yourself instead of allowing others or the media to make you think in certain ways. Don't be afraid to express opinions, who says you are wrong? Try to become more aware of your thinking and catch yourself thinking negatively. Ask yourself why? A fab quote I read many years ago was: Your mind is like a desert, in which you create the ghosts and goblins that come out to haunt you in the night. Effectively, a lot of our fears are made up in our heads and, as such, are not real, so how can you be afraid of something that is not real? A good book is The Road Less Travelled. Some of Eckhart Tolle's books are very good. Buy them on CDs and have them narrated to you or stream in the car as you drive, as it's the best way to get through them and you can always rewind if you missed a point of the narrative. |
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I get anxious a fair bit. Here's what helps me:
Putting down social media and the news
Allowing myself to get fully absorbed into a book, film or game
Going for a walk in nature. Especially the woods!
Focus on one thing at a time that will bring value into your life. Sometimes I get anxious because I've allowed things in my life to build up
Talk to a friend, as this can be very grounding |
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What makes you anxious?
Work and toxic people make me anxious.
So if I dedicate Saturday to video games then Sunday to church wife and family I give myself an entire stress free day to recover to myself.
I was diagnosed with ASD later in life. I was coping ok untill I took on a too stressful career I didn't really love. So it was better for my sanity to take a step down.
Cognitive therapy obviously would have no real effect on me since I developed my own strategies to take my mind off.
So I focused on Eric Berne's theory in "the games people play".
This helped me to reduce conflict situations from work and family and allowed me to have less drama to worry about.
Anxiety for me is ASD triggering my adrenaline which makes me meltdown. It's impossible to stop a meltdown from anxiety but you can reduce them via living within you're limits.
Many male role models encourage you to push yourself to your limits but I don't do that anymore I aim to do things within my capability (I am a highly intelligent hard working person anyway) but I don't work 12 hours per day like I did previously.
You need to relax.
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By *XThomMan 4 weeks ago
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No blue light 2 hours before sleep
Take Magnesium glycinate about an hour before sleep (need a clean supply, no additives)
No caffeine after midday
Make sure you take omega 3 daily
Box breathe (Google it)
Lie down with feet raised against the wall for 20 minutes before sleep (reduces cortisol)
Finally, for better results, let me hold your ankles while doing the last step... alos don't belove evry little detail online
Hope you sleep better soon
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