Need some help guys and gals.
One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.
They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.
They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.
They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.
Any ideas or help please? |
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By *orny PTMan 33 weeks ago
Peterborough |
Sleep apnoea: this is not a diagnosis. It is alarm bell time though. Daytime sleeping is a major clue.
It is an invite to talk to your GP/pharmacist and do some research about his or her sleep problems. If the waking up sounds like choking, then record this noise: it's vital evidence to explain what's going on.
This can be treated if it is sleep ap. A face mask and quietish air pump is one solution all night every night.
If either of you have a smart watch, then use a sleep app to monitor what's going on, the good and the bad. This condition affect both of you. |
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Snoring in itself is not necessarily a sign of sleep apnea, but could be. Is there any day time sleepiness associated with it?
How about, for the time being, the non-snorer tries separate bedrooms if possible? Or ear plugs? Loops are very good, even if not cheap. |
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Sleep apnea it sounds like , I had a partner years ago , she was a heavy smoker, snored mega loud, choking in her sleep etc, she went to doctors and she had a CPAP machine in the end and it cleared all issues..
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I (Mr) snore a lot but varies how loud / long.... this has got worse lately (age and drinking at weekends)... leading to Mrs either sleeping in separate bedroom (we always start the night off in same bed) or in some cases downstsirs when i am really loud...
Have tried the nose strips, rolling over etc and sometime that works...
Saw someone on a random youtube channel posting a vid not reated at all, but she had issues snoring and went to sleep with a sticky tape of sorts over her mouth... effectively keeping the mouth closed and therefore, no snoring.. Did not know it was a thing.. but search mouth tape (not the kinky kind) on Amazon and there are lots of types..
I was a bit sceptical but actually tried this just last night with 2 normal plasters stuck over my mouth in a criss cross shape (i did look like something from a horror movie lol) - it actually worked and i did not feel at all strange that i had my mouth taped together... it does sound a little extreme when writing it down, but certainly worth a try... |
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"I (Mr) snore a lot but varies how loud / long.... this has got worse lately (age and drinking at weekends)... leading to Mrs either sleeping in separate bedroom (we always start the night off in same bed) or in some cases downstsirs when i am really loud...
Have tried the nose strips, rolling over etc and sometime that works...
Saw someone on a random youtube channel posting a vid not reated at all, but she had issues snoring and went to sleep with a sticky tape of sorts over her mouth... effectively keeping the mouth closed and therefore, no snoring.. Did not know it was a thing.. but search mouth tape (not the kinky kind) on Amazon and there are lots of types..
I was a bit sceptical but actually tried this just last night with 2 normal plasters stuck over my mouth in a criss cross shape (i did look like something from a horror movie lol) - it actually worked and i did not feel at all strange that i had my mouth taped together... it does sound a little extreme when writing it down, but certainly worth a try..."
Might give this a try, thanks |
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"Need some help guys and gals.
One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.
They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.
They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.
They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.
Any ideas or help please?"
I have the same problem it is sleep apnoea I have a mask I put on at night when it’s bad to help me breathe not the most flattering thing but I just pretend I’m a fighter pilot lol |
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"Need some help guys and gals.
One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.
They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.
They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.
They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.
Any ideas or help please?
I have the same problem it is sleep apnoea I have a mask I put on at night when it’s bad to help me breathe not the most flattering thing but I just pretend I’m a fighter pilot lol "
I'm sure your sleep clinic told you that you're supposed to be using CPAP all the time, not just "when it's bad"? Unless that's just not a very clear description that you used? |
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"Need some help guys and gals.
One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.
They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.
They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.
They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.
Any ideas or help please?
I have the same problem it is sleep apnoea I have a mask I put on at night when it’s bad to help me breathe not the most flattering thing but I just pretend I’m a fighter pilot lol
I'm sure your sleep clinic told you that you're supposed to be using CPAP all the time, not just "when it's bad"? Unless that's just not a very clear description that you used?"
They did but to be fair I don’t like wearing it as I find it uncomfortable |
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Get a referral (from GP) to your local sleep clinic. They'll do tests although does sound like you may need a CPAP machine. They are much smaller now and can be easily packed to take on holiday....its a game changer |
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There are a million and one reasons why someone might snore.....
From weight, to heath, drink, stress, the type of bed, the number of pillows etc etc.....
All you have to do is find the issue, then solve it.... which is easier said than done |
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By *orny PTMan 32 weeks ago
Peterborough |
Not all problems with breathing are internal...
Something as simple as the skin between the cheeks and the nostril can bunch up and gently squeeze the nasal passages. This can go under the radar.
Try this: the “Cottle maneuver”—by pulling your cheek laterally, towards your ear you’re splinting open your external/internal nasal valves, and that instantly improves airflow. A positive Cottle means your nasal valve area is collapsing when you breathe, especially when you’re lying down and tissue relaxes.
Why it happens. Your lateral nasal wall (cartilage + overlying soft tissue) is too weak or floppy. Age or genetics can thin that cartilage or let midface fat pads descend, pulling the alar rims inward.
Skin laxity “hugs” the sidewall tighter, so it feels like the skin itself is blocking you—but underneath it’s the vault of cartilage and soft tissue collapsing.
This might explain why dogs with almost no muzzle have problems breathing at rest. |
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"Need some help guys and gals.
One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.
They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.
They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.
They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.
Any ideas or help please?
I have the same problem it is sleep apnoea I have a mask I put on at night when it’s bad to help me breathe not the most flattering thing but I just pretend I’m a fighter pilot lol
I'm sure your sleep clinic told you that you're supposed to be using CPAP all the time, not just "when it's bad"? Unless that's just not a very clear description that you used?
They did but to be fair I don’t like wearing it as I find it uncomfortable "
Do you think I (Mrs here) "like" wearing it? But I'd rather get that small inconvenience than risk damaging my health. It's your life though. |
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Another vote for seeing your GP and asking for a referral to the local sleep clinic. Particularly if the sleeping snorer stops breathing sometimes.
Pretty simple to diagnose- you wear some kit at home for a night and they analyse the data.
Sleep apnea is serious, it’s not just the snoring. Get it checked. |
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"Been waiting for referral for nearly 5 weeks at this point. Would love to get a proper diagnosis"
Sadly, the waiting times differ greatly depending where you live. Try chasing up with your GP? I was lucky, it only took about a month from referral to first appointment, and not much longer to get my CPAP. Waiting times are much longer for some, and some people choose to buy their own machines. |
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"I (Mr) snore a lot but varies how loud / long.... this has got worse lately (age and drinking at weekends)... leading to Mrs either sleeping in separate bedroom (we always start the night off in same bed) or in some cases downstsirs when i am really loud...
Have tried the nose strips, rolling over etc and sometime that works...
Saw someone on a random youtube channel posting a vid not reated at all, but she had issues snoring and went to sleep with a sticky tape of sorts over her mouth... effectively keeping the mouth closed and therefore, no snoring.. Did not know it was a thing.. but search mouth tape (not the kinky kind) on Amazon and there are lots of types..
I was a bit sceptical but actually tried this just last night with 2 normal plasters stuck over my mouth in a criss cross shape (i did look like something from a horror movie lol) - it actually worked and i did not feel at all strange that i had my mouth taped together... it does sound a little extreme when writing it down, but certainly worth a try..."
I would not recommend doing this unless you have been tested for obstructive sleep apnea and know you do not have it.
With sleep apnea your airways collapse and the snoring is literally your body gasping for breath as it suffocates. Taping up your mouth limits your air flow even further, putting extra pressure on your body that could be potentially fatal. Don’t forget Carrie Fisher sadly died during her sleep with this. |
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"Been waiting for referral for nearly 5 weeks at this point. Would love to get a proper diagnosis"
Keep going back whinging to your doctor . Think the problem now is everyone claims they got sleep apnea.
I was tested and had a machine within a week despite being told it would take months.
I went about something else though. |
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By *shockeyMan 31 weeks ago
Norton Canes |
"Been waiting for referral for nearly 5 weeks at this point. Would love to get a proper diagnosis"
As somebody currently going through this it’s a long wait.
I was referred towards the end of last year and it took a couple of months to get my appointment with the sleep clinic for the study.
Once i did the study they said 16 weeks for the results however it took pretty much bang on 6 months.
Results showed sleep apnoea and they’re recommending a CPAP but I have a further 2 month wait for that appointment.
All in I reckon I’ll be close to a year from doctors referral to getting the actual machine |
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Well,another early morning get up.
We didn't get till bed till nearly 1am,lay on top of the clothes all night,till partner started the heavy snoring at 5am.
Been up since then watching crap on telly and yawning my head off.
Can't wait for this appointment for the sleep clinic!
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"Need some help guys and gals.
One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.
They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.
They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.
They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.
Any ideas or help please?"
We had similar issue, I lost 20kg in weight and the snoring stopped.
Weight creaping back up (10 of the 20 Kg has been returned to sender  ) and the snoring is returning... my cause/solution may not be yours but it certainly beats having to go on a CPAC. |
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Lose weight potentially (not being funny it's just true that it helps) don't drink (relaxes the area and makes it worse) tilt the bed, sleep propped up in pillows. |
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By *ucka39Man 30 weeks ago
Newcastle |
Possibly try one of those but also see a GP incase it maybe an underlying issue
Plugin oil
Eucalyptus:
This oil is known for its decongestant properties, which can help to thin mucus and reduce congestion in the sinuses and airways, potentially making it easier to breathe while sleeping.
Peppermint:
Similar to eucalyptus, peppermint oil can help to clear nasal passages and reduce congestion, improving airflow and promoting a more comfortable sleep environment. |
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The wife and I both snore, but my being an insomniac really makes it a problem. She's tried all varieties of nose-plugs, and while some work, they keep dropping out during the night, in spite of tying them to an elastic band!
For the last month, the hot weather has seen her sleeping downstairs on the sofa-bed, while I have the bedroom. She has the sweeter deal, as the the living room is cool whilst upstairs is sweltering.
Whatever it takes to get a half-decent night's sleep!  |
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By *orny PTMan 30 weeks ago
Peterborough |
"Snoring in itself is not necessarily a sign of sleep apnea, but could be. Is there any day time sleepiness associated with it?
How about, for the time being, the non-snorer tries separate bedrooms if possible? Or ear plugs? Loops are very good, even if not cheap. "
I can really vouch for those LOOP plugs. |
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My partner snores like a freight train, it has actually damaged my hearing, something like 90 odd decibels… think of a lawn mower constant!
I snore too but she saw her arse when I recorded her.
We sleep in separate rooms now..its shit..
Anyway I had blood test done for allergies privately, NHS will take months turns out i’m allergic to house mites we all have these in the house, by the way.. now I take allergy tablets when it gets bad.. and it helps the snoring…
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Checking weight is a good shout i've always snored terribly and been using a CPAP since 2009, but in the past 12 months i have lost 5st and had my tonsils taken out, and i've totally stopped snoring now, and no longer need the CPAP, may not work for all but it did for me |
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"Checking weight is a good shout i've always snored terribly and been using a CPAP since 2009, but in the past 12 months i have lost 5st and had my tonsils taken out, and i've totally stopped snoring now, and no longer need the CPAP, may not work for all but it did for me "
Weight is probably the biggest reason. Problem is too many people don't want to hear that. |
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I was a very heavy snorer. My wife had to sleep in a seperate room ti get any sleep at all.
I searched _nline for remedies and came across a site, I think it was called something like the British snoring & sleep apnea association.
They had some exercises to try out to find out what type of snorer you are, yeah there's different types! Who knew?
Anyway, we figured out what type I was and we ordered something called Rhynil spray. Basically something you spray up your nostrils every night for six weeks.
I'll be honest, it was horrible, but I persevered and it paid off. My snoring stopped completely. This was probably 8 or 9 years ago now and I do snorer a little bit every now and then, after drinking etc, but this stuff worked for us so I'd definitely recommend it. |
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Hey, I snored bad and constantly wake up. Sleep apnea.
I put it off for years as they say you lose your driving licence. The consultants aren't too clued up and the letter of the law is if your being treated you don't need to surrender your licence to dvla. This was taught to me by my sleep apnea nurse.
Once treated life got so much better. Cant express enough how it improves your quality of life |
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"Hey, I snored bad and constantly wake up. Sleep apnea.
I put it off for years as they say you lose your driving licence. The consultants aren't too clued up and the letter of the law is if your being treated you don't need to surrender your licence to dvla. This was taught to me by my sleep apnea nurse.
Once treated life got so much better. Cant express enough how it improves your quality of life"
From gov.uk. 'You must tell DVLA if you have:
confirmed moderate or severe obstructive sleep apnoea syndrome (OSAS), with excessive sleepiness' |
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"Just go to your doc ask about CPAP machine do it now don't wait."
This is easier said than done. GPs don't prescribe CPAP machines, they refer people to a sleep clinic. Depending on where you live, the waiting times vary greatly just to get the appointment with the sleep clinic, then there is another waiting time for CPAP machine if you're deemed as needing one. That's why some people end up buying the machine themselves. I was lucky, it only took about 2 months or so from GP referral to me starting on CPAP, but not many are as lucky. |
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Is it worse after drinking alcohol,
Has the weight changed at all
Bit of a stretch and the person broken thier nose, I broke mine years ago but only recently been told that is could make my snoring worse. |
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"Need some help guys and gals.
One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.
They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.
They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.
They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.
Any ideas or help please?"
You should try one of them butterfly pillows it keeps the neck level it suppose to help with snoring and sleep posture |
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By *ost SockMan 27 weeks ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
It’s been instructive reading this thread. Thank you.
I suspect I may have sleep apnea or similar sleep disorder. In recent years, I know I snore and I make terribly loud, agonised moaning noises. Almost a sort of “terror”. Also, I wake with a headache quite often and I can be totally exhausted all day.
I know that at any time of the day, if I stopped what I was doing and tried to sleep, I would succeed in a few seconds.
I need to investigate it properly. |
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"Need some help guys and gals.
One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.
They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.
They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.
They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.
Any ideas or help please?"
I snore on and off (more on than off) and the severity fluctuates.
Can be ridiculously loud sometimes (recorded by siblings as I thought they were exaggerating, they were not)
I don't feel tired in the mornings, don't sleep or nap during the day.
I'm off to see an otolaryngologist in a fortnight, so will update after the visit. |
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"Need some help guys and gals.
One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.
They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.
They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.
They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.
Any ideas or help please?"
Snore strips! |
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Update:
The tests were all done,and there's no sleep apnea, which is good news..but the snoring issue still remains.
One person,still wakes up the other person,3 or 4 times a night.
Sleeping in separate rooms was discussed,but one of the 2(the snorer) doesn't want this.
So back to square one again...sighs. |
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By *aandLoCouple 7 weeks ago
Southampton |
Separate beds doesn't have to mean the end of sex!
We sleep separately quite often as either he's snoring so I get up and go to another room, or I'm up at 3am for work and don't want to ruin his sleep.
Sex doesn't have to be in bed. We love a bit of a session in the lounge, kitchen, wherever - extra naughtiness.
Plus, there's nothing to say if you want sex in the comfort of your bed, one of you can't go off to another room afterwards. Works for us. Me utterly shattered and angry due to lack of sleep doesn't work. |
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By *aandLoCouple 7 weeks ago
Southampton |
"Update:
The tests were all done,and there's no sleep apnea, which is good news..but the snoring issue still remains.
One person,still wakes up the other person,3 or 4 times a night.
Sleeping in separate rooms was discussed,but one of the 2(the snorer) doesn't want this.
So back to square one again...sighs."
Great news, there's no health issues.
Please don't be offended but you're profile says you're 'ample.' You can see from our profile my hubbie isn't slim. His snoring has improved since he started swimming and lost some weight. There are still nights when he snores, after a big dinner, a few beers etc but it's noticeably less often. x |
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"Do not sleep in different beds. It will be the end of your relationship. Consult and keep badgering your doctor. It could just be like an in haler to open up the airwaves. "
Sleeping in separate beds does not equal end of relationship. Myself and my partner, we go to sleep together in my bed, then at some point during the night he gets up and goes to sleep in his bed. Then he comes back to my bed in the morning, unless I get up early. It's because I can be very fidgety in bed and need to change position easily if I get pain or discomfort, and he likes to take a lot of space as he sleeps on his stomach. We have been like that since when we met, and we have just celebrated our 7th anniversary this year. |
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"Update:
The tests were all done,and there's no sleep apnea, which is good news..but the snoring issue still remains.
One person,still wakes up the other person,3 or 4 times a night.
Sleeping in separate rooms was discussed,but one of the 2(the snorer) doesn't want this.
So back to square one again...sighs.
Great news, there's no health issues.
Please don't be offended but you're profile says you're 'ample.' You can see from our profile my hubbie isn't slim. His snoring has improved since he started swimming and lost some weight. There are still nights when he snores, after a big dinner, a few beers etc but it's noticeably less often. x"
Not offended at all...but the honest truth is that Kelly is the one who snores..and she weighs 7st 8lb in her birthday suit! 😋 |
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"Update:
The tests were all done,and there's no sleep apnea, which is good news..but the snoring issue still remains.
One person,still wakes up the other person,3 or 4 times a night.
Sleeping in separate rooms was discussed,but one of the 2(the snorer) doesn't want this.
So back to square one again...sighs.
Great news, there's no health issues.
Please don't be offended but you're profile says you're 'ample.' You can see from our profile my hubbie isn't slim. His snoring has improved since he started swimming and lost some weight. There are still nights when he snores, after a big dinner, a few beers etc but it's noticeably less often. x
Not offended at all...but the honest truth is that Kelly is the one who snores..and she weighs 7st 8lb in her birthday suit! 😋"
I was being a gentleman! |
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"Need some help guys and gals.
One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.
They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.
They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.
They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.
Any ideas or help please?"
separate beds in separate rooms if logistically possible. It's lovely to sleep together but better to stay together... Especially rather than splitting up over an involuntary noise a body makes while keeping itself alive. |
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My snoring could trigger an avalanche. My father and brother are the same. Mostly due to the temperature in the room, resting on a pillow too low, or simple dehydration. I've heard that dust mites, cockroaches and insects excrete particles in the air which also affect breathing and asthma attacks. The best remedies I use to stop snoring are a simple stick of vick to clear the nasal passages, a second pillow to keep the head slightly arched down to prevent the mouth from opening, keeping the room clean, the heating turned down a notch, a window partly open or a fan turned on low, and placing a bag or suitcase next to me on the bed to keep my body in a sideways position.
Another trick to sleep on your side is to put something at the foot of the bed which makes you curl your legs up into a fetal position on your side. For years I did not snore because my dog used to sleep at the end of the bed, which made me curl up on my side. When she passed away I finally was able to stretch my legs out, which caused me to sleep on my back and snore like lion. To sum it up. Buy a dog for Christmas, but remember dogs can snore loudly as well.  |
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I had a series of medical examinations a number of years ago, one of the things mentioned was cartilage damage in my nose. The first question that I asked was this connected with snoring. The response was affirmative. Elective surgery isn't an option until it gets worse. |
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