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When I was meeting, I would disclose even though my disability is not that hidden. I have dodgy hips and I broke my knee a few years ago, so certain positions are a no-go. I just wouldn't want them to expect to be able to have me in any position they could dream of, or for me to go on top.
I am now also type 2 diabetic but as I am not at risk of hypos, I wouldn't necessarily disclose that. Especially as I only meet new people in clubs currently, by chance. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Well it's not a disability but i do have pectus excavatum and it's why i don't show my chest fully in pics... always upfront in private messaging about it. It's definitely more a 'me' issue as it's never affected people being interested in me luckily... it helps that the rest of me is in ok shape i guess 😅. |
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My issue has kept us from taking the plunge this far, I think I've told one person after clicking via messages and they were weirded out (understandable), it scared me off a little so still in the fantasy stage though we've been on here ages 🙈
Would have to be someone patient and understanding we can build a rapport with but most just want a quick meet on here. Maybe it's not the right site for us. 😂 |
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I have a hidden chronic issue it can be classed as a disability but it doesnt affect me too much unless I'm in a flare, which is quite rare now. I'm typically very stable so I don't disclose it unless it comes up in conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"I have a hidden chronic issue it can be classed as a disability but it doesnt affect me too much unless I'm in a flare, which is quite rare now. I'm typically very stable so I don't disclose it unless it comes up in conversation. "
It’s all about getting to know each other ahead is any meets I like to make sure the women I meet are completely comfortable with me and so I’m a bit chatty and love to hear about people x |
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This is really interesting. I have a hidden disability that I do not disclose (mainly because of stigma).
However, I also have severe asthma which I do disclose mainly because I get out of breath easily and am quite prone to attacks if someone smokes or actually just out of the blue. I once went to a meet and they'd filled the room with incense so I had to leave, would have been awkward if I hadn't been upfront about my asthma.
Thank you for all your replies! |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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I'm disabled perfectly normal and everything works . I don't broadcast it as each to there own
Sometimes it can be like writing a questionnaire like can U have sex can U walk . Do you need tablets ect
But all part of the dance and a fairly confident lad
So I can see why
And they will have to find out eventually  |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"This is really interesting. I have a hidden disability that I do not disclose (mainly because of stigma).
However, I also have severe asthma which I do disclose mainly because I get out of breath easily and am quite prone to attacks if someone smokes or actually just out of the blue. I once went to a meet and they'd filled the room with incense so I had to leave, would have been awkward if I hadn't been upfront about my asthma.
Thank you for all your replies! "
I have severe asthma as well as the pectus excavatum... 💯 know what you mean about smoke, Strong sprays etc really affect my breathing. |
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Ok I was diagnosed with spinal stenosis and throat cancer in 2018, year later exactly my radiotherapy caused me to have a minor stroke. Arthritis in my back and Been fighting diabetes for three yrs, I now have syringomyelia and a syrinx in my spinal column and my spinal stenosis is worse (last MRI in August) this is giving me a few health issues due to damaged nerve ends. Not registered disabled and dead by want to be.. today I fell down our stairs too… |
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By *lan157Man 24 weeks ago
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"This is really interesting. I have a hidden disability that I do not disclose (mainly because of stigma).
However, I also have severe asthma which I do disclose mainly because I get out of breath easily and am quite prone to attacks if someone smokes or actually just out of the blue. I once went to a meet and they'd filled the room with incense so I had to leave, would have been awkward if I hadn't been upfront about my asthma.
Thank you for all your replies! "
What grabs me is that they used incense in their room knowing that you had asthma. What were they thinking ! |
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"This is really interesting. I have a hidden disability that I do not disclose (mainly because of stigma).
However, I also have severe asthma which I do disclose mainly because I get out of breath easily and am quite prone to attacks if someone smokes or actually just out of the blue. I once went to a meet and they'd filled the room with incense so I had to leave, would have been awkward if I hadn't been upfront about my asthma.
Thank you for all your replies!
What grabs me is that they used incense in their room knowing that you had asthma. What were they thinking ! "
Yep! Although to be fair a hell of a lot of people don't understand asthma let alone severe asthma! No hard feelings towards the person though |
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Personally whilst I think most will have hidden or not health problems unless it was something that hindered the meet and enjoyment then no as if for example there are more than a couple of meets with same person then if I felt at ease then maybe touch on it. |
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"I lost a breast to breast cancer a few years ago. Not everyone knows it, so I do disclose it in advance as I wouldn't want to be treated any different just because I have one boob.
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I lost a testicle to cancer, ai haven't told people, if they ask, I have no issues with telling people. |
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"Personally whilst I think most will have hidden or not health problems unless it was something that hindered the meet and enjoyment then no as if for example there are more than a couple of meets with same person then if I felt at ease then maybe touch on it. "
Yes, I can understand this point of view. |
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We would disclose any conditions that might affect a meet, or be a surprise, e.g. Disco Balls has had a prostatectomy so has dry orgasms. It may or may not affect a meet, but it gives others a chance to decide if it's a deal breaker or not. We don't see it as being anything different to being up front about preferences l, e.g. not doing anal or separate room swaps they can decide. If someone didn't want to meet because of a disability, they wouldn't be the kind of people that we'd want to meet, so being upfront can be a useful filter. |
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