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Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys? |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
It shows that your wife has fought illness and injury and survived, I see her as a stronger lady and have full respect for her.
I hope your wife shows off her scars with pride.
RESPECT to both you and your amazing wife.
Ray & Caroline xx |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?
It shows that your wife has fought illness and injury and survived, I see her as a stronger lady and have full respect for her.
I hope your wife shows off her scars with pride.
RESPECT to both you and your amazing wife.
Ray & Caroline xx"
wow thank you x I think she looks amazing and she is hugely proud of her scars x |
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Please don't let one person's reaction knock your confidence. Surgery scars are evidence of what you've been through and come out the other side of.
Most of us have scars, whether they're visible or not. They tell the story of our lives, our challenges, and our resilience.
If someone is put off by a surgical scar, I think that says far more about them than it does about you. The right people will see you as a whole person, not focus on a mark on your skin. Be kind to yourself ...those scars are a reminder of your strength and resilience ❤️ |
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Thanks for the love guys X she is hugely proud of her scars as you can probably tell from our profile photos 😁 she doesn't hide them. A friend said the ones on her back make her look like an angel that cut her wings off x |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Not at all - total respect for battling through things - give her a hug from me |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Firstly, wishing you a speedy recovery.
Personally I have a lot of scars, I had surgery Jan 2025 I have a complete 360 scar around a line from my pubic area to my boobs and scars on my boobs.
I honestly havent recieved a single negative comment about them.
Once my scars were healed enough I used silicone scar tape and most of my scars are very faint now. Xx |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?
Firstly, wishing you a speedy recovery.
Personally I have a lot of scars, I had surgery Jan 2025 I have a complete 360 scar around a line from my pubic area to my boobs and scars on my boobs.
I honestly havent recieved a single negative comment about them.
Once my scars were healed enough I used silicone scar tape and most of my scars are very faint now. Xx"
thank you x the scars are very old as she had open heart surgery at 7 and the scars on her back are from two separate procedures from before she was 2. Also you look fantastic xx |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?
Firstly, wishing you a speedy recovery.
Personally I have a lot of scars, I had surgery Jan 2025 I have a complete 360 scar around a line from my pubic area to my boobs and scars on my boobs.
I honestly havent recieved a single negative comment about them.
Once my scars were healed enough I used silicone scar tape and most of my scars are very faint now. Xx thank you x the scars are very old as she had open heart surgery at 7 and the scars on her back are from two separate procedures from before she was 2. Also you look fantastic xx"
Thank you, that's very kind.
The silicone scar tape works really well on old scars too. Its also helped with one of my scars that were thicker and helped soften it up.
Also, I dont mention my scars before meets. Whether that's the right or wrong thing I dont know. But i dont feel that I owe anyone and explanation, if someone asked i will gladly talk about them but there are enough photos of me to see what I look like 💁♀️ xx |
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"Interested in this as I have several scars from 5 hernia operations and it worries me sometimes."
for the most part we've not had any issues from people it was just this one time which prompted me to start this thread. As a lot of people have stated on here they show a life lived and are nothing to be ashamed of x
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I think scars are pretty cool. I was chatting to someone in here yesterday who ended up being a doctor and It got to me showing them some pretty graphic injury photos that left me with some scars too. Mostly badges of pride for survival and luck |
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"Definitely wouldn't bother us non of us are prefect we'd happily meet scars or not its the connection that matters she wouldn't be here without them and I'm thankful for that x"
Excatly hun alot of us are lucky to be here |
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"I think scars are pretty cool. I was chatting to someone in here yesterday who ended up being a doctor and It got to me showing them some pretty graphic injury photos that left me with some scars too. Mostly badges of pride for survival and luck"
absolutely she definitely shows them as a badge of pride x
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"Definitely wouldn't bother us non of us are prefect we'd happily meet scars or not its the connection that matters she wouldn't be here without them and I'm thankful for that x
Excatly hun alot of us are lucky to be here "
and living life to the fullest x |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Very strange to behave like that.
I'd be very happy that somebody was healthy,safe and recovered personally.
As a masseur,I've seen lots of scars on body parts and it does not have any affection me other than they are alive and well .
Basic respect I'd say.
It's a very odd issue and it's all their problem. |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
things like that bother some and nit others, myself i have a scar that runs from my waistband to just where my ribcage meets i sometimes forget its there and nine if my meets have been put off by it
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?
It shows that your wife has fought illness and injury and survived, I see her as a stronger lady and have full respect for her.
I hope your wife shows off her scars with pride.
RESPECT to both you and your amazing wife.
Ray & Caroline xx"
This ^ and it wouldn’t put me off in the slightest. Same with mum tums I always fab these pictures when I see them to let them know they are appreciated for who they are and what they’ve gone through to earn them. |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
I've got the same scar from heart surgery. I went through a time of not removing my top. Then while at a friend's house party the host mentioned I had a scar and one of the ladies virtual rip my shirt off to her they where a turn on. But looking at the pictures of your good lady who in there right mind would turn down the chance of some fun and games with a incredibly sexy lady.
Don't let other people's opinions put you off.
Stay safe and have fun 👍 😁 😂 |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Personally, I don’t think that you need to “warn” anyone about scars.
They are part of her story and part of who she is. Her “imperfections” are just perfect.
Other people’s opinions do not define her worth. It only means they’re missing out.
I’m sure that your beautiful wife knows that her scars don’t take away from her beauty. X
Mrs L4L
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This post was exactly what I needed to see, thank you to everyone who has contributed!!
I am 3 weeks post surgery, double mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. I now have no nipples and some large scars.
I am nervous to get back to the lifestyle, but all of your lovely comments have made me feel much better!!!!
Thank you all 😘
Mrs W. Xoxo |
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"This post was exactly what I needed to see, thank you to everyone who has contributed!!
I am 3 weeks post surgery, double mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. I now have no nipples and some large scars.
I am nervous to get back to the lifestyle, but all of your lovely comments have made me feel much better!!!!
Thank you all 😘
Mrs W. Xoxo"
you're right this thread has been amazing. Restores You're faith in humanity a little bit. hope you have a speedy recovery and also you look fantastic x. |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?
I've got the same scar from heart surgery. I went through a time of not removing my top. Then while at a friend's house party the host mentioned I had a scar and one of the ladies virtual rip my shirt off to her they where a turn on. But looking at the pictures of your good lady who in there right mind would turn down the chance of some fun and games with a incredibly sexy lady.
Don't let other people's opinions put you off.
Stay safe and have fun 👍 😁 😂 "
thank you x |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?
Personally, I don’t think that you need to “warn” anyone about scars.
They are part of her story and part of who she is. Her “imperfections” are just perfect.
Other people’s opinions do not define her worth. It only means they’re missing out.
I’m sure that your beautiful wife knows that her scars don’t take away from her beauty. X
Mrs L4L
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thanks I think she's stunning scars and all x |
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"Every scary has a story behind it..... definitely wouldn't turn me away.
I have one on my side/back where I had heart surgery at 4 days old. "
hers are from heart surgery too. She wouldn't be here without them x |
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Family member had lung cancer surgery. Via the back
We say its a shark bite. Oh the looks that have been given.
We all have life scars some u can see some that you cant.
Breath in and step forward your all amazing.  |
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"Scars are sexy. Every scar has a story and that makes you interesting and there is nothing more sexy than an interesting person with a good story to tell x"
she definitely has a story to tell and she's happy to tell it to whoever asks x
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"Family member had lung cancer surgery. Via the back
We say its a shark bite. Oh the looks that have been given.
We all have life scars some u can see some that you cant.
Breath in and step forward your all amazing. "
love the shark bite story. Mrs says the ones on her back are where she cut her wings off x |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?
I've got the same scar from heart surgery. I went through a time of not removing my top. Then while at a friend's house party the host mentioned I had a scar and one of the ladies virtual rip my shirt off to her they where a turn on. But looking at the pictures of your good lady who in there right mind would turn down the chance of some fun and games with a incredibly sexy lady.
Don't let other people's opinions put you off.
Stay safe and have fun 👍 😁 😂 "
bet that was a real boost for your self esteem 😁 and thanks for the compliment x |
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Hello, any scars that people have are a part of there journey in life, it would never put me off meeting them, I have own on my tummy from 7 bowel ops in 21 ye8ars, I'm not worried by them at all, I'm here, still breathing, it was a necessary thing to happen, without them I wouldn't be writing this , be proud everyone  |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
I think that by them discontinuing the conversation, says more about than than you.
Scar tissue tell a lot about the individual - it's the story of life, never universally smooth and always bumpy like country bog road.
It will never give the full picture but will illustrate the journey.
The right people will alwayz see beyond them and look to the whole person. |
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I was told by a surgeon that a scar was a sign of a past event; a badge of healing. I have scars from both operations and accidents. I suggest a large percentage of folk have scars, not least women who have had caesarians. If they put anyone off it is their problem! |
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Scars of any kind wouldnt bother me. I know it may for some, so I actually offer to show them before even getting to a social.
I have a healing scar on my neck from a recent operation and it is still in the healing stage. I like to be up front about it, and if they want to see, I share. Most dont though |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Scars are a sign that despite life going wrong in some way you have got through it.
I have scars which I am happy to show.
Your wife looks beautiful to me as she is au naturel. |
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"Scars of any kind wouldnt bother me. I know it may for some, so I actually offer to show them before even getting to a social.
I have a healing scar on my neck from a recent operation and it is still in the healing stage. I like to be up front about it, and if they want to see, I share. Most dont though"
Another beautiful looking lady 😘😘 |
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Scars don't bother me but some people find they aren't to their taste for many reasons. I don't like big beards or moustaches ( I know it's not quite the same) so I'd probably turn down a meet with someone who has them although perversely I quite like how Joe Marler looks.
If you mention it and people decide it's not for them it just means you're incompatible. |
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It wouldn't bother me. We've all got scars of some way or another. The beet thing is she's still with you. People like that aren't worth worrying about. You'll meet plenty of people willing to meet. Unfortunately some people are superficial. |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Nope, no bother at all. a scar is just a different shade and texture of skin |
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"This post was exactly what I needed to see, thank you to everyone who has contributed!!
I am 3 weeks post surgery, double mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. I now have no nipples and some large scars.
I am nervous to get back to the lifestyle, but all of your lovely comments have made me feel much better!!!!
Thank you all 😘
Mrs W. Xoxo you're right this thread has been amazing. Restores You're faith in humanity a little bit. hope you have a speedy recovery and also you look fantastic x. "
Thank you so much. This thread is truly awesome, the support for everyone is incredible! What a wonderful community.
Once I'm feeling a bit more confident I will add my new boobs to our profile. Xx |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
I nearly died in a house fire 4 years ago this month. No pulse or heartbeat when dragged out (faulty cooker wiring.)
I was in a coma for 36 hours with a 50/50 chance. I have a burn scar that covers about 80% of my back. I'd be interested in people's thoughts on this. |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?
I nearly died in a house fire 4 years ago this month. No pulse or heartbeat when dragged out (faulty cooker wiring.)
I was in a coma for 36 hours with a 50/50 chance. I have a burn scar that covers about 80% of my back. I'd be interested in people's thoughts on this."
first of all wow amazing that you went through that and still came out the other side x and from what we've seen in this thread you shouldn't have anything to worry about connection and personality count for so much more in this lifestyle than we realised x |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
I would not be put off at all you did right to be upfront with them, it says more about them than you.
I was stabbed yrs ago in the back tbh i usually mention to folk then they can make informed decision.
I do not think many in life go through life with scars etc.
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
It's part of life and the couple sound to be very shallow if that put them off, we all carry scares of some kind .... I would say you are better off without having met that couple ...xx |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Would not bother me in the slightest. Would love to meet you both. Being bi, I do mean you both.
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Stacey has similar scars for the same reason OP, it’s never put her off and so far doesn’t seem to put other people off either, Some people are just weird, wouldn’t put us off, be good to compare lengths….. of the scars…. Honestly some people’s minds go straight to the gutter!! |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Wouldn't bother me at all, part of life things happen, scars happen, and if they are open to talking about them then it's a topic of conversation too. |
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By *-and-GCouple 2 weeks ago
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I’d imagine it’s quite faded if she had it as a child ( my daughter had open heart surgery at 2 and at 20 it’s very faded )
But don’t think it’s an issue at all. I’d only be curious to how she / anyone got scars but still wouldn’t ask ! I’m just nosey !
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By *roop69Man 2 weeks ago
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Wouldn’t put me off unfortunately it’s part of life I’ve just come out of surgery I’ve had a knee replacement and a impressive scar will be had I’m sure I always think about if it will put people off |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?
Stacey has similar scars for the same reason OP, it’s never put her off and so far doesn’t seem to put other people off either, Some people are just weird, wouldn’t put us off, be good to compare lengths….. of the scars…. Honestly some people’s minds go straight to the gutter!!"
it's a pity you live so far away as comparing lengths sounds fun 😁 |
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"Wouldn’t put me off unfortunately it’s part of life I’ve just come out of surgery I’ve had a knee replacement and a impressive scar will be had I’m sure I always think about if it will put people off "
from what we've learnt from this thread it's a very small percentage most people aren't bothered by them X hope you have a speedy recovery x
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"I’d imagine it’s quite faded if she had it as a child ( my daughter had open heart surgery at 2 and at 20 it’s very faded )
But don’t think it’s an issue at all. I’d only be curious to how she / anyone got scars but still wouldn’t ask ! I’m just nosey ! Her front scar is quite thin but still noticeable the ones on her back are quite wide and noticeable as they have grown and stretched as she's got older x
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"This post was exactly what I needed to see, thank you to everyone who has contributed!!
I am 3 weeks post surgery, double mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. I now have no nipples and some large scars.
I am nervous to get back to the lifestyle, but all of your lovely comments have made me feel much better!!!!
Thank you all 😘
Mrs W. Xoxo you're right this thread has been amazing. Restores You're faith in humanity a little bit. hope you have a speedy recovery and also you look fantastic x.
Thank you so much. This thread is truly awesome, the support for everyone is incredible! What a wonderful community.
Once I'm feeling a bit more confident I will add my new boobs to our profile. Xx "
Get the Bio oil out its amazing. Ur doing amazing  |
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"I've got scars from 2 hip replacements, quite lengthy scars and still healing. I don't think to tell guys that I have them and they've never been remarked on. "
Very recent as can't see them in your pictures or vids x |
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By *rs BxxWoman 2 weeks ago
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"I've got scars from 2 hip replacements, quite lengthy scars and still healing. I don't think to tell guys that I have them and they've never been remarked on.
Very recent as can't see them in your pictures or vids x"
The first one was 2 years ago andlast one was just over a year ago. But not really any pics of my hips |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Not in the slightest if we’d clicked on everything else |
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By *oobaaMan 2 weeks ago
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I have a few little scars and one very noticable one from when I was stabbed working on the doors years ago...they are part of me. Oddly enough , the smallest one is the one that nearly took my life.
Give your Mrs a cuddle and be thankful she is here. |
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By *rs BxxWoman 2 weeks ago
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"ah fair enough if not got pictures, are the healing but started to fade? do you have most of your range of hip motion back or do you still have to do some kind of physio? x"
All is good now thank you for asking. They were both a success and I have full motion back. Before I couldn't sit astride a guy, now it my favourite position again. |
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"ah fair enough if not got pictures, are the healing but started to fade? do you have most of your range of hip motion back or do you still have to do some kind of physio? x
All is good now thank you for asking. They were both a success and I have full motion back. Before I couldn't sit astride a guy, now it my favourite position again. "
that's great news for you and whoever is lucky enough to have you astride them x |
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By *ickawitchCouple 2 weeks ago
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We all have scars or blemishes of some kind, it’s part of life. So anyone who is put of by this is living in a fantasy world. I would imagine 99% of the ladies they lust after have staples in the middle page.
She should be proud of her scars and that she survived. |
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Numerous years ago I had 30 pc body deep tissue burns.,resulting with a lot of skin grafts and also scarring from the body donor sites, does it bother me? Only sometimes, but honestly I'm too old to care if others don't like it. |
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"We all have scars or blemishes of some kind, it’s part of life. So anyone who is put of by this is living in a fantasy world. I would imagine 99% of the ladies they lust after have staples in the middle page.
She should be proud of her scars and that she survived. "
she's immensely proud of them x |
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Scars are definitely the tattoos of a life lived, your wife’s zipper is incredibly neat and well faded hardly noticeable, I also have a few good scars including a zipper, do other peoples scars intrigue me and are definitely not off putting.
Mr. |
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How incredibly stupid they must be, then.
Scars are real and reflect what has happened to your wife over the years. I don't see why they're significantly different to tattoos or similar.
Astonishes me just how unpleasant some people are in Fab. The loss is theirs. |
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I’m covered in scars, mainly on my forearms and they are very prominent , the ones on my neck less so and the ones on my legs you can see slightly.
The face scars are noticeable but mainly to me because I’m paranoid about them but it shows I survived being with a not so nice ex and that I’m still here.
It’s strange no one at clubs or meets mentions them yet strangers in vanilla pubs often ask what they are or how I got them. The worst thing was my previous employer asked me to cover them up because they were offending people. I didn’t realise at the time because I was so humiliated that I could have taken them to hr for that. I hope no one is put off by scars but there really is nothing I can do about it and if they are then they are not for me. The same for you OP anyone that stops chatting or rejects because of that isn’t worth your precious time |
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"Family member had lung cancer surgery. Via the back
We say its a shark bite. Oh the looks that have been given.
We all have life scars some u can see some that you cant.
Breath in and step forward your all amazing. "
Lol, I've used similar if I want to appear 'well ard' - I got knifed in a pub!!. Actually it's a scary from surgery at 3-4wks old. |
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Hi, not sure if you have looked or even thought about it, but there is an amazing tattooist called Katie in Barton upon Humber and she does incredible 3D nipple and areole tattoos which look so real they’re amazing, we recommended her to a friend who has just had a double mastectomy; her work is on Facebook under Katie Harrington Tattoos.
"This post was exactly what I needed to see, thank you to everyone who has contributed!!
I am 3 weeks post surgery, double mastectomy with immediate reconstruction. I now have no nipples and some large scars.
I am nervous to get back to the lifestyle, but all of your lovely comments have made me feel much better!!!!
Thank you all 😘
Mrs W. Xoxo"
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"I’m covered in scars, mainly on my forearms and they are very prominent , the ones on my neck less so and the ones on my legs you can see slightly.
The face scars are noticeable but mainly to me because I’m paranoid about them but it shows I survived being with a not so nice ex and that I’m still here.
It’s strange no one at clubs or meets mentions them yet strangers in vanilla pubs often ask what they are or how I got them. The worst thing was my previous employer asked me to cover them up because they were offending people. I didn’t realise at the time because I was so humiliated that I could have taken them to hr for that. I hope no one is put off by scars but there really is nothing I can do about it and if they are then they are not for me. The same for you OP anyone that stops chatting or rejects because of that isn’t worth your precious time "
we've noticed that people in the clubs are curious and want to hear how she got them. But always respectfully |
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"PS.
Now I've looked!
WHAT scars!? Absolutely incredible work by the surgeon on her chest..."
thanks X they are very neat on the front. The shoulder ones are a bit bigger as they've stretched as she's grown. She's so proud of them x |
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"Scars are definitely the tattoos of a life lived, your wife’s zipper is incredibly neat and well faded hardly noticeable, I also have a few good scars including a zipper, do other peoples scars intrigue me and are definitely not off putting.
Mr."
she loves to meet other members of the zipper club x |
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"Scars are definitely the tattoos of a life lived, your wife’s zipper is incredibly neat and well faded hardly noticeable, I also have a few good scars including a zipper, do other peoples scars intrigue me and are definitely not off putting.
Mr. she loves to meet other members of the zipper club x"
It’s been six years but I still get chest pain on left but dozens of ECGs say I’m ok. |
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Everyone has things they are self conscious about. Celebrities with “perfect” bodies still go for surgery.
Scars, birth marks, skin conditions etc are all part of life. Very low of people to judge others on something they can’t control. Embrace what you have and be proud of you. Confidence is the biggest attraction |
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Doesn't bother me in the slightest, in fact they fascinate me. They all tell a story of life
I've several large ones from spinal and gall bladder surgery as well as dozens of kitchen scars and burns. |
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"Doesn't bother me in the slightest, in fact they fascinate me. They all tell a story of life
I've several large ones from spinal and gall bladder surgery as well as dozens of kitchen scars and burns."
they show a life well lived x |
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"Mr here. So Mrs has some fairly prominent surgery scars on her upper body with a large heart surgery scar between her boobs as well as two large scars across her shoulder blades. I was wondering how people thought about things like that as we were messaging a couple and planning a meet when I mentioned them so they wouldn't be surprised or put off when the time came. They immediately stopped messaging us. So would it bother Any of you guys?"
Scars are part of life and showcase the battles we’ve fought and won, so no they wouldn’t put me off at all |
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P.s Op your wife looks great x