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CLUB Ettiquete
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"Keys!! This may be just my pet hate but I really hate the jangle of the locker key when playing with someone. We often invite people to watch and there is nothing more off putting that hearing that key jangle when a guy is having a play with himself while watching! Put it on your ankle please! "Yes!!! I have a little makeup bag with essentials in that I put my key in. It is really off putting. | |||
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"What are the specialist events where hygiene is unimportant ? I'm not sure anyone would want to play with someone who had just told them they had a STI. Should they be playing at all ?" Certain fetishism nights offer smelly cock things. I'm not keen at all. Goes without saying in terms of STI's but always better to be honest. | |||
" Certain fetishism nights offer smelly cock things. I'm not keen at all." I'm trying to think what the event would be called | |||
" Certain fetishism nights offer smelly cock things. I'm not keen at all. I'm trying to think what the event would be called" Oh it is def a thing. | |||
" Certain fetishism nights offer smelly cock things. I'm not keen at all. I'm trying to think what the event would be called Oh it is def a thing. " It's called Olfactophilia (Body odours)  | |||
" It's called Olfactophilia (Body odours) " | |||
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"Great Post. Sorry to ask if its elsewhere in the forum. Couples. Are they better to attend a certain night? And what's the dress code? " Couples with straight males it’s better on Fridays from our experience, but both are decent nights. Dress code is lingerie or towel for women, shorts/towel for men x | |||
"Great Post. Sorry to ask if its elsewhere in the forum. Couples. Are they better to attend a certain night? And what's the dress code? Couples with straight males it’s better on Fridays from our experience, but both are decent nights. Dress code is lingerie or towel for women, shorts/towel for men x" Thank you x | |||
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" Certain fetishism nights offer smelly cock things. I'm not keen at all. I'm trying to think what the event would be called" Cheese festival | |||
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" Certain fetishism nights offer smelly cock things. I'm not keen at all. I'm trying to think what the event would be called Cheese festival "   | |||
"What a great post. Wish we had seen something like this before our first time. I suppose we were lucky though to have been shown the ropes but not everyone is as lucky and it’s difficult to know what to and what not to do as a club newbie. "It was my pleasure 
Excellent thread! Wish everyone would read and take note
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"Helpful post , we hope to pluck up the courage to go. I think it would be good to know the main rule though. Would the male be overdressed in a t shirt and shorts? The wife would be fine in her underwear, but I'm no six pack, more low end dad bod." When you arrive you will need to change. You can wear the shorts if you wish or a towel but nobody wears t shirts | |||
"Helpful post , we hope to pluck up the courage to go. I think it would be good to know the main rule though. Would the male be overdressed in a t shirt and shorts? The wife would be fine in her underwear, but I'm no six pack, more low end dad bod. When you arrive you will need to change. You can wear the shorts if you wish or a towel but nobody wears t shirts " Do many wear shorts? I always imagined it would be towels or naked. Personally I'd feel much more comfortable in shorts. | |||
"Helpful post , we hope to pluck up the courage to go. I think it would be good to know the main rule though. Would the male be overdressed in a t shirt and shorts? The wife would be fine in her underwear, but I'm no six pack, more low end dad bod." Your question seems to imply you are enquiring about Chams. It's a 'wet club', so men are expected/required to dress down to their underwear, but using the supplied towel as a sarong is common practice. Other clubs are 'dry clubs', like Angels, Route69, Xstasia etc and in these types of venue, sexy 'normal' clothing is required in public areas, in private rooms obviously anything suitable goes. So a man can wear a suit if he chooses to, or jeans and shirt for example. A lady can wear a Saturday night out clubbing dress. Clothing guidance can be found in the Clubs section of the website for each venue, should you wish to do your own research. | |||
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"Standing/sitting and staring at someone is probably not a great look either. At least to try to smile when I get caught " | |||
"With the weekend finally here and lots of new fresh faces thinking about going to clubs for the first time this weekend, I thought it might be useful to give you some tips on club etiquette. Please feel free to join in with your advice and or experience. Here goes... Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY. 1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the r word. Respect everyone. 2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on. 3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first. 4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine. HYGEINE!!! Unless you are attending a specialist night, make sure your hygiene is on top form. Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason. CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping safe and ensuring that the fun can continue. Also if you know you have an STI then make sure you tell the other person. It's also a good idea to get tested every once and a while. Their are websites you can order to your door. Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design their for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room. Have I missed anything?" Great post. Just to add to your last point. Expectations, go with none but tons of respect and you may come home smiling!! That doesn’t mean you will have fucked your way through the club but it means you might have made some new friends. What do friends do…verify  | |||
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"Very helpful thread,hope.to visit soon,although don't think.im comfortable in just underwear yet" You can wear whatever you’re comfortable in … no one will mind | |||
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"I'm trying to think what it's like!Is it awkward to.talk to.people when your half naked" Everyone’s really friendly … plus everyone’s dressed down too. It’s a really relaxed environment You’ll love it | |||
"I'm trying to think what it's like!Is it awkward to.talk to.people when your half naked" I went for the first time last night, it’s just the same as talking to people in bikinis/shorts around a pool or at the beach only most women are a little more covered than a Bikini wearing basques! There was no awkwardness at all other then people recognising my profile and myself having no idea who they are even after being told their user name! | |||
"I'm trying to think what it's like!Is it awkward to.talk to.people when your half naked I went for the first time last night, it’s just the same as talking to people in bikinis/shorts around a pool or at the beach only most women are a little more covered than a Bikini wearing basques! There was no awkwardness at all other then people recognising my profile and myself having no idea who they are even after being told their user name!" It was great to see you there last night lovely x | |||
"I'm trying to think what it's like!Is it awkward to.talk to.people when your half naked" It's a great leveller. I find it makes for friendly, open conversation. | |||
"It was great to see you there last night lovely x" Seconded. | |||
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can't wait for my first visit | |||
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"Anywhere you want "Except the hot tubs | |||
"Except the hot tubs" Doesn't seem to stop everyone. | |||
"Anywhere you want
Except the hot tubs"Why not the hot tubs ?? Iv had some amazing orgys over the years in the tub! | |||
"Anywhere you want
Except the hot tubs
Why not the hot tubs ?? Iv had some amazing orgys over the years in the tub! "In some clubs you can't play in them, that's why | |||
"Anywhere you want
Except the hot tubs
Why not the hot tubs ?? Iv had some amazing orgys over the years in the tub!
In some clubs you can't play in them, that's why "No one told me that  | |||
"Anywhere you want
Except the hot tubs
Why not the hot tubs ?? Iv had some amazing orgys over the years in the tub!
In some clubs you can't play in them, that's why
No one told me that "You can at The Greenhouse | |||
" Certain fetishism nights offer smelly cock things. I'm not keen at all. I'm trying to think what the event would be called" Smegma | |||
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"With the weekend finally here and lots of new fresh faces thinking about going to clubs for the first time this weekend, I thought it might be useful to give you some tips on club etiquette. Please feel free to join in with your advice and or experience. Here goes... Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY. 1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the r word. Respect everyone. 2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on. 3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first. 4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine. HYGEINE!!! Unless you are attending a specialist night, make sure your hygiene is on top form. Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason. CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping safe and ensuring that the fun can continue. Also if you know you have an STI then make sure you tell the other person. It's also a good idea to get tested every once and a while. Their are websites you can order to your door. Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design their for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room. Have I missed anything?" I haven’t been to a club... yet. But this post has given me some insight and I’m intrigued. So thanks for letting me know the ground rules. Definitely want to attend one some day in the future. It’s good to have a little bit of knowledge about it before going in. Thanks again | |||
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"Also a tip even for the seasoned clubbers… if you’ve played with someone before, that doesn’t then give you consent to touch them every time you see them at the club. Consent is still needed, not just a given as it’s had been in the past!" 100% this | |||
"Anywhere you want
Except the hot tubs
Why not the hot tubs ?? Iv had some amazing orgys over the years in the tub!
In some clubs you can't play in them, that's why
No one told me that "It's the floaters for the next users that's the problem!!! Gbat | |||
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