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By *ojangles OP Man
over a year ago
Windy Wales |
Sometimes you ask yourself what’s the point !!!!
It really boils my P””ss as when you go out the way to message an hello of a structure of more than 3 words !!! Only to get blocked …
Some on here need reality check !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do people need a reality check for blocking you? They've done you a favour by preventing you wasting any more of your time on someone who isn't interested in you. It's a useful tool. People shouldn't take it so personally   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do they need a reality check? Maybe you're just not what they're looking for. Personally I only block after repeated messages, it's almost as though they don't get the hint that I'm not interested because I haven't answered the first one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do they need a reality check? Maybe you're just not what they're looking for. Personally I only block after repeated messages, it's almost as though they don't get the hint that I'm not interested because I haven't answered the first one "
This. |
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Its good to understand consent and your personal domains. Blocking is a function of someone protecting their domain.
My, thoughts, feelings, actions, my time and my body are all part of my domain, how i use them is my responsibility. If people want to enter in my domain, I choose if they can partake and get to know any parts of my domain. Projecting onto another Persons domain doesn't fall under consent. You're not responsible for anothers feelings, and they aren't responsible for yours.
Blocking someone is thus a tool for managing consent.
Not necessarily a reflection on the rejection of you, which may hurt, but them honouring themselves. Which as a grounded guy. I love that a woman can say No, and have it accepted without drama or projection.
More understanding can be found as a start via Betty Martins Wheel of Consent website and book. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But surely a polite no thank isn’t out of order .
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Some men will continue to pester and pester if you reply. Easier to block and move on. Don't beat yourself up about it. |
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Mate I've got friends on here that literally have the number 1300+ on their messages. It's just impossible to reply. Don't let it get to you, I rarely bother messaging anyone anymore as it's pointless. Meet and chat to people in socials, you'll do much better |
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By *utty200Couple
over a year ago
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"But surely a polite no thank isn’t out of order .
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Typing a polite no thank you 50 or 60 times a day then dealing with the " can I ask why ? " or abusive messages tends to drain you after a while , it's well documented on site rules that no reply means no but thanks , don't take it as a personal insult |
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By *ojangles OP Man
over a year ago
Windy Wales |
Iv been here 4 yrs on n off and know the score.
I’m not needing advice how to meet ..
Just a question ,so tell me what’s the diff between
Good morning how are you etc
Or
Fancy a fuck ?
Do they both warrant an instant block ?
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"Iv been here 4 yrs on n off and know the score.
I’m not needing advice how to meet ..
Just a question ,so tell me what’s the diff between
Good morning how are you etc
Or
Fancy a fuck ?
Do they both warrant an instant block ?
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Yes, if the profile is of no interest |
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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago
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"But surely a polite no thank isn’t out of order .
When a polite no thanks is given, either get abuse or stupid "don't know what your missing" messages so it's easier just to block sometimes"
Init just....  |
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We have had many messages from guys asking to meet up ect we reply a polite no thanks then a day or 2 later same account same message gets sent again so yes we can see why some people choose to block others |
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Use the block button as a filter. If my message gets deleted then I block, I don't want to waste anyone's time.
If someone's not for me I block, I don't want profiles I'm not interested in to clog up any searches.
Someone blocks me, I block back.
It's just a tool, it's nothing personal. |
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"Iv been here 4 yrs on n off and know the score.
I’m not needing advice how to meet ..
Just a question ,so tell me what’s the diff between
Good morning how are you etc
Or
Fancy a fuck ?
Do they both warrant an instant block ?
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Both types typically end up in a 'no thanks', just one gets there sooner so it's best to shut things down with a block.
Good morning, how are you?
Good thanks. How are you?
Good thanks. How's your day going?
Not bad, yours?
Not bad. Would you like to meet?
No thanks.
Repeat for the other 50 'how are you' messages or just block? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Use the block button as a filter. If my message gets deleted then I block, I don't want to waste anyone's time.
If someone's not for me I block, I don't want profiles I'm not interested in to clog up any searches.
Someone blocks me, I block back.
It's just a tool, it's nothing personal. "
How do you block back? |
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"Use the block button as a filter. If my message gets deleted then I block, I don't want to waste anyone's time.
If someone's not for me I block, I don't want profiles I'm not interested in to clog up any searches.
Someone blocks me, I block back.
It's just a tool, it's nothing personal.
How do you block back?"
When you click a profile that's blocked you the message comes up. Up the top is the standard tool bar with message,wink, hotlist and menu. Click menu and the block button is still there. Just block as normal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Use the block button as a filter. If my message gets deleted then I block, I don't want to waste anyone's time.
If someone's not for me I block, I don't want profiles I'm not interested in to clog up any searches.
Someone blocks me, I block back.
It's just a tool, it's nothing personal.
How do you block back?
When you click a profile that's blocked you the message comes up. Up the top is the standard tool bar with message,wink, hotlist and menu. Click menu and the block button is still there. Just block as normal. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mate I've got friends on here that literally have the number 1300+ on their messages. It's just impossible to reply. Don't let it get to you, I rarely bother messaging anyone anymore as it's pointless. Meet and chat to people in socials, you'll do much better "
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"Sometimes you ask yourself what’s the point !!!!
It really boils my P””ss as when you go out the way to message an hello of a structure of more than 3 words !!! Only to get blocked …
Some on here need reality check !! "
Your anger when women aren't interested in you tells me that they've dodged a bullet. |
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"Use the block button as a filter. If my message gets deleted then I block, I don't want to waste anyone's time.
If someone's not for me I block, I don't want profiles I'm not interested in to clog up any searches.
Someone blocks me, I block back.
It's just a tool, it's nothing personal.
How do you block back?
When you click a profile that's blocked you the message comes up. Up the top is the standard tool bar with message,wink, hotlist and menu. Click menu and the block button is still there. Just block as normal.
Fab thanks "
Anytime pretty lady. |
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"Sometimes you ask yourself what’s the point !!!!
It really boils my P””ss as when you go out the way to message an hello of a structure of more than 3 words !!! Only to get blocked …
Some on here need reality check !!
Your anger when women aren't interested in you tells me that they've dodged a bullet. "
Roger you old devil how are you my friend? Devilish I hope |
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By *ojangles OP Man
over a year ago
Windy Wales |
"Sometimes you ask yourself what’s the point !!!!
It really boils my P””ss as when you go out the way to message an hello of a structure of more than 3 words !!! Only to get blocked …
Some on here need reality check !!
Your anger when women aren't interested in you tells me that they've dodged a bullet. "
Who the hell are you ??? To quote on me when a simple question was asked ..
The typical keyboard warrior .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got blocked by a female for not having a profile picture knowing there’s some in my friends request and this particular female didn’t have any pictures at all I do believe many on here are genuine and some is confidence building and a small minority are time wasters |
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By *tagVixCouple
over a year ago
Swansea |
It's not worth replying. You get a torrent of abuse back, it's not fair to assume everyone is the same, but it's necessary Unfortunately.
We tend to block anyone we aren't interested in it saves them and us wasting our time messaging again.
The small handful of people ruin it for the majority. |
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"Who the hell are you ??? To quote on me when a simple question was asked ..
The typical keyboard warrior .
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1) I'm happy to show my face on here in public, unlike some.
2) You're using a keyboard too.
I quoted what you said because I was responding to it. That's how forums work.
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"Who the hell are you ??? To quote on me when a simple question was asked ..
The typical keyboard warrior .
1) I'm happy to show my face on here in public, unlike some.
2) You're using a keyboard too.
I quoted what you said because I was responding to it. That's how forums work.
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I called in sick from work just to be in this thread don’t want to miss a thing lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who the hell are you ??? To quote on me when a simple question was asked ..
The typical keyboard warrior .
1) I'm happy to show my face on here in public, unlike some.
2) You're using a keyboard too.
I quoted what you said because I was responding to it. That's how forums work.
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Ah Roger you old charmer, making new friends.
I have met you in person and actually find you a very nice chap so if that answers your question OP he's a very nice guy who was contributing to this post |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your aggression levels in your post and in your replies is quite off putting and Un-necessary.
I get your frustration, but venting in here isn’t going to make your luck go the other way. Maybe rethink your approach and make your messages a bit more interesting and personalised. That will maximise your chances of a reply. |
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"Sometimes you ask yourself what’s the point !!!!
It really boils my P””ss as when you go out the way to message an hello of a structure of more than 3 words !!! Only to get blocked …
Some on here need reality check !! "
What sort of reality check? I don't understand that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheers, Simon. The simple fact is that nobody owes the OP a reply, no matter how polite he is, and if that boils his piss, he's the one in need of a reality check. "
No worries Roger, just like many here I get messages deleted and blocked all the time, it's part of fab. I just choose to move on |
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"Your aggression levels in your post and in your replies is quite off putting and Un-necessary.
I get your frustration, but venting in here isn’t going to make your luck go the other way. Maybe rethink your approach and make your messages a bit more interesting and personalised. That will maximise your chances of a reply. "
Exactly, a lot of single men don't seem to comprehend this... 'hey' or a typical copy and paste, we just ignore. Don't get me started on the ones who send the same message over and over again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exactly, a lot of single men don't seem to comprehend this... 'hey' or a typical copy and paste, we just ignore. Don't get me started on the ones who send the same message over and over again!"
Something I never do, your first introduction determines whether you are of interest or not, one liners don't cut it. |
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You're a single fella. Most couples / women will approach you if they are interested - rather than the other way around.
If all you have is "Hi how are you" that is really a poor effort.
Basically - suck it up - not everyone wants to be your friend (just like in life).
How many times have you hit on single women or couples with the "Hi - how are you / how is your day" etc I bet it's thousands in the hope that someone responds.
Still like you said - you dont need meet advice. Good luck in your endless search.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mate I've got friends on here that literally have the number 1300+ on their messages. It's just impossible to reply. Don't let it get to you, I rarely bother messaging anyone anymore as it's pointless. Meet and chat to people in socials, you'll do much better "
Exactly this. Sometimes, unfortunately, it's just not possible to reply to every message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes you ask yourself what’s the point !!!!
It really boils my P””ss as when you go out the way to message an hello of a structure of more than 3 words !!! Only to get blocked …
Some on here need reality check !!
Your anger when women aren't interested in you tells me that they've dodged a bullet.
Who the hell are you ??? To quote on me when a simple question was asked ..
The typical keyboard warrior .
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Why are you so angry about this? No one owes you anything, whether it's a reply or a shag. |
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Exactly, a lot of single men don't seem to comprehend this... 'hey' or a typical copy and paste, we just ignore. Don't get me started on the ones who send the same message over and over again!
Something I never do, your first introduction determines whether you are of interest or not, one liners don't cut it."
You're one of the rare ones, and fab is a better place for it! |
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I think you are the one who needs the reality check, FFS, this is an ADULT site, so pick your toys up and put them back in the pram. You are a tiny fish in a massive pond! So someone blocked you after you put all the effort of typing a few words, REALY, get over yourself FFS. Single women are inundated with messages everyday, couples get messaged everyday ... are people supposed to bow down to you because you typed a paragraph rather than a sentence. |
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By *ttoWoman
over a year ago
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"Who the hell are you ??? To quote on me when a simple question was asked ..
The typical keyboard warrior .
1) I'm happy to show my face on here in public, unlike some.
2) You're using a keyboard too.
I quoted what you said because I was responding to it. That's how forums work.
I called in sick from work just to be in this thread don’t want to miss a thing lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Use the block button as a filter. If my message gets deleted then I block, I don't want to waste anyone's time.
If someone's not for me I block, I don't want profiles I'm not interested in to clog up any searches.
Someone blocks me, I block back.
It's just a tool, it's nothing personal. "
As above - block and be damned! |
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By *elshbi2Couple
over a year ago
Swansea |
We just wish single guys would read profiles and see what people are looking for. However we would block people if they kept pestering us with messages after we have politely said, that they are not what we are looking for. And to be honest most guys say ok no probs take care. |
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"All I'm getting from this thread is that everyone loves Roger, well apart from the op obviously 
I love Roger and I don't even know him  "
I know Roger, top bloke. Can't beat me in ten pin bowling though
But that's ok because he knows more about real ales than I do |
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"Sometimes you ask yourself what’s the point !!!!
It really boils my P””ss as when you go out the way to message an hello of a structure of more than 3 words !!! Only to get blocked …
Some on here need reality check !! "
Life's hard and then you die
Stop whining |
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Are your messages actually being read, tho? Mine usually just disappear into the void when I hit ‘send’, to forever be ignored 
But you just have to accept it on this site - there’s not enough hours in the day for the single ladies to read (let alone reply!) to all the messages they receive! |
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By *iving Bi a TryMan
over a year ago
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"Who the hell are you ??? To quote on me when a simple question was asked ..
The typical keyboard warrior .
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You come across as very angry mate. Nobody here seems to agree with you and you're turning your anger on them because of it.
If you don't want to be blocked, I think you've chosen the wrong path here. This will get you blocked by a few more people I imagine!
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I am sooo glad I no longer have a single male profile with which to reply to this thread. My response would be so much more caustic than what this one is. But seeing as everything I do or say involves someone else now, I will say this....
So many of the previous posts are accurate. The OP vented frustration and that can be understandable - to a point. Venting that frustration on a forum which is frequented by some of the most active Wales swingers is definitely not understandable. All it does is scream 'Me Me Me Me Me! I am better than all those others! ". Which let's be fair, if that were true, you would not be venting frustration because you would be, errr, inundudated.
You had a bad day OP, and that's understandable. I have had many. Very many. And worse than you. And that's why I am no longer willing to be on the site as a 'single male' even though I could probably be pigeonholed as one. Posting this thread was a bad move. I know because I have done similar things. Many, many times.
The reason I can speak at all with any dignity? I got out there. I met people at socials, I went to clubs and attended any parties I was lucky to be invited to. People who knew me could tell when I was having a bad day on here. And they politely told me to fuck off, or spoke to me a few days later when they could tell I was over it. I now call them friends. And they likewise about me.
I hope you have some Fab people who know you OP as a friend, because this thread helped you about as much as some of mine helped me in the past. And I don't have the gall to bother registering again as a single male, because I have fucked up too much.
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"I am sooo glad I no longer have a single male profile with which to reply to this thread. My response would be so much more caustic than what this one is. But seeing as everything I do or say involves someone else now, I will say this....
So many of the previous posts are accurate. The OP vented frustration and that can be understandable - to a point. Venting that frustration on a forum which is frequented by some of the most active Wales swingers is definitely not understandable. All it does is scream 'Me Me Me Me Me! I am better than all those others! ". Which let's be fair, if that were true, you would not be venting frustration because you would be, errr, inundudated.
You had a bad day OP, and that's understandable. I have had many. Very many. And worse than you. And that's why I am no longer willing to be on the site as a 'single male' even though I could probably be pigeonholed as one. Posting this thread was a bad move. I know because I have done similar things. Many, many times.
The reason I can speak at all with any dignity? I got out there. I met people at socials, I went to clubs and attended any parties I was lucky to be invited to. People who knew me could tell when I was having a bad day on here. And they politely told me to fuck off, or spoke to me a few days later when they could tell I was over it. I now call them friends. And they likewise about me.
I hope you have some Fab people who know you OP as a friend, because this thread helped you about as much as some of mine helped me in the past. And I don't have the gall to bother registering again as a single male, because I have fucked up too much.
--Lord. "
I wish I was as eloquent as this chap. Hopefully meet you at a social sometime sir |
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"I wish I was as eloquent as this chap. Hopefully meet you at a social sometime sir "
Kind words, I am sure that we will cross paths at a social event sooner rather than later .
You only need look out for the hoodie with our name on it, at most events . |
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"I am sooo glad I no longer have a single male profile with which to reply to this thread. My response would be so much more caustic than what this one is. But seeing as everything I do or say involves someone else now, I will say this....
So many of the previous posts are accurate. The OP vented frustration and that can be understandable - to a point. Venting that frustration on a forum which is frequented by some of the most active Wales swingers is definitely not understandable. All it does is scream 'Me Me Me Me Me! I am better than all those others! ". Which let's be fair, if that were true, you would not be venting frustration because you would be, errr, inundudated.
You had a bad day OP, and that's understandable. I have had many. Very many. And worse than you. And that's why I am no longer willing to be on the site as a 'single male' even though I could probably be pigeonholed as one. Posting this thread was a bad move. I know because I have done similar things. Many, many times.
The reason I can speak at all with any dignity? I got out there. I met people at socials, I went to clubs and attended any parties I was lucky to be invited to. People who knew me could tell when I was having a bad day on here. And they politely told me to fuck off, or spoke to me a few days later when they could tell I was over it. I now call them friends. And they likewise about me.
I hope you have some Fab people who know you OP as a friend, because this thread helped you about as much as some of mine helped me in the past. And I don't have the gall to bother registering again as a single male, because I have fucked up too much.
--Lord. "
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As the Lord most eloquently puts it this site can be immensely frustrating as a single male, but I equally understand that being bombarded with unwanted messages can be equally frustrating, though I will never experience the latter
I totally get the use of a block is far easier than a couple of lines of explaining.
I try to only message those who seem to be a match and always try to write a few lines after reading and understanding a profile, so those that end in a block do hurt a little.
Life's too short to be angry so I just swallow my pride and try again. Though I only have one meet so far from Fab I have managed a few good chats so enough positives to keep me going.
These threads also help in understanding its nothing personal and no offence meant. |
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"Use the block button as a filter. If my message gets deleted then I block, I don't want to waste anyone's time.
If someone's not for me I block, I don't want profiles I'm not interested in to clog up any searches.
Someone blocks me, I block back.
It's just a tool, it's nothing personal.
How do you block back?
When you click a profile that's blocked you the message comes up. Up the top is the standard tool bar with message,wink, hotlist and menu. Click menu and the block button is still there. Just block as normal.
Fab thanks
Anytime pretty lady. "
smooth, like melted galaxy chocolate.. |
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over a year ago
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"I wish I was as eloquent as this chap. Hopefully meet you at a social sometime sir
Kind words, I am sure that we will cross paths at a social event sooner rather than later .
You only need look out for the hoodie with our name on it, at most events . "
I keep meaning to come and say hello to you at the socials but by the time I’m brave enough you leave. Lol!!! |
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"Use the block button as a filter. If my message gets deleted then I block, I don't want to waste anyone's time.
If someone's not for me I block, I don't want profiles I'm not interested in to clog up any searches.
Someone blocks me, I block back.
It's just a tool, it's nothing personal.
How do you block back?
When you click a profile that's blocked you the message comes up. Up the top is the standard tool bar with message,wink, hotlist and menu. Click menu and the block button is still there. Just block as normal.
Fab thanks
Anytime pretty lady. smooth, like melted galaxy chocolate.. "
Why have cotton when you can have silk  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Use the block button as a filter. If my message gets deleted then I block, I don't want to waste anyone's time.
If someone's not for me I block, I don't want profiles I'm not interested in to clog up any searches.
Someone blocks me, I block back.
It's just a tool, it's nothing personal.
How do you block back?
When you click a profile that's blocked you the message comes up. Up the top is the standard tool bar with message,wink, hotlist and menu. Click menu and the block button is still there. Just block as normal.
Fab thanks
Anytime pretty lady. smooth, like melted galaxy chocolate..
Why have cotton when you can have silk "
I'd prefer Cadburys if that's ok? Galaxy makes my throat hurt  |
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"Use the block button as a filter. If my message gets deleted then I block, I don't want to waste anyone's time.
If someone's not for me I block, I don't want profiles I'm not interested in to clog up any searches.
Someone blocks me, I block back.
It's just a tool, it's nothing personal.
How do you block back?
When you click a profile that's blocked you the message comes up. Up the top is the standard tool bar with message,wink, hotlist and menu. Click menu and the block button is still there. Just block as normal.
Fab thanks
Anytime pretty lady. smooth, like melted galaxy chocolate..
Why have cotton when you can have silk
I'd prefer Cadburys if that's ok? Galaxy makes my throat hurt "
Stick some nuts in it and it's the best. Galaxy I mean, not your throat
But yes, Cadburys is lush. Especially Twirl and wispas |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Frequently blocked from saying but my fetish is unique but thought most would be curious to discuss it. "
And there's nothing wrong with people doing that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Frequently blocked from saying but my fetish is unique but thought most would be curious to discuss it. "
It's not that unusual. have a look on "the other place". Loads of kinksters looking for domestic servants... |
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That's the way it is, you can't please everybody. I see it though as a bit like playing a bandit in a social club. Keep playing long enough, you'll eventually get a result.
I remember one afternoon sending 32 messages out, but by early evening, I was in the car and heading for Pembrokeshire. If they had all said, "Yeah come on down Dave," Then I would have had a problem.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Instant block to women who reads a message, then deletes without any reply. It stops me from messaging them again. "
Why though? A woman/couple may bulk delete just because her inbox is full, they may have added you to their hotlist, they could have their profile hidden when viewing your profile, now you've lost all chance of them replying by blocking them, I've messaged hundreds and not many reply at all, 95% won't reply straight away, most delete messages but I don't block them, I may not be their type, many don't like I'm bald and have a beard but I don't take it personal, its their preference , some list this in their bio to save me from messaging, dont get me wrong I used to get frustrated seeing I've been blocked but I see now that they are just saving themselves from the possibility of abuse because they've had it before, they don't know that you are different from the select few knobheads that frequent this site who's only goal in life is to offend as many as possible because they think they've got something everyone needs to see, even if they've deleted your message it doesn't mean you won't get to meet them, you will look stupid if you meet them at a social and give them your fab details only for them not to be able to contact you because you have them blocked.
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I use the block button if there's something they mention in their profile that I'm unable/unwilling to change.
I see 'no BBC' on a decent amount of profiles (bbc 2 jokes incoming ) or nobody over x age/under x height. It's no stress I just block and move on.
It just saves me a little time and lets me really put some thought into my fancy a fuck messages |
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"Sometimes you ask yourself what’s the point !!!!
It really boils my P””ss as when you go out the way to message an hello of a structure of more than 3 words !!! Only to get blocked …
Some on here need reality check !! "
You’re not entitled to anyone’s time, you’re not entitled to anyone’s attention.
Happy to help you with your own reality check x |
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My view is if my message gets deleted then no issues or if they block me that's that persons choice and perogative.
Just be polite and carry on if someone is interested then they will reply back to you, I tend to say a polite not thanks, i had a guy messaging me asking questions on how the site works i gave advice and polite replies he then asked me to meet I said read my profile im not interested he got abusive so I blocked unfortunately thats how life is, nobody needs a reality check |
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You can’t win them all. Its all good to be polite in messages but you cannot always expect a favourable response. Just take it on the chin and move on. No one owes you anything just for having manners and the same can be said for you too. You don’t owe anyone anything either.
Just because someone states on their profile that the only respond to polite messages doesn’t automatically guarantee you’re gonna get a reply. Women get hundreds of messages a day on here.
My outbox is constantly full of unread messages but it really doesn’t bother me too much. If someone likes the look of me I’ll let them get in touch. If we click, great. If not, I generally wish them well and that’s that.
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"Mate I've got friends on here that literally have the number 1300+ on their messages. It's just impossible to reply. Don't let it get to you, I rarely bother messaging anyone anymore as it's pointless. Meet and chat to people in socials, you'll do much better "
This! Not that I have that many messages, but it’s impossible to have time to respond to everyone even with just a polite no thanks. Blocking saves wasting everyone’s time! |
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By *atKat-xoxWoman
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"You can’t win them all. Its all good to be polite in messages but you cannot always expect a favourable response. Just take it on the chin and move on. No one owes you anything just for having manners and the same can be said for you too. You don’t owe anyone anything either.
Just because someone states on their profile that the only respond to polite messages doesn’t automatically guarantee you’re gonna get a reply. Women get hundreds of messages a day on here.
My outbox is constantly full of unread messages but it really doesn’t bother me too much. If someone likes the look of me I’ll let them get in touch. If we click, great. If not, I generally wish them well and that’s that.
Manners cost nothing, but they don’t pay for anything either"
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I offen get blocked even when polite, I put it down to its they chance, or if female don't like what she sees, that her chance, if you going to pout over people blocking you, then your in the wrong place, |
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I will have to agree with the ladies on this one xx some just don't give up and take offense to being ignored sad really but true xx block and move on girls it's not impolite to those that realise the lengths some will go and crap we often spill xx |
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