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I would also like to add that just because you may have played with someone before or even that night, it doesn't grant you the rights to assume that you can play with them again. Treat each and every play situation as a brand new one. Ask and find out if they are open to a repeat situation first. And when you have left the room and the play is over, that's usually it. Game Over for that situation unless it's been discussed already to continue one way or another. People being over familiar just because they have had sex can be quite uncomfortable indeed. So go back to a hands free polite approach even if you just blew someone's mind.
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"Great post CJ .
I would also like to add that just because you may have played with someone before or even that night, it doesn't grant you the rights to assume that you can play with them again. Treat each and every play situation as a brand new one. Ask and find out if they are open to a repeat situation first. And when you have left the room and the play is over, that's usually it. Game Over for that situation unless it's been discussed already to continue one way or another. People being over familiar just because they have had sex can be quite uncomfortable indeed. So go back to a hands free polite approach even if you just blew someone's mind.
Respect is everything. Courtesy costs nothing. Don't be that guy who people talk about after for being inappropriate or weird . "You're both spot on but this one is usually my particular issue, I rarely want a repeat once I'm done  | |||
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"I agree with every word written here. As a single woman it can be quite daunting having single guys following you around and trying to play footsie in the hot tub with you and half the time they don't even say a word to you while they are doing it. Respect and consent is a must here guys x" Never mind the footsie it's the toe up the minge that grips my shit aaaaargh | |||
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"I’d like to add that the above advice doesn’t merely apply to single guys. We must all be respectful towards each other " Yes you are right about that. | |||
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"If any guys thinking of attending a club this weekend be worth a read "CJ can you take me dogging? It's on my bucket list | |||
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"Great post CJ .
I would also like to add that just because you may have played with someone before or even that night, it doesn't grant you the rights to assume that you can play with them again. Treat each and every play situation as a brand new one. Ask and find out if they are open to a repeat situation first. And when you have left the room and the play is over, that's usually it. Game Over for that situation unless it's been discussed already to continue one way or another. People being over familiar just because they have had sex can be quite uncomfortable indeed. So go back to a hands free polite approach even if you just blew someone's mind.
Respect is everything. Courtesy costs nothing. Don't be that guy who people talk about after for being inappropriate or weird . "Amazing posts from both of you and we hope that these words of advice travel far and wide, and make clubs a much better environment for everyone to enjoy . | |||
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"All of this also applies to the jucuzzi. Unless you have been invited to touch, don't. The bubbles don't make you invisible. If you think touching without consent is ok at a club, you really shouldn't be out in public full stop. Her x" ^^^^ This. It has happened to me, too. LadyO | |||
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"I hope the ‘gent’ who thought it acceptable to put his hands on me, then follow when I took a step away reads this. Luckily for him I didn’t want to make a fuss In front of friends who were having an enjoyable moment or he would have had a right telling off! " Unfortunately babe those type of men don't think they need to read these forums  | |||
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"I hope the ‘gent’ who thought it acceptable to put his hands on me, then follow when I took a step away reads this. Luckily for him I didn’t want to make a fuss In front of friends who were having an enjoyable moment or he would have had a right telling off! " I had a guy do this on Saturday night, until I informed him about consent and asked if he’d rather I hit him, he soon backed off | |||
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"I hope the ‘gent’ who thought it acceptable to put his hands on me, then follow when I took a step away reads this. Luckily for him I didn’t want to make a fuss In front of friends who were having an enjoyable moment or he would have had a right telling off! I am shocked I had a guy do this on Saturday night, until I informed him about consent and asked if he’d rather I hit him, he soon backed off " | |||
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"This really needs to be read for any guys going friday " | |||
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"This really needs to be read for any guys going friday "And Saturday Come on guys read it and absorb it you will go a long way | |||
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"I hope the ‘gent’ who thought it acceptable to put his hands on me, then follow when I took a step away reads this. Luckily for him I didn’t want to make a fuss In front of friends who were having an enjoyable moment or he would have had a right telling off! " He is lucky I didn't see this happen! Purely inexcusable behaviour! | |||
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"This really needs to be read for any guys going friday "Definitely | |||
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"This really needs to be read for any guys going friday
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"Hi all I have been to clubs as man and wife mostly in England but the last time was about 15 years ago I am now single and have been for the last 8 years I have attempted to go to clubs and socials but bottled out Last minute, however I often wonder when it does happen how would it behave and my list was as the advice you guys have given that as encouraged me more now to go ,so if you do see a well behaved man that talks and tells lots of stories it will be me thanks for that " I'll hold your hand sometime X | |||
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"I thought it might be useful and pinch some parts of an older post to give you fellas some tips on club etiquette. Been really wanting to go for years but never pulled my self closer enough to the entrance to go lol. But threading this I think I'm ready. Is Friday a good night for a first timer xx This is based on my many years of attending clubs and YOU GUYS NEED TO READ THIS ! Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY. 1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the real word. Respect everyone. 2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on. 3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in or watch. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first. 4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine. 5.HYGEINE!!! Make sure your hygiene is on top form Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason. 6.CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping people safe and ensuring that the fun can continue. 7.INTERACTION please, please, please, talk to people! There is nothing worse than a single guy wandering the club who doesn't talk to anyone and then expects to get intimate when things are happening in an open room. Don't be one of the wanking dead, be brave and talk to people. We are all there for the same lifestyle, so why not talk about it to others ? Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design there for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room. Now, if I've missed anything or people would like to add to this please feel free to put your 2p worth into this post CJ " | |||
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"Bump again I'm off to my first club in Oct and while all these "rules" should be common sense I understand that men are stupid (I am one) I was directed here from another page and I can't believe all this has to be written down and women are still being touched without being asked WTAF!!!" Yes it's unbelievable that guys are still doing it ! | |||
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"I personally think this is just copy and pasted dribble that I definitely didn't read past 2 lines and still could roll up in the club and be all eyez on me lol and blokes that you calling out all know is connection like any club. Respect like any club. Don't apply get kicked out like any club. I think blokes know by now how to get women lol I also know what definitely ain't getting women " Well that made sense | |||
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"I personally think this is just copy and pasted dribble that I definitely didn't read past 2 lines and still could roll up in the club and be all eyez on me lol and blokes that you calling out all know is connection like any club. Respect like any club. Don't apply get kicked out like any club. I think blokes know by now how to get women lol I also know what definitely ain't getting women Well that made sense "Hahaha  | |||
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"Bump again I'm off to my first club in Oct and while all these "rules" should be common sense I understand that men are stupid (I am one) I was directed here from another page and I can't believe all this has to be written down and women are still being touched without being asked WTAF!!!" it's not like the people who do it, are actually going to read information on such matters though | |||
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"I thought it might be useful and pinch some parts of an older post to give you fellas some tips on club etiquette. This is based on my many years of attending clubs and YOU GUYS NEED TO READ THIS !that is great advice, wish I could ask you more Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY. 1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the real word. Respect everyone. 2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on. 3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in or watch. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first. 4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine. 5.HYGEINE!!! Make sure your hygiene is on top form Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason. 6.CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping people safe and ensuring that the fun can continue. 7.INTERACTION please, please, please, talk to people! There is nothing worse than a single guy wandering the club who doesn't talk to anyone and then expects to get intimate when things are happening in an open room. Don't be one of the wanking dead, be brave and talk to people. We are all there for the same lifestyle, so why not talk about it to others ? Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design there for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room. Now, if I've missed anything or people would like to add to this please feel free to put your 2p worth into this post CJ " | |||
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"Bumping this because a dickhead touched out friend 3 times last night despite being told every time. Also tried to get closer to me whilst playing,even when my boyfriend told him to basically fuck off."  | |||
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"Do you remember the old Swimming Pool Rules posters, like No Running, No Pushing etc.? Could do with a similar one for clubs and dotted around to remind people
Laminated of course just in case "Great idea! Definitely need to mention "not to follow people from room to room" At times ive felt like I was in the old scooby-doo cartoon, running away from the monster from room to room. Not to mention it was my "friend's" first experience going there. Massive boner killer! lol
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"[Removed by poster at 23/09/22 16:41:39]" I was just having this conversation with a new single male and he couldn’t get over that some men just creep about and wank and don’t even say hi | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 23/09/22 16:41:39] I was just having this conversation with a new single male and he couldn’t get over that some men just creep about and wank and don’t even say hi " This actually happens?? | |||
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Dont fancy a bukkake from them tbh.
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"Happens every time Ive been there. When I've allowed guys to stay and watch I've had to tell them to back off as they are wanking a foot away from my face
Dont fancy a bukkake from them tbh.
Going in as a couple single guys tend to respect you more for some reason"Omg some guy was wanking so close to my face once I felt his cock brush my cheek, I instinctively punched him in the chest...bleurgh | |||
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"Happens every time Ive been there. When I've allowed guys to stay and watch I've had to tell them to back off as they are wanking a foot away from my face
Dont fancy a bukkake from them tbh.
Going in as a couple single guys tend to respect you more for some reason
Omg some guy was wanking so close to my face once I felt his cock brush my cheek, I instinctively punched him in the chest...bleurgh"Hope you punched him really hard! | |||
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"I thought it might be useful and pinch some parts of an older post to give you fellas some tips on club etiquette. This is based on my many years of attending clubs and YOU GUYS NEED TO READ THIS ! Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY. 1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the real word. Respect everyone. 2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on. 3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in or watch. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first. 4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine. 5.HYGEINE!!! Make sure your hygiene is on top form Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason. 6.CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping people safe and ensuring that the fun can continue. 7.INTERACTION please, please, please, talk to people! There is nothing worse than a single guy wandering the club who doesn't talk to anyone and then expects to get intimate when things are happening in an open room. Don't be one of the wanking dead, be brave and talk to people. We are all there for the same lifestyle, so why not talk about it to others ? Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design there for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room. Now, if I've missed anything or people would like to add to this please feel free to put your 2p worth into this post CJ "Thanks OP I have yet to attend a club and this has been great advice. | |||
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"Happens every time Ive been there. When I've allowed guys to stay and watch I've had to tell them to back off as they are wanking a foot away from my face
Dont fancy a bukkake from them tbh.
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"I think you need to add, if there's loads of space in the hottube, then don't sit as close as you can to a couple/others, give people space and have a chat instead. And if you do sit to close and people move away dont then move close to them again. " Yeah you talked to us about this last night. Id find that creepy and id have told him to fuck right off lmao. X | |||
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"I thought it might be useful and pinch some parts of an older post to give you fellas some tips on club etiquette. This is based on my many years of attending clubs and YOU GUYS NEED TO READ THIS ! Firstly, congratulations on making the big step to the wonderful world of swinging clubs. They are a lot of fun but don't be fooled, sex is not guaranteed especially for single guys and unless you want to be banned RESPECT IS KEY. 1. NO TOUCHING!!! This may sound stupid but hear me out. Clubs are designed for like minded people in the lifestyle to meet up and socialise in a safe environment. Unless you are given permission, DONT TOUCH anyone. It may seem inviting when a couple are going at it right next to you but always ask permission first. If they say yes, good effort but remember to be respectful. Don't do a Trump and grab her by the pussy unless you want a few missing teeth after. Just like day to day life, CONSENT IS REQUIRED, just because its in a club doesn't mean it isn't the real word. Respect everyone. 2. BOUNDARIES!!! We all get a bit lost in the moment sometimes but defining clear boundaries is the best way to have a good time. Ask what each other like, dislike or want to try. If it ain't on the happy list, don't do it. Once again it is all about consent, ensure that if you are gonna try doing something new, that everyone is happy with it. If not, move on. 3. DOORS!!! Bit of a random one this but alot of guys seem to forget it. If you are doing the rounds and seeing what is about and you see a closed door... leave it. Doors are a way of invitation. If a door is closed it means the people in it want to be left alone. Don't try and break it down. If a door is open, that is usually an indication that they are inviting people to join in or watch. If that's the case, refer to my previous 2 steps. If you do happen to enter a room with people playing, be respectful. Some couples love being watched and will be putting on a show for you but always ask permission first. 4. COHERENCE!!! Need abit of Dutch courage to go into a club? That's fine, but necking a bottle of vodka isn't going to help you. If you are going to drink before hand just remember that although you may seem fine, other people may perceive you differently. Also you want to be able to remember all the lovely people you meet so sometimes less is more. Trust me when I say that no-one is impressed by your 12 pints and still get a hard on routine. 5.HYGEINE!!! Make sure your hygiene is on top form Lads, no lady wants a smelly cock waved in their faces let alone in their mouth. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Their are showers everywhere in clubs for this exact reason. 6.CONDOMS!!! Most places sell them for dirt cheap, if you are going to play with new people, ask them if they play safe, if it's a yes then chuck a pillow case on regardless of "whether or not you like them." This is about keeping people safe and ensuring that the fun can continue. 7.INTERACTION please, please, please, talk to people! There is nothing worse than a single guy wandering the club who doesn't talk to anyone and then expects to get intimate when things are happening in an open room. Don't be one of the wanking dead, be brave and talk to people. We are all there for the same lifestyle, so why not talk about it to others ? Most importantly remember that Swinging Clubs are not "fuck me now" clubs. They are by design there for people to meet, socialise and be safe. Playing is an added bonus. Be respectful to each other and you are more likely to be invited to a room. Now, if I've missed anything or people would like to add to this please feel free to put your 2p worth into this post CJ "Great talking to you last night. There were a few wanking zombies there last night. But to be fair most of the guys were respectful. | |||
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"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour! Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!" What happened babe? Message if you want. Boundries are non existant on saterdays by some we were told last night. X | |||
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"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour! Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!" It's the same old story for Saturdays. Such a shame | |||
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"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour! Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction!" Ive just read this and seen your comment, was this 22nd?. I was there that night it was awful. I stayed for a little after 11pm but ended up leaving as there was a man still there who couldn't keep his hands to himself despite being told numerous times throughout the night. Hope you are OK x | |||
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"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour! Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction! It's the same old story for Saturdays. Such a shame "You're right CJ the poor behaviour is sadly slipping into the Saturday night, not enough to report but enough to tell guys bluntly. Remember guys it doesn't help your cause going round all night telling women they'll enjoy your 8 inches & for the guy I politely chatted to at the bar, that nice chat was not an invitation to touch me for the rest of the night. I'm lucky enough to be able to stand up for myself but I can see that it's not so easy for others. Shape up or ship out guys X | |||
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"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour! Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction! Ive just read this and seen your comment, was this 22nd?. I was there that night it was awful. I stayed for a little after 11pm but ended up leaving as there was a man still there who couldn't keep his hands to himself despite being told numerous times throughout the night. Hope you are OK x" Give him a slap. Its sexual assault. Clubs can get in to trouble if you reported it to the police. Clubs need security staff i think these days. | |||
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"My standard reply to getting touched/groped without consent is: Touch me again without my consent and I'll punch your lights out.. It usually works lol.. "Id hit them the first time. No way will i put up with unsolicited groping. In a play sinario the guy can grope all he wants as he has my permission but not by some guy who because he payed entry to a club now thinks it entitles him to touch up any woman he likes. | |||
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"My standard reply to getting touched/groped without consent is: Touch me again without my consent and I'll punch your lights out.. It usually works lol..
Id hit them the first time. No way will i put up with unsolicited groping. In a play sinario the guy can grope all he wants as he has my permission but not by some guy who because he payed entry to a club now thinks it entitles him to touch up any woman he likes. " | |||
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"My standard reply to getting touched/groped without consent is: Touch me again without my consent and I'll punch your lights out.. It usually works lol..
Id hit them the first time. No way will i put up with unsolicited groping. In a play sinario the guy can grope all he wants as he has my permission but not by some guy who because he payed entry to a club now thinks it entitles him to touch up any woman he likes. "Completely agree with this… I ask if it’s ok for me to sit next to someone in a club let alone anything else | |||
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" Completely agree with this… I ask if it’s ok for me to sit next to someone in a club let alone anything else " Thats the correct way. You wouldnt just sit next to someone in the vanilla world without asking first. Unfortunately some people (I've seen women as well as men) think they thay it is a fuck club and they can touch who they like as they've paid an entrance fee. | |||
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" Completely agree with this… I ask if it’s ok for me to sit next to someone in a club let alone anything else Thats the correct way. You wouldnt just sit next to someone in the vanilla world without asking first. Unfortunately some people (I've seen women as well as men) think they thay it is a fuck club and they can touch who they like as they've paid an entrance fee." True words. | |||
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"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour! Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction! Ive just read this and seen your comment, was this 22nd?. I was there that night it was awful. I stayed for a little after 11pm but ended up leaving as there was a man still there who couldn't keep his hands to himself despite being told numerous times throughout the night. Hope you are OK x" That was the night! I think I’ll have to start giving them a slap, nice red handprint across the face will be a good warning to others | |||
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"Bumping this to the top after an awful night- it’s the first time I’ve ever left before 11 and it’s thanks to 3 “men” within an hour! Hats off to the good few regular gentlemen who stepped up and called this shitty behaviour out and the staff for a quick eviction! Ive just read this and seen your comment, was this 22nd?. I was there that night it was awful. I stayed for a little after 11pm but ended up leaving as there was a man still there who couldn't keep his hands to himself despite being told numerous times throughout the night. Hope you are OK x That was the night! I think I’ll have to start giving them a slap, nice red handprint across the face will be a good warning to others "Definitely give them a slap! No is no...always | |||
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"Bump again and I will before Friday in hope guys will read this "Hopefully they will | |||
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"Dirty cunts there. I know exactly who they are that acts like that " There were a only a few guys there when we went on our first visit a few weeks ago who were creepy. They were in they late 70's and kept constantly staring at a few of us ladies and one followed me most times when i went to the toilet and locker room. That creeped me out a bit and i felt a bit wary going so john came with me when i needed to go. To be fair the younger guys were tidy if i am honest. Joanne. | |||
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"Yeah one old guy kept trying on with the missus and another foreign guy kept getting his dick out to her I'm extremely tolerant tbf plus she's got it covered " Unfortunately they spoil it for the guys who do abide by respect
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"When I was in the swing I had a guy in his 60s/70s wanking about a foot from my face and I had to shout at him to back off. Then he kept talking to us whilst we were "busy". Another guy came in to watch and the old geezer threw him out! He was told to f off after that." Upstairs is where all the fucking weirdos are, unfortunately the good stuff is up there but it's always the same when you go up. They all come scurrying out dick in hand Fucking denizens | |||
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"Yeah one old guy kept trying on with the missus and another foreign guy kept getting his dick out to her I'm extremely tolerant tbf plus she's got it covered Unfortunately they spoil it for the guys who do abide by respect
"Loads of respectful guys there. My advice would be, watch yourself up the top Funny, talking about it triggers me way more then on the night. Either way they are no threat which is why I'm polite enough back but if i thought it was bothering her I'd step in and warn them but it doesn't. Probably loves the attention secretly haha | |||
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"This is part of what is putting us off going. I know there are loads of respectful people that do go but it's always the minority that ruin the experience. Are the staff good at dealing with them if you tell them?" Unsure about that but ive heard they are on it with the troublemakers. We will be there 2 weeks Saturday, always welcome to tag along for a little while til you feel comfortable to branch off. Our first night was great. | |||
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"Oi oi everyone " Change those flip flops | |||
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"Oi oi everyone Change those flip flops "Lol that’s the best part getting caught red handed | |||
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"Bump "Lets hope they behave at chams tonight. I will have no hesitation if i am touched without permission they will get a very hard slap. Thanks for bumping CJ. joanne. | |||
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"Bumping because some Guys last night from the club clearly think it's appropriate to bang on doors and follow women around, and touch without consent." Not amused with the touching my arse without consent last night by the bar but so packed I couldnt tell who had done it | |||
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"We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful. " My partner had to tell an older guy to basically fuck off in the hot tub. Next time we won't be as nice | |||
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"We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful. My partner had to tell an older guy to basically fuck off in the hot tub. Next time we won't be as nice " I remember meeting you both last Christmas, you were a lovely couple to chat to. Thank you for that. | |||
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"We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful. My partner had to tell an older guy to basically fuck off in the hot tub. Next time we won't be as nice " There were two guys there that night both late 70's at least. Joanne can stick up for herself so no problem telling them to back off. But why should she have to. Its a place to chill with like minded people but the pervy fuckers go and spoil it. The same guy sat opposite a cpl just because she had a crotchless body on and thats the area he kept staring at until her hubby gave him a mouthful looking is fine abd i find it a turn on other guys looking at her and chatting to her but stalking and touching without permission is taking the piss. John | |||
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"We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful. My partner had to tell an older guy to basically fuck off in the hot tub. Next time we won't be as nice " Sorry to hear you had to put up with that shit | |||
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"We have chatted to loads of tidy men at chams. But there are a few who followed jo around the club even when she went to the toilet. That time they were older guy in their 70's. To be fair the younger men who chatted to her there were very respectful. My partner had to tell an older guy to basically fuck off in the hot tub. Next time we won't be as nice Sorry to hear you had to put up with that shit " Infortunately dai a few wankers ( literately) spoil it for the real tidy gents out there. Clubs need to contact each other and ban the buggers from all the clubs. No room for disrespectful people in clubs. To mant times you hear off ladies on here about guys coping a feel without permission in clubs. Banning them is the only way unfortunately as they cannot see what they are doing is out of order. | |||
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"This thread is awesome. However... ...according to Fabs own stats, only about 1% of fab users use the forums. A better idea would be to have some great words of advice like this printed out, laminated, and given to every guy (single, or in a couple) who walks through the club door. Even then, a lot will either not read it, or just ignore what's written unfortunately. "The other factor to note is that you do not have to have a _rofile on fab to be a member of Chameleons. Anyone can be a member .... There is very little vetting of people. Everyone needs to be vigilant and stay safe. | |||
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"This thread is awesome. However... ...according to Fabs own stats, only about 1% of fab users use the forums. A better idea would be to have some great words of advice like this printed out, laminated, and given to every guy (single, or in a couple) who walks through the club door. Even then, a lot will either not read it, or just ignore what's written unfortunately. "It's the same for any club. The purpose of the thread was that even if a minority of guys read it, they know how to present themselves at a club. In my eyes, I've done my bit to attempt to get the message over to some | |||
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"This thread is awesome. However... ...according to Fabs own stats, only about 1% of fab users use the forums. A better idea would be to have some great words of advice like this printed out, laminated, and given to every guy (single, or in a couple) who walks through the club door. Even then, a lot will either not read it, or just ignore what's written unfortunately.
It's the same for any club. The purpose of the thread was that even if a minority of guys read it, they know how to present themselves at a club.
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"Had an issue once at Chams Newport girl I was playing with one on one asked this idiot to stop touching her as we were getting it on he didn’t listen and at third attempt of him trying she stopped and he ran off I caught with him later had words he shit himself reported it to staff who dealt with impeccable and kicked him out sadly I have seen him there again since for me once is enough to receive permanent ban " They should perminently ban these idiots. | |||
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"This thread - or something similar - would go nicely on the club review section." ive just put it in the club forum..see what happens ? | |||
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"Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this. " Well this was a bit harsh. You clearly don’t know who the OP is and the kind of credibility he has in the scene. OP’s advice is most definitely warranted because, although not all men are moronic, some still need a lesson in club etiquette. | |||
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"Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this. " The OP is far from a desperate idiot. The advice is helpful over all so | |||
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"Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this. " The advice given is very helpful. Especially beneficial to those who haven't been to a club before! Attitudes like yours often mean you will get blocked before you've even messaged someone. Lots of people use the forum and people's attitudes as a means of filtering those they wouldn't be interested in | |||
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"Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this. " Ooh I have a fan | |||
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"Keep your advice to yourself. Guys are not moronic idiots who need advice on how to go to clubs. Some are capable of using their own brains, being respectful and don't need some desperate idiot looking for brownie points off fab for posting crap like this. " Sorry but some are moronic idiots and don’t conduct themselves in an appropriate manner. This advice has been given endeavouring to educate everyone. If the advice was taken on board and not dismissed as you’ve done, then the club will continue to be a safe and enjoyable environment for all | |||
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