"it's shame that many people on here pretending to be real Femdom
but after ages I haven't meet any yet 🤷🏻♂️😔"
Can I suggest trying the sites specifically designed for that? That way you know what you are getting  |
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By *appyPandaMan 3 weeks ago
Kilkenny and Waterford |
"it's shame that many people on here pretending to be real Femdom
but after ages I haven't meet any yet 🤷🏻♂️😔"
As someone that's been in an incredible dynamic with a wonderful Domme for over a year and who's had some great conversations here with some other Dommes (purely friendly without seeking anything as not looking myself), what do you mean about those that you've messaged just pretending to be "femdoms" (not a term used to describe dominant women, just the whole concept of a woman being in a dominant position. A femdom isn't a thing).
I know we're in different communities so scene could be vastly different where you are but haven't seen that at all.
Sure, Dommes and women interested in femdom seem vwry rare here because its not a dedicated platform for bdsm. There's another site focused on that, but is focused on being a kinky social networking site and not on hookups so don't use it that way.
Another important factor is that when women here show an interest in the more unconventional things such as femdom, they attract a huge amount of attention from men that see them as just that, where they're treated as a fetish satisfiers or ways to just enact fantasies with instead of being real people themselves.
My Domme had been on here before and the vast majority of the messages she was getting were all like that. That has seemed the case with most Dommes I've spoken too here, and is seen as extremely disrespectful and off putting.
Even on the other site more dedicated to bdsm, they're massively outnumbered by male "subs" that think like that, where the whole focus is on what that sub wants to do, and is seeing her not as who she is, but who he wants her to be.
Just be polite, respectful and treat them as a normal person with similar interests you can talk about with, as well as having other interests. They are not just "Mistresses", but a real person outside of that.
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By *eemineWoman 3 weeks ago
Cardiff |
"it's shame that many people on here pretending to be real Femdom
but after ages I haven't meet any yet 🤷🏻♂️😔
As someone that's been in an incredible dynamic with a wonderful Domme for over a year and who's had some great conversations here with some other Dommes (purely friendly without seeking anything as not looking myself), what do you mean about those that you've messaged just pretending to be "femdoms" (not a term used to describe dominant women, just the whole concept of a woman being in a dominant position. A femdom isn't a thing).
I know we're in different communities so scene could be vastly different where you are but haven't seen that at all.
Sure, Dommes and women interested in femdom seem vwry rare here because its not a dedicated platform for bdsm. There's another site focused on that, but is focused on being a kinky social networking site and not on hookups so don't use it that way.
Another important factor is that when women here show an interest in the more unconventional things such as femdom, they attract a huge amount of attention from men that see them as just that, where they're treated as a fetish satisfiers or ways to just enact fantasies with instead of being real people themselves.
My Domme had been on here before and the vast majority of the messages she was getting were all like that. That has seemed the case with most Dommes I've spoken too here, and is seen as extremely disrespectful and off putting.
Even on the other site more dedicated to bdsm, they're massively outnumbered by male "subs" that think like that, where the whole focus is on what that sub wants to do, and is seeing her not as who she is, but who he wants her to be.
Just be polite, respectful and treat them as a normal person with similar interests you can talk about with, as well as having other interests. They are not just "Mistresses", but a real person outside of that.
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this is very well said and definitely reflects my experiences. |
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By *appyPandaMan 3 weeks ago
Kilkenny and Waterford |
"it's shame that many people on here pretending to be real Femdom
but after ages I haven't meet any yet 🤷🏻♂️😔
As someone that's been in an incredible dynamic with a wonderful Domme for over a year and who's had some great conversations here with some other Dommes (purely friendly without seeking anything as not looking myself), what do you mean about those that you've messaged just pretending to be "femdoms" (not a term used to describe dominant women, just the whole concept of a woman being in a dominant position. A femdom isn't a thing).
I know we're in different communities so scene could be vastly different where you are but haven't seen that at all.
Sure, Dommes and women interested in femdom seem vwry rare here because its not a dedicated platform for bdsm. There's another site focused on that, but is focused on being a kinky social networking site and not on hookups so don't use it that way.
Another important factor is that when women here show an interest in the more unconventional things such as femdom, they attract a huge amount of attention from men that see them as just that, where they're treated as a fetish satisfiers or ways to just enact fantasies with instead of being real people themselves.
My Domme had been on here before and the vast majority of the messages she was getting were all like that. That has seemed the case with most Dommes I've spoken too here, and is seen as extremely disrespectful and off putting.
Even on the other site more dedicated to bdsm, they're massively outnumbered by male "subs" that think like that, where the whole focus is on what that sub wants to do, and is seeing her not as who she is, but who he wants her to be.
Just be polite, respectful and treat them as a normal person with similar interests you can talk about with, as well as having other interests. They are not just "Mistresses", but a real person outside of that.
this is very well said and definitely reflects my experiences. "
Well I do hope its not been all bad. Just need to find those couple diamonds in the rough that aren't there just to try something they saw in porn or heard about.
She enjoyed herself here and even if the majority of messages were forgettable, she did find some nice interesting folk to talk to. |
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Yeah. It’s how I read it. Condom / Femdom. 