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By (user no longer on site)Â OPÂ Â Â Â 38 weeks ago
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Whats the best way to message and chat to the ladies on here without sounding like you expect all their attention now - message say hi it gets deleted, message to meet their profile gets deleted - help a brother out 😂 |
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By (user no longer on site)Â 38 weeks ago
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Couples and women more so get literally hundreds of messages. Yours needs to stand out. Make it personal to their profile. Don’t send a dick pic. I’m sure you have them on your profile or they will ask. |
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By (user no longer on site)Â 38 weeks ago
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"Aha help a brother out 😆 I'm the same as you it's a struggle ain't it 😅
I'll be honest your username is doing you no favours here, it would more than likely get an instant delete from us"
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  Both men asking for advice - work on your profiles. Spend some time writing your bio.
Then as others have said, read the bio of the person you are looking to interact with. Make sure you are relevant to what they are looking for. Send an engaging message which shows you’ve read the profile and not just looked at a picture and thought with your dick.
Alternately- get to the organised socials arranged on here. There’s events happening almost weekly and it really is a great way to get your self out there |
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By (user no longer on site)Â OPÂ Â Â Â 38 weeks ago
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Thanks for the replies! Will have a think and update the bio. I’m just a nice guy looking for a nice girl to have fun, both tame and wild at the end of the day x |
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By (user no longer on site)Â 38 weeks ago
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I get what you're saying but sometimes it's incredibly difficult when many profiles don't have much at all on them. The odd line here and there.
I made a decent effort in thinking out my profile but still finding it just as frustrating as many others on here.
I appreciate that you get swamped by messages but it seems to be very difficult for any serious single males to even get over the first hurdle of engaging in conversation.
Very frustrating. |
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 Having a good first message is very important, but highly unlikely to be read if your profile isn't very good.
Women and couples get hundreds of messages off men daily, so often browse the profiles instead of reading the message.
90% of people here who meet, do so at organised events, socials, and clubs as they like to see in person who they are talking to.
If you message and it's deleted, don't message again ! Get to a social and talk to people.
If you don't put in the effort, you won't reap the rewards of meeting some truly amazing people on here. |
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By *3xymamaWoman 38 weeks ago
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"Whats the best way to message and chat to the ladies on here without sounding like you expect all their attention now - message say hi it gets deleted, message to meet their profile gets deleted - help a brother out 😂"
I wouldn't reply to you after seeing the pic of you displaying your arse.. others may like it, but not for me personally |
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  Remember women and couples have got a profile and first message to judge you on when they get a message. If either are off putting then likely get instant delete.
Veris are important but we personally are lenient to new people, if you've been on for a year and no verification then red flag get to socials if this cant be got via private meet, barely any profile bio is not great but can be ok if short and to the point, a good variety of pictures helps, and the opening message doesnt have to be war and peace ie dont make people read an essay, but a couple of lines is better for some than just hi |
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 I'd also say it's about reading a person's profile and working out if you'd actually be for them. For example if they're after a chiseled adonis with a 6 pack, they ain't gonna want my dad bod sliding into their DMs. I can appreciate their pics and know I would like to get in touch, but I know I'd just be wasting mine and their time because we can't be for everyone. I'd also echo that when you do message, try not to be generic, show you've actually read and can meet what they're after.
I don't think it's much different from the real world tbh, I've been turned down in pubs and clubs just as many times as I've been turned down here.🤣🤣
Also, if someone leaves you on read, don't message again. I've sometimes had a reply weeks later but if you start sending more messages you're only going to put people off. |
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