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What do you want in a good fab host?

By *almprints OP Woman 33 weeks ago

deepest, darkest West

Curious to know what people are looking for in a good host.

I've been to a fair few parties, events, clubs and socials over my time here on fab. The range in hosting skills goes from downright negligible to over the top.

What works for you? What do you guys enjoy in a fab evening out. I'm all ears xx

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By *uncouple153Couple 33 weeks ago

Abergavenny

For us, many are naturally very cliquey. Like a host to introduce, maybe a getting to know you game.

For new people a first time social or party is very daunting at best x

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By *ordermanreturnsMan 33 weeks ago

Llangollen

May I as a gog..as you see a polite one at that...have permission to

interact..?

Assuming I may (though those with experience know its dangerous to assume,)..

Actually I believe you have raised an interesting question..

Certain social skills will come naturally to some..others will not have a clue..

There are fine lines to take into consideration but the ability to read body language is certainly a requirement...some folk need pampering more than others..as you said some go over the top..for you it its over the top but for others it may be what they need.

The bottom line is the ideal host is someone you can't wait to be invited back by..no doubt there are some who when are sending invites out again you'll say thanks but no thanks.

Also depending upon the event that is being hosted as to what they show their skills..

A social...then being able to interact and mingle..but like a good waiter/waitress have the skill to convey they are there if needed after introductions are done and not pester checking if all OK..

Yes my meal is fine..I prefer I know youre there if I need you..

If hosting a gathering for a meet of fun..

Then a good host would have been diligent in their selection process ensuring there was a good balance of interaction and tastes of those selected to be invited..

Surely it goes without saying that when is hosting such an event..then the host to a certain degree will obviously be sacrificing some of their enjoyment by ensuring the guests needs are being catered for.

Who wants to attend a party where the host sings 'its my party I'll cry if I want to' attitude..

So madam that's my twopenneth worth from a polite well mannered gog..who's actually a beast and manners go out the window when I cross the bedroom threshold..

Ps apologies if ive left anyone humming that tune for the rest of the day

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By *icked-GameCouple 33 weeks ago

Antarctica

Common sense, etiquette, to feel welcome and for them to be sober enough to be able to handle situations without flying off the handle.

Be interested in other people's enjoyment and well being and to just care in general.

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By *ig_In_JapanMan 33 weeks ago

Cardiff

Tits?

Joking aside, really you want someone to make you feel welcomed and comfortable. If it's a big group/party, someone to make sure everyone's getting some form of interaction, whether that's play or not.

And yeah, tits.

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By *ensual and PrimalMan 33 weeks ago

Narberth

For me, it's great to be greeted, as I have been at the few socials I've been to. But as someone going on my own, I don't usually know the others. So be helpful to be introduced to someone, to feel included in converse.. My Neurospicyness feels difficult going to new places and saying hello to new people. Ultimately I've got to be responsible for my own social awkwardness / mild introvert. So maybe keeping an eye out on those who might not be chatting in a group.

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By *eral SexMan 33 weeks ago

Port Talbot

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By *eral SexMan 33 weeks ago

Port Talbot

"For us, many are naturally very cliquey. Like a host to introduce, maybe a getting to know you game.

For new people a first time social or party is very daunting at best x"

Absolutely, introductions are really important, otherwise everyone can end up staying in their own little circle of friends. Intros by the hosts kick the shy into action a bit, I think.

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By *eral SexMan 33 weeks ago

Port Talbot

"For me, it's great to be greeted, as I have been at the few socials I've been to. But as someone going on my own, I don't usually know the others. So be helpful to be introduced to someone, to feel included in converse.. My Neurospicyness feels difficult going to new places and saying hello to new people. Ultimately I've got to be responsible for my own social

awkwardness / mild introvert. So maybe keeping an eye out on those who might not be chatting in a group. "

Good points, I also think its incumbent on the guests to be welcoming to people who plainly don't know anyone and yet had the guts to show up anyway. Even if they don't approach your circle of friends, it's good to bring people in if you see them standing around on their own, looking awkward.

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By *urves88Woman 33 weeks ago

Abergavenny

"May I as a gog..as you see a polite one at that...have permission to

interact..?

Assuming I may (though those with experience know its dangerous to assume,)..

Actually I believe you have raised an interesting question..

Certain social skills will come naturally to some..others will not have a clue..

The bottom line is the ideal host is someone you can't wait to be invited back by..no doubt there are some who when are sending invites out again you'll say thanks but no thanks.

Also depending upon the event that is being hosted as to what they show their skills..

A social...then being able to interact and mingle..but like a good waiter/waitress have the skill to convey they are there if needed after introductions are done and not pester checking if all OK..

Yes my meal is fine..I prefer I know youre there if I need you..

If hosting a gathering for a meet of fun..

Then a good host would have been diligent in their selection process ensuring there was a good balance of interaction and tastes of those selected to be invited..

Who wants to attend a party where the host sings 'its my party I'll cry if I want to' attitude..

So madam that's my twopenneth worth from a polite well mannered gog..who's actually a beast and manners go out the window when I cross the bedroom threshold..

Ps apologies if ive left anyone humming that tune for the rest of the day

This is complete and utter waffle

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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago

"May I as a gog..as you see a polite one at that...have permission to

interact..?

Assuming I may (though those with experience know its dangerous to assume,)..

Actually I believe you have raised an interesting question..

Certain social skills will come naturally to some..others will not have a clue..

The bottom line is the ideal host is someone you can't wait to be invited back by..no doubt there are some who when are sending invites out again you'll say thanks but no thanks.

Also depending upon the event that is being hosted as to what they show their skills..

A social...then being able to interact and mingle..but like a good waiter/waitress have the skill to convey they are there if needed after introductions are done and not pester checking if all OK..

Yes my meal is fine..I prefer I know youre there if I need you..

If hosting a gathering for a meet of fun..

Then a good host would have been diligent in their selection process ensuring there was a good balance of interaction and tastes of those selected to be invited..

Who wants to attend a party where the host sings 'its my party I'll cry if I want to' attitude..

So madam that's my twopenneth worth from a polite well mannered gog..who's actually a beast and manners go out the window when I cross the bedroom threshold..

Ps apologies if ive left anyone humming that tune for the rest of the day

This is complete and utter waffle"

It might be waffle to you but in my opinion it's a well constructed thought out response to the initial question. With a sense of humour and song lyrics..

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By *urves88Woman 33 weeks ago

Abergavenny

"May I as a gog..as you see a polite one at that...have permission to

interact..?

Assuming I may (though those with experience know its dangerous to assume,)..

Actually I believe you have raised an interesting question..

Certain social skills will come naturally to some..others will not have a clue..

The bottom line is the ideal host is someone you can't wait to be invited back by..no doubt there are some who when are sending invites out again you'll say thanks but no thanks.

Also depending upon the event that is being hosted as to what they show their skills..

A social...then being able to interact and mingle..but like a good waiter/waitress have the skill to convey they are there if needed after introductions are done and not pester checking if all OK..

Yes my meal is fine..I prefer I know youre there if I need you..

If hosting a gathering for a meet of fun..

Then a good host would have been diligent in their selection process ensuring there was a good balance of interaction and tastes of those selected to be invited..

Who wants to attend a party where the host sings 'its my party I'll cry if I want to' attitude..

So madam that's my twopenneth worth from a polite well mannered gog..who's actually a beast and manners go out the window when I cross the bedroom threshold..

Ps apologies if ive left anyone humming that tune for the rest of the day

This is complete and utter waffle

It might be waffle to you but in my opinion it's a well constructed thought out response to the initial question. With a sense of humour and song lyrics.. "

Waffle.

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By *ordermanreturnsMan 33 weeks ago

Llangollen

Evidently thoughts of the perfect hostess..who sings "its my party, ill cry if I want to"

Or should it be "ill do what I want and bugger my guests'

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By *ordermanreturnsMan 33 weeks ago

Llangollen

"May I as a gog..as you see a polite one at that...have permission to

interact..?

Assuming I may (though those with experience know its dangerous to assume,)..

Actually I believe you have raised an interesting question..

Certain social skills will come naturally to some..others will not have a clue..

The bottom line is the ideal host is someone you can't wait to be invited back by..no doubt there are some who when are sending invites out again you'll say thanks but no thanks.

Also depending upon the event that is being hosted as to what they show their skills..

A social...then being able to interact and mingle..but like a good waiter/waitress have the skill to convey they are there if needed after introductions are done and not pester checking if all OK..

Yes my meal is fine..I prefer I know youre there if I need you..

If hosting a gathering for a meet of fun..

Then a good host would have been diligent in their selection process ensuring there was a good balance of interaction and tastes of those selected to be invited..

Who wants to attend a party where the host sings 'its my party I'll cry if I want to' attitude..

So madam that's my twopenneth worth from a polite well mannered gog..who's actually a beast and manners go out the window when I cross the bedroom threshold..

Ps apologies if ive left anyone humming that tune for the rest of the day

This is complete and utter waffle

It might be waffle to you but in my opinion it's a well constructed thought out response to the initial question. With a sense of humour and song lyrics.. "

Appreciated..

So confess madam..did you hum the song after..

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By *CB2015Couple 33 weeks ago

Neath

For us personally more hosts like Mr & Mrs Twisted would be perfect. The communication and reception is amazing and the selection of guests attending is always well thought out x

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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago

"May I as a gog..as you see a polite one at that...have permission to

interact..?

Assuming I may (though those with experience know its dangerous to assume,)..

Actually I believe you have raised an interesting question..

Certain social skills will come naturally to some..others will not have a clue..

The bottom line is the ideal host is someone you can't wait to be invited back by..no doubt there are some who when are sending invites out again you'll say thanks but no thanks.

Also depending upon the event that is being hosted as to what they show their skills..

A social...then being able to interact and mingle..but like a good waiter/waitress have the skill to convey they are there if needed after introductions are done and not pester checking if all OK..

Yes my meal is fine..I prefer I know youre there if I need you..

If hosting a gathering for a meet of fun..

Then a good host would have been diligent in their selection process ensuring there was a good balance of interaction and tastes of those selected to be invited..

Who wants to attend a party where the host sings 'its my party I'll cry if I want to' attitude..

So madam that's my twopenneth worth from a polite well mannered gog..who's actually a beast and manners go out the window when I cross the bedroom threshold..

Ps apologies if ive left anyone humming that tune for the rest of the day

This is complete and utter waffle

It might be waffle to you but in my opinion it's a well constructed thought out response to the initial question. With a sense of humour and song lyrics..

Appreciated..

So confess madam..did you hum the song after.."

Yes I did.. and you continue to waffle away and construct a well thought out and humours responses to people questions on here.. and maybe the others should stick with adding honey to their waffles...

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By *ordermanreturnsMan 33 weeks ago

Llangollen

Actually im aware on occasions to some i may waffle or as I sometimes say ,'go round the houses'..but its done deliberately as I convey hidden messages and humour that is occasionally picked up by others, who evidently will be on same wavelength, call it a selection process..if they see and appreciate my style of writing then the stakes are better we'd get on should a meet occur..

And yes it has worked.

Don't worry i see im out your age range and there is a distance factor..though id take a guess and say youre located somewhere top end of south Wales..

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By *uvbug400Woman 33 weeks ago

Milford Haven.

You my friend have it down to a very fine art. Keep up the very good work. Xx