We're newbies but are quite often at socials and house parties in the area so you are welcome to come and talk to us if you see us.
I'm quite shy so I tend to let my other half do most of the talking.
Long story short, come and chat if you want. BTW, I have some hearing loss due to COVID, so we can shout at each other  |
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Hi Op
I av never been to social so I am not sure what you mean exactly.
But assuming it is an atmosphere as a pub or night club..
is the loud music or noise the main barrier.. in that case just speak loud close to the ears.
If the difficulty in interaction is secondary to some inner feeling you have, I advise you just to be yourself 100% . talk as if you are among your friends or colleagues. Imagin yourself at a work gathering or some leaving do of one of your best friends as simple as that. Think about everyone there as your football group( or any sport) mates.
Finally, never ever fear rejection . thats the killer point for any man. Once you fear the word "NO", you will never leave your comfort zone and you will stay in square 1.
Most important thing.. Smile and have enjoy.
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By *cribeMan 13 weeks ago
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I’ve been to 3 socials. An afternoon/evening in Neath. People were very approachable, kind and there was good fun, just not that many there. One in Bridgend where no one approached me and I felt like a leper, so I left after 45 mins. And one in Swansea. Tried to converse but as a single guy a bit awkward. Seemed v clicky. Not been since. A shame as I’d like to meet. |
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Hi, personally think you've done better than most single men on here. You've actually got yourself verified both ways, which is a big thing for a lot of women/couples mainly on a safety front and know you are actually genuine.
I have a few snippets of advice. Don't put pressure on yourself to do socials, they are a great way to get verified, but rarely anything comes about from them. We have attended (myself and Ruby) many and very little play has arisen from them, but we have met some lovely people and friendship. I would struggle on my own in the large social events, and they are not built for a lot of people. I'm guessing that you may be one who is uncomfortable in that surrounding.
Try to chat to people on the forum or private message and look for individual coffee/drinks socials. Now as a man who was on here as a single and as now someone who is allowed to play solo, I can tell you it's not easy and can be disheartening. If you are not a winner in the genetics front, or at least super confident, then the experience can be a difficult one, you just have to roll with the hits and not get down on it. I met Ruby off here after a couple of years of limited meets, it can happen, it's just difficult to get through the noise of the rest of the pack...of which it's a huge pack for a limited reward (single females , couples). You have to accept that you are fighting against the tide.
I do wish you all the best, but this site can be brutal on the ego, so be prepared to take rejections and set backs and think nothing of it. If it gets too much, step away and concentrate on real life, as this isn't for everyone.
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