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By *RTHURXXL OP Man 13 weeks ago
Carmarthenshire |
I know how annoying it is when someone cancels a meeting in last minute, and even worse not to turn up.
But what would you consider an accepted timing for cancellation before the due meeting time.
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It's quite circumstantial and subjective to the person/people involved I suppose.
Some people don't mind a last min cancellation as they can pick up a replacement social/meet quickly, for others they may have arranged and paid for hotels, childcare etc so not as blasé for them.
For me personally, it's not the notice as much as the communication about cancelling. |
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By *RTHURXXL OP Man 13 weeks ago
Carmarthenshire |
"It's quite circumstantial and subjective to the person/people involved I suppose.
Some people don't mind a last min cancellation as they can pick up a replacement social/meet quickly, for others they may have arranged and paid for hotels, childcare etc so not as blasé for them.
For me personally, it's not the notice as much as the communication about cancelling."
Very good points 👍 |
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"It's quite circumstantial and subjective to the person/people involved I suppose.
Some people don't mind a last min cancellation as they can pick up a replacement social/meet quickly, for others they may have arranged and paid for hotels, childcare etc so not as blasé for them.
For me personally, it's not the notice as much as the communication about cancelling.
Very good points 👍"
Thank you, I have my moments. |
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Agree. It bothers me more with lack of communication than the actual cancellation itself. We’ve made things such as ghosting far too acceptable.
Saying that, I deliberately put the reasons for my lack of ability to accom on my profile and make it known early on as with my current situation I may need to cancel last minute due to my care duties. It’s not happened (yet) but at least potential meets are aware things could change rapidly and then they can make a decision whether they want to continue going forwards, and if they decide they don’t I don’t blame them for it at all |
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By *RTHURXXL OP Man 13 weeks ago
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"Agree. It bothers me more with lack of communication than the actual cancellation itself. We’ve made things such as ghosting far too acceptable.
Saying that, I deliberately put the reasons for my lack of ability to accom on my profile and make it known early on as with my current situation I may need to cancel last minute due to my care duties. It’s not happened (yet) but at least potential meets are aware things could change rapidly and then they can make a decision whether they want to continue going forwards, and if they decide they don’t I don’t blame them for it at all"
Agree The lack of communication is just as bad as cancellation.
But I do not agree fully with the second part. |
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"Agree. It bothers me more with lack of communication than the actual cancellation itself. We’ve made things such as ghosting far too acceptable.
Saying that, I deliberately put the reasons for my lack of ability to accom on my profile and make it known early on as with my current situation I may need to cancel last minute due to my care duties. It’s not happened (yet) but at least potential meets are aware things could change rapidly and then they can make a decision whether they want to continue going forwards, and if they decide they don’t I don’t blame them for it at all
Agree The lack of communication is just as bad as cancellation.
But I do not agree fully with the second part. "
My lack of ability to accom and potential of short notice cancellations you mean and understating that my situation isn’t for everyone? |
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By *RTHURXXL OP Man 13 weeks ago
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"Agree. It bothers me more with lack of communication than the actual cancellation itself. We’ve made things such as ghosting far too acceptable.
Saying that, I deliberately put the reasons for my lack of ability to accom on my profile and make it known early on as with my current situation I may need to cancel last minute due to my care duties. It’s not happened (yet) but at least potential meets are aware things could change rapidly and then they can make a decision whether they want to continue going forwards, and if they decide they don’t I don’t blame them for it at all
Agree The lack of communication is just as bad as cancellation.
But I do not agree fully with the second part.
My lack of ability to accom and potential of short notice cancellations you mean and understating that my situation isn’t for everyone? "
This part make sense. we all have our own life and circumstances.
but you made the final statement as if you are putting the whole responsibility on your Date and anyone to meet you is doing that on his own risk.
I may be wrong but I understand your points. |
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"Agree. It bothers me more with lack of communication than the actual cancellation itself. We’ve made things such as ghosting far too acceptable.
Saying that, I deliberately put the reasons for my lack of ability to accom on my profile and make it known early on as with my current situation I may need to cancel last minute due to my care duties. It’s not happened (yet) but at least potential meets are aware things could change rapidly and then they can make a decision whether they want to continue going forwards, and if they decide they don’t I don’t blame them for it at all
Agree The lack of communication is just as bad as cancellation.
But I do not agree fully with the second part.
My lack of ability to accom and potential of short notice cancellations you mean and understating that my situation isn’t for everyone?
This part make sense. we all have our own life and circumstances.
but you made the final statement as if you are putting the whole responsibility on your Date and anyone to meet you is doing that on his own risk.
I may be wrong but I understand your points. "
Forgive me for jumping in, but to me it reads as they are trying to be transparent as possible and if they need to cancel, they appreciate the person may not want to raincheck or reschedule as there is a chance it would happen again.
We all take a risk when making any plans. Small risk admittedly, but risk all the same of something happening or going wrong.
You could make plans with your best mate to go to the cinema and then your parent falls down the stairs and you need to care for them, exact same situation. It's up to type friend if they want to reschedule (as in they may or may not want to move the time based on their own schedule) or go solo. |
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I think it’s more the fact that despite being reliable to date, things could change at a moments notice which makes me unreliable. So I get why people wouldn’t want to take a chance on that and I wouldn’t blame them for deeming that I could be unreliable |
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"I think it’s more the fact that despite being reliable to date, things could change at a moments notice which makes me unreliable. So I get why people wouldn’t want to take a chance on that and I wouldn’t blame them for deeming that I could be unreliable "
But, you are transparent about this from the off by the seems of it, so it's up to the other person if they want to make plans knowing there's a chance things may change.
The transparency is refreshing |
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"I think it’s more the fact that despite being reliable to date, things could change at a moments notice which makes me unreliable. So I get why people wouldn’t want to take a chance on that and I wouldn’t blame them for deeming that I could be unreliable
But, you are transparent about this from the off by the seems of it, so it's up to the other person if they want to make plans knowing there's a chance things may change.
The transparency is refreshing "
Thank you, that’s lovely of you to say ☺️ |
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By *RTHURXXL OP Man 13 weeks ago
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"Anyone is entitled to cancel a meet at any time for any reason "
would you be saying that if someone cancelled after you have driven good miles to the meeting place?? I am sure you will be angry. |
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I would hope that the person I'm meeting had the courtesy to cancel prior to me setting off on any journey to the meeting place.
If they had to cancel that close to the meet time that I'd already left then as long as it's a good reason - the school called and kids are sick, I've got a burst pipe in my kitchen, I've been In a car accident, I'm dead - then I wouldn't be angry about it. Life happens.
It's the ones that think it's ok not to bother telling you they can't make it that really grinds my gears. Grrrrr 😡 |
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"Anyone is entitled to cancel a meet at any time for any reason
would you be saying that if someone cancelled after you have driven good miles to the meeting place?? I am sure you will be angry. "
Angry? That's a strong emotion.
Maybe annoyed or frustrated, but certainly not angry. |
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