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By *tkatninety OP   Woman 10 weeks ago

Cardiff

How many of us are there ? My guess is quite a few ..

Do you think it has an impact on your sexual behaviour?

Hold backs? Positives?

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By *3achyBWoman 10 weeks ago

Aberpennar

Being AuDHD doesn't help in this scene, yes it's helped me make some very long lasting, diverse friendships over the years, but it's also made me a bit marmite for people. Some will love my lack of filters & the freedom that sometimes comes with my physical expression, others can't manage my direct approach & bluntness. My sense of fairness also seems to polarise people, I can't just let things slide.

In terms of meeting, I don't gel with many people so meets are few & far between, it doesn't take much from some people to shut me down socially, especially on here.

I can be intolerant & grumpy & very very prickly, but those I do click with, they see a totally opposite side to me, that shows my free & uninhibited soul.

I naturally gravitate to difference, because it makes me feel safer X

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By *ewportguy888Man 10 weeks ago

Newport

Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

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By *issing DoryCouple 10 weeks ago

the seaside

I'm neurospicy and Kisses is amazing putting up with me. Pair that with Emotional Dysregulation and a few more MH issues for a roller coaster ride.

Marmite is how I'm best described here, people either love me or hate me. I can be abrupt, snappy, no filters etc etc especially when I'm overwhelmed. Always trying to mask which is exhausting. Hypersexuality is a big part as well.

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By *oreplayer88Man 10 weeks ago

Aberystwyth


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷"

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

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By *tkatninety OP   Woman 10 weeks ago

Cardiff


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins. "

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

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By *oreplayer88Man 10 weeks ago

Aberystwyth


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis."

+5

No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+2

Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+4

While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework.

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By *tkatninety OP   Woman 10 weeks ago

Cardiff


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

+5

No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+2

Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+4

While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework."

Thanks , as you have confirmed above . Those diagnosed with Asperger's withhold that diagnosis and it is recognised and treated as such by the NHS.

I'm not sure you're a medic yourself or hold a diagnosis ? but I can assure you that though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely .

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By *lessing2016Woman 10 weeks ago

Cardiff


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

+5

No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+2

Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+4

While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework."

So the other person is right in that they were diagnosed and have Asperger's, however if you have a recent diagnosis or were to read any text/book/paper's they would say autism instead as a broad term?

So you are both right?

*Note* I'm not here to argue or debate, just commenting to educate myself.

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By *tkatninety OP   Woman 10 weeks ago

Cardiff


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

+5

No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+2

Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+4

While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework.

So the other person is right in that they were diagnosed and have Asperger's, however if you have a recent diagnosis or were to read any text/book/paper's they would say autism instead as a broad term?

So you are both right?

*Note* I'm not here to argue or debate, just commenting to educate myself. "

Yes

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By *lessing2016Woman 10 weeks ago

Cardiff

Perfect, thank you.

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By *lessing2016Woman 10 weeks ago

Cardiff

Back to the topic at hand, I'm not diagnosed as neurodivergent but I'm a firm believer we all sit on the spectrum somewhere.

My hubs however has ADHD and I've found/witnessed that this emphasises his need to really ensure there is a valued connection with someone before engaging in any sexually activity, which can take weeks or even months, unless he already knows them as a friend

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By *ewportguy888Man 10 weeks ago

Newport


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins. "

.

Still used if thats what you were diagnosed with buddy. Makes no sence though since the man that coined the term "autism" Eugene bleuler was also tied to the nazi's 🤷 look into that guy

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By *aigressMan 10 weeks ago

Cardiff

Awaiting official diagnosis...

But I had to sit through my older brothers with him at some stages and I also went through all his paperwork and scored higher on some things.. well above the threshold.

Parents all diagnosed as adult too.

So im 99.99% sure i have adhd, I would also ve considered autistic.. *I kbow there are a few different specifics.. in terms of sub categories etc and im not up on the language

But I would be classed as on it

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By *wanseacity121Man 10 weeks ago

Swansea

I have ADHD but I'm really happy in myself, and how you all are too.

The symptoms for me are mainly with work. I hyper focus and in my job it's been an advantage.

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By *oreplayer88Man 10 weeks ago

Aberystwyth


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

+5

No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+2

Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+4

While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework.

Thanks , as you have confirmed above . Those diagnosed with Asperger's withhold that diagnosis and it is recognised and treated as such by the NHS.

I'm not sure you're a medic yourself or hold a diagnosis ? but I can assure you that though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely .

"

I have an ASD diagnosis. "though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely"... that's not entirely true e.g. women used to be diagnosed with "female hysteria" which was " was an archaic, commonly used, and now-defunct medical diagnosis for women, spanning from ancient times to the early 20th century. It was a "catch-all" diagnosis for a wide range of, or often unexplained, symptoms—such as anxiety, faintness, insomnia, or "troublesome" behavior—rooted in the sexist belief that a "wandering uterus" or emotional instability caused such ailments".

As someone who would have been diagnosed as "Asperger's" if said diagnosis hadn't been retired, I find the term offensive due to it's links with Nazi eugenics.

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By *tkatninety OP   Woman 10 weeks ago

Cardiff


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

+5

No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+2

Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+4

While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework.

Thanks , as you have confirmed above . Those diagnosed with Asperger's withhold that diagnosis and it is recognised and treated as such by the NHS.

I'm not sure you're a medic yourself or hold a diagnosis ? but I can assure you that though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely .

I have an ASD diagnosis. "though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely"... that's not entirely true e.g. women used to be diagnosed with "female hysteria" which was " was an archaic, commonly used, and now-defunct medical diagnosis for women, spanning from ancient times to the early 20th century. It was a "catch-all" diagnosis for a wide range of, or often unexplained, symptoms—such as anxiety, faintness, insomnia, or "troublesome" behavior—rooted in the sexist belief that a "wandering uterus" or emotional instability caused such ailments".

As someone who would have been diagnosed as "Asperger's" if said diagnosis hadn't been retired, I find the term offensive due to it's links with Nazi eugenics. "

I am.nor here to argue with you and I can assure you if your intent is to make me feel stupid , that won't work either ..

The question I put forward was how neurodiversity as a whole may effect those in this lifestyle . You so clearly want a debate and if that's the case , put your own focused thread up. Can we keep this one friendly, thanks !

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By *oreplayer88Man 10 weeks ago

Aberystwyth


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

+5

No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+2

Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+4

While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework.

Thanks , as you have confirmed above . Those diagnosed with Asperger's withhold that diagnosis and it is recognised and treated as such by the NHS.

I'm not sure you're a medic yourself or hold a diagnosis ? but I can assure you that though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely .

I have an ASD diagnosis. "though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely"... that's not entirely true e.g. women used to be diagnosed with "female hysteria" which was " was an archaic, commonly used, and now-defunct medical diagnosis for women, spanning from ancient times to the early 20th century. It was a "catch-all" diagnosis for a wide range of, or often unexplained, symptoms—such as anxiety, faintness, insomnia, or "troublesome" behavior—rooted in the sexist belief that a "wandering uterus" or emotional instability caused such ailments".

As someone who would have been diagnosed as "Asperger's" if said diagnosis hadn't been retired, I find the term offensive due to it's links with Nazi eugenics.

I am.nor here to argue with you and I can assure you if your intent is to make me feel stupid , that won't work either ..

The question I put forward was how neurodiversity as a whole may effect those in this lifestyle . You so clearly want a debate and if that's the case , put your own focused thread up. Can we keep this one friendly, thanks !"

EXCUSE ME?

Am I not neurodiverse and in the lifestyle?

I merely pointed out the FACT that Asperger diagnosis has been retired for a good reason.

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By *ewportguy888Man 10 weeks ago

Newport


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

+5

No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+2

Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+4

While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework.

Thanks , as you have confirmed above . Those diagnosed with Asperger's withhold that diagnosis and it is recognised and treated as such by the NHS.

I'm not sure you're a medic yourself or hold a diagnosis ? but I can assure you that though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely .

I have an ASD diagnosis. "though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely"... that's not entirely true e.g. women used to be diagnosed with "female hysteria" which was " was an archaic, commonly used, and now-defunct medical diagnosis for women, spanning from ancient times to the early 20th century. It was a "catch-all" diagnosis for a wide range of, or often unexplained, symptoms—such as anxiety, faintness, insomnia, or "troublesome" behavior—rooted in the sexist belief that a "wandering uterus" or emotional instability caused such ailments".

As someone who would have been diagnosed as "Asperger's" if said diagnosis hadn't been retired, I find the term offensive due to it's links with Nazi eugenics.

I am.nor here to argue with you and I can assure you if your intent is to make me feel stupid , that won't work either ..

The question I put forward was how neurodiversity as a whole may effect those in this lifestyle . You so clearly want a debate and if that's the case , put your own focused thread up. Can we keep this one friendly, thanks !

EXCUSE ME?

Am I not neurodiverse and in the lifestyle?

I merely pointed out the FACT that Asperger diagnosis has been retired for a good reason. "

Yes hans aspergers had ties to the nazi's. So did Eugene bleuler who came up with autism. Bleuler definitely being the worst of the two. Does "autism" offend you too, that has nazi origins also? If aspergers is bad because its tied to nazis how is autism acceptable to you 🤷 autism also has nazi origins. i've done alot of research on this subject. Im not trying to trigger or offend you buddy but your logic makes no sence. Seriously, look into bleuler. Anyway I dont think the op wants this debate on her post so good day to you buddy 😁👍

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By *haos_GremlinMan 10 weeks ago

Porth

Diagnosed adhd when I was younger which I’ve learnt over the years to focus how and when I want so it’s become very beneficial for me. I do tend to let it off its leash at socials and just see where it takes me 😂 led to some memorable adventures

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By *oreplayer88Man 10 weeks ago

Aberystwyth


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

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No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

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Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

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While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework.

Thanks , as you have confirmed above . Those diagnosed with Asperger's withhold that diagnosis and it is recognised and treated as such by the NHS.

I'm not sure you're a medic yourself or hold a diagnosis ? but I can assure you that though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely .

I have an ASD diagnosis. "though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely"... that's not entirely true e.g. women used to be diagnosed with "female hysteria" which was " was an archaic, commonly used, and now-defunct medical diagnosis for women, spanning from ancient times to the early 20th century. It was a "catch-all" diagnosis for a wide range of, or often unexplained, symptoms—such as anxiety, faintness, insomnia, or "troublesome" behavior—rooted in the sexist belief that a "wandering uterus" or emotional instability caused such ailments".

As someone who would have been diagnosed as "Asperger's" if said diagnosis hadn't been retired, I find the term offensive due to it's links with Nazi eugenics.

I am.nor here to argue with you and I can assure you if your intent is to make me feel stupid , that won't work either ..

The question I put forward was how neurodiversity as a whole may effect those in this lifestyle . You so clearly want a debate and if that's the case , put your own focused thread up. Can we keep this one friendly, thanks !

EXCUSE ME?

Am I not neurodiverse and in the lifestyle?

I merely pointed out the FACT that Asperger diagnosis has been retired for a good reason.

Yes hans aspergers had ties to the nazi's. So did Eugene bleuler who came up with autism. Bleuler definitely being the worst of the two. Does "autism" offend you too, that has nazi origins also? If aspergers is bad because its tied to nazis how is autism acceptable to you 🤷 autism also has nazi origins. i've done alot of research on this subject. Im not trying to trigger or offend you buddy but your logic makes no sence. Seriously, look into bleuler. Anyway I dont think the op wants this debate on her post so good day to you buddy 😁👍"

The term "Asperger's" is considered outdated and increasingly offensive due to its origin with Hans Asperger, an Austrian pediatrician who collaborated with the Nazi regime and was implicated in the deaths of disabled children. While once a formal diagnosis, it is now obsolete, replaced by Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD).

National Autistic Society

National Autistic Society

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Nazi Associations: Research has linked Hans Asperger to the Nazi eugenics program, leading many to find the continued use of his name for a diagnosis inappropriate and disrespectful to victims.

Outdated Diagnosis: Since the DSM-5 (2013) and ICD-11, Asperger's is no longer a formal medical diagnosis; it is now classified under the broader Autism Spectrum Disorder (specifically, what was once called Asperger's is often referred to as ASD Level 1).

Personal Usage: Although many professionals and advocates avoid the term, some individuals diagnosed before 2013 still use "Asperger's" or "Aspie" as a personal identity label.

Preference for Autistic: Most experts and self-advocates now prefer the term "autistic" or "autistic person" as it is more inclusive and less associated with historical trauma.

National Autistic Society

National Autistic Society

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In summary, while not necessarily intended as an insult by those still using it for themselves, the term is widely considered offensive or, at best, historically insensitive by the broader autistic community and professionals.

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By *ewportguy888Man 10 weeks ago

Newport

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By *oreplayer88Man 10 weeks ago

Aberystwyth


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

+5

No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

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Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+4

While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework.

Thanks , as you have confirmed above . Those diagnosed with Asperger's withhold that diagnosis and it is recognised and treated as such by the NHS.

I'm not sure you're a medic yourself or hold a diagnosis ? but I can assure you that though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely .

I have an ASD diagnosis. "though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely"... that's not entirely true e.g. women used to be diagnosed with "female hysteria" which was " was an archaic, commonly used, and now-defunct medical diagnosis for women, spanning from ancient times to the early 20th century. It was a "catch-all" diagnosis for a wide range of, or often unexplained, symptoms—such as anxiety, faintness, insomnia, or "troublesome" behavior—rooted in the sexist belief that a "wandering uterus" or emotional instability caused such ailments".

As someone who would have been diagnosed as "Asperger's" if said diagnosis hadn't been retired, I find the term offensive due to it's links with Nazi eugenics.

I am.nor here to argue with you and I can assure you if your intent is to make me feel stupid , that won't work either ..

The question I put forward was how neurodiversity as a whole may effect those in this lifestyle . You so clearly want a debate and if that's the case , put your own focused thread up. Can we keep this one friendly, thanks !

EXCUSE ME?

Am I not neurodiverse and in the lifestyle?

I merely pointed out the FACT that Asperger diagnosis has been retired for a good reason.

Yes hans aspergers had ties to the nazi's. So did Eugene bleuler who came up with autism. Bleuler definitely being the worst of the two. Does "autism" offend you too, that has nazi origins also? If aspergers is bad because its tied to nazis how is autism acceptable to you 🤷 autism also has nazi origins. i've done alot of research on this subject. Im not trying to trigger or offend you buddy but your logic makes no sence. Seriously, look into bleuler. Anyway I dont think the op wants this debate on her post so good day to you buddy 😁👍"

Eugen Bleuler (1857–1939), the Swiss psychiatrist famous for coining "schizophrenia," was not directly associated with the Nazi party. While he held eugenicist views common in psychiatry at the time, he did not share the racial fanaticism of his former assistant, Ernst Rüdin, who became a leading psychiatrist in Nazi Germany.

Wikipedia

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Key points regarding Eugen Bleuler and the Nazi era:

Eugenic Views: Like many early 20th-century psychiatrists, Bleuler expressed support for eugenic measures, including the sterilization of those with severe mental illness, believing it was for the benefit of society.

Contrast with Rüdin: His former assistant, Ernst Rüdin, was a "racial fanatic" who joined the Nazi party, helped develop Nazi racial-hygienic measures, and supported the "euthanasia" programs.

Context: Bleuler was a Swiss citizen who worked at the Burghölzli hospital in Zürich and did not directly participate in the atrocities committed by German psychiatrists during the Third Reich.

Wikipedia

Wikipedia

Bleuler's work focused on schizophrenia, while his legacy is complicated by his support for eugenics, though he did not adopt the extreme racial policies of the Nazis.

In summary, Eugen Bleuler died before WWII and wasn't a Nazi, whereas Hans Asperger lived to the 1980s and was Nazi.

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By *ewportguy888Man 10 weeks ago

Newport


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins.

Asperger's is very much still recognised in the DSM and ICD as a diagnosis.

+5

No, Asperger’s syndrome is no longer diagnosed in the UK. It was removed from diagnostic manuals (DSM-5 in 2013, ICD-11 in 2019/2022) and replaced by the broader term Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC). People previously diagnosed with Asperger's retain that diagnosis, but new evaluations use the updated, more inclusive autism criteria.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+2

Key Details on Diagnosis in the UK:

Updated Terminology: Doctors now diagnose everyone on the spectrum with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), which includes what was previously called Asperger’s.

Why it Changed: It was moved under the autism umbrella because it is understood to be part of the same spectrum, rather than a separate condition.

Existing Diagnoses: If you were previously diagnosed with Asperger’s, that diagnosis is still valid and recognised by the NHS.

Focus of Care: Modern diagnosis focuses on the individual's specific support needs rather than outdated, separate labels.

nhs.uk

nhs.uk

+4

While some individuals may still use the term "Asperger's" or "Aspie" to describe themselves, clinical, educational, and professional assessments in the UK now use the Autism Spectrum Disorder framework.

Thanks , as you have confirmed above . Those diagnosed with Asperger's withhold that diagnosis and it is recognised and treated as such by the NHS.

I'm not sure you're a medic yourself or hold a diagnosis ? but I can assure you that though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely .

I have an ASD diagnosis. "though medicine is everchanging, previous criterion is never disregarded entirely"... that's not entirely true e.g. women used to be diagnosed with "female hysteria" which was " was an archaic, commonly used, and now-defunct medical diagnosis for women, spanning from ancient times to the early 20th century. It was a "catch-all" diagnosis for a wide range of, or often unexplained, symptoms—such as anxiety, faintness, insomnia, or "troublesome" behavior—rooted in the sexist belief that a "wandering uterus" or emotional instability caused such ailments".

As someone who would have been diagnosed as "Asperger's" if said diagnosis hadn't been retired, I find the term offensive due to it's links with Nazi eugenics.

I am.nor here to argue with you and I can assure you if your intent is to make me feel stupid , that won't work either ..

The question I put forward was how neurodiversity as a whole may effect those in this lifestyle . You so clearly want a debate and if that's the case , put your own focused thread up. Can we keep this one friendly, thanks !

EXCUSE ME?

Am I not neurodiverse and in the lifestyle?

I merely pointed out the FACT that Asperger diagnosis has been retired for a good reason.

Yes hans aspergers had ties to the nazi's. So did Eugene bleuler who came up with autism. Bleuler definitely being the worst of the two. Does "autism" offend you too, that has nazi origins also? If aspergers is bad because its tied to nazis how is autism acceptable to you 🤷 autism also has nazi origins. i've done alot of research on this subject. Im not trying to trigger or offend you buddy but your logic makes no sence. Seriously, look into bleuler. Anyway I dont think the op wants this debate on her post so good day to you buddy 😁👍

Eugen Bleuler (1857–1939), the Swiss psychiatrist famous for coining "schizophrenia," was not directly associated with the Nazi party. While he held eugenicist views common in psychiatry at the time, he did not share the racial fanaticism of his former assistant, Ernst Rüdin, who became a leading psychiatrist in Nazi Germany.

Wikipedia

Wikipedia

+1

Key points regarding Eugen Bleuler and the Nazi era:

Eugenic Views: Like many early 20th-century psychiatrists, Bleuler expressed support for eugenic measures, including the sterilization of those with severe mental illness, believing it was for the benefit of society.

Contrast with Rüdin: His former assistant, Ernst Rüdin, was a "racial fanatic" who joined the Nazi party, helped develop Nazi racial-hygienic measures, and supported the "euthanasia" programs.

Context: Bleuler was a Swiss citizen who worked at the Burghölzli hospital in Zürich and did not directly participate in the atrocities committed by German psychiatrists during the Third Reich.

Wikipedia

Wikipedia

Bleuler's work focused on schizophrenia, while his legacy is complicated by his support for eugenics, though he did not adopt the extreme racial policies of the Nazis.

In summary, Eugen Bleuler died before WWII and wasn't a Nazi, whereas Hans Asperger lived to the 1980s and was Nazi. "

Yes but only due to timing. The nazis built opon his work. He was an old man that died a few years after the nazi regime started. His work in eugenics set the table that the nazi's build upon. If he were alive today, he would want you sterilised or eliminated. He saw us flawed. Their beliefs were his beliefs 🤷.

Both hans asperger and Eugene bleuler were cut from the same cloth. One just pre dated the other. actually look into the guy.

Anyways i'll continue to use the diagnosis i was given. Regardless if you find it offensive or not. The same way I wouldn't stop driving a BMW, Mercedes, or volkswagen if you said they offended you.

Everything is offensive if you try hard enough buddy 😁

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By *3xymamaWoman 10 weeks ago

...., Wales


"Aspergers here. I wouldn't say it affects my sexual behaviour. But its definitely a hindrance for me with the social interactions part. Approaching strangers and starting up a conversation doesn't come naturally to me. Always feels like a struggle at first. Like my brain just switches off after the initial hello and I can't think of anything to say. Once i've settled down and relaxed I'm much better, but that initial hurdle can be quite difficult to get over. As for positives personally I pick up on things, im very good at reading people or a room. Comes in handy when you're not the best at social interactions i guess.

I will say though i've bumped into quite a few others in the scene who are also on the spectrum. So maybe there is something about us thats drawn to this type of lifestyle 🤷

The Asperger's diagnosis has been retired owing to it's Nazi origins. "

You've not really read the opening thread.. if there are other things you want to discuss, then why not start a new thread about your topic?

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By *uckMe12FreeMan 10 weeks ago

(User no longer on site)

Everyone knows what the OP is talking about, why has this turned into some sort of Nazi, political bollocks thread? I've absolutely no idea what any of this conversation is about, and I'm not going to pretend I do. But all I've read is confrontations and avoidance of the actual original question.

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By *aunchyDevilCouple 10 weeks ago

Natymoel

Couples profile but I, the male half, am Autistic.

It certainly has its effect within kinky lifestyles. As swingers we obviously enjoy meeting other’s that are likeminded, going to clubs etc. That is something I enjoy but also struggle with; lots of people in a relatively small space, noise levels, the difficulties of socialising or trying to work out if someone is flirting etc.

To echo comments of other posters it can be hard to mask, so as not to come across in ways that could be perceived as rude or blunt by neurotypical folk.

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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago

I am on the spectrum and I would say it does affect me on the social side of things, confidence etc, but once I am comfortable I am usually ok going forward!

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By *orphia2003Woman 10 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Don't think it affects my fab life any more or less than it affects any other part of life.

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By *ed FlameWoman 10 weeks ago

South Gloucestershire


"Being AuDHD doesn't help in this scene, yes it's helped me make some very long lasting, diverse friendships over the years, but it's also made me a bit marmite for people. Some will love my lack of filters & the freedom that sometimes comes with my physical expression, others can't manage my direct approach & bluntness. My sense of fairness also seems to polarise people, I can't just let things slide.

In terms of meeting, I don't gel with many people so meets are few & far between, it doesn't take much from some people to shut me down socially, especially on here.

I can be intolerant & grumpy & very very prickly, but those I do click with, they see a totally opposite side to me, that shows my free & uninhibited soul.

I naturally gravitate to difference, because it makes me feel safer X"

I don't have a diagnosis for ADHD instead I was diagnosed with a personality disorder but I felt seen reading your post as this is so me.

Xxx

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By *eroLondonMan 10 weeks ago

Mayfair

As a neurotypical I feel mostly, on the whole, no different when interacting with neurodiverse people. I will be brutally honest, however, they do try my patience to a minor degree. Perhaps it isn't my patience that is tested but my resolve and stimulus because I appreciate them whilst at the same time they are aware of my minor disquiet.

I am referring to women that I have met from here — socially and sexually — because most of those who land in my inbox and my bed are rarely neurotypical.

They seem to keep me on my toes. It's all good.

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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago

Bit on the neurospicy side as they're saying these days. I must say, this site is absolutely brutal for Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria.

I was here as part of a couple years ago and I had nothing but friendly positive encounters when messaging people, but as a single man, not being sure what tone to take on opening messages and getting blanket nothing back regardless, is hardddddd.

The ASD makes me seek rules for what the conduct should be but there are none/they change according to unobservable circumstances. So searching people's profile and trying to conform to what they have said a message should be is great, but also very frustrating when you get left unread.

Being left unread forever is really bad for the RSD. I would literally rather be told to Eff off and get blocked.

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By *tsMeMattyHMan 10 weeks ago

Aberdeen

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By *3achyBWoman 10 weeks ago

Aberpennar


"Being AuDHD doesn't help in this scene, yes it's helped me make some very long lasting, diverse friendships over the years, but it's also made me a bit marmite for people. Some will love my lack of filters & the freedom that sometimes comes with my physical expression, others can't manage my direct approach & bluntness. My sense of fairness also seems to polarise people, I can't just let things slide.

In terms of meeting, I don't gel with many people so meets are few & far between, it doesn't take much from some people to shut me down socially, especially on here.

I can be intolerant & grumpy & very very prickly, but those I do click with, they see a totally opposite side to me, that shows my free & uninhibited soul.

I naturally gravitate to difference, because it makes me feel safer X

I don't have a diagnosis for ADHD instead I was diagnosed with a personality disorder but I felt seen reading your post as this is so me.

Xxx"

It's a diverse community & we should all be seen for what we bring to it, unfortunately it's also one of the most judgy in my experience. And yep I know judgy isn't a real word but I like it so

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By *ed FlameWoman 10 weeks ago

South Gloucestershire


"Being AuDHD doesn't help in this scene, yes it's helped me make some very long lasting, diverse friendships over the years, but it's also made me a bit marmite for people. Some will love my lack of filters & the freedom that sometimes comes with my physical expression, others can't manage my direct approach & bluntness. My sense of fairness also seems to polarise people, I can't just let things slide.

In terms of meeting, I don't gel with many people so meets are few & far between, it doesn't take much from some people to shut me down socially, especially on here.

I can be intolerant & grumpy & very very prickly, but those I do click with, they see a totally opposite side to me, that shows my free & uninhibited soul.

I naturally gravitate to difference, because it makes me feel safer X

I don't have a diagnosis for ADHD instead I was diagnosed with a personality disorder but I felt seen reading your post as this is so me.

Xxx

It's a diverse community & we should all be seen for what we bring to it, unfortunately it's also one of the most judgy in my experience. And yep I know judgy isn't a real word but I like it so "

I like the word as well.

It is and I find it very clicky.

I am here to meet & not make best friends.

Xx

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By *r_Mrs_SexytimesCouple 10 weeks ago

never never land

Bi polar type 2 (mrs)

Affects all aspects of my life.

But it is what it is.

X

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By *igd321sweetMan 10 weeks ago

Barry

Honestly, it seems I have a hard time because I’m not the best at opening messages.

Once people give me a chance, they realise I’m a nice guy…

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By *eyond the Ninth WaveMan 10 weeks ago

country

Everyone is unique, each of us lucky to be blessed with the gift of being alive. Everyone benefits from kindness, contact, good vibes. Some lines from Rumi spring to mind...

"Come, let us be friends and lovers. Let us make life easy for one another, for the earth shall be left to no one"

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By *psidedownroundyouturnmeWoman 10 weeks ago

Newport

Undiagnosed but awaiting assessment (likely AuDHD), however I find initial communications can be difficult, misunderstandings can occur especially with neurotypicals, and I’m pretty socially awkward.

Also previous life experiences can have an impact on how I relate to others, for example being judged for how we talk/ tone policing etc, sensory issues can interrupt play as well, and there’s an overlap between ND and the Asexual spectrum, which is difficult for people to understand or have patience for.

Talking from personal experience, not saying this is true for all ND people 😁

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By *espectful guy 91Man 10 weeks ago

Merthyr Tydfil

I am autistic myself and I do hold back messaging people as am a shy guy and I feel I might say the wrong thing or offend someone when I don't mean it but I will try and show everyone I speak to kindness and respect

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By *spire2writeandEnjoyMan 10 weeks ago

Pontypridd

Asperger’s here.

I’d say I’m on a similar boat to you guys.

Getting the foot in the door is the hardest part. But when I’m in a social or meet situation, I find it quite smooth and easy? At least so far.

And yeah, especially as a guy, who’s also quite young in this scene, it can be a challenge.

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By *hills2017Couple 10 weeks ago

Newport

fella dyslexic + anxiety- me audhd- on fab biggest one is mr navigating with dyslexia let alone dealing with messages & anxiety with going to clubs or socials

for me explaining a random vocal tic in person and coming across short and blunt or just saying the most inappropriate things which some people like that

both- starting messages is the hardest part & in person is knowing if some one is flirting with us or just being polite/nice/friendly

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By *evilWoman16Woman 10 weeks ago

Maesteg

I'd certainly say I'm in the spectrum in some way.

I wouldn't say I act differently in the scene than I do in vanilla life.

Things can be very black and white for me, I have no filter and I can be probably too blunt. However I'm very sensitive. It can be difficult to navigate

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By *uicy and wetCouple 9 weeks ago

swansea

Both neurodivergent here

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By *ude Not 2Couple 9 weeks ago

Barry.

This is such an interesting question. I covered (briefly) neurodiversity in a course, and would love to know what a safe space within a social environment would look like.

Do people think socials, house parties and clubs need to be more aware of neurodivergent guests? Are these spaces safe for neurodivergent guests?

I am not diagnosed as neurodivergent but found the thread really interesting

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By *3achyBWoman 9 weeks ago

Aberpennar

A safe space is different for all of us, for me it would be somewhere I can still be with friends, in the environment, but an acknowledgement that I might be socially overwhelmed & just need to sit quietly & listen. In some situations, with people who aren't familiar with me, they think I'm being rude.

I particularly like club situations, I'm able to walk out of the room & sit people watching, when my brain needs a break X

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By *ude Not 2Couple 9 weeks ago

Barry.

As our House of Earthly Delights parties get more popular, it’s important that we are able to offer quieter spaces for our neurodiverse guests, when required and keeping conversations going when we are together.

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