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Going to a club as a single guy who wouldn't join in with couples

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've been wanting to go to a club for some time now but I'm not sure how I'd fit in as a single guy with no desire to see another naked man. I realise that clubs are aimed at swingers but I'm really only interested in women. I am sociable and chatty and would talk to anyone there but my sexual appetites just don't stretch that far. I'd appreciate any advice, experiences or suggestions. Thanks folks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been wanting to go to a club for some time now but I'm not sure how I'd fit in as a single guy with no desire to see another naked man. I realise that clubs are aimed at swingers but I'm really only interested in women. I am sociable and chatty and would talk to anyone there but my sexual appetites just don't stretch that far. I'd appreciate any advice, experiences or suggestions. Thanks folks."

Personally I’d say a club wasn’t for you then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It really depends on where you go as to how much naked you see .

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman over a year ago

London

Personally I’d say a club wasn’t for you then."

How? Single women go to clubs, too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I’d say a club wasn’t for you then.

How? Single women go to clubs, too."

I know I bloody love clubs! But if he doesn’t feel comfortable seeing another man naked it might be a bit difficult.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Personally I’d say a club wasn’t for you then.

How? Single women go to clubs, too.

I know I bloody love clubs! But if he doesn’t feel comfortable seeing another man naked it might be a bit difficult."

It's not necessarily seeing another guy naked, it's more seeing them in action. I know that may seem an odd thing to those who are used to it. I'm also are that single girls go to clubs, I guess I'm just not sure how many of them are there looking for single guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not worry you won’t catch the gay if you see other men naked or are you just repressing your bi side?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I’d say a club wasn’t for you then.

How? Single women go to clubs, too.

I know I bloody love clubs! But if he doesn’t feel comfortable seeing another man naked it might be a bit difficult.

Oh ok, maybe look for a club that does singles nights?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not worry you won’t catch the gay if you see other men naked or are you just repressing your bi side?

Haha, I know that. I watch porn, most of that has men in it, that's the odd part. Maybe I just need to take the plunge and see what I think in person

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Personally I’d say a club wasn’t for you then.

How? Single women go to clubs, too.

I know I bloody love clubs! But if he doesn’t feel comfortable seeing another man naked it might be a bit difficult.

Oh ok, maybe look for a club that does singles nights?"

I could look into that. Good thinking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The thing that worry me the most about going to a club on my own for the first time is having know one to talk to and looking like the lonely weirdo at the bar

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The thing that worry me the most about going to a club on my own for the first time is having know one to talk to and looking like the lonely weirdo at the bar

Hear that my friend ??

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By *ishopstippleMan over a year ago

Purley

I'm not sure. catching Bi is very easy, and quite contagious.

As the OP is so worried, may be Clubs or swinging isn't for him.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"The thing that worry me the most about going to a club on my own for the first time is having know one to talk to and looking like the lonely weirdo at the bar

I have been to a club twice as a single woman, the first time I went I got attention quickly but the guy clung to me all night! My second visit I was sat at the bar for a while hour before someone chatted to me and then all was fine! Going to a club does not mean you have to go upstairs and watch the action, it also does not mean you need to play with couples! It’s up to you what you want to do OP. I think you should try a club and see what you think but don’t over think it. Good luck!

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By *nfamousbutFunWoman over a year ago

Maidenhead

"I'm not sure. catching Bi is very easy, and quite contagious.

As the OP is so worried, may be Clubs or swinging isn't for him."

I've heard an old wives tale that if you use 2 condoms and not just 1 on the penis before it goes into your mouth you don't catch the gay

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By *plpxp2Couple over a year ago

Middlesbrough

So if I have it right you want a single female to play with so you don't see naked guys, despite advertising for couples, confused. In a club you are looking for a female who is wanting 1:1 play, probably in a locked room, this may be possible but a lot of ladies are looking for attention from more than one guy though you may strike lucky.

The best way to approach a club is to have no expectation of play, go, soak up the atmosphere and chat to folks and see where it leads.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman over a year ago

Victoria, London

you need to get over yourself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I’d say a club wasn’t for you then.

How? Single women go to clubs, too.

I know I bloody love clubs! But if he doesn’t feel comfortable seeing another man naked it might be a bit difficult.

Oh ok, maybe look for a club that does singles nights?"
singles night , there will still be males there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you should speak to a club and ask them about staging a 'Bachelor' night

One man (you) and a load of women, all vying for your attentions

That sounds pretty much like what you're wanting

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

" I realise that clubs are aimed at swingers but I'm really only interested in women. I am sociable and chatty and would talk to anyone there but my sexual appetites just don't stretch that far. I'd appreciate any advice. "

Your profile says you are open minded and flexible and looking to meet couples. Maybe you should amend that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve never been to a club only reason is I don’t think there would be much interest in a 21 year old guy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So if I have it right you want a single female to play with so you don't see naked guys, despite advertising for couples, confused. In a club you are looking for a female who is wanting 1:1 play, probably in a locked room, this may be possible but a lot of ladies are looking for attention from more than one guy though you may strike lucky.

The best way to approach a club is to have no expectation of play, go, soak up the atmosphere and chat to folks and see where it leads. "

Exactly right

Try it before you come to conclusions, if only to socialise and meet people and who knows you may just meet that person you are seeking

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By *riggler90Couple over a year ago

Essex and Dublin

"The thing that worry me the most about going to a club on my own for the first time is having know one to talk to and looking like the lonely weirdo at the bar

Im the weirdo that talks to all the other weirdos!

I usually go as a couple but I talk to anyone. The guy I go with often comes looking for me and I'm

Jusf chatting to new people. If you have the courage to break the ice in a non threatening, humorous way then you might just find someone likeminded ... openminded i guess.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s probably intimidating for a single guy to talk to a couple I find ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Suck It And See Op

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By *os19Man over a year ago

Edmonton

"The thing that worry me the most about going to a club on my own for the first time is having know one to talk to and looking like the lonely weirdo at the bar

Hear that my friend ??"
. So change it guys don’t be the lonely weirdo.When I joined a club in London I was given a guided tour of the club by one of the girls.I then talked to the staff and some of the ladies , gents and couples at the bar and I went to some of the plays area in the club chatting and when invited joined in the fun.Go with no expectations other than to have a good night out and anymore is a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm planning on going to my first club Tuesday evening I'm not expecting anything on my first visit just want to see what's what, chat to a few people get, and get a idea of what its all about. It's just a bit daunting going on my own for the fist time I know I'll enjoy it its just the what ifs in the back of my mind haha but the excitement overrides the nervousness of the unknown.

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By *plpxp2Couple over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"I'm planning on going to my first club Tuesday evening I'm not expecting anything on my first visit just want to see what's what, chat to a few people get, and get a idea of what its all about. It's just a bit daunting going on my own for the fist time I know I'll enjoy it its just the what ifs in the back of my mind haha but the excitement overrides the nervousness of the unknown."

Once you have walked through the door you will wonder why you had a concern. All club staff we have come across are friendly, helpful and will explain how the club operates, if they don't then I would suggest another club for your first time x

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

You play how you want to play if thats with only women one on one in a locked room then that is what you do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol at this post. Why dont you want to see a naked man are you scared you might like it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Your profile says you are open minded and flexible and looking to meet couples. Maybe you should amend that."

Amended, thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just rock out with your cock out!

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By *he RingmasterMan over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

I think a club isn't for you if you not comfortable with the idea of being caught in an overshoot or the potential chance of crossing swords.

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By *nfamousbutFunWoman over a year ago

Maidenhead

"I think a club isn't for you if you not comfortable with the idea of being caught in an overshoot or the potential chance of crossing swords."

Winner of all comments!

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

"The thing that worry me the most about going to a club on my own for the first time is having know one to talk to and looking like the lonely weirdo at the bar

Put your big boy pants on and go talk to people. I love meeting new people. That’s what it’s all about for me.

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

So you never got naked at school after PE lesson to shower or at a leisure centre changing rooms.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Single women are usually the smallest and most sought after group, and men usually the opposite. If you exclude playing with couples (or being around other people's penises) you're probably limiting your prospects.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

Your profile says you are open minded and flexible and looking to meet couples. Maybe you should amend that.

Amended, thank you"

You could also change the word ‘people’ to ‘ladies’ in your profile text, as you are only looking for females. Just adds to the clarity

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By *adyGardenWoman over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I think you need tinder

Not a naked man in sight

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"I think you should speak to a club and ask them about staging a 'Bachelor' night

One man (you) and a load of women, all vying for your attentions

That sounds pretty much like what you're wanting"

Lots of great replies in this thread but this was my favourite so far ^^^^

Maybe OP could try really dark sunglasses in the club and only lift them up when he was fairly sure just a woman was in front of him?

Seriously OP most of us are very respectful and totally believe that no one should do anything they are not happy with.... but in your case you are going to have to come out of your comfort zone a little bit and risk seeing a naked man with his cock out, otherwise clubs are not going to work for you.

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By *opite 5Man over a year ago

Bangor

If you've no desire to see naked men then clubs will not be for you, though can't see your issue with seeing naked men as your not playing with men. Sounds like gangbangs wouldn't be for u also if you've a problem with naked men.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"I think you should speak to a club and ask them about staging a 'Bachelor' night

One man (you) and a load of women, all vying for your attentions

That sounds pretty much like what you're wanting

Lots of great replies in this thread but this was my favourite so far ^^^^

Maybe OP could try really dark sunglasses in the club and only lift them up when he was fairly sure just a woman was in front of him?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That just sounds like tinder

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By *oo hotCouple over a year ago

North West

Personally I’d say a club wasn’t for you then.

How? Single women go to clubs, too.

I know I bloody love clubs! But if he doesn’t feel comfortable seeing another man naked it might be a bit difficult.

So you don’t watch porn?

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By *arc and KamaCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

The best way to approach a club is to have no expectation of play, go, soak up the atmosphere and chat to folks and see where it leads. "

Imagine being a man who goes to the clubs without having the expectations

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

"The thing that worry me the most about going to a club on my own for the first time is having know one to talk to and looking like the lonely weirdo at the bar

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bit like going on holiday , would you walk in the bar sit on own and not speak to anyone, thing is you get what you put into it

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

The best way to approach a club is to have no expectation of play, go, soak up the atmosphere and chat to folks and see where it leads.

Exactly right

Try it before you come to conclusions, if only to socialise and meet people and who knows you may just meet that person you are seeking

"
this is bang on, have seen loads pay in go sit in the corner or chill area on there phone on fabs

looking for lasses when theres lots within the club ,have seen lads payin get changed sit outside a playroom waiting for cpls girls ect ,may work for some not for us , better to social see if you click then worlds your oyster, in our local club if seen to be nervy when you join a member of staff usually bring singles over to us or other regs to break the ice nice to nice

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"have seen loads pay in go sit in the corner or chill area on there phone on fabs

looking for lasses when theres lots within the club "

Your local club lets people use their phones ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I’d say a club wasn’t for you then.

How? Single women go to clubs, too.

I know I bloody love clubs! But if he doesn’t feel comfortable seeing another man naked it might be a bit difficult."

This. Yes, there's single ladies in clubs. But you not wanting to see another guy at it at all would rule out any use of the jacuzzis, public rooms, group rooms, anywhere within sight of the viewing room etc.

Your entire experience would hinge upon being able to get into the bar area, chat with a single lady, then have her be prepared to lead you with your eyes tight shut to a private room that happens to be vacant, have your fun, then have her lead you back to the bar, again with your eyes tightly closed, where you remain until leaving?

Clubs "probably" aren't for you as you're not really what could be described as a swinger, more just a chap that wants sex with ladies? In which case the time-honoured fashion of pulling in a vanilla club or bar before heading back to yours or hers as standard is probably far more suited.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I’d say a club wasn’t for you then.

How? Single women go to clubs, too."

Yes but not very many particularly and smaller clubs you probably wouldn't have any on most nights.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m single but I’m only 21 that’s why clubs don’t appeal to me, women think I’m too young!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m single but I’m only 21 that’s why clubs don’t appeal to me, women think I’m too young!

You look good to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't go again.. I'd seriously have to think about whether I'd want to go as a couple as well.

Each to their own. Given what you've said, it sounds like group socials would be a better option.

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By *r TenderMan over a year ago

wallasey

dont know...just maybe you might be able to say that your fantasy is be blindfolded upon Entering until exiting the hot club with the hot sexy people making hot sexual memory's to cherish no sorry that's a stupid idea maybe try more of a less riskier dating site .and I would like to say i went to club on my own and my niveous where shot the butterfly's In my stomach was like oh no it was more like an a empire of flutterfly's in there nice definitely a fabulous experience and the host and hostesses where amazing Made me feel at ease relaxed and at home time I left with a smile on face memory's.

Oh good luck with what happens dude ????

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