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Rejected twice from LB
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered  Any advice or help much appreciated.
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Dan & Sara |
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By *JCouple
over a year ago
Teesside |
"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
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Dan & Sara "
Can you ask them for feedback on why specifically you were declined?
KJ xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
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Dan & Sara "
You are not supermodels....you are MUCH HOTTER....  |
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Sounds obvious and no doubt you did but were the pics clear and with your faces in them?
Or maybe they seemed like they were from the internet or something?
Ours we just snapped in the living room, clothed and dressed normally for the day.
Hope you get it worked out, and if not then you’ll no doubt have just as much fun anywhere else you go, don’t take it personally, you shouldn’t have to prove yourself to anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The first time we applied our photos were rubbish - assumed that was the reason. This time round, the photos were - well - pretty good. Yes we live apart (the joy of having children who we don’t want to disrupt their schooling etc) but other from that a perfectly normal couple. Baffled. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
Thanks
Dan & Sara "
I think it's because you're not looking for single guys it's just not on  |
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"The first time we applied our photos were rubbish - assumed that was the reason. This time round, the photos were - well - pretty good. Yes we live apart (the joy of having children who we don’t want to disrupt their schooling etc) but other from that a perfectly normal couple. Baffled. "
There are only two people taking the decision. So they did not like you. Their club, their decision. Just sets them apart from those organisers who actually have objective criteria for membership. |
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"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
Thanks
Dan & Sara "
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Could I recommend Abfab/Kestrel near Heathrow.
It’s open every day of the week including Sunday. There’s a party on Saturday night. It has a fantastic indoor swimming pool and soon to a have brand new jacuzzi room. There’s a well stocked bar and huge cinema and lounge areas. A dungeon room and lots of play rooms. It’s very friendly and non cliquey. |
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"I wouldn't question it and just go to clubs who do want your custom. Don't give it brainspace xxx
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Absolutely.
If they don’t want you, it’s them who have the issue, not you. I find people who make selections based on looks alone to be pretty shallow & vacuous on the whole, so I wouldn’t take it personally!
Find somewhere you are welcomed & enjoy  x |
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"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
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Dan & Sara "
Don't take it personally! There have been many, many other threads on the same topic. I recall at least one couple complain they were rejected when they went back a second time even! Their club, their criteria...their loss.
Try op4f (ourplace4fun) which is on the tube, or the newly open Ab Fabs (aka Kestrels during the day) which is 1 mile from Terminal 5. |
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Cant recall exactly but I'm sure I read on a thread a while back that you may be accepted to attend on a particular night but they may also tell you on the same night that they will not be extending the membership |
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"The first time we applied our photos were rubbish - assumed that was the reason. This time round, the photos were - well - pretty good. Yes we live apart (the joy of having children who we don’t want to disrupt their schooling etc) but other from that a perfectly normal couple. Baffled.
There are only two people taking the decision. So they did not like you. Their club, their decision. Just sets them apart from those organisers who actually have objective criteria for membership."
Also we do seem to meet a lot of Europeans, particularly French (no really it’s true), who are members there, we suspect part of their criteria is getting an international mix of people. |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
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Dan & Sara "
I’ve actually briefly exchanged mobile texts with the management of the club about a potential future visit. I’m glad I happened to see this thread because I’ll be avoiding that club now. I am sorry about your experience. |
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"The first time we applied our photos were rubbish - assumed that was the reason. This time round, the photos were - well - pretty good. Yes we live apart (the joy of having children who we don’t want to disrupt their schooling etc) but other from that a perfectly normal couple. Baffled.
There are only two people taking the decision. So they did not like you. Their club, their decision. Just sets them apart from those organisers who actually have objective criteria for membership.
Also we do seem to meet a lot of Europeans, particularly French (no really it’s true), who are members there, we suspect part of their criteria is getting an international mix of people."
They know I am not English and speak a few languages. It is extremely unlikely to be their criterion. I think the only one is how they feel about someone. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
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Dan & Sara "
. I am a single guy who has applied twice the applications were 18 months apart both times applications were rejected the email response was the same both times sorry we are currently inordinated with single guys.As I live in London I thought it would be nice to have a club in London I could get to quite easily by underground.Yes I was disappointed but I have moved on I am now a member at OP4F and I may consider membership for AbFabs even though it’s a trek by underground. |
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Similar situation for us only for us they gave us a membership so we attended a Friday night. I then emailed them about two months later to see what events were coming up and they replied that our membership was only a temp one and upon further thoughts it was cancelled when i emailed back asking why they replied that we weren't their kind of clientele, similar to you we didn't think we were that bad so i replied to them stating that although not models we see ourselves fitting in with other that were there.
He replied that 'he disagreed and that i was Fat and my wife is ugly'
So the true rude and disrespectful nature of this club was revealed.
Thing is the video is a con as the club it's self is poorly decorated and basic compared to VA.
And to top it off the one night we did attend our bottle of vodka was stolen half way through the night, so they obviously attract a very high caliber type of clientele.
Trust me darlin, their loss not yours |
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"Similar situation for us only for us they gave us a membership so we attended a Friday night. I then emailed them about two months later to see what events were coming up and they replied that our membership was only a temp one and upon further thoughts it was cancelled when i emailed back asking why they replied that we weren't their kind of clientele, similar to you we didn't think we were that bad so i replied to them stating that although not models we see ourselves fitting in with other that were there.
He replied that 'he disagreed and that i was Fat and my wife is ugly'
So the true rude and disrespectful nature of this club was revealed.
Thing is the video is a con as the club it's self is poorly decorated and basic compared to VA.
And to top it off the one night we did attend our bottle of vodka was stolen half way through the night, so they obviously attract a very high caliber type of clientele.
Trust me darlin, their loss not yours "
So fucking rude I don’t need know why anyone supports this club. I went on the opening weekend and there were 9 of us including the owners. We had a good time but I’ve not been back after hearing these stories.
I like nice people whatever they present as. Fuck beautiful or slim or anything else they seem required for membership - if you’re ugly on the inside I don’t want to know you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't question it and just go to clubs who do want your custom. Don't give it brainspace xxx"
This . There is a thread on here somewhere with the ownera input and they came across as spiteful and quite nasty (although in fairness many people said that they ate not like that in real life) but what was clear is that the yes or no seems entirely subjective with no clear criteria and that they were willing to let people in for the night and then tell them they weren't welcome back.
I know LB has its fans including many friends of mine but it's really not a club for me. |
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"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
Thanks
Dan & Sara "
In the words of someone famous
"Please accept my resignation. I don't care to belong to any club that will have me as a member"
It's there loss not yours so feck them
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"Fab is all about rejection in various forms. If you can’t cope with it you shouldn’t be here. "
There’s rejection and then there’s been called fat or ugly like one of the posters above reported. On fab or from a club regarding membership, rejection doesn’t warrant insults like that. |
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"I wouldn't question it and just go to clubs who do want your custom. Don't give it brainspace xxx
This . There is a thread on here somewhere with the ownera input and they came across as spiteful and quite nasty (although in fairness many people said that they ate not like that in real life) but what was clear is that the yes or no seems entirely subjective with no clear criteria and that they were willing to let people in for the night and then tell them they weren't welcome back.
I know LB has its fans including many friends of mine but it's really not a club for me. "
The club owners are only doing what their gut says, the same as what most here would advocate.
As they are best placed to know what they are offering to their members, and it is their criteria that they operate, it is right that they do the best for them in the longer term.
It's not our thing to be subjected to a starting point that rates us, either of us, so wouldn't apply anyway, but we defend their right to do this if they want to.
As others have said, there are alternatives to this place that will welcome you and you'll fit in with your fellow guests and enjoy your experience without having to be going through hoops in achieving something that has a subjective criteria to begin with.
They will have turned away many decent folk and probably admitted a few arsehole to on occasion, so don't sweat it. Go where you are welcomed and look forward to returning having had a great time.
You are worth it. |
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"Fab is all about rejection in various forms. If you can’t cope with it you shouldn’t be here.
There’s rejection and then there’s been called fat or ugly like one of the posters above reported. On fab or from a club regarding membership, rejection doesn’t warrant insults like that. "
"Fat" and "ugly" are subjective. Precisely the reason why there is a difference between organising events for your guests and organising your own entertainment while making people pay for the privilege. |
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"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
Thanks
Dan & Sara
In the words of someone famous
"Please accept my resignation. I don't care to belong to any club that will have me as a member"
It's there loss not yours so feck them
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Grouchy Marx. |
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"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
Thanks
Dan & Sara
In the words of someone famous
"Please accept my resignation. I don't care to belong to any club that will have me as a member"
It's there loss not yours so feck them
Grouchy Marx."
The wonderful Groucho Marx! He wasn't grouchy at all |
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"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
Thanks
Dan & Sara
In the words of someone famous
"Please accept my resignation. I don't care to belong to any club that will have me as a member"
It's there loss not yours so feck them
Grouchy Marx.
The wonderful Groucho Marx! He wasn't grouchy at all "
Oops.
Autocarrot, my favourite vegetable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab is all about rejection in various forms. If you can’t cope with it you shouldn’t be here. "
I see no difference to someone on here saying they didn't want to meet.
If they are also rude when saying no then who would want to meet someone like that anyway.
I've been turned down for parties, socials and meets. It's fine. |
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"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
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Dan & Sara "
Same as Klub Verboten. Clubs shouldn’t exclude anyone, unless they are assholes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't waste my time, money or energy on the club when there are so many great clubs around. Pleasures. Eureka. Bristol Gardens in Brighton. VA. And the best club ever Chameleons. You would probably find the people there are so far up their own arse, they are virtually cheerios. |
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By *horty4Man
over a year ago
london |
"Anyone else had this? Would love to know why. Although we’re not supermodels, neither are we ugly; been to other clubs (KK, OP4F) with no issues and we’re not totally new to the scene. We’re planning on a London visit to go to LB but plans now spannered Any advice or help much appreciated.
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Dan & Sara
Same as Klub Verboten. Clubs shouldn’t exclude anyone, unless they are assholes. "
From your profile....
“Looking to play with SLIM, AVERAGE, couples, or single females, sorry but our preference.”
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"Fab is all about rejection in various forms. If you can’t cope with it you shouldn’t be here.
There’s rejection and then there’s been called fat or ugly like one of the posters above reported. On fab or from a club regarding membership, rejection doesn’t warrant insults like that. "
That came after my comment. It was on my to visit list. I wouldn’t go no through principle. |
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