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"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔" Depends - try it out! | |||
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"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔" Probably a lot more than you think. | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters" This is a swinging site not a cheating site. We all know the massive difference. Why should there be a selection option for cheating?? Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters This is a swinging site not a cheating site. We all know the massive difference. Why should there be a selection option for cheating?? Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? " Totally agree and there are other sites dedicated to cheaters. | |||
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"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔" I might. I'm in an impossible position. Married for 40 years. Absolutely NO way she'd allow me to stray but won't - for medical reasons related to menopause - have sex. None for the last 5 years or so and I've given up trying, bluntly. At least here people understand having sex with others doesn't mean you're looking for a divorce, just some release and, bluntly, some excitement. But boy, some are a very long way up their own arses here, so knowing I wouldn't be judged would be useful. | |||
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"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔 I might. I'm in an impossible position. Married for 40 years. Absolutely NO way she'd allow me to stray but won't - for medical reasons related to menopause - have sex. None for the last 5 years or so and I've given up trying, bluntly. At least here people understand having sex with others doesn't mean you're looking for a divorce, just some release and, bluntly, some excitement. But boy, some are a very long way up their own arses here, so knowing I wouldn't be judged would be useful." I think it's optimistic to think you wouldn't be judged by some. For myself I'm not concerned with what other people do in this respect if it's not affecting me. This is in the right place for admin to see the suggestion anyway  | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters This is a swinging site not a cheating site. We all know the massive difference. Why should there be a selection option for cheating?? Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? " I've seen people state that they actively seek out people who are cheating | |||
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"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔" A fair few would be my guess, though not us. Before I ( male) met my partner, and when single, I had a three year affair with a woman from Fab. Her and her husband were both active swingers and well known on the scene, hosting parties etc. she told me that lots of swingers she knew were having affairs. As someone not in the swinging world at the time, I found that confusing. Why go elsewhere if you can have all the sex you want out in the open? She explained it as wanting a deeper connection, to be wanted, rather than just sex and that sometimes she felt like ‘bait’ when swinging. I caught some feelings and was not overly keen on meeting others swinging but was strangely ok with the fact that she had a husband she slept with! I was very judgy of swingers back then. I am sure she would have a wry smile if she knew how I turned out. So to end my displacement activity to avoid work inspired meanderings, that episode and the fact we get lots of married men contacting us have lead me to that conclusion. | |||
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"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔 A fair few would be my guess, though not us. Before I ( male) met my partner, and when single, I had a three year affair with a woman from Fab. Her and her husband were both active swingers and well known on the scene, hosting parties etc. she told me that lots of swingers she knew were having affairs. As someone not in the swinging world at the time, I found that confusing. Why go elsewhere if you can have all the sex you want out in the open? She explained it as wanting a deeper connection, to be wanted, rather than just sex and that sometimes she felt like ‘bait’ when swinging. I caught some feelings and was not overly keen on meeting others swinging but was strangely ok with the fact that she had a husband she slept with! I was very judgy of swingers back then. I am sure she would have a wry smile if she knew how I turned out. So to end my displacement activity to avoid work inspired meanderings, that episode and the fact we get lots of married men contacting us have lead me to that conclusion. " I was thinking more of the people who prefer to keep that side of their life quiet and there are quite a few. Always happy to be proved wrong | |||
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"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔 A fair few would be my guess, though not us. Before I ( male) met my partner, and when single, I had a three year affair with a woman from Fab. Her and her husband were both active swingers and well known on the scene, hosting parties etc. she told me that lots of swingers she knew were having affairs. As someone not in the swinging world at the time, I found that confusing. Why go elsewhere if you can have all the sex you want out in the open? She explained it as wanting a deeper connection, to be wanted, rather than just sex and that sometimes she felt like ‘bait’ when swinging. I caught some feelings and was not overly keen on meeting others swinging but was strangely ok with the fact that she had a husband she slept with! I was very judgy of swingers back then. I am sure she would have a wry smile if she knew how I turned out. So to end my displacement activity to avoid work inspired meanderings, that episode and the fact we get lots of married men contacting us have lead me to that conclusion. I was thinking more of the people who prefer to keep that side of their life quiet and there are quite a few. Always happy to be proved wrong "She was one of those who wanted it kept quiet. Her husband didn’t know. I agree though, there are loads who want to keep things quiet. | |||
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"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔 I might. I'm in an impossible position. Married for 40 years. Absolutely NO way she'd allow me to stray but won't - for medical reasons related to menopause - have sex. None for the last 5 years or so and I've given up trying, bluntly. At least here people understand having sex with others doesn't mean you're looking for a divorce, just some release and, bluntly, some excitement. But boy, some are a very long way up their own arses here, so knowing I wouldn't be judged would be useful. I think it's optimistic to think you wouldn't be judged by some. For myself I'm not concerned with what other people do in this respect if it's not affecting me. This is in the right place for admin to see the suggestion anyway "It doesn't matter what you do in life someone will judge you for it. | |||
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"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔 I might. I'm in an impossible position. Married for 40 years. Absolutely NO way she'd allow me to stray but won't - for medical reasons related to menopause - have sex. None for the last 5 years or so and I've given up trying, bluntly. At least here people understand having sex with others doesn't mean you're looking for a divorce, just some release and, bluntly, some excitement. But boy, some are a very long way up their own arses here, so knowing I wouldn't be judged would be useful. I think it's optimistic to think you wouldn't be judged by some. For myself I'm not concerned with what other people do in this respect if it's not affecting me. This is in the right place for admin to see the suggestion anyway
It doesn't matter what you do in life someone will judge you for it. "100% | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters This is a swinging site not a cheating site. We all know the massive difference. Why should there be a selection option for cheating?? Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? " Exactly this. 2 totally different types of people. Why should there be an easy way for someone to potentially break their partners heart? You have a hand.. use it.. * aww but its not the same* we all have needs* blah blah never mind least your not hurting anyone. And yes this is coming from someone that has been cheated on years ago. Devastating is not the word. | |||
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"As a single man who has been cheated on (ex wife) obviously I would have to lean towards the group who say your shouldn't do it behind your partners back, it's a horrible thing to find out. However, this is essentially a swingers site, so do different rules apply. I've met women off here who said they were single and yet their erratic behaviour led me to believe they weren't single, and rather than question this I went along with it. Also, as this is essentially a sex site, does it really matter? And bearing in mind I've been on the receiving end. Not an opinion, just putting the question out there." Sorry to hear you have been hurt before. Now thats the thing. This isnt a sex site. Its a swingers site. Swinging is a lifestyle, a community. Sex sites are different. | |||
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"As a single man who has been cheated on (ex wife) obviously I would have to lean towards the group who say your shouldn't do it behind your partners back, it's a horrible thing to find out. However, this is essentially a swingers site, so do different rules apply. I've met women off here who said they were single and yet their erratic behaviour led me to believe they weren't single, and rather than question this I went along with it. Also, as this is essentially a sex site, does it really matter? And bearing in mind I've been on the receiving end. Not an opinion, just putting the question out there." Yes it matters, to many people. If you don't want to meet anyone here behind someone's back and they've not been honest about it If you choose to meet people you feel are attached and not honest, About it, that's your decision though. | |||
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"Im not saying im not guilty but I don't get it!? Why cheaters don't just break up? And you could fuck whoever, whenever, wherever you just want? Is it because looking like a family man/woman is more important than being one? And you don't get tired covering your shit up everytime you cheating?😅" I guess there are loads of reason they don't break up, finances, children, they actually like their home life... | |||
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"How many people do you think might use that option!?🤔 I might. I'm in an impossible position. Married for 40 years. Absolutely NO way she'd allow me to stray but won't - for medical reasons related to menopause - have sex. None for the last 5 years or so and I've given up trying, bluntly. At least here people understand having sex with others doesn't mean you're looking for a divorce, just some release and, bluntly, some excitement. But boy, some are a very long way up their own arses here, so knowing I wouldn't be judged would be useful." I think people have a right to be "up there own arses" when it comes to choosing who to be intimate with, yes we're here for sex, but that doesn't mean we will have sex with anyone and it certainly doesn't mean we want things to be complicated, in fact quite the opposite. After all, why should any swinger wife/husband (that have worked at complete honesty and openness in their relationship) not be judgmental and selective about not wanting to be a means of "release" for a dishonest man/woman? | |||
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"Would the people who are already being dishonest actually tell the truth and choose that option though ? Probably not. " Nope they’ll just continue to be dishonest with themselves and everyone else around them and still carry on either on here or head to fabguys for the easy option; regardless of consequences and anything they take home | |||
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"I've said it before and I'll say it again. For a supposedly open minded site there are an awful lot of judgemental people on here. If you dont want to have sex with someone who is married and cheating then don't but there is no need to be abusive towards them. You make your choices and let them make theirs. Ripping them to bits on an online forum serves no purpose whatsoever. " Perfectly put  | |||
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"Is it cheating if you come on looking for like minded men as wank buddies? " It's going to depend on the agreement between the couple and whether a partner would interpret something as cheating | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters" What is it that turns you on most about cheating on your wife | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters This is a swinging site not a cheating site. We all know the massive difference. Why should there be a selection option for cheating?? Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? " Can you tell me how doggers determine the marital status of those they have sex with? I am married and admit it. I don't want a divorce but I need sex, despite my age. But dogging? Really? | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters What is it that turns you on most about cheating on your wife " Unless they are wanting to cheat on their wives with you then that's not really any of your business is it? | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters This is a swinging site not a cheating site. We all know the massive difference. Why should there be a selection option for cheating?? Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? Can you tell me how doggers determine the marital status of those they have sex with? I am married and admit it. I don't want a divorce but I need sex, despite my age. But dogging? Really?" Great point, this should also include clubs....anyone wish to explain when they go clubbing or dogging how they determine if the guy is married/attached....as god forbid for you to inadvertently suck or fuck a married/attached cock....  | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters This is a swinging site not a cheating site. We all know the massive difference. Why should there be a selection option for cheating?? Are cheaters and swingers the same thing?? Can you tell me how doggers determine the marital status of those they have sex with? I am married and admit it. I don't want a divorce but I need sex, despite my age. But dogging? Really? Great point, this should also include clubs....anyone wish to explain when they go clubbing or dogging how they determine if the guy is married/attached....as god forbid for you to inadvertently suck or fuck a married/attached cock.... "I ask in a club, just like I would here. I don't go dogging, so no idea on that. Maybe those who do aren't bothered, if someone's married or not. | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters What is it that turns you on most about cheating on your wife Unless they are wanting to cheat on their wives with you then that's not really any of your business is it? " Why cant i be interested in an answer? | |||
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"I've said it before and I'll say it again. For a supposedly open minded site there are an awful lot of judgemental people on here. If you dont want to have sex with someone who is married and cheating then don't but there is no need to be abusive towards them. You make your choices and let them make theirs. Ripping them to bits on an online forum serves no purpose whatsoever. " Thank you. | |||
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"Love a selection option at browse that states cheating - makes life easier and certain people (ahem!) Might like the option of looking for cheaters What is it that turns you on most about cheating on your wife Unless they are wanting to cheat on their wives with you then that's not really any of your business is it? Why cant i be interested in an answer? " You're not interested in an answer. Your comment is precisely the sort of sanctimonious crap I mentioned. I don't get 'turned on by cheating" - I'm stuck in a situation I can't fix, don't want a divorce, am otherwise perfectly happy in my marriage - but need more than just an occasional wank. Clearly the distinction passes you by. | |||
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