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I've thought about it a bit, sure I'd date someone on here but I don't think I could ever find a long term partner on here. I wouldn't rule it out entirely but the chances are rather low (as with most places online) |
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Meeting through fab would probably make things easier as both know exactly what to expect regarding subsequently meeting multiple partners. Unless of course they decide to enter an exclusive relationship and leave the lifestyle.
There are some ladies on here who are looking for "boyfriend material" and would expect the person they met to exit the swing scene. They have probably exhausted all efforts on the dating sites and hope someone on here might be a relationship prospect. |
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By *andrewsMan 33 weeks ago
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I met someone on here.. was brilliant until we moved in together and it didn't work out.. really broke my heart but it won't stop me dating someone from FAB again.. i wish them well and hope they find peace |
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Had a past relationship here but he turned out to be chasing women here behind my back. Then met Jay after a different relationship split and despite him being an asshole he's now my asshole  engaged 7 years thanks to fab |
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"Hey Guys
Feel free to debate or give an opinion.
Would you date a fab user. As in full on relationship?
If you already have has it worked out or is it a never again?"
I would not issue, at leat we would have that in common as well  |
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"Where better, would any of you want to go back to trad relationship styles?
I met my partner on Fet, but our first kiss was at a Swinger Social "
I’m sure at the end of the day. As long as both parties agree and are open and honest through the whole thing. I would be open to it but it would be something I’d exclusively chase.
Id be happy with getting a few meets under my belt first |
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Honestly, it's what I'm looking for on here. I can't go back to monogamy. I love the scene I'm heavily involved in events and the community and I love my lifestyle, I'd love to find someone who fits into that. I would love to find what other couples have on here. It's wonderful meeting so many people and making so many friends, group play and being a unicorn for other couples and enjoying their company, but I find myself watching them enjoying all of this together and I have a pang and a yearning for that with a partner.
I really hope I do find it. In the meantime I'm loving all the experiences I've had over the last 2 years on here and wouldn't go back! |
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"Where better, would any of you want to go back to trad relationship styles?
I met my partner on Fet, but our first kiss was at a Swinger Social
I’m sure at the end of the day. As long as both parties agree and are open and honest through the whole thing. I would be open to it but it would be something I’d exclusively chase.
Id be happy with getting a few meets under my belt first "
I'm getting hints that you'd want monogamy from a relationship and would want to leave the scene, would I be right?
Nothing wrong with that as long as that's what she wanted too. |
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By *og-ManMan 33 weeks ago
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In a near 3 year relationship with Toxic 1998 and we met on fab
We chatted on the forums then met at a social in Belfast but it took another couple of weeks and another two socials before we finally stayed the night together
We go on holidays together to PDI weekends away and socials
3rd Christmas together at this stage
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"In a near 3 year relationship with Toxic 1998 and we met on fab
We chatted on the forums then met at a social in Belfast but it took another couple of weeks and another two socials before we finally stayed the night together
We go on holidays together to PDI weekends away and socials
3rd Christmas together at this stage
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Aw that's lovely ❤❤❤ |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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Absolutely. Swinging and kink is my way of life. And So long as they didn’t want a Monogamous relationship, and our needs and wants were aligned why not. But OP why did you ask that question? |
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"In a near 3 year relationship with Toxic 1998 and we met on fab
We chatted on the forums then met at a social in Belfast but it took another couple of weeks and another two socials before we finally stayed the night together
We go on holidays together to PDI weekends away and socials
3rd Christmas together at this stage
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So lovely for you 🥰 and great when it works out like that. It certainly seems to for some people |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Had a past relationship here but he turned out to be chasing women here behind my back. Then met Jay after a different relationship split and despite him being an asshole he's now my asshole engaged 7 years thanks to fab"
Very HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH XX |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"In a near 3 year relationship with Toxic 1998 and we met on fab
We chatted on the forums then met at a social in Belfast but it took another couple of weeks and another two socials before we finally stayed the night together
LUST = POTENTIAL = LOVE ?
We go on holidays together to PDI weekends away and socials
3rd Christmas together at this stage
Aw that's lovely ❤❤❤"
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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Currently in a polyamorous/polysexual relationship with CasuallyChilled and it just works!
Have been in a mix of monogamous and poly relationships dating back to when I was 20 and by far prefer poly/non monogamous relationships.
Like any relationship they need Communication, trust, and a willingness to listen with open ears and and open heart. If a play is going to damage the relationship then priorities have to be clearly discussed and aligning them so everyone is comfortable.
A bad open relationship is like any bad relationship but a good open one is absolutely amazing. In the right relationship there is no risk involved. |
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"In a near 3 year relationship with Toxic 1998 and we met on fab
We chatted on the forums then met at a social in Belfast but it took another couple of weeks and another two socials before we finally stayed the night together
We go on holidays together to PDI weekends away and socials
3rd Christmas together at this stage
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♥️ Love this |
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"Absolutely. Swinging and kink is my way of life. And So long as they didn’t want a Monogamous relationship, and our needs and wants were aligned why not. But OP why did you ask that question? "
Sometimes there's a hint of sex shaming with this question. When I first joined Fet I got involved with a guy who, in bed, told me he'd fuck someone from the scene but he'd not want to date someone from the scene. His date should have to be low body count to be the type of woman he'd want kids with. (He was early 20's)
I thought what a cheek, double standards or what! He never saw me again.
Women who are sex positive and own what they want, like and are prepared to assert their boundaries are simply low value in some misogynists minds. But if they only knew. We are better communicators, have a more profound bond, will adventure with them and they will always be excited to come home to us. So their loss.
Vics (F)
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Absolutely. Swinging and kink is my way of life. And So long as they didn’t want a Monogamous relationship, and our needs and wants were aligned why not. But OP why did you ask that question?
Sometimes there's a hint of sex shaming with this question. When I first joined Fet I got involved with a guy who, in bed, told me he'd fuck someone from the scene but he'd not want to date someone from the scene. His date should have to be low body count to be the type of woman he'd want kids with. (He was early 20's)
I thought what a cheek, double standards or what! He never saw me again.
Women who are sex positive and own what they want, like and are prepared to assert their boundaries are simply low value in some misogynists minds. But if they only knew. We are better communicators, have a more profound bond, will adventure with them and they will always be excited to come home to us. So their loss.
Vics (F)
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Love your take V xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Absolutely. Swinging and kink is my way of life. And So long as they didn’t want a Monogamous relationship, and our needs and wants were aligned why not. But OP why did you ask that question?
Sometimes there's a hint of sex shaming with this question. When I first joined Fet I got involved with a guy who, in bed, told me he'd fuck someone from the scene but he'd not want to date someone from the scene. His date should have to be low body count to be the type of woman he'd want kids with. (He was early 20's)
I thought what a cheek, double standards or what! He never saw me again.
Women who are sex positive and own what they want, like and are prepared to assert their boundaries are simply low value in some misogynists minds. But if they only knew. We are better communicators, have a more profound bond, will adventure with them and they will always be excited to come home to us. So their loss.
Vics (F)
Love your take V xx"
V said what I was thinking. There can be double standards and I feel that’s where the OP was going with the question. Good enough to Fuck but not good enough to date. Please OP correct me if I’m wrong |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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And to follow up from that, for 11 years I was married to someone who would not open up our marriage. I stayed faithful
The whole time even though I was yearning for other contact and excitement and change. It was only after we separated I found out he had opened up our marriage but hadn’t told me. |
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"And to follow up from that, for 11 years I was married to someone who would not open up our marriage. I stayed faithful
The whole time even though I was yearning for other contact and excitement and change. It was only after we separated I found out he had opened up our marriage but hadn’t told me. "
I'm so sorry |
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By *panishRebelMan 33 weeks ago
Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland |
"And to follow up from that, for 11 years I was married to someone who would not open up our marriage. I stayed faithful
The whole time even though I was yearning for other contact and excitement and change. It was only after we separated I found out he had opened up our marriage but hadn’t told me. "
Surely that's not an open marriage. That's called cheating as I understand it. Either there's an agreed mutual agreement and genuine or not at all. |
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"Honestly, it's what I'm looking for on here. I can't go back to monogamy. I love the scene I'm heavily involved in events and the community and I love my lifestyle, I'd love to find someone who fits into that. I would love to find what other couples have on here. It's wonderful meeting so many people and making so many friends, group play and being a unicorn for other couples and enjoying their company, but I find myself watching them enjoying all of this together and I have a pang and a yearning for that with a partner.
I really hope I do find it. In the meantime I'm loving all the experiences I've had over the last 2 years on here and wouldn't go back! "
Now this has certainly got my attention - definitely along the same line of thinking and seeking as myself. Would love to discuss further. |
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I am in a relationship. We met at a social event 10 months ago and we are still doing great at the moment. Nothing wrong with dating or marrying someone for fab just need to understand each other's needs and wants. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"And to follow up from that, for 11 years I was married to someone who would not open up our marriage. I stayed faithful
The whole time even though I was yearning for other contact and excitement and change. It was only after we separated I found out he had opened up our marriage but hadn’t told me.
Surely that's not an open marriage. That's called cheating as I understand it. Either there's an agreed mutual agreement and genuine or not at all."
I was being sarcastic. Yes he was cheating the whole time. |
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"Honestly, it's what I'm looking for on here. I can't go back to monogamy. I love the scene I'm heavily involved in events and the community and I love my lifestyle, I'd love to find someone who fits into that. I would love to find what other couples have on here. It's wonderful meeting so many people and making so many friends, group play and being a unicorn for other couples and enjoying their company, but I find myself watching them enjoying all of this together and I have a pang and a yearning for that with a partner.
I really hope I do find it. In the meantime I'm loving all the experiences I've had over the last 2 years on here and wouldn't go back! "
This! I can’t imagine myself anymore in vanilla monogamous relationship. I’m kinky and more interested in having partner in crime to explore and experiment than just a wousewife in pants. |
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I got married with a guy I met a social. We ended up being monogamous and it didn't work.
I am now fully rooted in the fact I am not monogamous and wouldn't change that for anyone. But I miss having a partner, someone that understands me, have similar likings and I can share a future with. I am still looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend, but I am not in a hurry either. If it happens, it will be welcome. |
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" Women who are sex positive and own what they want, like and are prepared to assert their boundaries are simply low value in some misogynists minds. But if they only knew. We are better communicators, have a more profound bond, will adventure with them and they will always be excited to come home to us. So their loss."
Beautifully put |
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Met on Fab, connected properly through Bumble… it works because we knew the type of people we were, no judgments, 😂 supposed to be casual fun that turned into being married/ having kids/mortage the lot now!!
Haha and we of course lie where we actually met!!  |
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"Absolutely. Swinging and kink is my way of life. And So long as they didn’t want a Monogamous relationship, and our needs and wants were aligned why not. But OP why did you ask that question? "
Hey so just to clear the Air. There was no Judgement in the Question, what so ever. I’m very happy for everyone who has met their other Half on this app!
I definitely worded it wrong, it came across Judgy and or condescending. Not my aim!
I would also like to meet someone on here.
And I have no ill feeling or judgements on or about people on this app.
Hope this clears any confusion. If not drop me a message in the inbox. |
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"Met on Fab, connected properly through Bumble… it works because we knew the type of people we were, no judgments, 😂 supposed to be casual fun that turned into being married/ having kids/mortage the lot now!!
Haha and we of course lie where we actually met!! "
Whats the lie! Do share. |
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it’s not uncommon that none meets his true soul mate here. As others confirmed there are quite a few couples who found each other on this platform . And since they met here as libertines many of them continue the lifestyle . Those who use FAB in the hope for casual sex, more like Tinder, for single males often ends with the result of a low score. The exclusivity of love exist also among swingers, it’s only the bit of naughty phantasies the lifestyle provides, a bit of an extended horizon. If communicated openly between the two, any person you date “ for serious relation” can become a spouse . |
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I've encountered the fab couples..tends to have more of a jealous vibe than some vanilla relationships.
I thought I was doing a good thing being honest about being on the scene with a guy I met in vanillaville. Put it to him to try the scene out. Turned out.. jealousy reared it's ugly green eyes... however... I'd trust a fabber over vanilla any day now.
The discussion would need to be had between 2 fabbers...I can't understand how either side would hide this part of themselves... |
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"I've encountered the fab couples..tends to have more of a jealous vibe than some vanilla relationships.
I thought I was doing a good thing being honest about being on the scene with a guy I met in vanillaville. Put it to him to try the scene out. Turned out.. jealousy reared it's ugly green eyes... however... I'd trust a fabber over vanilla any day now.
The discussion would need to be had between 2 fabbers...I can't understand how either side would hide this part of themselves..."
i can see a point in this . After all friends you make at FAB may meet you in your most vulnerable constellation , hence high level of trust is required . However disappointment can still be incurred. |
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"I've encountered the fab couples..tends to have more of a jealous vibe than some vanilla relationships.
I thought I was doing a good thing being honest about being on the scene with a guy I met in vanillaville. Put it to him to try the scene out. Turned out.. jealousy reared it's ugly green eyes... however... I'd trust a fabber over vanilla any day now.
The discussion would need to be had between 2 fabbers...I can't understand how either side would hide this part of themselves..."
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By (user no longer on site) 15 weeks ago
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"I am in a relationship. We met at a social event 10 months ago and we are still doing great at the moment. Nothing wrong with dating or marrying someone for fab just need to understand each other's needs and wants."
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Either of us wouldn't have any problems with dating a fab user we've met some amazing people who have found there significant other on the site and there still going strong we look at them as a beacon of light and try to implement some of what they've told us |
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I would love to date someone on fab. That had the same kinky mind as myself . I have tried vanilla relationship and they never worked out because the guy also complained that my sex drive was two high . True story 🙄 |
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Would love to,at least you’d both be on the same page and could explore each other’s fantasies,and imagine all them Sundays in bed to share,think it would be special and would outlast the standard meeting and the shyness of exploring your kinks. |
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I think in the FAB world much like the vanilla world there are those people who like to stray and just because u are here together and sharing very cool hot experiences doesn’t mean they won’t hide intimate betraying conversations or have meets behind your back. Sometimes that is just in peoples make up no matter how open their partner is. Life is life u are no safer here in FAB world in fact it is probably a kid in a candy shop scenario here with way more opportunity if they are that way inclined. |
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"Honestly, it's what I'm looking for on here. I can't go back to monogamy. I love the scene I'm heavily involved in events and the community and I love my lifestyle, I'd love to find someone who fits into that. I would love to find what other couples have on here. It's wonderful meeting so many people and making so many friends, group play and being a unicorn for other couples and enjoying their company, but I find myself watching them enjoying all of this together and I have a pang and a yearning for that with a partner.
I really hope I do find it. In the meantime I'm loving all the experiences I've had over the last 2 years on here and wouldn't go back! "
I do wish at times many moons ago when I was much more active on here, around your age, that i had of followed my desires just as you are saying here. Had great 3rd wheel experiences but would love to be in an open couple now. Go chase your dreams x |
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"I think in the FAB world much like the vanilla world there are those people who like to stray and just because u are here together and sharing very cool hot experiences doesn’t mean they won’t hide intimate betraying conversations or have meets behind your back. Sometimes that is just in peoples make up no matter how open their partner is. Life is life u are no safer here in FAB world in fact it is probably a kid in a candy shop scenario here with way more opportunity if they are that way inclined. "
And what a candy shop it is...
Can i have a pounds worth of joob joobs? |
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By *dfabMan 14 weeks ago
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"Hey Guys
Feel free to debate or give an opinion.
Would you date a fab user. As in full on relationship?
If you already have has it worked out or is it a never again?"
Absolutely!
Wish I'd found Fab years previously but too late now  |
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By *s LollyWoman 14 weeks ago
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I don't date or looking for a relationship but if i was id definitely would date or get into a relationship on here, relationships come in all different shapes and sizes least on here ye know what ye both want its open from the beginning 😁 |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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Yeah I would but it's hard to even get a reply I have asked a few gals out on date ...no luck...not that I'm assuming I'll get a yes but it's something I would love to try someone with a similar frame of mind |
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"I think in the FAB world much like the vanilla world there are those people who like to stray and just because u are here together and sharing very cool hot experiences doesn’t mean they won’t hide intimate betraying conversations or have meets behind your back. Sometimes that is just in peoples make up no matter how open their partner is. Life is life u are no safer here in FAB world in fact it is probably a kid in a candy shop scenario here with way more opportunity if they are that way inclined. "
That is so true |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"I think in the FAB world much like the vanilla world there are those people who like to stray and just because u are here together and sharing very cool hot experiences doesn’t mean they won’t hide intimate betraying conversations or have meets behind your back. Sometimes that is just in peoples make up no matter how open their partner is. Life is life u are no safer here in FAB world in fact it is probably a kid in a candy shop scenario here with way more opportunity if they are that way inclined. "
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We met on here.
We started seeing each other last june. Val was married I was separated. when her marriage ended I knew I wanted to be with her. We had just fell for each other meeting 3 4 times a week. Chatting all the time when we could we were seeing others as well but needed to give us a go.
So from Christmas we have been in a full relationship and so far its amazing.💜 |
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"We met on here.
We started seeing each other last june. Val was married I was separated. when her marriage ended I knew I wanted to be with her. We had just fell for each other meeting 3 4 times a week. Chatting all the time when we could we were seeing others as well but needed to give us a go.
So from Christmas we have been in a full relationship and so far its amazing.💜"
Lovely story. Best of luck for the future. |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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This is just my two pence on it but personally no. I’m only here for fun while I’m single and also I’m currently not dating or looking to date. I had a bucket list of stuff iv always wanted to do and I am now working out my fantasies for now but one day il have the list complete and that will be when I delete my profile and then maybe begin dating. I’m a bit of a jelly type so I personally can’t watch someone who I want for myself enjoy someone else, maybe I might change my perspective on that one day but that’s just how I am now 🙈 I have no problem watching play mates because I know it’s a transactional thing but I don’t think I can watch someone I fully care about 🙈 |
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I've had a few disasters over the years. Fab related and non fab related. Some being my fault and some not but because of those I have no interest in a relationship now or anytime soon.
I'm sure I'll meet someone at some point but for the time being I'm quite happy being alone. |
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