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By *enSally OP Couple 14 weeks ago
Bunclody |
We're a couple, a single guy contacted us and offered to pay for a hotel for 3some. (We can't accommodate at the moment). We said no, it'll be too expensive for you but thanks for the offer.
Anyway I have a question.
If a couple is meeting another couple or single, neither can accommodate so one couple books a hotel, what is the best way to approach cost.
Does the couple who get to stay overnight pay the full amount or does the other couple offer to pay a percentage for the meet. Say 25 per cent, eg. 160, staying couple 120, visitors 40.
Does any couple have experience of this or are we over thinking?
Obviously if a couple was staying away anyway this wouldn't be necessary. Just curious to know what the norm would be. Thanks. xx |
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By *og-ManMan 14 weeks ago
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If a couple is staying overnight anyway and invite a third person to their room for a few hours then the cost should stay with the couple in my opinion
If everyone is leaving after a few hours then split the bill equally
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By *enSally OP Couple 14 weeks ago
Bunclody |
Yes exactly if they were already staying in hotel. My question is, neither couple can accommodate so 1 offers to book hotel for the meet. But they will stay the night. The other couple is only visiting. |
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By *og-ManMan 14 weeks ago
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"Yes exactly if they were already staying in hotel. My question is, neither couple can accommodate so 1 offers to book hotel for the meet. But they will stay the night. The other couple is only visiting. "
Then I'd offer to buy the drinks in the bar
To be honest I wouldn't accept anything towards the cost of the room if it was me |
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I've never met a couple but any one on one hotel meets have always been split evenly apart from the very first one which I paid and it didn't work out very well.
I have however ended a few conversations with well verified couples who often posted in the forums and who insisted that I book and pay for the hotel and they would stay the night but I had to leave.
When I said that nobody would be that stupid they all said that was how all their hotel meets with single guys had been. |
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We've only had 1 hotel meet with another couple.
The travelled to our town and booked the hotel. They stayed the night in the hotel and we just visited for a couple of hours before going home.
We paid for half the room. We thought it was fair since they travelled to us and they wouldn't have had the cost if they weren't meeting us
And with the price of hotel rooms these days splitting it evenly seemed the sound thing to do.
We would split the cost with anyone we met tbh whether we were staying the night or not. |
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By *s LollyWoman 14 weeks ago
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If im away and look for company to join me ill pay as it's my room they can stay or go it's up to them, if we're arranging a hotel for the night then id always insist on paying half as it's only fair, id never let anyone pay full as it's way to expensive...... |
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"Yes exactly if they were already staying in hotel. My question is, neither couple can accommodate so 1 offers to book hotel for the meet. But they will stay the night. The other couple is only visiting. "
If you're taking the room because both couples want to meet but can't accommodate, I'd suggest a few ways.
1- The couple staying overnight pays for the room and the visitors pay for one or two rounds of drinks, as it can also get very expensive.
2- Both parts agree to go 50/50 and on the next meeting the other couple will stay overnight under the same circumstances.
3- both parts agree on going 50/50 and flip a coin to see who will stay overnight.
If the couple is going with a single, the couple pays 2/3 of it and the Single pays for his 1/3 but don't stay overnight.
If the couple went out to have fun, booked their room and then invited someone to join them, the couple should pay for it and the guests should be nice and pay for at least the first round of drinks.
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I prefer to pay half. Some guys like to pay in full but that doesn't sit well with me. Its a bit more complicated if the other half isn't staying over. There would need to be an agreement before hand. |
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I think if I single woman and man is meeting for some fun.. then the man pays for thr room...
If a couple and a man makes plans.. it's depends who is sleeping in the room overnight... if the couple are just popping by for fun and leaving then the man should pay... if the couple are away for a night anyway then the couple should pay.. |
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"I think if a single woman and a man is meeting for some fun.. then the man pays for the room...
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It always surprises me when people who are ostensibly forward thinking enough to break tradition and have non standard relationships like swinging, are still old fashioned enough to think men man should pay. |
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I think everyone's opinion should be respected.. that is just mine  I respect your outlook.. my as a woman I wouldn't pay for a hotel meet if it was just me and a man and there really is nothing wrong with that as long as the man also is OK with that.. why not  |
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"I think if I single woman and man is meeting for some fun.. then the man pays for thr room...
If a couple and a man makes plans.. it's depends who is sleeping in the room overnight... if the couple are just popping by for fun and leaving then the man should pay... if the couple are away for a night anyway then the couple should pay.."
I disagree that the man should pay when it's a one to one meeting.
It should always be split evenly and that removes any issues around expectation or a feeling of being owed something because the man paid. |
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"I think everyone's opinion should be respected.. that is just mine I respect your outlook.. my as a woman I wouldn't pay for a hotel meet if it was just me and a man and there really is nothing wrong with that as long as the man also is OK with that.. why not "
I can respect your opinion and disagree with it at the same time |
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By *INTMan 14 weeks ago
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For couples, if they're staying, I'm the guest star and the cost is on them. I'll usually get drinks/dinner earlier in the evening.
For singles, I'll go with whatever works for both of us. I'm good with paying for the hotel/drinks/dinner but if she'd like to split the costs, that's cool too. |
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By *affa31Woman 14 weeks ago
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If I was meeting someone and the only reason we were booking a hotel was for the meet, the cost would be split evenly.
If I was in a hotel room because I had decided to travel somewhere, book in and then invite someone over, I would be paying in full. Same if the guy was there for a particular reason, he would be paying.
The idea that a man is expected to pay is utterly bizarre to me. |
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Iv had no problem in men paying. They have all been very happy to actually.. even so far as offering for us as a couple.. haven't had any issues from men so far. But again no problem with a man not paying.. it really doesn't bother me atall and I would totally understand he's reasons for not wanting to..  |
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"Iv had no problem in men paying. They have all been very happy to actually.. even so far as offering for us as a couple.. haven't had any issues from men so far. But again no problem with a man not paying.. it really doesn't bother me atall and I would totally understand he's reasons for not wanting to.. "
It's usually more of a case that a woman will want to pay her share and may have various reasons.
Lots of men will insist on paying but there are plenty of women that prefer to avoid the expectation that may come with that or just simply think it's fair and sound to split the bill.
I know that if I felt a woman had the expectation that I should pay for the room for the privilege of having sex with her then we are not a good match. |
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Ah ya, I can see that! Atleast you would understand she's not a good match and that would end that potential meet! Nothing wrong there.. I'm sure ye have no shortage of matches! Just my views would be that as a woman if I meet with a man I wouldn't choose to pay.. that's the good thing about this site it's fast to move to the next in one aspect without any feelings hurt on both sides! All the fun of fab  |
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By *enSally OP Couple 14 weeks ago
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"Yes exactly if they were already staying in hotel. My question is, neither couple can accommodate so 1 offers to book hotel for the meet. But they will stay the night. The other couple is only visiting.
If you're taking the room because both couples want to meet but can't accommodate, I'd suggest a few ways.
1- The couple staying overnight pays for the room and the visitors pay for one or two rounds of drinks, as it can also get very expensive.
2- Both parts agree to go 50/50 and on the next meeting the other couple will stay overnight under the same circumstances.
3- both parts agree on going 50/50 and flip a coin to see who will stay overnight.
If the couple is going with a single, the couple pays 2/3 of it and the Single pays for his 1/3 but don't stay overnight.
If the couple went out to have fun, booked their room and then invited someone to join them, the couple should pay for it and the guests should be nice and pay for at least the first round of drinks.
My opinion "
Yes this all seems fair. |
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By *og-ManMan 14 weeks ago
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"I personally think once both parties agree then I'm sure everyone is happy. There is nothing forced upon anyone really... if a man doesn't want to then I absolutely respect that fully.. "
If the man agrees then that's between you both
But if the man only wants to pay half does the meet happen |
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"Ah ya, I can see that! Atleast you would understand she's not a good match and that would end that potential meet! Nothing wrong there.. I'm sure ye have no shortage of matches! Just my views would be that as a woman if I meet with a man I wouldn't choose to pay.. that's the good thing about this site it's fast to move to the next in one aspect without any feelings hurt on both sides! All the fun of fab "
But then is he not literally paying for sex?? |
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"I personally think once both parties agree then I'm sure everyone is happy. There is nothing forced upon anyone really... if a man doesn't want to then I absolutely respect that fully..
If the man agrees then that's between you both
But if the man only wants to pay half does the meet happen "
Of course if it's something both parties want! If I really liked the look of a guy and thought he would be loads of fun then yes a meet is still up for grabs! Haha It's not a deal breaker it's just my preference |
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"Ah ya, I can see that! Atleast you would understand she's not a good match and that would end that potential meet! Nothing wrong there.. I'm sure ye have no shortage of matches! Just my views would be that as a woman if I meet with a man I wouldn't choose to pay.. that's the good thing about this site it's fast to move to the next in one aspect without any feelings hurt on both sides! All the fun of fab
But then is he not literally paying for sex??"
No haha. I guess there is the option of it to be viewed that way, I can see that! But if all parties are happy then I guess there would not be any issue.. men have offered to pay in our history .. and as a couple we have payed for rooms to travel and have fun also.. it's all just what works for the people involved.. I think I would need to actually accept money without it goinf to a room where we are all having sex to be classed as prostitution really would you think? |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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If I’m meeting another single guy, I like when both stay over, so both pay equally. If I’m invited to join, and he already has the room and I’m not staying, then I wouldn’t expect to pay, but would buy a few drinks at the bar. When I was in a couple we often had visitors, and never took money off them. |
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"That's ridiculous. That's like planning a night away and finding someone else to pay for it.
We were just wondering if there was a fab code regarding etiquette in this scenario. "
Buy the drinks - if there’s a social downstairs before heading up stairs |
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"If I was meeting someone and the only reason we were booking a hotel was for the meet, the cost would be split evenly.
If I was in a hotel room because I had decided to travel somewhere, book in and then invite someone over, I would be paying in full. Same if the guy was there for a particular reason, he would be paying.
The idea that a man is expected to pay is utterly bizarre to me. "
Totally agree. |
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"Iv had no problem in men paying. They have all been very happy to actually.. even so far as offering for us as a couple.. haven't had any issues from men so far. But again no problem with a man not paying.. it really doesn't bother me atall and I would totally understand he's reasons for not wanting to..
It's usually more of a case that a woman will want to pay her share and may have various reasons.
Lots of men will insist on paying but there are plenty of women that prefer to avoid the expectation that may come with that or just simply think it's fair and sound to split the bill.
I know that if I felt a woman had the expectation that I should pay for the room for the privilege of having sex with her then we are not a good match."
Aye, plenty of women 5/10 picking a man 9/10 (not my case 😅), then she chooses the hotel, the room, the conditions (which I totally agree with), dinner and drinks, expecting that man to pay for all of it and still acts like she made that man a favour, a charity.
If he makes her cum multiple times the bill should be split.
If just he comes then he should pay for all of it, plus flowers, chocolate, an apology letter, pay for her Uber/taxi or her diesel and promise to never bother her again 😂😂 |
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I think if the meet is planned between a couple and a single or another couple to book a room then split the cost equal between everyone regardless of who stays overnight in it. Unless both parties book their own room then you pay for your own.
But if the couple has a room booked and are looking for company then the other person or couple should at least buy the drinks or a bottle of wine. |
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"Just cut out all the BS about what’s and if’s man pays all the time it cuts out any confusion or embarrassment."
No it doesn't.
Many women prefer to pay their way and often refuse to meet if the man insists on paying because that creates a situation where the women feels indebted to them or the man's level of expectation increases.
If a woman insisted that I pay I wouldn't be meeting her no matter how popular she might think she is.
It's less transactional when both parties pay equally.. |
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"I think if I single woman and man is meeting for some fun.. then the man pays for the room..."
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In a forward thinking and progressive world where equality prevails...this retarded policy never ceases to amaze me. |
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By *affa31Woman 14 weeks ago
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"I think if I single woman and man is meeting for some fun.. then the man pays for the room...
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In a forward thinking and progressive world where equality prevails...this retarded policy never ceases to amaze me."
Forward thinking and progressive but still uses that horrible word. Sigh |
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"I think if I single woman and man is meeting for some fun.. then the man pays for the room...
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In a forward thinking and progressive world where equality prevails...this retarded policy never ceases to amaze me.
Forward thinking and progressive but still uses that horrible word. Sigh "
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What horrible word? |
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"Just cut out all the BS about what’s and if’s man pays all the time it cuts out any confusion or embarrassment.
No it doesn't.
Many women prefer to pay their way and often refuse to meet if the man insists on paying because that creates a situation where the women feels indebted to them or the man's level of expectation increases.
If a woman insisted that I pay I wouldn't be meeting her no matter how popular she might think she is.
It's less transactional when both parties pay equally.."
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By *og-ManMan 14 weeks ago
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"I think if I single woman and man is meeting for some fun.. then the man pays for the room...
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In a forward thinking and progressive world where equality prevails...this retarded policy never ceases to amaze me.
Forward thinking and progressive but still uses that horrible word. Sigh
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What horrible word?"
Retarded |
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By *og-ManMan 14 weeks ago
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If a couple and single person agree to meet in a hotel room for sex and they all stay over and agree to share costs
Room costs €180
Do couple pay €90 and single person €90
Or
Do couple pay €120 and single person €60
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"I think if I single woman and man is meeting for some fun.. then the man pays for the room...
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In a forward thinking and progressive world where equality prevails...this retarded policy never ceases to amaze me.
Forward thinking and progressive but still uses that horrible word. Sigh
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What horrible word?
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Retarded "
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I forget how myopic some people are on here. Allow me to enlighten: "retarded" means — to restrict, delay, impede or hold back; to retrograde something. It's not always about someone's mental incapacity.
Thank goodness I didn't use the word "gay" — that actually means "gleeful", "jovial", "carefree", "happy"...
Hopefully that's sufficient edification for today. 😘 |
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By *enSally OP Couple 14 weeks ago
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"If a couple and single person agree to meet in a hotel room for sex and they all stay over and agree to share costs
Room costs €180
Do couple pay €90 and single person €90
Or
Do couple pay €120 and single person €60
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I'd imagine 90/90 but is it unlikely you'd all spend the whole night together unless you're already familiar ? |
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"We're a couple, a single guy contacted us and offered to pay for a hotel for 3some. (We can't accommodate at the moment). We said no, it'll be too expensive for you but thanks for the offer.
Anyway I have a question.
If a couple is meeting another couple or single, neither can accommodate so one couple books a hotel, what is the best way to approach cost.
Does the couple who get to stay overnight pay the full amount or does the other couple offer to pay a percentage for the meet. Say 25 per cent, eg. 160, staying couple 120, visitors 40.
Does any couple have experience of this or are we over thinking?
Obviously if a couple was staying away anyway this wouldn't be necessary. Just curious to know what the norm would be. Thanks. xx"
Afternoon I always pay for hotel room no matter what, I’d be offended as been the guess x |
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By (user no longer on site) 14 weeks ago
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"I would always offer to pay my share. However as a gentleman if meeting a single lady I would never expect her to pay.
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Why wouldn't you expect her to pay?"
Agreed. I would feel Like a sex worker if I didn’t pay my way, and that’s not for me - (now the disclaimer- in some role plays I’m good with that role😂) |
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By *enSally OP Couple 14 weeks ago
Bunclody |
"Just throwing it out there but if anyone wants to pay for my hotel room and not actually come to meet me that would be more than welcome"
The opposite has happened a few times with us. We book hotel and the other party doesn't turn up.
The joys of fabbing... |
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It’s been said before and I’ll say it again that the people that don’t turn up without very good reason after arrangements have been made should be black listed or a separate page that lists all the time wasters. It’s not fair on the genuine people |
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"Just throwing it out there but if anyone wants to pay for my hotel room and not actually come to meet me that would be more than welcome
The opposite has happened a few times with us. We book hotel and the other party doesn't turn up.
The joys of fabbing..."
Sounds like bliss |
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By *enSally OP Couple 14 weeks ago
Bunclody |
"It’s been said before and I’ll say it again that the people that don’t turn up without very good reason after arrangements have been made should be black listed or a separate page that lists all the time wasters. It’s not fair on the genuine people "
It'd help a lot but most likely see the time wasters having multiple profiles on the go. |
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"Just throwing it out there but if anyone wants to pay for my hotel room and not actually come to meet me that would be more than welcome"
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It would be a travesty if no one came to meet you, dear chap. 🩶 |
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"It’s been said before and I’ll say it again that the people that don’t turn up without very good reason after arrangements have been made should be black listed or a separate page that lists all the time wasters. It’s not fair on the genuine people "
Who verifies each sides account of what happened?
Who moderates this separate page?
I mean this already happens anyway in chat groups off site but everyone has their own agendas and views on what deserves blacklisting.
One giant list isn't feasible |
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By *enSally OP Couple 14 weeks ago
Bunclody |
"It’s been said before and I’ll say it again that the people that don’t turn up without very good reason after arrangements have been made should be black listed or a separate page that lists all the time wasters. It’s not fair on the genuine people
Who verifies each sides account of what happened?
Who moderates this separate page?
I mean this already happens anyway in chat groups off site but everyone has their own agendas and views on what deserves blacklisting.
One giant list isn't feasible "
The only real feedback you have is verifications. You can't hide the amount you have so if you've 7 verifications but only publish 1 should this be seen as a red flag?? |
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"It’s been said before and I’ll say it again that the people that don’t turn up without very good reason after arrangements have been made should be black listed or a separate page that lists all the time wasters. It’s not fair on the genuine people
Who verifies each sides account of what happened?
Who moderates this separate page?
I mean this already happens anyway in chat groups off site but everyone has their own agendas and views on what deserves blacklisting.
One giant list isn't feasible
The only real feedback you have is verifications. You can't hide the amount you have so if you've 7 verifications but only publish 1 should this be seen as a red flag??"
You can hide the verification summary so no-one knows how many you actually have.
I only display half of mine for numerous reasons including nosey people. |
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"It’s been said before and I’ll say it again that the people that don’t turn up without very good reason after arrangements have been made should be black listed or a separate page that lists all the time wasters. It’s not fair on the genuine people
Who verifies each sides account of what happened?
Who moderates this separate page?
I mean this already happens anyway in chat groups off site but everyone has their own agendas and views on what deserves blacklisting.
One giant list isn't feasible
The only real feedback you have is verifications. You can't hide the amount you have so if you've 7 verifications but only publish 1 should this be seen as a red flag??"
If it was like adverts.ie where you could give a positive or a negative review it would be a lot better |
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By *enSally OP Couple 14 weeks ago
Bunclody |
"It’s been said before and I’ll say it again that the people that don’t turn up without very good reason after arrangements have been made should be black listed or a separate page that lists all the time wasters. It’s not fair on the genuine people
Who verifies each sides account of what happened?
Who moderates this separate page?
I mean this already happens anyway in chat groups off site but everyone has their own agendas and views on what deserves blacklisting.
One giant list isn't feasible
The only real feedback you have is verifications. You can't hide the amount you have so if you've 7 verifications but only publish 1 should this be seen as a red flag??
If it was like adverts.ie where you could give a positive or a negative review it would be a lot better "
Be too open to misuse. We've had plenty who've turned nasty because we weren't replying to their multitude of messages.. |
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"It’s been said before and I’ll say it again that the people that don’t turn up without very good reason after arrangements have been made should be black listed or a separate page that lists all the time wasters. It’s not fair on the genuine people
Who verifies each sides account of what happened?
Who moderates this separate page?
I mean this already happens anyway in chat groups off site but everyone has their own agendas and views on what deserves blacklisting.
One giant list isn't feasible
The only real feedback you have is verifications. You can't hide the amount you have so if you've 7 verifications but only publish 1 should this be seen as a red flag??
If it was like adverts.ie where you could give a positive or a negative review it would be a lot better "
There's nothing stopping anyone from giving a negative review but it would be pointless as no-one would show it.
Making it compulsory to display negative reviews would lead to abuse by those with all sorts of petty disputes and wouldn't benefit anyone.
Also, verifications aren't intended to be reviews. They are only to confirm that a person is who they say they are and have turned up.
If some are happy to use them as performance reviews that's up to the individual but that also leads to lots of disappointed people when they get the Temu version of the amazing sex god he was made out to be. |
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By *affa31Woman 14 weeks ago
Galway |
"I think if I single woman and man is meeting for some fun.. then the man pays for the room...
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In a forward thinking and progressive world where equality prevails...this retarded policy never ceases to amaze me.
Forward thinking and progressive but still uses that horrible word. Sigh
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What horrible word?
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Retarded
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I forget how myopic some people are on here. Allow me to enlighten: "retarded" means — to restrict, delay, impede or hold back; to retrograde something. It's not always about someone's mental incapacity.
Thank goodness I didn't use the word "gay" — that actually means "gleeful", "jovial", "carefree", "happy"...
Hopefully that's sufficient edification for today. 😘"
Yes because “restricted/delayed/impeded/held back policy” really makes sense in the context you used it… |
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"I think if I single woman and man is meeting for some fun.. then the man pays for the room...
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In a forward thinking and progressive world where equality prevails...this retarded policy never ceases to amaze me.
Forward thinking and progressive but still uses that horrible word. Sigh
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What horrible word?
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Retarded
•
I forget how myopic some people are on here. Allow me to enlighten: "retarded" means — to restrict, delay, impede or hold back; to retrograde something. It's not always about someone's mental incapacity.
Thank goodness I didn't use the word "gay" — that actually means "gleeful", "jovial", "carefree", "happy"...
Hopefully that's sufficient edification for today. 😘
Yes because “restricted/delayed/impeded/held back policy” really makes sense in the context you used it…"
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Thank you. I knew you'd understand. 🩶 |
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"Just throwing it out there but if anyone wants to pay for my hotel room and not actually come to meet me that would be more than welcome
5 star I suppose "
As all the inspirational memes I surround myself with say... know your worth 😏 |
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I think it depends on peoples financial situation.
We are lucky our mortgage is paid off we don't have kids in college. So we have a bit of disposable income to enjoy. So we always pay and stay in the hotel room .
However we know not everyone is lucky enough to be in the same position as us. So I would say if it is imposing an financial strain on you I wouldn't see anything wrong with asking for a contribution towards the room if the other couple and not paying for accommodation and it was mentioned and agreed before hand. |
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By *enSally OP Couple 14 weeks ago
Bunclody |
"I think it depends on peoples financial situation.
We are lucky our mortgage is paid off we don't have kids in college. So we have a bit of disposable income to enjoy. So we always pay and stay in the hotel room .
However we know not everyone is lucky enough to be in the same position as us. So I would say if it is imposing an financial strain on you I wouldn't see anything wrong with asking for a contribution towards the room if the other couple and not paying for accommodation and it was mentioned and agreed before hand. "
That's nice. Sure we were just curious if it was an unwritten rule on fab & thought is it fair to offer 25 per cent if you're just the visitors rather than the stayers. |
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It really depends.
Common sense isn't a given but courtesy should be.
In the time of perceived equality you would expect it to be shared, or at least some kind of barter. So I'd agree that the cost should be split, if that doesn't appeal to a lady then just say so and it's all good, I prefer enlightened company.
In meeting a couple,if they had booked into the room, I'd always bring a bottle or two to share, and ask was there anything else I should bring.
Courtesy.
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By *licat.2Woman 14 weeks ago
Not Belfast but NI |
"I have a fb atm and we take it in turns to pay for the hotel.
Neither stays the night though. Lol
So what you're saying is that there's a room free in Belfast some nights "
Exactly. Bed might be a bit messy though  |
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If we are away for a night and happen to find someone to join us for an hour or two we never expect them to contribute anything. But if we plan a play meet with either a single or another couple and only using the room for the few hours we always go 50/50. |
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"If a couple is staying overnight anyway and invite a third person to their room for a few hours then the cost should stay with the couple in my opinion
If everyone is leaving after a few hours then split the bill equally
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By *eturning MGMan 14 weeks ago
mayo galway roscommon sligo....West Of Ireland |
"If we are away for a night and happen to find someone to join us for an hour or two we never expect them to contribute anything. But if we plan a play meet with either a single or another couple and only using the room for the few hours we always go 50/50. "
Ya agree with this 100% |
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By *enSally OP Couple 14 weeks ago
Bunclody |
"If we are away for a night and happen to find someone to join us for an hour or two we never expect them to contribute anything. But if we plan a play meet with either a single or another couple and only using the room for the few hours we always go 50/50. "
If you're away for a night anyway then of course other party wouldn't need to contribute. If you're both only using for few hours then definitely 50/50.
But the question is. You both can't accommodate, one party books the hotel but also stays the night, then should the other party contribute 25 per cent. Is that fair.
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"If we are away for a night and happen to find someone to join us for an hour or two we never expect them to contribute anything. But if we plan a play meet with either a single or another couple and only using the room for the few hours we always go 50/50.
If you're away for a night anyway then of course other party wouldn't need to contribute. If you're both only using for few hours then definitely 50/50.
But the question is. You both can't accommodate, one party books the hotel but also stays the night, then should the other party contribute 25 per cent. Is that fair.
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You must have some opinion on this yourselves?
The answer is there's no hard and fast rule. See how they feel about it and if you think they're being too nice, then push to a compromise. If they're being a bit mean, then again, push to a compromise.
Between you, you will figure it out. My advice is, don't sweat the small stuff, these things usually work themselves out  |
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By *orkGuyDMan 14 weeks ago
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As a relatively poor grad worker, I would personally feel like splitting is probably the best way to go about it.
Maybe if it's a repeat with the same couple/single then alternating the pay between meets could work out better
All depends on how comfortable people are and how financially stable one is |
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