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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m feeling a bit fed up. Younger two kids (15 & 12) and I have been sniping at each other. I’m generally a good-natured person, but they’ve been getting on my last nerve. They’ve also had too much time on devices, and I’m feeling like a crap mum. I’ve been online buying them Christmas presents that don’t feel wholly deserved. I’m a good mum generally, and am always always here for my kids. They come first. But I just want to be alone
Ex husband is also being a dick. I emailed him earlier to ask if he could pick up the kids a bit earlier on Friday (he has them every second weekend and picks up at 8pm), so that I could travel to visit my baby niece for the first time. They live hours away. He said yes but made a dig at me for choosing to go without the kids, and they’ll be disappointed at not seeing their new cousin. Like what business is it of his?! Over the years I’ve tried so hard not to let his arsiness affect me, but it still does at times.
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Oh me definitely me, just want to curl up in a ball and tell everyone to go away |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
I feel your pain my ex husband is a toral twat regarding the children.
You are a good mum, believe in yourself we all have oof days.
This weekend I'm feeling sorry for myself, feel really unwell and can't be bothered with anything.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel like things around me are slowly caving in but I'm still sat here with a smile on my face.
Hopefully by next weekend I'll have all my ducks back in a row. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im feeling very MEH, and like I’ve spent a fortune this week
My manic ass is in its bored state today but my inner Gem self is ready to bolt soon x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shit. Chelsea just equalised  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op - I hear you, my ex is a massive bell end too.
I’m not very well this weekend, so I’ve spent most of the day on the sofa, watching Christmas films.
It won’t do your kids any harm to spend the odd day on their tech, give yourself a break. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Glad I’m not the only one feeling this way. Not that I’d wish it on others, but you know what I mean!
Buxom, hope you feel better soon.
My work tomorrow will feel like a break, and I work with some challenging children  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Och, wish I could hug you all ((((Fabbers)))) |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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Very calm xx
Not so high maintenance
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Very calm xx
Not so high maintenance
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That’s good! X |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Very calm xx
Not so high maintenance
That’s good! X"
Thankyou xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right this minute I’m ok. I’ve been to some dark places over the last few weeks. It was the fifth anniversary of my wife’s death, then my stepdad (who was more of a real Dad than my biological one) died. I felt really, really low, the worst I’ve felt in a while.
Thankfully I’ve come through it now, there’ll be dark times and good times ahead. Just reach out when you’re struggling, tell your friends you’re not ok, try a bit of mindfulness and always remind yourself it will pass. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Right this minute I’m ok. I’ve been to some dark places over the last few weeks. It was the fifth anniversary of my wife’s death, then my stepdad (who was more of a real Dad than my biological one) died. I felt really, really low, the worst I’ve felt in a while.
Thankfully I’ve come through it now, there’ll be dark times and good times ahead. Just reach out when you’re struggling, tell your friends you’re not ok, try a bit of mindfulness and always remind yourself it will pass. "
You need a chat I'm here x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Christ that was deep for me!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So much is going wrong in my life right now. I feel worthless, pointless and ugly |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Quite proud of myself for not replying to the ex. It’s so hard though.
When you’re young and in love, and have kids, you’re not really thinking about how you’ll be tied to this person for life.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right this minute I’m ok. I’ve been to some dark places over the last few weeks. It was the fifth anniversary of my wife’s death, then my stepdad (who was more of a real Dad than my biological one) died. I felt really, really low, the worst I’ve felt in a while.
Thankfully I’ve come through it now, there’ll be dark times and good times ahead. Just reach out when you’re struggling, tell your friends you’re not ok, try a bit of mindfulness and always remind yourself it will pass.
You need a chat I'm here x"
Thank you x |
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OP don’t think yourself a crap mum. Everyone has a a breaking point. You’re human! Your ex sounds like a dick though. Hope that gets better!
I’m currently putting my tree up by myself. I have “fireplace for your home” on Netflix because I don’t have a real fire, and I’m half way through a bottle of spiced rum wondering what the fuck I’m putting this tree up for. this is meant to be joyous, I couldn’t feel more of a loner!  |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Quite proud of myself for not replying to the ex. It’s so hard though.
When you’re young and in love, and have kids, you’re not really thinking about how you’ll be tied to this person for life. "
Xxxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not had the best of days but nothing as bad as yours. I’m in bed already and just on here until I drop off |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"Glad I’m not the only one feeling this way. Not that I’d wish it on others, but you know what I mean!
Buxom, hope you feel better soon.
My work tomorrow will feel like a break, and I work with some challenging children "
Thank you x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So much is going wrong in my life right now. I feel worthless, pointless and ugly"
You are none of those things. Be kind to yourself.
Speak to yourself as you would a friend. |
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Aw op don’t beat yourself up. Being a mum is tough, especially if you’re doing it alone
I’m feeling good as just went to watch the Xmas lights being turned on in the village and just as they were switched on it started snowing! It was kinda magical x |
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"Quite proud of myself for not replying to the ex. It’s so hard though.
When you’re young and in love, and have kids, you’re not really thinking about how you’ll be tied to this person for life. "
I went through that and I can personally vouch for that light at the end. It destroyed me at the time but I’m now back in control of my life and career and things are good, not everything but the majority. Stick in there and be right by yourself, be kind, fair and thoughtful and things will be alright. I’m sure you’ve got people around but I’m a good listener if you need it xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like the world is on my shoulders |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I want to tell the world to fuck off too.
Rubbish birthday last week.
I couldn’t be less in the Christmas spirit, I’ve not started shopping for any presents, can’t be arsed putting the tree and decs up.
As much as I’ll make Christmas special for the kids, I’ll be glad when it’s come and gone.
It’s a family orientated time and everywhere you go it’s in your face, it just reminds me that the kids don’t have their dad and it sucks.
I’d happily bugger off on holiday with the kids for Christmas if I had the money |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"So much is going wrong in my life right now. I feel worthless, pointless and ugly"
No no no
Your none of those. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feeling you on this! Right now feeling overwhelmed and under appreciated... but will carry on give myself a smack on the arse and get sorted!
Hope you start to have a better time soon!! |
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A bit discombobulated! Was a busy shift at work til 2am, then was chilling with my mate having a couple of beers til about 5am, then didn't wake up until 4pm so haven't seen daylight at all and being Sunday it's too late to go get any groceries or anything.
At a bit of a loose end now and don't know what to do. Might go to the pub later. |
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By *tnh83Man
over a year ago
Walsall |
Feel like shit now. The snow just broke my window wiper |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Feel like shit now. The snow just broke my window wiper "
Oops |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I'm having an up and down period. My mood spikes to excitedly happy due to Christmas films; stews; Christmas decorations and cleaning out crap in the house, to dips where I'm missing my mum, and family who are isolating, and generally feeling unwell.
I can go from woo hoo to tears in seconds and it's pissing me off a bit.
I watched a video of a Christmas from almost 30 years ago that my mum was in, and my children were little, to cheer myself up and I cried all the way through it.
And, my nose hurts |
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If you’re feeling overwhelmed then I found I had to look at each thing separately, not as a whole. Sort one problem at a time according to priority. Set goals to do this each day, one small victory, however small, will lift you up a little. Use your friends, they won’t mind.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very down at this time of year and feel like telling the world to fuck off too. I hate Xmas, it's so lonely for me. The only thing keeping me going right now is going to CJ's on December 18th. After that, I wish I could just forward the time to after New Year  |
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Counting minutes down! To go work!  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Feel like shit now. The snow just broke my window wiper "
Blimey, how much snow do you have?
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"If you’re feeling overwhelmed then I found I had to look at each thing separately, not as a whole. Sort one problem at a time according to priority. Set goals to do this each day, one small victory, however small, will lift you up a little. Use your friends, they won’t mind. "
I don't have friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry you feel down op. But I feel pretty good. Or is it I like to give a pretty good feel, I can’t remember  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm having an up and down period. My mood spikes to excitedly happy due to Christmas films; stews; Christmas decorations and cleaning out crap in the house, to dips where I'm missing my mum, and family who are isolating, and generally feeling unwell.
I can go from woo hoo to tears in seconds and it's pissing me off a bit.
I watched a video of a Christmas from almost 30 years ago that my mum was in, and my children were little, to cheer myself up and I cried all the way through it.
And, my nose hurts "
Christmas can always be a nightmare for things like that x |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"If you’re feeling overwhelmed then I found I had to look at each thing separately, not as a whole. Sort one problem at a time according to priority. Set goals to do this each day, one small victory, however small, will lift you up a little. Use your friends, they won’t mind.
I don't have friends. "
Make some |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I'm having an up and down period. My mood spikes to excitedly happy due to Christmas films; stews; Christmas decorations and cleaning out crap in the house, to dips where I'm missing my mum, and family who are isolating, and generally feeling unwell.
I can go from woo hoo to tears in seconds and it's pissing me off a bit.
I watched a video of a Christmas from almost 30 years ago that my mum was in, and my children were little, to cheer myself up and I cried all the way through it.
And, my nose hurts
Christmas can always be a nightmare for things like that x"
Since I became depressed years ago I keep wishing my children, or myself were young again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm feeling pretty positive at the moment. Thankfully my ex is a thing of the past, a 3 year divorce, stupid amounts of legal fees, but the divorce process ended in July this year, the house was sold September so that chapter of my life is closed so all good there
Unfortunately I'm now pinging from B & B, to air bnb until a suitable house turns up but the market is pretty limited for choice at the moment.
However, I have food, shelter and warmth, which is more than some people have so...all is good  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"If you’re feeling overwhelmed then I found I had to look at each thing separately, not as a whole. Sort one problem at a time according to priority. Set goals to do this each day, one small victory, however small, will lift you up a little. Use your friends, they won’t mind.
I don't have friends.
Make some "
I don't like socialising that much. I'm talking proper friends you pop in for tea, go shopping with and go out with.
I lost mine years ago and now I feel they can't be replaced.
I do things with my family now. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"If you’re feeling overwhelmed then I found I had to look at each thing separately, not as a whole. Sort one problem at a time according to priority. Set goals to do this each day, one small victory, however small, will lift you up a little. Use your friends, they won’t mind.
I don't have friends.
Make some
I don't like socialising that much. I'm talking proper friends you pop in for tea, go shopping with and go out with.
I lost mine years ago and now I feel they can't be replaced.
I do things with my family now."
Aww xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So much is going wrong in my life right now. I feel worthless, pointless and ugly"
Things will improve.
Nobody is worthless or pointless, and judging from your photo definitely not ugly x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm having an up and down period. My mood spikes to excitedly happy due to Christmas films; stews; Christmas decorations and cleaning out crap in the house, to dips where I'm missing my mum, and family who are isolating, and generally feeling unwell.
I can go from woo hoo to tears in seconds and it's pissing me off a bit.
I watched a video of a Christmas from almost 30 years ago that my mum was in, and my children were little, to cheer myself up and I cried all the way through it.
And, my nose hurts
Christmas can always be a nightmare for things like that x
Since I became depressed years ago I keep wishing my children, or myself were young again. "
They’re not but you should cherish the memories and look forward to Christmases ahead. You never know, the best one could be around the corner x |
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"If you’re feeling overwhelmed then I found I had to look at each thing separately, not as a whole. Sort one problem at a time according to priority. Set goals to do this each day, one small victory, however small, will lift you up a little. Use your friends, they won’t mind.
I don't have friends.
Make some
I don't like socialising that much. I'm talking proper friends you pop in for tea, go shopping with and go out with.
I lost mine years ago and now I feel they can't be replaced.
I do things with my family now."
Use anyone you have around for support  |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"If you’re feeling overwhelmed then I found I had to look at each thing separately, not as a whole. Sort one problem at a time according to priority. Set goals to do this each day, one small victory, however small, will lift you up a little. Use your friends, they won’t mind.
I don't have friends.
Make some
I don't like socialising that much. I'm talking proper friends you pop in for tea, go shopping with and go out with.
I lost mine years ago and now I feel they can't be replaced.
I do things with my family now." I know what you mean
I do alot with my family xx |
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By *tnh83Man
over a year ago
Walsall |
"Feel like shit now. The snow just broke my window wiper
Blimey, how much snow do you have?
" its not too bad but its also from yesterday so it looks like its buried in it |
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Feeling pretty good at the moment decorated the Christmas tree and my fire And tomorrow I've got my daughter,s Graduation. X
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m feeling a bit fed up. Younger two kids (15 & 12) and I have been sniping at each other. I’m generally a good-natured person, but they’ve been getting on my last nerve. They’ve also had too much time on devices, and I’m feeling like a crap mum. I’ve been online buying them Christmas presents that don’t feel wholly deserved. I’m a good mum generally, and am always always here for my kids. They come first. But I just want to be alone
Ex husband is also being a dick. I emailed him earlier to ask if he could pick up the kids a bit earlier on Friday (he has them every second weekend and picks up at 8pm), so that I could travel to visit my baby niece for the first time. They live hours away. He said yes but made a dig at me for choosing to go without the kids, and they’ll be disappointed at not seeing their new cousin. Like what business is it of his?! Over the years I’ve tried so hard not to let his arsiness affect me, but it still does at times.
Anyone else feel like telling the world to fuck off? "
Your ex sounds like me ex…
And screen time… yeah you’re on to a loosing batter.
To answer your question, I feel shite.
I woke up 7am Saturday, it’s now 8:15pm Sunday.
I spent Saturday night up kids A & E with step daughter, 17, (eldest of a collection of 5 kids all told) after she us she’d just downed some pills and didn’t want to be here any more.
Long story short, things are… well not great but we’re getting on top of it
Don’t stress it too much OP. I’m sure you’re doing great… |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
I am feeling stressed and anxious about going into work tomorrow.I still have to deal with my ex manager and although she helped me with a situation that could have been viewed as sexual harassment I feel she is already using it to her advantage she has already increased my work load so things maybe about to become worse for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you’re feeling overwhelmed then I found I had to look at each thing separately, not as a whole. Sort one problem at a time according to priority. Set goals to do this each day, one small victory, however small, will lift you up a little. Use your friends, they won’t mind.
I don't have friends.
Make some
I don't like socialising that much. I'm talking proper friends you pop in for tea, go shopping with and go out with.
I lost mine years ago and now I feel they can't be replaced.
I do things with my family now."
This very common. Many people aren't big the whole socialising thing. And tend to rely on family and who they already know, past a certain point.
You're part of the swinging scene though. It's naturally very inclusive and friendly and social. It has to be. So there's good opportunities to click with a handful of people for days out, long term friendship etc.
There's lots of people in the same boat, looking for the same thing. Genuine companionship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They're just at that age. When they hit 12 they just go that way until they're about 17/18 (at least).
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you’re feeling overwhelmed then I found I had to look at each thing separately, not as a whole. Sort one problem at a time according to priority. Set goals to do this each day, one small victory, however small, will lift you up a little. Use your friends, they won’t mind.
I don't have friends. "
Ditto. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I'm having an up and down period. My mood spikes to excitedly happy due to Christmas films; stews; Christmas decorations and cleaning out crap in the house, to dips where I'm missing my mum, and family who are isolating, and generally feeling unwell.
I can go from woo hoo to tears in seconds and it's pissing me off a bit.
I watched a video of a Christmas from almost 30 years ago that my mum was in, and my children were little, to cheer myself up and I cried all the way through it.
And, my nose hurts
Christmas can always be a nightmare for things like that x
Since I became depressed years ago I keep wishing my children, or myself were young again.
They’re not but you should cherish the memories and look forward to Christmases ahead. You never know, the best one could be around the corner x"
I'm looking forward to this Christmas with the babies. Next year the eldest will be more aware and can track Father Christmas with us  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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@Hatter, I am so sorry to hear this and hope your daughter is ok x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They're just at that age. When they hit 12 they just go that way until they're about 17/18 (at least).
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Eldest is 20 and she’s a dream! |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Feel like shit now. The snow just broke my window wiper
Blimey, how much snow do you have?
its not too bad but its also from yesterday so it looks like its buried in it "
You need a little shovel kept in the boot for these predicaments. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"If you’re feeling overwhelmed then I found I had to look at each thing separately, not as a whole. Sort one problem at a time according to priority. Set goals to do this each day, one small victory, however small, will lift you up a little. Use your friends, they won’t mind.
I don't have friends.
Make some
I don't like socialising that much. I'm talking proper friends you pop in for tea, go shopping with and go out with.
I lost mine years ago and now I feel they can't be replaced.
I do things with my family now.
Use anyone you have around for support "
I'm more of a suffer in silence person. I don't like burdening my children with my problems.
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At this moment I'm feeling a little overweight and I've been in some really dark places of late ... but I'm turning it around |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cock blocked by the weather  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm having an up and down period. My mood spikes to excitedly happy due to Christmas films; stews; Christmas decorations and cleaning out crap in the house, to dips where I'm missing my mum, and family who are isolating, and generally feeling unwell.
I can go from woo hoo to tears in seconds and it's pissing me off a bit.
I watched a video of a Christmas from almost 30 years ago that my mum was in, and my children were little, to cheer myself up and I cried all the way through it.
And, my nose hurts
Christmas can always be a nightmare for things like that x
Since I became depressed years ago I keep wishing my children, or myself were young again.
They’re not but you should cherish the memories and look forward to Christmases ahead. You never know, the best one could be around the corner x
I'm looking forward to this Christmas with the babies. Next year the eldest will be more aware and can track Father Christmas with us "
Brilliant. I love that. We used to do the norad Father Christmas tracker and get the portable North Pole videos |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"At this moment I'm feeling a little overweight and I've been in some really dark places of late ... but I'm turning it around "
You’ve got a cracking figure.
It’s how we feel in ourself that counts though, isn’t it? So it’s pointless me telling you that! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I used to love the Santa tracker too!
This year is the first that I bypassed the toy aisle when doing my Christmas shopping  |
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"At this moment I'm feeling a little overweight and I've been in some really dark places of late ... but I'm turning it around
You’ve got a cracking figure.
It’s how we feel in ourself that counts though, isn’t it? So it’s pointless me telling you that! "
Thank you that was very kind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At this moment I'm feeling a little overweight and I've been in some really dark places of late ... but I'm turning it around "
Go vegan. You’ll be reet  |
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"At this moment I'm feeling a little overweight and I've been in some really dark places of late ... but I'm turning it around
Go vegan. You’ll be reet "
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"At this moment I'm feeling a little overweight and I've been in some really dark places of late ... but I'm turning it around
Go vegan. You’ll be reet
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm having an up and down period. My mood spikes to excitedly happy due to Christmas films; stews; Christmas decorations and cleaning out crap in the house, to dips where I'm missing my mum, and family who are isolating, and generally feeling unwell.
I can go from woo hoo to tears in seconds and it's pissing me off a bit.
I watched a video of a Christmas from almost 30 years ago that my mum was in, and my children were little, to cheer myself up and I cried all the way through it.
And, my nose hurts
Christmas can always be a nightmare for things like that x
Since I became depressed years ago I keep wishing my children, or myself were young again.
They’re not but you should cherish the memories and look forward to Christmases ahead. You never know, the best one could be around the corner x
I'm looking forward to this Christmas with the babies. Next year the eldest will be more aware and can track Father Christmas with us
Brilliant. I love that. We used to do the norad Father Christmas tracker and get the portable North Pole videos "
We use the Norad one. Even when my grandchildren stopped believing in Father Christmas.
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"I used to love the Santa tracker too!
This year is the first that I bypassed the toy aisle when doing my Christmas shopping "
Oh goodness, I try but fail to avoid the toy aisle...  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I used to love the Santa tracker too!
This year is the first that I bypassed the toy aisle when doing my Christmas shopping "
That's when it starts to get to you. Teenagers don't get excited like children do.
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over a year ago
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It’s clearly the weekend for it.
I’m feeling pretty fragile & down at the moment. Kid free weekend and a fab lunch date I had planned was cancelled at last minute. It’s the 3rd time in 3 weeks where I’ve been cancelled on (not the same guy)
I also had someone from here/club say some pretty mean stuff to me the other week.
So all in all I feel like it’s one knock/disappointment after another.
So have pretty much spent the whole weekend by myself doing naff all and feeling sorry for myself & v alone.
I know I’ll snap out of it & have lots to look forward to, but sometimes it’s just bloody hard!
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I’m feeling mixed. Really happy as my fad got us tickets to see The Proclaimers next year but then eldest’s (20) GF has dumped him by text There have been lots of tears. They have 3 European city breaks booked too….
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over a year ago
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I'm the other end of the spectrum, I have my children 3 weekends out of 4. Pick them up from school on a Friday then drop them to school on the Monday morning. I love my weekends with my kids, makes playing on here less likely but they have, do and always will come first. Was sat on the sofa with them until 10mins ago watching the Christmas chronicles after a day of Christmas shopping. So their in bed now as its a school day tomorrow which now gives me time for a browse on here. Current mood is contented, sorry to hear you're not having the best time OP. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Yes to all of that OP. I have a very difficult ex who digs at me often even though I am available fir the kids constantly, do all of the life admin, cover 99% costs etc. I've worked hard to let it slide and have to set boundaries around how he communicates with me. Some days it gets me down. It's exhausting.
Of course the kids are also in a human flow.. Of feist and lack of empathy at times which just feels like a kick in the fanny! It's not their fault.. They're just kids. Big breaths.. And if you've snapped a bit, do be it. Explain to them why. You're stretched.. Perhaps they are too in some way.
It will pass mama. Put really clear boundaries in place with your ex and tell him that his opinion and judgement are not welcome unless it is a matter of urgency to discuss about the children. You don't need to justify yourself to him and there is no requirement for you to feel understood by him. Those days are gone.
You're doing great, both fails and wins. I totally know these kinda days like the one you're having. It's a slog AND it will shift.
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over a year ago
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For all of you feeling out of sorts, unhappy, discontented, unloved….I’m sending you some big love and cuddles (I give the best ones)!!
We are all entitled to these days and these feelings because if we didn’t we wouldn’t be human nor would we be in touch with our emotions…..but remember tomorrow is a new day and with it comes the endless possibilities of excitement, fun and happiness (even if it is a Monday)!! Fill yourself with positivity and stick with the people that make you happy (avoid Exes) ha!
My feelings are pretty fantastic at the moment….I’ve eaten good food and spoken to my children (even if the youngest was more interested in YouTube ).
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I’m sorry to read that people are having a rough time of things at the moment.
In light of how tough people are having things, I’m almost sorry to say that I’m in a good place at the moment.
I’m feeling a touch of equilibrium, I’ve had a good weekend and whilst not everything is in a row, I feel able to face things and deal. It’s been a while since I felt that!
Remember to be gentle with yourself if you’re struggling |
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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago
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"I’m feeling a bit fed up. Younger two kids (15 & 12) and I have been sniping at each other. I’m generally a good-natured person, but they’ve been getting on my last nerve. They’ve also had too much time on devices, and I’m feeling like a crap mum. I’ve been online buying them Christmas presents that don’t feel wholly deserved. I’m a good mum generally, and am always always here for my kids. They come first. But I just want to be alone
Ex husband is also being a dick. I emailed him earlier to ask if he could pick up the kids a bit earlier on Friday (he has them every second weekend and picks up at 8pm), so that I could travel to visit my baby niece for the first time. They live hours away. He said yes but made a dig at me for choosing to go without the kids, and they’ll be disappointed at not seeing their new cousin. Like what business is it of his?! Over the years I’ve tried so hard not to let his arsiness affect me, but it still does at times.
Anyone else feel like telling the world to fuck off? "
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over a year ago
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Good thanks, but I've just finished dinner and my kids are grown and gone. |
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Sorry you’re feeling fed up OP.. balancing the needs of others is a constant battle at times. Hopefully that’s just a blip and things will find their level again soon.
I’m finally emerging from a horrible dark spell and have just realised I have me back I’ve spent the day helping out my stepdaughter open her business and reconnected to my eldest stepson that I’ve not seen in a few years. It was a really lovely day, despite being wrecked from baking solidly for 3 days. But today I felt completely present and content. It’s rare but I love that. Love to all having a crappy time. I hope tomorrow is brighter  |
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Sorry to hear that OP x
I'm in a nostalgic frame of mood, Xmas brings big memories of loved ones who had passed away at New years, the main one is the first anniversary of my dogs death. Opening the Xmas box and finding his stocking and santa outfit successfully managed to bring me to my knees and need a cuddle of his cushion accompanied with a tear or 10 xxx |
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over a year ago
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Right now dreadful, absolutely dreadful
I've had a very emotionally fraught afternoon with Mum
She has waited for Day1 of my sister going away for a week to just emotionally dump on me about her situation (she is terminally ill)
That sounds awful, like she planned it - I am sure she didn't
It is probably because she feels more vulnerable with one less in the 'care plan'
I feel I have no one to talk to with my sister being away - no one that knows the full story anyway
So, right now, I am wearing a painted face of positivity and practicality whilst screaming internally |
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"So much is going wrong in my life right now. I feel worthless, pointless and ugly" No one is ugly or worthless. hugs xox |
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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago
In my happy place |
Smooth legs and everything.
A planned meet didnt happen. Silence lol.
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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago
In my happy place |
"So much is going wrong in my life right now. I feel worthless, pointless and ugly No one is ugly or worthless. hugs xox"
This.. Please be kind to yourself x |
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I'm not too bad thanks OP hope you feel better soon. x  |
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"So much is going wrong in my life right now. I feel worthless, pointless and ugly No one is ugly or worthless. hugs xox
This.. Please be kind to yourself x" x  |
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over a year ago
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Feeling verrry lonely and not at all looking forward to Christmas... |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I’m sorry to read that people are having a rough time of things at the moment.
In light of how tough people are having things, I’m almost sorry to say that I’m in a good place at the moment.
I’m feeling a touch of equilibrium, I’ve had a good weekend and whilst not everything is in a row, I feel able to face things and deal. It’s been a while since I felt that!
Remember to be gentle with yourself if you’re struggling"
Reading about others' being happy cheers me up.
It reminds me that I'll be there myself soon. |
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over a year ago
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Exhausted and stressed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Bloody hell, what an amazing and lovely bunch of people you are. Thank you for all the kind and supportive words, not just to me but to the other posters in need of it too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly, never felt lonlier.
My daughter went to her dads on Friday and my depression has been a problem for a while now.
Combine that with having had a pretty big personal failure recently and the inertia is overwhelming.
Its as much as I can do to plaster a smile on when she gets back from her dads, and drag myself to work most of the time. |
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By *not123Couple
over a year ago
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At moment tired,extremely lonely and wonder what I've done wrong in the past to always end up with crap and things never going the way I hoped.
Sick of being taken for granted being ignored and never finding someone who actually gives a shit or wants to be with me.
Will shut up now n stop moaning lol
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over a year ago
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"At moment tired,extremely lonely and wonder what I've done wrong in the past to always end up with crap and things never going the way I hoped.
Sick of being taken for granted being ignored and never finding someone who actually gives a shit or wants to be with me.
Will shut up now n stop moaning lol
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Don’t….it’s always good to talk!!!  |
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over a year ago
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My wife died last year leaving me with my two young kids (5&2). I’ve obviously found a new partner but I still miss my wife desperately. My youngest is starting to talk and my wife has missed out on so much of the kids growing up. Feeling very low this evening. Doesn’t help being on my own tonight. |
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"My wife died last year leaving me with my two young kids (5&2). I’ve obviously found a new partner but I still miss my wife desperately. My youngest is starting to talk and my wife has missed out on so much of the kids growing up. Feeling very low this evening. Doesn’t help being on my own tonight. "
Remember the good times mate….your wife is still there and watching everything that happens with the little ones….think how happy she will be not how sad it is she’s not there!  |
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over a year ago
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Sending all the love and cuddles to you all |
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"Smooth legs and everything.
A planned meet didnt happen. Silence lol.
Im watching below deck in my pjs "
I bloody love Below Deck. |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
Relaxed and self-satisfied after a very busy day, that started just before dawn.
I'll now spend a few hours on the forum, in the chat rooms and looking at the latest updates and hot photos before hitting the sack.  |
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"Bloody hell, what an amazing and lovely bunch of people you are. Thank you for all the kind and supportive words, not just to me but to the other posters in need of it too x" xox  |
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over a year ago
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Yep, fed up with everything in life! Nothing changes |
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"My wife died last year leaving me with my two young kids (5&2). I’ve obviously found a new partner but I still miss my wife desperately. My youngest is starting to talk and my wife has missed out on so much of the kids growing up. Feeling very low this evening. Doesn’t help being on my own tonight. " She would want you to be happy again! Bless you she will always be with you and you have the memories.  |
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Tired and I am at work till 8am. |
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"Sending all the love and cuddles to you all " xox ( Love) |
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over a year ago
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"Tired and I am at work till 8am."
Busy night , or will they settle down? |
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Fed up, irritated and sexually frustrated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fed up, irritated and sexually frustrated "  |
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Aww Dieu...we all need some 'us' time, especially when you're a busy mom.
Don't feel bad about wanting/needing that!
Your ex sounds like his an arse. Pay him no mind!
It's easy done the kids having too much time on their devices, that does not mean you're a bad mom. Don't beat yourself up about that.
Enjoy the quality time you can spend with your new niece in peace and quiet without the kids. They can meet her another time.
Hope you get yourself some well earned space x
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over a year ago
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Thanks Anabelle x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wide awake for some reason |
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over a year ago
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Don't worry I think we have all felt that at some point, especially after the last year. It's okay to have them days screaming fuck the world, tomorrow will be a better day  |
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By *ob08Man
over a year ago
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I feel great, oh maybe this isn't the thread for me lol |
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OP we all have days like that, feeling that way doesn’t make you a bad mum, we all need some quiet ‘me’ time don’t feel guilty about that |
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"Quite proud of myself for not replying to the ex. It’s so hard though.
When you’re young and in love, and have kids, you’re not really thinking about how you’ll be tied to this person for life. "
Tell me about it. I was 16 when I had my son and STILL (obviously) tied to his darned father. His dad was visiting from Wales this weekend and said he'd collect our son from home. Except he didn't. I ended up taking him most of the way, at the expense of getting dinner on the table for everyone else on time. Urgh!
This evening, I feel a sense of having achieved a thing. I finished altering our daughter's nativity costume. Apprehensive about another stressful week at work and wondering what the buildings insurance assessor will find re: my dad's house damaged in the storms because it'll be me paying for anything outside of what his insurance covers. Mr KC turned his hand to fixing the patio over the summer but doubt he can do structural brickwork and the roof  |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
I have told the world to fuck off and am hunkering down in my secret hideaway in the Pennines, at least till the snow goes |
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Feeling good had all day session with hubby such a good man always makes sure I squirt before cumming 6 hours feel so relaxed feel for you |
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over a year ago
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I can totally relate to the children fighting thing my youngest two are 13 and 15.
I'm struggling a bit if honest for so many reasons. A bit of a roller coaster of emotions, lack of sleep, stress and worries and now the weather has wiped out our power so we are all camping out at my eldests house. He's been such a star so I'm very thankful and lucky. We live properly in the sticks so I'm concerned about how it might actually be a struggle to get home at all. I've got to go to work in the morning and somehow be super productive whilst ignoring all of the above and the way my heart is breaking all over again on top of everything else.
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over a year ago
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over a year ago
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Tender kneee surgery few weeks ago |
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over a year ago
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Probably a little late now but in regards to the ex just say that the family have asked for minimal visitors and no children due to risk of germs from school- not unusual.
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over a year ago
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As for how I’m feeling I’m feeling poop had a sickness bug, got over that and now a full on cough and cold which my baby boy seems to have caught as well, seeing his tiny body coughing is breaking me |
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Sending good vibes to OP and everyone who needs them at the moment x
OP regarding ex, he’s ex for a reason, don’t take his comments into your head, don’t allow him the headspace, I’m sure you know this! I think you need time away from the kids and going to see your new family member will be amazing, enjoy every moment especially the alone time on the journey there, loud top of voice singing usually helps me!
I’m feeling pretty crappy at the moment and I’m off work sick and on SSP so more conscious of money than usual which isn’t great at Christmas, but this too will pass. Fab has kept me amused and this forum is a lovely place for fun, frolicks and feel good factor x |
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over a year ago
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Definitely relate Op sending strength to all needed, I’m single mum with teen hard to communicate most days so happy to have peace when can find usually mine in the gym, the last couple weeks been hard with work load asking impossible, cause more stress expense Christmas looming, car to fix and also run down with all so cold sore flare up too no escape to clubs either, know self care and friends help to off load  |
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over a year ago
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Feeling down. Want to stay away from people but have to go to work  |
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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago
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Feel exhausted not a great sleeper but seems worse with the dark cold nights and thought of going outside is not appealing at all  |
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"Feel like shit now. The snow just broke my window wiper "
Spooky as it broke mine too - being held together with Gorilla tape….
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over a year ago
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Feel like shit, had a bike accident, two weeks in hospital, waiting to see if need more ops and all this and nearly Xmas! |
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over a year ago
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Right now I'm feeling excited, anxious and very turned on.
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I have had a few bad years, job loss, loss of parent and loved ones in a very short period of time.
I have depression and anxiety, anxiety being the worst. Waking up everyday with this horrible heavy chest and worrying feeling. Most days I just want to curl up in a ball somewhere quiet and just disappear.
Each day is a different battle and to top it I have long covid so that just enhances everything.
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"I can totally relate to the children fighting thing my youngest two are 13 and 15.
I'm struggling a bit if honest for so many reasons. A bit of a roller coaster of emotions, lack of sleep, stress and worries and now the weather has wiped out our power so we are all camping out at my eldests house. He's been such a star so I'm very thankful and lucky. We live properly in the sticks so I'm concerned about how it might actually be a struggle to get home at all. I've got to go to work in the morning and somehow be super productive whilst ignoring all of the above and the way my heart is breaking all over again on top of everything else.
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Sounds like things are really tough at the moment! I hope today is a better day xx |
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"I have had a few bad years, job loss, loss of parent and loved ones in a very short period of time.
I have depression and anxiety, anxiety being the worst. Waking up everyday with this horrible heavy chest and worrying feeling. Most days I just want to curl up in a ball somewhere quiet and just disappear.
Each day is a different battle and to top it I have long covid so that just enhances everything.
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Oh my lovely ...sorry to see you're having such a battle x |
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"Right now I'm feeling excited, anxious and very turned on.
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"Feel like shit, had a bike accident, two weeks in hospital, waiting to see if need more ops and all this and nearly Xmas!"
More Ops! Hope you get back on your feet soon x |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
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Completely relaxed; just had a hot bath, and a shave, for the first time in a week; not a care in the world.
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over a year ago
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Better than I did yesterday. Hopefully tomorrow will be a good day too as I'm actually going out x |
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over a year ago
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I feel content and relaxed, my boyfriend is a working night shift and I wish he was here to cuddle me.
NBVN x |
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I hope you are getting help for the anxiety and depression. Anxiety is irrational and all consuming. Hang in there dude |
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over a year ago
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I feel better than I did two days ago. My deadline list is slowly reducing and I'm sort of ontop of housework etc.
I'm a little behind on hours (because of kids, flexi working) but I'm trying to not let it stress me out too much.
What will be, will be. |
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over a year ago
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Physically pained and just worn out
Kidney infection is shit.
Op my daughter is awful, she is nearly 16 and just selfish and pushes my buttons til I want to kill her. I actually left the house this evening and went for a drive. Felt a lot better for it.
Make space for you x |
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over a year ago
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Tired, been working and decorating kids bedroom |
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Hate life currently. Miss the ex and my daughter terribly and it’s like my daughter can’t wait to get away when she is here. Happy my son stayed but don’t feel I can be as good to him as his mother can I keep forgetting things at the shop and are a useless cook so can’t make him as good things for his tea. House feels so lonely and empty |
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"Hate life currently. Miss the ex and my daughter terribly and it’s like my daughter can’t wait to get away when she is here. Happy my son stayed but don’t feel I can be as good to him as his mother can I keep forgetting things at the shop and are a useless cook so can’t make him as good things for his tea. House feels so lonely and empty "
It’s a hard time of year to be feeling this, whatever you do don’t do it alone. Hard to offer advice not knowing any details but just spend time with your daughter, not money, give her attention when there (and stay in touch when she’s at her mums). As for your son, teach him to cook with you, learn together and bond over eating meals together, it can really help, and when you mess up a recipe it’s just something to laugh over together.
But do talk to your mates, or anyone on here who seems like they’d listen |
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"Hate life currently. Miss the ex and my daughter terribly and it’s like my daughter can’t wait to get away when she is here. Happy my son stayed but don’t feel I can be as good to him as his mother can I keep forgetting things at the shop and are a useless cook so can’t make him as good things for his tea. House feels so lonely and empty
It’s a hard time of year to be feeling this, whatever you do don’t do it alone. Hard to offer advice not knowing any details but just spend time with your daughter, not money, give her attention when there (and stay in touch when she’s at her mums). As for your son, teach him to cook with you, learn together and bond over eating meals together, it can really help, and when you mess up a recipe it’s just something to laugh over together.
But do talk to your mates, or anyone on here who seems like they’d listen"
Thank you for taking the time to reply mate and for the good suggestions. It’s been 3 weeks since she moved out after 15 year together, still won’t confirm it’s forever but grows more distant and nasty as time goes by it’s now like every word that comes out of my mouth annoys her and she’s more than happy to voice it so I not got much hope. I do talk to mates but don’t want to take up too much of their time as they all have families and it’s busy time of year but not alone
Thanks again mate I appreciate the reply and thoughts |
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over a year ago
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Mixed emotions. Annoyed and sad and kinda empty also angry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My vertigo has returned with a vengeance so I've been dizzy all day, having to deal with my mum/gran/dad bickering all evening, exhausted from work dealing with new starters and students.. and my 2nd job texting and calling me about players..
and when I try and vent at home mum tells me I cant be that tired as I'm only 25..
So all in all a little shite today |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm alright. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A bit stressed tbh. But trying to take things one day at a time |
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By *al kalMan
over a year ago
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body is in allot of pain and struggling to sleep. feeling super hungry. |
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Well I’m doing my very best at the moment with loads of problems with my father in hospital and he is my best friend and mate and I don’t know really what to do at the moment with this |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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Your doing your best and by the sounds of it that's more than enough.
Your kids are at that age where they are working out who they are and are going to be a pain.
And yes you are allowed to feel like this. So give yourself a break ignore your ex snide attitude and go enjoy seeing your niece. Things will look better in time |
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"Hate life currently. Miss the ex and my daughter terribly and it’s like my daughter can’t wait to get away when she is here. Happy my son stayed but don’t feel I can be as good to him as his mother can I keep forgetting things at the shop and are a useless cook so can’t make him as good things for his tea. House feels so lonely and empty "
It’s so hard when they 1st leave. I promise it does get easier in time. Can you get a cookbook for beginners (or students) and teach yourself to cook? Or find YouTube videos? Keep it simple to start with & bulk cook & freeze extras. Stews & casseroles are easy especially at this time of year. If you have a slow cooker you can just chuck it all in & leave it until tome to eat.
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Cold , Sore , Bored , Tired , & Grumpy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bloody marvellous |
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I got word from friends to say another friends son was in a bad way on Monday.
I got a message from my friend yesterday to say he’d died. Same age as my son. Severe, life limiting disabilities. Fought all his life, and he died because he caught covid.
I feel awfully sad, he was a funny, cheeky, inspiring young man. I’m glad I knew him.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got word from friends to say another friends son was in a bad way on Monday.
I got a message from my friend yesterday to say he’d died. Same age as my son. Severe, life limiting disabilities. Fought all his life, and he died because he caught covid.
I feel awfully sad, he was a funny, cheeky, inspiring young man. I’m glad I knew him.
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That's sad, mate. Bless him. RIP |
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I feel like I would’ve totally given up if it wasn’t for my beautiful cat welcoming me home from visiting both my parents with dementia. |
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"I got word from friends to say another friends son was in a bad way on Monday.
I got a message from my friend yesterday to say he’d died. Same age as my son. Severe, life limiting disabilities. Fought all his life, and he died because he caught covid.
I feel awfully sad, he was a funny, cheeky, inspiring young man. I’m glad I knew him.
That's sad, mate. Bless him. RIP"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got word from friends to say another friends son was in a bad way on Monday.
I got a message from my friend yesterday to say he’d died. Same age as my son. Severe, life limiting disabilities. Fought all his life, and he died because he caught covid.
I feel awfully sad, he was a funny, cheeky, inspiring young man. I’m glad I knew him.
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Ah sorry to hear this  |
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By *enm83Man
over a year ago
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Ropey, had a fever yesterday and waiting on PCR test results ... |
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"I got word from friends to say another friends son was in a bad way on Monday.
I got a message from my friend yesterday to say he’d died. Same age as my son. Severe, life limiting disabilities. Fought all his life, and he died because he caught covid.
I feel awfully sad, he was a funny, cheeky, inspiring young man. I’m glad I knew him.
Ah sorry to hear this "
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By *enm83Man
over a year ago
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"I got word from friends to say another friends son was in a bad way on Monday.
I got a message from my friend yesterday to say he’d died. Same age as my son. Severe, life limiting disabilities. Fought all his life, and he died because he caught covid.
I feel awfully sad, he was a funny, cheeky, inspiring young man. I’m glad I knew him.
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Thoughts, love and prayers |
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"I got word from friends to say another friends son was in a bad way on Monday.
I got a message from my friend yesterday to say he’d died. Same age as my son. Severe, life limiting disabilities. Fought all his life, and he died because he caught covid.
I feel awfully sad, he was a funny, cheeky, inspiring young man. I’m glad I knew him.
Thoughts, love and prayers"
Hope you feel better soon |
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100% been placed on garden leave for sticking to principles now facing a new year unemployed which is undeniably stressful. The little things make you snap its not a good place. Yet there are worse situations |
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over a year ago
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Hopeful.
Jo.Xx |
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