"Does anyone else have their ups and downs on here.
Sometimes you love it and sometimes you want to have a break..
I have a feeling its common.."
I absolutely do. I've been floating on and off here since I made the profile. Don't think the Rona situation has helped in that  |
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OP you certainly aren't alone in that, I think most of us feel the same way at times.
I take breaks, sometimes for days, sometimes for weeks. I do now use other sites where it feels less fraught and use this site just for the socials and a bit of light entertainment in the forum.
I think we all find our own way around the site and end up each finding a different way to use it that suits. |
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over a year ago
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"OP you certainly aren't alone in that, I think most of us feel the same way at times.
I take breaks, sometimes for days, sometimes for weeks. I do now use other sites where it feels less fraught and use this site just for the socials and a bit of light entertainment in the forum.
I think we all find our own way around the site and end up each finding a different way to use it that suits."
Totally agree, I think the moment you take yourself seriously on here is the time to take a break |
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I thought that was the point of being on here, up, down, up, down, in, out, in, out, ahhhhh... |
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Ups and downs. Ins and outs. It all goes on here.
But yes, such as life, it has its moments of pleasure and pain. But the trick is to enjoy the best bits and roll with the bad.
We only get one life so best enjoy the ride. So to speak.  
Jo.Xx |
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"Does anyone else have their ups and downs on here.
Sometimes you love it and sometimes you want to have a break..
I have a feeling its common.."
i joined to possibly find a nice lady as a friend or more but most have age ranges that very few can make contact so very often i feel as if i am beating my head against a wall,,
or i put up a status asking a certain type of meet and others ask for something totally different i always thought we are all in the same boat looking for like minded people and a lot of the time all i get is grief..  which does not do my depression a lot of good |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ups and downs. Ins and outs. It all goes on here.
But yes, such as life, it has its moments of pleasure and pain. But the trick is to enjoy the best bits and roll with the bad.
We only get one life so best enjoy the ride. So to speak.
Jo.Xx "
I totally agree Jo.  |
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Yeah, I have been guilty of this myself and to be honest, on a daily basis at times.
The key to this is to not use the site as a validation of your existence. It's a lesson that sometimes even now after my 'reform' I struggle with  . |
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Most definitely. I have days where I really can’t be bothered even trying. Then a few days later I’m back, remembering all the good connections I’ve made.
I think this is my 4th? Profile. I really need to stop getting so fed up I delete it as I lose all veris, notes and block list! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I regularly swing (no pun intended  ) between 'I'm having so much fun on here' to 'wtaf am I doing on here?'. I just leave for a bit until I'm in the mood for it again. |
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"Does anyone else have their ups and downs on here.
Sometimes you love it and sometimes you want to have a break..
I have a feeling its common.."
It common but it's great when you find someone you connect with,unfortunately the downside can be they are miles away but not always..
I have met & made friends with a lot of people,on here some of whom I can't wait to meet if the opportunity arises.. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"Not so much ups and downs but every now and then I think I’m not enjoying this so I disappear for a bit. I don’t take it very seriously anyway so when it’s not fun I just go for a while x"
Not taking it too seriously if the secret I reckon, those that are into the club's and such cool but I'm here to look, be seen and have the occasional giggle |
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"Yes. Very much yes. Because I don't fit in. "
The negativity really gets to me, there is too much fake profiles and fake verifications. I get fed up with seeing women posting comments about men being rude to them, this just teed us all |
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Yes, I've not met much since rejoining due to health issues. But on my previous profile I'd often go in fits and starts. I'd meet 5-25 people over a 4-6 week period and then take a break for a few weeks and then do it again. Xx |
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"Yeh which is why I normally delete my profile for a few months when I can’t be bothered with all the bullshit on here "
I don't delete mine but have been know to hide it for a while.
I know I'll be back eventually so if I hide it I don't lose my veris etc |
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"Most definitely. I have days where I really can’t be bothered even trying. Then a few days later I’m back, remembering all the good connections I’ve made.
I think this is my 4th? Profile. I really need to stop getting so fed up I delete it as I lose all veris, notes and block list!"
In future just hide your profile and take a break. Everything is still there when you come back. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yeh which is why I normally delete my profile for a few months when I can’t be bothered with all the bullshit on here
I don't delete mine but have been know to hide it for a while.
I know I'll be back eventually so if I hide it I don't lose my veris etc "
Yes I do the same or too much effort if you want to come back.. |
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I think we all have our "moments", whatever the circumstances might be. But often it's just real life getting in the way, and probably like most in here, the last two years haven't helped 
Personally, I've been moving around quite a bit, as I'm now contracting work, rather than in a permanent position, so I'm less settled than before, and less likely to be comfortable about meeting up with anyone.
So I've been having more mini breaks than anything else |
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To be fair, I’ve only been on here a matter of months.