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Do first messages even matter?

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By *ruceyy OP Man over a year ago

London

Thoughts? Or can someone just sent a picture you find attractive with a little xx

Would a witty or unique one really affect your decision?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A witty one will get more consideration than a hey hows you

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By *illy IdolMan over a year ago

Midlands

I think it depends what sex you are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m nice and will mostly reply to all messages. I don’t expect a guy to send me an essay like a CV.

I like getting to know them.

A face picture is ideal so not to waste each others time if wanting to meet.

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By *radleywigginsMan over a year ago

northwest

For single guys?

First message doesn’t get a win but it can certainly get you a loss.

Women never read messages or profiles anyway. They are comparatively simple and visual creatures who respond better to pictures.

Much better off sending pictures

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

Yes.

Too short (‘hey’) - delete.

Cringey/crass (looking for a slut to empty my balls into) - delete.

Evidence of inability to read/respond to preferences (hi, I’m married but…) - delete.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

Women never read messages or profiles anyway. They are comparatively simple and visual creatures who respond better to pictures.

Much better off sending pictures"

I mean, no.

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Soho

They do matter if I'm going to reply to her. I'm not sold to the notion of having sex with a good-looking dullard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can have the most whitty amusing first message ever,but if the picture ain't great it doesn't really matter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A good one will draw my attention, but if they send a face pic and are hot then it doesn’t matter what they say

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By *hapLeedsMan over a year ago

Leeds

It’s nice to chat but yes… if there’s no attraction then why? A photo first saves endless bollocks talking!

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By *WB85Man over a year ago

Staffordshire

They do if you would like a 2nd message.

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By *ingerTwistWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

I really enjoy responding to imaginative opening emails. I love to see personality coming through, and showing mine. But crass, obviously copied pasted, or just hi with nothing to respond to, gets deleted.

A polite message from someone I'm not into gets an equally polite thank you but no.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Just a picture?

If it was that attractive I'd probably wander off to reverse image search it. Then shrug it off as obvious fake or possibly true and go read messages with actual text to respond to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No. I just go straight in with the second message.

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By *old MemberMan over a year ago

Worcester

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By *asterMeliodasMan over a year ago

Newmill

"No. I just go straight in with the second message. "

Modern problems require modern solutions.

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By *old MemberMan over a year ago

Worcester

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

They do.

If the message is well crafted, you tick their requirements and they fancy your face pic, yes.

May the odds be ever in your favor

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

They don't bother me to be honest as long as it's not a cock pic.

If I like the profile I'll reply if I don't I won't.

The 2nd and 3rd messages guage wheather we are going to get along or not, some are like pulling teeth.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not really, no.

Fancy a fuck? works for me every time.

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By *lfa RomeoMan over a year ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

I find a polite introduction with a face picture attached works

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincs

First impressions count - whilst we don’t expect Shakespeare we would hope that someone reading our profile would think that they have a lot to mention.

A first message can help get you further but equally it can end it dead based on the content.

If someone sends dick pics then it’s an instant delete regardless.

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