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By *mando OP Man 13 weeks ago
Cleethorpes |
Would you fabbers prefer a regular FWB ? Or the more different partners the better?
And why do you prefer one over the other?
I think I prefer something more regular, so I could actually get to know the person a little better.
What say you? 🙃 |
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I'd love to find a local female FWB, my last local FWB fell in love and has gone into a monogamous relationship 
And maybe another local female FWB when the other is busy
And a spare lady FWB just incase  |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
somewhere near Sheffield |
"To answer your question OP, I would like to find a local FWB and I am on the look out for one 👀 but I'm in no rush at all."
I would volunteer but I think being called "shit shag" would crush me 🤣🤣 |
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By *aizyWoman 13 weeks ago
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"To answer your question OP, I would like to find a local FWB and I am on the look out for one 👀 but I'm in no rush at all.
I would volunteer but I think being called "shit shag" would crush me 🤣🤣"
I would never!! Well ok I sort of did on the other thread, but apart from that, I would never! 😂🤣
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By *mando OP Man 13 weeks ago
Cleethorpes |
"To answer your question OP, I would like to find a local FWB and I am on the look out for one 👀 but I'm in no rush at all.
I would volunteer but I think being called "shit shag" would crush me 🤣🤣
I would never!! Well ok I sort of did on the other thread, but apart from that, I would never! 😂🤣
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What did I miss? 🤣 |
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"To answer your question OP, I would like to find a local FWB and I am on the look out for one 👀 but I'm in no rush at all.
I would volunteer but I think being called "shit shag" would crush me 🤣🤣
I would never!! Well ok I sort of did on the other thread, but apart from that, I would never! 😂🤣
What did I miss? 🤣"
Don’t ask |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
somewhere near Sheffield |
"To answer your question OP, I would like to find a local FWB and I am on the look out for one 👀 but I'm in no rush at all.
I would volunteer but I think being called "shit shag" would crush me 🤣🤣
I would never!! Well ok I sort of did on the other thread, but apart from that, I would never! 😂🤣
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Ok, maybe I should volunteer and run the risk 🤣 |
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By *mando OP Man 13 weeks ago
Cleethorpes |
"To answer your question OP, I would like to find a local FWB and I am on the look out for one 👀 but I'm in no rush at all."
Same..
..Well, Maybe I'm in a tiny bit of a rush! The Gene Genie isn't getting any younger! 🤣 |
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By *edSirenWoman 13 weeks ago
magic mountain |
Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything. |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
somewhere near Sheffield |
"Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything. "
Well I'd DO brings my car back and you put your tits away... perhaps we can move on from this 🤣 |
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"Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything.
Well I'd DO brings my car back and you put your tits away... perhaps we can move on from this 🤣"
Don’t involve me, you’re on your own here |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
somewhere near Sheffield |
"Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything.
Well I'd DO brings my car back and you put your tits away... perhaps we can move on from this 🤣
Don’t involve me, you’re on your own here "
Well I can move on without my car...so currently you're definitely involved 🤣🤣 |
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"Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything.
Well I'd DO brings my car back and you put your tits away... perhaps we can move on from this 🤣
Don’t involve me, you’re on your own here
Well I can move on without my car...so currently you're definitely involved 🤣🤣"
And there was me thinking there wasn’t any petrol 😂 |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
somewhere near Sheffield |
"Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything.
Well I'd DO brings my car back and you put your tits away... perhaps we can move on from this 🤣
Don’t involve me, you’re on your own here
Well I can move on without my car...so currently you're definitely involved 🤣🤣
And there was me thinking there wasn’t any petrol 😂"
Glad you've found a use for that buckbombwhateverthingy drink then🤣 |
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"Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything.
Well I'd DO brings my car back and you put your tits away... perhaps we can move on from this 🤣
Don’t involve me, you’re on your own here
Well I can move on without my car...so currently you're definitely involved 🤣🤣
And there was me thinking there wasn’t any petrol 😂
Glad you've found a use for that buckbombwhateverthingy drink then🤣"
I’m moving to Wales |
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By *mando OP Man 13 weeks ago
Cleethorpes |
"Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything. "
Also lovely sentiments 🙂
I think making connections are a great way of enriching our lives. 🙂 |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
somewhere near Sheffield |
"Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything.
Well I'd DO brings my car back and you put your tits away... perhaps we can move on from this 🤣
Don’t involve me, you’re on your own here
Well I can move on without my car...so currently you're definitely involved 🤣🤣
And there was me thinking there wasn’t any petrol 😂
Glad you've found a use for that buckbombwhateverthingy drink then🤣
I’m moving to Wales "
Not in my car your not!! |
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"Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything.
Well I'd DO brings my car back and you put your tits away... perhaps we can move on from this 🤣
Don’t involve me, you’re on your own here
Well I can move on without my car...so currently you're definitely involved 🤣🤣
And there was me thinking there wasn’t any petrol 😂
Glad you've found a use for that buckbombwhateverthingy drink then🤣
I’m moving to Wales
Not in my car your not!!"
I’m getting a lift, supposedly 🤷♂️ |
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"I like having a regular fwb… love the idea of variety but I don’t have the confidence for meeting new people all the time so I do like the comfort of a regular play pal"
Well congrats on the wedding 🥳 🎉 |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
somewhere near Sheffield |
"I like having a regular fwb… love the idea of variety but I don’t have the confidence for meeting new people all the time so I do like the comfort of a regular play pal
Well congrats on the wedding 🥳 🎉 "
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By *mando OP Man 13 weeks ago
Cleethorpes |
"I like having a regular fwb… love the idea of variety but I don’t have the confidence for meeting new people all the time so I do like the comfort of a regular play pal"
I feel the same really.
I prefer the comfort of something familiar over lots of people I barely know 🙂 |
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I like one offs if meeting men. I get a lot of enjoyment over meeting new people and fucking them for the first time.
On a emotional note- I have a lot of my needs met by my partner and friends and don't feel I want that in people I meet from here. |
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Regular FWB, because my style is about a journey. Dom and Sub relationships are by their very nature. There is incalculable reward in seeing a person grow over time, whilst also feeling the growth within yourself. (Timothy ! Mind ! Gutter !)
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Would love to build a relationship with a fwb so I know exactly how to please them, hang out for food, drinks, whatever then fuck them knowing all their kinks.
Seems impossible for me to find though. Sadly. |
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I’ve only ever found 2 FWBs that tick all the boxes except distance  it was fortunate that it was at the same time so had a nice rotation going…but one is pretty much out of action and the other one distance is still an issue.
Happy to meet people but really, it’s never been the same. Bar is too high. But I have fun getting people try to reach it 😂😂😂 |
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I would like a mix of both.
A regular fwb that i could see a couple of times a month and then a few one-offs.
Would be happy to have a fwb that is miles away also, so we could make the most of a weekend away occasionally.
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"I want a 1057 women reverse gangbang.
Would probably need some ice for my dick though 🤔"
Reverse gangbang means they all wear strapons, not your dick you need to worry about |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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Firstly i don't like the term fwb. I don't know what I'd call it instead though but I like to have people i can see ...I wouldn't really call it regularly either... maybe once a month? I prefer longer distance. Helps keep them at arms length as I've no desire to jump into a conventional relationship with someone, but i do like the connection, seeing someone where we can have a friendship without any weirdness around seeing others. Ha. I guess i want it all my own way, but also want nothing really. Damn. No wonder i struggle with that!!🤣
Definitely not one offs though. Thank you.  |
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"I want a 1057 women reverse gangbang.
Would probably need some ice for my dick though 🤔
Reverse gangbang means they all wear strapons, not your dick you need to worry about "
I like having a fwb as you get to know what makes each other tick. Not adverse to meeting others though. |
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I'd ideally like to find a regular fwb (or perhaps a bit more than fwb) but also enjoy the excitement of new.
Worh regular you can build trust and push boundaries. I haven't found someone who's regular enough for me yet though 😉 I have a few irregular friends. 🤣 |
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Regular, for sure. I've never done the other thing, it's not for me. The thought of a ONS gives me the ick. Not for others, you do you. But I like variety with a few regular people.
Female fwb would be a dream  for both of us  |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"Regular. I’d relax more and be my filthiest self."
Exactly this. Trying new things and pushing boundaries with someone I trust and care for makes for the most amazing adventures. |
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I am lucky, I have a FWB (male) who I meet with very regularly, plus I have a partner (male again) who I spent weekends with. I do like my variety, too, so have some people I meet from time to time. Currently not looking for any more men, but a lady or two would be good  |
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By *edSirenWoman 13 weeks ago
magic mountain |
"Mmmm both? I love building intimate connections with fwb’s, and some have gone on to be genuine friends of mine. But I also love the feeling you get when it’s someone new. The anticipation, the build up, the first everything.
Well I'd DO brings my car back and you put your tits away... perhaps we can move on from this 🤣
Don’t involve me, you’re on your own here
Well I can move on without my car...so currently you're definitely involved 🤣🤣
And there was me thinking there wasn’t any petrol 😂
Glad you've found a use for that buckbombwhateverthingy drink then🤣
I’m moving to Wales
Not in my car your not!!
I’m getting a lift, supposedly 🤷♂️ "
You wanted his car instead… it’s ok to admit that. This is a safe space… |
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Regular is ideal; someone to see a couple of times a month and have ultimate trust in to explore and really push boundaries with. One or two extra sprinkled on the side every now and then to add variety. |
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By *eliWoman 13 weeks ago
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Lots ot variety doesn't really do much for me - I've found I don't have the time, energy or desire for lots. I'm really not one for a one night stand, it's rare I feel sexual attraction without friendship.
I like people I can meet as and when suits us both. Where there's sexual chemistry and anticipation and a safe space to explore my fertile imagination. It might mean I see them with a two week gap one month, or there might be a month or so. Not sure that's regular as such but it works for me. |
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A kinda combination of both.
I'm greedy and I love variety, everybody is different and sex with them is different too.
But I also love having the trust and comfort of something regular to really explore with someone and build a connection.
So... I like having a few FWBs that I can see regularly why limit it to one? I don't want exclusivity or monogamy. I like having several friends who give me different things and fulfil different needs. |
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Reading comments it seems odd people wouldn't meet new people, as when you're not meeting others, you're not fwb, you're more a vanilla bf and gf.
For me, there's no reason not to meet others - you're not tied down to anyone. You have commonality with fwb's, and meet new people - as you meet new people. |
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I am in the both camp. Regulars are excellent. The sex always get better when you get to know someone and you find what they like and don’t like. However it is also fun to meet new people. That spices things up and life needs spice. |
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"Would you fabbers prefer a regular FWB ? Or the more different partners the better?
And why do you prefer one over the other?
I think I prefer something more regular, so I could actually get to know the person a little better.
What say you? 🙃"
Both for us. Also you have to meet someone initially to see if the regular fun pans out. Variety is the spice of life |
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"Reading comments it seems odd people wouldn't meet new people, as when you're not meeting others, you're not fwb, you're more a vanilla bf and gf.
For me, there's no reason not to meet others - you're not tied down to anyone. You have commonality with fwb's, and meet new people - as you meet new people."
I disagree. There can be many reasons to not be meeting others 💜 |
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"Reading comments it seems odd people wouldn't meet new people, as when you're not meeting others, you're not fwb, you're more a vanilla bf and gf.
For me, there's no reason not to meet others - you're not tied down to anyone. You have commonality with fwb's, and meet new people - as you meet new people."
There’s lots of reasons not to want to meet others. My last play partner of 3 years was off here and we were monogamous and definitely not vanilla lol.
Safety was one aspect of it but it was more about building our own connection and little sexual bubble. He satisfied me and there was no need for more. |
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"Reading comments it seems odd people wouldn't meet new people, as when you're not meeting others, you're not fwb, you're more a vanilla bf and gf.
For me, there's no reason not to meet others - you're not tied down to anyone. You have commonality with fwb's, and meet new people - as you meet new people."
I meet someone regularly and we have a couples profile together.
It is nothing more than a hobby for both of us and real life takes priority always.
Neither of us has met anyone new in 5 years and despite creating the couples profile, life, health and circumstances have restricted any meets through that profile to socials only.
As I said recently in another thread, I didn't join fab to network or become part of a lifestyle so I'm content with just meeting one person. |
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"Reading comments it seems odd people wouldn't meet new people, as when you're not meeting others, you're not fwb, you're more a vanilla bf and gf.
For me, there's no reason not to meet others - you're not tied down to anyone. You have commonality with fwb's, and meet new people - as you meet new people.
I disagree. There can be many reasons to not be meeting others 💜"
"There’s lots of reasons not to want to meet others. My last play partner of 3 years was off here and we were monogamous and definitely not vanilla lol.
Safety was one aspect of it but it was more about building our own connection and little sexual bubble. He satisfied me and there was no need for more. "
"I meet someone regularly and we have a couples profile together.
It is nothing more than a hobby for both of us and real life takes priority always.
Neither of us has met anyone new in 5 years and despite creating the couples profile, life, health and circumstances have restricted any meets through that profile to socials only.
As I said recently in another thread, I didn't join fab to network or become part of a lifestyle so I'm content with just meeting one person. "
I've quoted everyone replying as asking individually is a bit repetitive.
I might have a dated or too strict a view of what fwb are but as others have said similar... if you're not meeting or looking for others, as relaxed a situation as it might be, how is it not a relationship, if a casual one?
FWB means you are open to others - you can have more than one fwb. I don't see why you'd call it fwb and not bf/gf if your not looking to meet others.
Staying with one person, however on and off it is, or how long or short lived it is, with no eyes looking elsewhere seems something other than fwb to me.
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"I've quoted everyone replying as asking individually is a bit repetitive.
I might have a dated or too strict a view of what fwb are but as others have said similar... if you're not meeting or looking for others, as relaxed a situation as it might be, how is it not a relationship, if a casual one?
FWB means you are open to others - you can have more than one fwb. I don't see why you'd call it fwb and not bf/gf if your not looking to meet others.
Staying with one person, however on and off it is, or how long or short lived it is, with no eyes looking elsewhere seems something other than fwb to me.
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I'm poly whether I'm dating one person or six, or none.
I'm bi even when I'm not simultaneously touching both main varieties of genitalia.
My fwb is still my fwb even when we're not enjoying the 'benefits' at that moment, or when neither of us has the time or spoons to deal with other people and just keep our happy situationship going. If I barely have the time for people I'm already involved with I'm not going to give up the time that I do have to nurture potential new connections instead of the ones I already value. We don't become exclusive monogamous partners just by the grace of not meeting other people 💜 |
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For about 10 years I had a female kink buddy, I say kink buddy because we explored just about every kink either of us could think of without judgement over those years. We did also include a fair few others during that time but it was predominantly us exploring.
Some amazing memories from that time and I would say that I would prefer that option than lots and lots of random meets. But I guess not every FWB situation will work so well. For me it was just nice to know you were going to meet up with someone who was on the same wavelength. |
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"Would you fabbers prefer a regular FWB ? Or the more different partners the better?
And why do you prefer one over the other?
I think I prefer something more regular, so I could actually get to know the person a little better.
What say you? 🙃"
It’s not either or. Have a couple of FBs and go to clubs for variety |
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"I've quoted everyone replying as asking individually is a bit repetitive.
I might have a dated or too strict a view of what fwb are but as others have said similar... if you're not meeting or looking for others, as relaxed a situation as it might be, how is it not a relationship, if a casual one?
FWB means you are open to others - you can have more than one fwb. I don't see why you'd call it fwb and not bf/gf if your not looking to meet others.
Staying with one person, however on and off it is, or how long or short lived it is, with no eyes looking elsewhere seems something other than fwb to me.
I'm poly whether I'm dating one person or six, or none.
I'm bi even when I'm not simultaneously touching both main varieties of genitalia.
My fwb is still my fwb even when we're not enjoying the 'benefits' at that moment, or when neither of us has the time or spoons to deal with other people and just keep our happy situationship going. If I barely have the time for people I'm already involved with I'm not going to give up the time that I do have to nurture potential new connections instead of the ones I already value. We don't become exclusive monogamous partners just by the grace of not meeting other people 💜"
I'm not asking what fwb are, I've had a few. I am asking if fwb are fwb if you are not looking for anything beyond 1-1 relationships.
The whole idea as you say (and I prev said) of fwb is to allow multiple partners. Poly is different to that, but the idea of fwb allows it. |
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"I'm not asking what fwb are, I've had a few. I am asking if fwb are fwb if you are not looking for anything beyond 1-1 relationships.
The whole idea as you say (and I prev said) of fwb is to allow multiple partners. Poly is different to that, but the idea of fwb allows it. "
Maybe some people count an occasional blowjob booty call as a benefit. Maybe some people count an exclusive sexual relationship without the burden of living together or the pressures of a traditional relationship as a benefit.
If all parties are satisfied with the fwb set up and don't feel the drive to engage in other relationships, they're still fwbs. You don't actually have to go out and fuck other people to prove it's not all that serious 💜 |
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"I'm not asking what fwb are, I've had a few. I am asking if fwb are fwb if you are not looking for anything beyond 1-1 relationships.
The whole idea as you say (and I prev said) of fwb is to allow multiple partners. Poly is different to that, but the idea of fwb allows it.
Maybe some people count an occasional blowjob booty call as a benefit. Maybe some people count an exclusive sexual relationship without the burden of living together or the pressures of a traditional relationship as a benefit.
If all parties are satisfied with the fwb set up and don't feel the drive to engage in other relationships, they're still fwbs. You don't actually have to go out and fuck other people to prove it's not all that serious 💜"
You get the idea people meet on here for sex. The vast majority replying on here have said they want a single fwb. That'd mean a whole lot of coupled up single people not meeting on a site such as.. no biggie but just strikes arm's length pof. |
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"You get the idea people meet on here for sex. The vast majority replying on here have said they want a single fwb. That'd mean a whole lot of coupled up single people not meeting on a site such as.. no biggie but just strikes arm's length pof."
I have no idea what that last bit is meant to express.
But to the rest.
Sure I do. There are a whole range of people looking for a whole range of things.
If someone that wants an exclusive setup hooks up with someone else that wants an exclusive set up, then they can go do their exclusive thing, maybe go to some clubs together or just chill properly one on one. And you're no more or less incompatible with or likely to bang the one you wanted to bone than you were before they got together, because you were both looking for different things.
I get that many people view this as a quick fuck site. Many others don't. The site can be used in a myriad of different ways and it helps a lot of people find what they're looking for.
Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜 |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
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"You get the idea people meet on here for sex. The vast majority replying on here have said they want a single fwb. That'd mean a whole lot of coupled up single people not meeting on a site such as.. no biggie but just strikes arm's length pof.
I have no idea what that last bit is meant to express.
But to the rest.
Sure I do. There are a whole range of people looking for a whole range of things.
If someone that wants an exclusive setup hooks up with someone else that wants an exclusive set up, then they can go do their exclusive thing, maybe go to some clubs together or just chill properly one on one. And you're no more or less incompatible with or likely to bang the one you wanted to bone than you were before they got together, because you were both looking for different things.
I get that many people view this as a quick fuck site. Many others don't. The site can be used in a myriad of different ways and it helps a lot of people find what they're looking for.
Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜"
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"You get the idea people meet on here for sex. The vast majority replying on here have said they want a single fwb. That'd mean a whole lot of coupled up single people not meeting on a site such as.. no biggie but just strikes arm's length pof.
I have no idea what that last bit is meant to express.
But to the rest.
Sure I do. There are a whole range of people looking for a whole range of things.
If someone that wants an exclusive setup hooks up with someone else that wants an exclusive set up, then they can go do their exclusive thing, maybe go to some clubs together or just chill properly one on one. And you're no more or less incompatible with or likely to bang the one you wanted to bone than you were before they got together, because you were both looking for different things.
I get that many people view this as a quick fuck site. Many others don't. The site can be used in a myriad of different ways and it helps a lot of people find what they're looking for.
Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜
And that's the end of thread right there "
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"You get the idea people meet on here for sex. The vast majority replying on here have said they want a single fwb. That'd mean a whole lot of coupled up single people not meeting on a site such as.. no biggie but just strikes arm's length pof.
I have no idea what that last bit is meant to express.
But to the rest.
Sure I do. There are a whole range of people looking for a whole range of things.
If someone that wants an exclusive setup hooks up with someone else that wants an exclusive set up, then they can go do their exclusive thing, maybe go to some clubs together or just chill properly one on one. And you're no more or less incompatible with or likely to bang the one you wanted to bone than you were before they got together, because you were both looking for different things.
I get that many people view this as a quick fuck site. Many others don't. The site can be used in a myriad of different ways and it helps a lot of people find what they're looking for.
Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜"
Have you just said the dreaded word exclusive.  They are fwb.. fwb!!  |
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"You get the idea people meet on here for sex. The vast majority replying on here have said they want a single fwb. That'd mean a whole lot of coupled up single people not meeting on a site such as.. no biggie but just strikes arm's length pof.
I have no idea what that last bit is meant to express.
But to the rest.
Sure I do. There are a whole range of people looking for a whole range of things.
If someone that wants an exclusive setup hooks up with someone else that wants an exclusive set up, then they can go do their exclusive thing, maybe go to some clubs together or just chill properly one on one. And you're no more or less incompatible with or likely to bang the one you wanted to bone than you were before they got together, because you were both looking for different things.
I get that many people view this as a quick fuck site. Many others don't. The site can be used in a myriad of different ways and it helps a lot of people find what they're looking for.
Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜
Have you just said the dreaded word exclusive. They are fwb.. fwb!! "
Seems this is going round and round from not saying casual relationship, bf/gf to keeping it in fwb for sake of not meeting others when people want exclusive relationships on a swingers site.. happy for them, just I'd with someone would set up a 'maybe couples forum'. |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
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"Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜
Have you just said the dreaded word exclusive. They are fwb.. fwb!!
Fwbs can be exclusive. They don't have to be. But they can be 💜"
Me and my last partner was exclusive fwb...so I agree, you find what suits you |
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"Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜
Have you just said the dreaded word exclusive. They are fwb.. fwb!!
Fwbs can be exclusive. They don't have to be. But they can be 💜
Me and my last partner was exclusive fwb...so I agree, you find what suits you"
You didn't have sex with any other people but weren't bf or gf |
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
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"Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜
Have you just said the dreaded word exclusive. They are fwb.. fwb!!
Fwbs can be exclusive. They don't have to be. But they can be 💜
Me and my last partner was exclusive fwb...so I agree, you find what suits you
You didn't have sex with any other people but weren't bf or gf "
Nope, and it went on for 5 years. We chatted every day, and would spend weekends together fucking |
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"Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜
Have you just said the dreaded word exclusive. They are fwb.. fwb!!
Fwbs can be exclusive. They don't have to be. But they can be 💜
Me and my last partner was exclusive fwb...so I agree, you find what suits you
You didn't have sex with any other people but weren't bf or gf
Nope, and it went on for 5 years. We chatted every day, and would spend weekends together fucking"
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By *tr8MrEMan 13 weeks ago
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"Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜
Have you just said the dreaded word exclusive. They are fwb.. fwb!!
Fwbs can be exclusive. They don't have to be. But they can be 💜
Me and my last partner was exclusive fwb...so I agree, you find what suits you
You didn't have sex with any other people but weren't bf or gf
Nope, and it went on for 5 years. We chatted every day, and would spend weekends together fucking
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So to those who think exclusive FWB is a myth, trust me, it isnt |
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"Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜
Have you just said the dreaded word exclusive. They are fwb.. fwb!!
Fwbs can be exclusive. They don't have to be. But they can be 💜
Me and my last partner was exclusive fwb...so I agree, you find what suits you
You didn't have sex with any other people but weren't bf or gf
Nope, and it went on for 5 years. We chatted every day, and would spend weekends together fucking
So to those who think exclusive FWB is a myth, trust me, it isnt"
I'm not doubting they exist, I doubt they are fwb's and not more casual relationships |
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"You didn't have sex with any other people but weren't bf or gf "
I have a boyfriend and have sex with other people. Me fucking someone else doesn't relegated our relationship to a lower tier.
You might have different lines for your relationship structures and titles, but people see and do things differently 💜 |
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"You didn't have sex with any other people but weren't bf or gf
I have a boyfriend and have sex with other people. Me fucking someone else doesn't relegated our relationship to a lower tier.
You might have different lines for your relationship structures and titles, but people see and do things differently 💜"
You said you were poly.. |
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"You didn't have sex with any other people but weren't bf or gf
I have a boyfriend and have sex with other people. Me fucking someone else doesn't relegated our relationship to a lower tier.
You might have different lines for your relationship structures and titles, but people see and do things differently 💜
You said you were poly.. "
Yup.
And you're making out like not fucking other people is the line between a casual and a serious relationship.
I can love someone while fucking someone else. I can spend a year boning a singular friend exclusively and still just be friends with benefits.
Hey, if it helps, I'm right here on fab with zero intention of finding even more people to bone on here too 💜 |
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"You didn't have sex with any other people but weren't bf or gf
I have a boyfriend and have sex with other people. Me fucking someone else doesn't relegated our relationship to a lower tier.
You might have different lines for your relationship structures and titles, but people see and do things differently 💜
You said you were poly..
Yup.
And you're making out like not fucking other people is the line between a casual and a serious relationship.
I can love someone while fucking someone else. I can spend a year boning a singular friend exclusively and still just be friends with benefits.
Hey, if it helps, I'm right here on fab with zero intention of finding even more people to bone on here too 💜"
I'm making nothing out.
There's a world of difference between Poly and fwb relationships. I've not questioned that.. I've not questioned you.
I am saying there is a line between saying you are fwb and not fucking others, as is specifically implies a looseness in the relationship. If you are not fucking others then yes to me, you're in a casual relationship if not near serious one. People have said they are looking for just that.
Either way.. it's getting late and I'm hitting hay, night. |
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"There's a world of difference between Poly and fwb relationships. I've not questioned that.. I've not questioned you.
I am saying there is a line between saying you are fwb and not fucking others, as is specifically implies a looseness in the relationship. If you are not fucking others then yes to me, you're in a casual relationship if not near serious one. People have said they are looking for just that.
Either way.. it's getting late and I'm hitting hay, night. "
I at no point claimed there was a link between poly and fwbs. I only mentioned it seeing as exclusivity seemed to have some special property to you that it simply doesn't to me.
I can fuck multiple people and still have a serious relationship. I can fuck just one person exclusively and still only be friends with benefits.
Partners are not friends with benefits are not fuck buddies.
But exclusivity isn't a line between any of them.
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By *mando OP Man 13 weeks ago
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"You get the idea people meet on here for sex. The vast majority replying on here have said they want a single fwb. That'd mean a whole lot of coupled up single people not meeting on a site such as.. no biggie but just strikes arm's length pof.
I have no idea what that last bit is meant to express.
But to the rest.
Sure I do. There are a whole range of people looking for a whole range of things.
If someone that wants an exclusive setup hooks up with someone else that wants an exclusive set up, then they can go do their exclusive thing, maybe go to some clubs together or just chill properly one on one. And you're no more or less incompatible with or likely to bang the one you wanted to bone than you were before they got together, because you were both looking for different things.
I get that many people view this as a quick fuck site. Many others don't. The site can be used in a myriad of different ways and it helps a lot of people find what they're looking for.
Even if they're looking for fwbs 💜"
Absolutely spot on in my eyes.. especially your last paragraph about the site being used in many different ways, for different people, all with their own ideal of the type of thing they are looking for. |
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Genrally we don't seek FWB or regual arrangements or often repeat performances. I think as couple we find every we want in eachother. We know each other inside out better than anyone so dont need to grow that continuity with anyone else. Neither have we the time and energy to invest in anyone else. We just like a bit of variety, adventure and the occasional side mission. We're mainly club/party swingers and just really enjoyed the chase, those hot first kisses and the excitement of undressing someone for the first time.
That's not to say we don't have friends we sleep with or we only have one offs. Because sometimes it just really works and you find yourself having more. But not intrested in a regular arrangement. And when freinds are ment to be, they're ment to be. We've made very some good and close freinds over the years on the scene. However with close freinds it's more about the friendship than the benifits we value. We can spend more time in the vanilla sense with these freinds than in the sex sense. |
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As I posted on another thread..
I think it's necessary to find several people to meet a mixture of needs. To find one person that fulfills all needs is inlikely imo. At least that's what I've found so far...
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"Would you fabbers prefer a regular FWB ? Or the more different partners the better?
And why do you prefer one over the other?
I think I prefer something more regular, so I could actually get to know the person a little better.
What say you? 🙃"
I agree with you that a regular partner suits me. You get to know the person and sex gets better as you explore each others' likes and dislikes. It's nice to have a bit of variety too but not at the expesne of losing your regular FWB, given how long it takes to find a new one. |
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"As I posted on another thread..
I think it's necessary to find several people to meet a mixture of needs. To find one person that fulfills all needs is inlikely imo. At least that's what I've found so far...
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What kind of needs? |
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"As I posted on another thread..
I think it's necessary to find several people to meet a mixture of needs. To find one person that fulfills all needs is inlikely imo. At least that's what I've found so far...
What kind of needs?"
Sexual,emotional, physical,
I have different relationships with different people that I meet regularly...and they all fulfill something that I desire with a person..
A bit like in a friendship group. The funny one, sympathetic, helpful, sensible etc....
Some have more than one quality, some might have them all... |
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