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By (user no longer on site) OP 12 weeks ago
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I've heard the term pillow princess, the definition I saw was, someone who does not do oral but loves to receive.
Originally I think it was coined by lesbians but I kinda of adopt the expression to mean anyone who just lays there during sex and isn't very involved.🥱
So I'm curious, are there any other expressions you have for these "lazy"or selfish people?
Also what would they have to do or not do in the bedroom to be called a lazy lover by you?
Any experiences? 😘
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I prefer people to be active and engaged in general. But if someone regularly just wants to lie back and enjoy it and someone else wants to provide that, cool beans. They can go do their thing and I don't need to think about any of it 💜 |
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What quantifies that someone is lazy in bed? Doesn't do oral (giving)? Will only do missionary? Or isn't willing to try 10 different positions in the space of half an hour? I am always confused by what makes someone lazy. |
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By *a LunaWoman 12 weeks ago
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I assumed a pillow princess was someone who just lay there.
I’m no pillow princess but I’m no gymnast these days either.
And when I suck cock I sometimes like to scoot down the bed and have my face right by his pecker so I can flop it into my mouth so I’m not leaning on my arms so much. However that is not lazy, just practical
Not heard any other terms. Just pillow princess.
Some guys can be a pillow princess to. The “climb on and you do all the work” type. |
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It's divine for me when this is an aspect of a sexual relationship.
My partner feels comfortable to let her pleasure become our shared focus and enjoyment. That's a sweet spot.
Perhaps it is selfish, but I selfishly desire it too. I think it's more decadent than lazy.
Not a term I view negatively. |
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there's a big difference between lazy and selfish I think. There's a balance to be had sharing mutual pleasure and someone can be selfish at any one given moment but knowing they will return with equal effort. |
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I'm pretty sure you're correct OP, with the lesbians/bi ladies coining the term 'Pillow Princess' for a woman who will hide her face in a pillow, as another woman licks her out? She's happy to partake in that fem-fem sexual contact, but not keen to watch....
Women overall, don't generally 'do' very much themselves during sex, but the term I have for those who exert themselves the least is; 'No Repeat Meet'....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 12 weeks ago
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"What quantifies that someone is lazy in bed? Doesn't do oral (giving)? Will only do missionary? Or isn't willing to try 10 different positions in the space of half an hour? I am always confused by what makes someone lazy. "
Like you I think it's difficult to quantify. |
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"I think it's a term often used against a woman who won't do what a guy wants sexually "
"Pillow princess" is a slang term, typically used in LGBTQ+ communities, to describe someone, often a woman, who primarily enjoys receiving sexual pleasure and doesn't actively reciprocate or initiate sexual acts. |
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"It's divine for me when this is an aspect of a sexual relationship.
My partner feels comfortable to let her pleasure become our shared focus and enjoyment. That's a sweet spot.
Perhaps it is selfish, but I selfishly desire it too. I think it's more decadent than lazy.
Not a term I view negatively."
I had a partner who had a massive kink for "decadent/indulgent" women who gave into all their urges and loved pleasure, and it was all about my pleasure for him. He was absolutely more than happy to just please me for hours and have me instruct him on what to do, without receiving anything in return. He didn't view it as selfish either, he loved it. He was my "toy" (the term he wanted).
Its all highly subjective isn't it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 12 weeks ago
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"It's divine for me when this is an aspect of a sexual relationship.
My partner feels comfortable to let her pleasure become our shared focus and enjoyment. That's a sweet spot.
Perhaps it is selfish, but I selfishly desire it too. I think it's more decadent than lazy.
Not a term I view negatively.
I had a partner who had a massive kink for "decadent/indulgent" women who gave into all their urges and loved pleasure, and it was all about my pleasure for him. He was absolutely more than happy to just please me for hours and have me instruct him on what to do, without receiving anything in return. He didn't view it as selfish either, he loved it. He was my "toy" (the term he wanted).
Its all highly subjective isn't it. "
There is part of this that is completely connected and you are fully engaged in the sex.
You're directing and enjoying. I think I'm leaning towards people who appear indifferent during sex. Despite saying that they are enjoying it. Just there. I'm probably not explaining it very well. |
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"Women overall, don't generally 'do' very much themselves during sex
If I'm not doing much, it's because I'm very much not into it 💜"
Exsactly this! I like to be a bit man handled. But sometimes the domineering just shuts me down and it feels transactional,, in their service, not mutual |
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By *orny PTMan 12 weeks ago
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"I assumed a pillow princess was someone who just lay there.
I’m no pillow princess but I’m no gymnast these days either.
And when I suck cock I sometimes like to scoot down the bed and have my face right by his pecker so I can flop it into my mouth so I’m not leaning on my arms so much. However that is not lazy, just practical
Not heard any other terms. Just pillow princess.
Some guys can be a pillow princess to. The “climb on and you do all the work” type. "
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"I think it's a term often used against a woman who won't do what a guy wants sexually
"Pillow princess" is a slang term, typically used in LGBTQ+ communities, to describe someone, often a woman, who primarily enjoys receiving sexual pleasure and doesn't actively reciprocate or initiate sexual acts."
Just learned something, please keep me away, I want interaction. |
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"It's divine for me when this is an aspect of a sexual relationship.
My partner feels comfortable to let her pleasure become our shared focus and enjoyment. That's a sweet spot.
Perhaps it is selfish, but I selfishly desire it too. I think it's more decadent than lazy.
Not a term I view negatively.
I had a partner who had a massive kink for "decadent/indulgent" women who gave into all their urges and loved pleasure, and it was all about my pleasure for him. He was absolutely more than happy to just please me for hours and have me instruct him on what to do, without receiving anything in return. He didn't view it as selfish either, he loved it. He was my "toy" (the term he wanted).
Its all highly subjective isn't it. "
You are speaking my language.
If the relationship has that kind of quality then I'm usually quite open to accepting their name for me. Toy is certainly well within that comfort zone, It's felt delightful to be someone's 'toy' on several occasions.
I pulled decadent in as a fresh term to describe the feeling in the moment I was recalling. I am not sure I'd describe the woman as decadent per se, but she certainly had an appreciation for it. At other times it would lead into something more primal and toy became something slightly different, but equally exhilarating.
It's how fluidly those phases can transition that calls to me. When the tone takes over the talk. |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"I've heard the term pillow princess, the definition I saw was, someone who does not do oral but loves to receive.
Originally I think it was coined by lesbians but I kinda of adopt the expression to mean anyone who just lays there during sex and isn't very involved.🥱
So I'm curious, are there any other expressions you have for these "lazy"or selfish people?
Also what would they have to do or not do in the bedroom to be called a lazy lover by you?
Any experiences? 😘
I thought a pillow princess just *didn't like getting on top.
I prefer giving oral over receiving.. but I don't like riding.. does that mean I'm just lazy? I quite liked the pillow princess label "
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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So basically your saying a woman should concent to do what ever the man wants sexually if women doesn't want to do it she has every right to say no oh no let's put all these labels on her |
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"So basically your saying a woman should concent to do what ever the man wants sexually if women doesn't want to do it she has every right to say no oh no let's put all these labels on her " you do realise that you talking about actual human beings with their right to say no don't you
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By (user no longer on site) 12 weeks ago
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"I think it's a term often used against a woman who won't do what a guy wants sexually "
This.
There's days I enjoy giving and days I enjoy laying back and receiving.
I generally prefer both to get enjoyment though but there are times I just want the Mr's jizz on my face 😂 |
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"I think it's a term often used against a woman who won't do what a guy wants sexually
This.
There's days I enjoy giving and days I enjoy laying back and receiving.
I generally prefer both to get enjoyment though but there are times I just want the Mr's jizz on my face 😂"
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By (user no longer on site) OP 12 weeks ago
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"So basically your saying a woman should concent to do what ever the man wants sexually if women doesn't want to do it she has every right to say no oh no let's put all these labels on her "
Absolutely not saying that. |
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By *argetMan 9 weeks ago
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Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.
For myself, it's about focusing on the woman pleasure rather than your own. For example a massage, some caressing, fingering and oral. It doesn't make her lazy, it is just a way of showing appreciation to an attractive woman, you wanting to tend to her needs first (giving a zen experience). It's a lush experience people don't knock it till you try it😈 |
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"Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.
For myself, it's about focusing on the woman pleasure rather than your own. For example a massage, some caressing, fingering and oral. It doesn't make her lazy, it is just a way of showing appreciation to an attractive woman, you wanting to tend to her needs first (giving a zen experience). It's a lush experience people don't knock it till you try it😈"
But do the woman respond by showing you that thay are enjoying your caress with gentle moans of pleasure, moving there body by wrapping there arms around you or legs?
If not then they are a pillow princess. |
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By *argetMan 9 weeks ago
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"Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.
For myself, it's about focusing on the woman pleasure rather than your own. For example a massage, some caressing, fingering and oral. It doesn't make her lazy, it is just a way of showing appreciation to an attractive woman, you wanting to tend to her needs first (giving a zen experience). It's a lush experience people don't knock it till you try it😈
But do the woman respond by showing you that thay are enjoying your caress with gentle moans of pleasure, moving there body by wrapping there arms around you or legs?
If not then they are a pillow princess. "
If a woman body isn't responding, to my actions I'm definitely not doing a good job🤣🤣
But as I mentioned previously there are different concepts of the term pillow princess, for me I'm sexually generous. So I'll go out of my way to hit every explore every inch/ angle it what I like I guess |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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"Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.
For myself, it's about focusing on the woman pleasure rather than your own. For example a massage, some caressing, fingering and oral. It doesn't make her lazy, it is just a way of showing appreciation to an attractive woman, you wanting to tend to her needs first (giving a zen experience). It's a lush experience people don't knock it till you try it😈
But do the woman respond by showing you that thay are enjoying your caress with gentle moans of pleasure, moving there body by wrapping there arms around you or legs?
If not then they are a pillow princess. "
Yeah, everyone needs feedback.
I've had it before where I thought I wasn't doing a good job between her legs, I changed my technique and got a swift "what the fuck" 😂
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I love mutual pleasure.
However, I have been in a very fortunate position, where I have given nothing in return.
I only get that because a man has suggested it and wants it to happen. It's always volunteered and I don't actively seek it out.
It's not lazy or controlling in any way as that's what he wants and gets pleasure from it. So for those men and I it's a win, win situation.
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"Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.
For myself, it's about focusing on the woman pleasure rather than your own. For example a massage, some caressing, fingering and oral. It doesn't make her lazy, it is just a way of showing appreciation to an attractive woman, you wanting to tend to her needs first (giving a zen experience). It's a lush experience people don't knock it till you try it😈
But do the woman respond by showing you that thay are enjoying your caress with gentle moans of pleasure, moving there body by wrapping there arms around you or legs?
If not then they are a pillow princess.
Yeah, everyone needs feedback.
I've had it before where I thought I wasn't doing a good job between her legs, I changed my technique and got a swift "what the fuck" 😂
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The fact that you got a response would suggest she was not a pillow princess. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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"Everyone sees the term pillow princess differently.
The fact that you got a response would suggest she was not a pillow princess. "
Completely agree. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 9 weeks ago
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"I've edged a couple of willing 'victims' before today, for over half an hour and turned her brains to mash and legs to jelly. So on those occasions it's forgivable, as I had drained her tanks!"
Humble brag xx |
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