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Who wants to go on a date not a meet??
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"I prefer a social first and would love to have a proper date. But get this is a swinging site so not what most on here are looking for "
Absolutely love a good social and a decent date with a beautiful woman |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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I’ve been on a few dates recently. It makes a nice change. I think doing both until you meet someone who takes you off the market is the best way forward. 🍻 |
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It’s funny many a guy on here has offered to take me on a proper date but it never materialises.
But I haven’t been on a date since last year would love to get dressed up and go for dinner.
However I totally get it’s fab so doubt it’s going to happen. Though some have offered after I’ve turned them down. |
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"It’s funny many a guy on here has offered to take me on a proper date but it never materialises.
But I haven’t been on a date since last year would love to get dressed up and go for dinner.
However I totally get it’s fab so doubt it’s going to happen. Though some have offered after I’ve turned them down."
Seriously no one taken you out that’s disgusting 😢😢😢 |
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"It’s funny many a guy on here has offered to take me on a proper date but it never materialises.
But I haven’t been on a date since last year would love to get dressed up and go for dinner.
However I totally get it’s fab so doubt it’s going to happen. Though some have offered after I’ve turned them down.
Seriously no one taken you out that’s disgusting 😢😢😢"
I get offers but no one ever actually does it lol |
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By *eliWoman 13 weeks ago
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I quite like dates. Actual dates. Low pressure, exploring the potential for a romantic spark. Or exploring it. I think sometimes the word date is used on Fab as a kind of polite way of saying grabbing a couple of drinks and fucking someone. Sometimes skipping the drinks entirely.
That could be a date, if there's a romantic spark possibility. Otherwise... it's not a date. What's wrong with people wanting to fuck? Have sex with friends.
We don't need to dress it up.
Anyway, dates can be wonderful things. 🩷 |
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By *phroditeWoman 13 weeks ago
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"Meets can turn into a dates depending upon the connection/chemistry "
I would agree with that - not ruling in or ruling out.
On another note, this site is a swing site hence the name but....
Just like many so-called dating sites are effectively swing sites.... it is totally ok to plan and have a simple date on here.
It is what people want and make it to be  |
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By *nnCeeWoman 13 weeks ago
East of Eden, West of Hell |
"I’ve been on a few dates recently. It makes a nice change. I think doing both until you meet someone who takes you off the market is the best way forward. 🍻 "
Or someone with whom you can do both? 🤷🏻♀️ |
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By (user no longer on site) 13 weeks ago
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"I’ve been on a few dates recently. It makes a nice change. I think doing both until you meet someone who takes you off the market is the best way forward. 🍻
Or someone with whom you can do both? 🤷🏻♀️"
That’s also true….. although highly unlikely for me personally. |
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By *inx000Couple 13 weeks ago
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A date and a meet with someone from fab for a social or hook up is two different things entirely.
If I arranged to meet someone from fab and we went for drinks to get to know each other I wouldn't class that as a date that's a social.If I arranged to meet them purely just for sex that is a hook up.
A date is more intimate which doesn't haven't to include sex you could be just enjoying your time together and wanting to get to know each other more intimately and show an interest in each other rather than just wanting to fuck. |
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"A date and a meet with someone from fab for a social or hook up is two different things entirely.
If I arranged to meet someone from fab and we went for drinks to get to know each other I wouldn't class that as a date that's a social.If I arranged to meet them purely just for sex that is a hook up.
A date is more intimate which doesn't haven't to include sex you could be just enjoying your time together and wanting to get to know each other more intimately and show an interest in each other rather than just wanting to fuck."
That's very well put. |
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"A date and a meet with someone from fab for a social or hook up is two different things entirely.
If I arranged to meet someone from fab and we went for drinks to get to know each other I wouldn't class that as a date that's a social.If I arranged to meet them purely just for sex that is a hook up.
A date is more intimate which doesn't haven't to include sex you could be just enjoying your time together and wanting to get to know each other more intimately and show an interest in each other rather than just wanting to fuck."
That's your definition which is fine. Mine is entirely different. People can class it whichever way they see fit. |
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It's all a semantic terminology debate isn't it really.
We often compare our "meets" to "dates" in our parlance as for us date doesn't imply romance necessarily and we don't generally draw a distinction between a social and a playdate.
All playdates are socials and all socials are playdates for us. Things go as far as everyone wants them to. Artificial limitations are pointless and arbitrary. |
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By *inx000Couple 13 weeks ago
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"A date and a meet with someone from fab for a social or hook up is two different things entirely.
If I arranged to meet someone from fab and we went for drinks to get to know each other I wouldn't class that as a date that's a social.If I arranged to meet them purely just for sex that is a hook up.
A date is more intimate which doesn't haven't to include sex you could be just enjoying your time together and wanting to get to know each other more intimately and show an interest in each other rather than just wanting to fuck.
That's your definition which is fine. Mine is entirely different. People can class it whichever way they see fit. "
Of course everyone is entitled to their own opinion on how they see things. |
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By *aizyWoman 13 weeks ago
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"A date and a meet with someone from fab for a social or hook up is two different things entirely.
If I arranged to meet someone from fab and we went for drinks to get to know each other I wouldn't class that as a date that's a social.If I arranged to meet them purely just for sex that is a hook up.
A date is more intimate which doesn't haven't to include sex you could be just enjoying your time together and wanting to get to know each other more intimately and show an interest in each other rather than just wanting to fuck.
That's your definition which is fine. Mine is entirely different. People can class it whichever way they see fit.
Of course everyone is entitled to their own opinion on how they see things."
Sums it up for me. |
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By *eliWoman 13 weeks ago
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"Is a social not a date? Kinda. “A meet” ugh never use that phrase
Yes! It's painful.
How do you feel about the term playdate? 
Oh god that’s worse. It’s up there with titties for me!"
🩷 You're a good 'un. |
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By *aizyWoman 13 weeks ago
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"Is a social not a date? Kinda. “A meet” ugh never use that phrase
Yes! It's painful.
How do you feel about the term playdate?
Oh god that’s worse. It’s up there with titties for me!
🩷 You're a good 'un."
What about tiddies?? I watched a youtube video the other day and the woman kept saying tiddies, I wanted to commit violence 🤬 |
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A "social" or a date is pretty interchangeable for me. I always meet someone initially for a chat, flirt, drink, coffee, walk etc etc I don't give head first into "meets" and I don't agree to have sex with anyone before I have met them. But I know some people absolutely would not use the term date when meeting someone from here. I suppose date comes with loads of connotations/expectations of romance. But you can have mate dates too. It's just hanging out socially?
I'm not scared of dates. But I am not looking for "fuck and go" meets either really. |
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All my 'meets' (yes, that dreaded awful word) are ostensibly "dates".
All my dates are whimsical dalliances. Most of my dalliances are secret trysts. A few of my trysts are clandestine encounters.
But...they are all 🅳🅰🆃🅴🆂. |
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By *eliWoman 13 weeks ago
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"Is a social not a date? Kinda. “A meet” ugh never use that phrase
Yes! It's painful.
How do you feel about the term playdate?
Oh god that’s worse. It’s up there with titties for me!
🩷 You're a good 'un.
What about tiddies?? I watched a youtube video the other day and the woman kept saying tiddies, I wanted to commit violence 🤬"
Awful. Sorry you had to endure that, hope you're doing better now. |
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I did the 'meet' thing briefly when I first found fab. I found it empty and felt disconnected, left me unsatisfied in all ways.
I prefer unconventional dating, with boundaries, with like-minded folk. It's much better and very very satisfying 😉
Manage expectations and enjoy all of a person. |
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"I did the 'meet' thing briefly when I first found fab. I found it empty and felt disconnected, left me unsatisfied in all ways.
I prefer unconventional dating, with boundaries, with like-minded folk. It's much better and very very satisfying 😉
Manage expectations and enjoy all of a person."
Pretty much the same for me.
My last fab date was a nights bowling
I've also had fab dates in art galleries, swimming in the sea, picnics by the river.
It's beyond me that people will meet for the first time face to face in a Costa and that can lead to sex. |
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It's beyond me that people will meet for the first time face to face in a Costa and that can lead to sex.
Why's that?"
If someone met me in Costa, and bought me a coffee, they are guaranteed sex! |
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It's beyond me that people will meet for the first time face to face in a Costa and that can lead to sex.
Why's that?"
I dislike sitting face to face with anyone. Makes me nervous. It's an ND thing I guess. Like I said, it's beyond me. |
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"A social is like a date no?
No
Why not? Genuinely curious? "
This is only how I see the difference, but for a me a Fab social is a friendly, no strings meet (sorry Nora) as a possible prelude to sex, unless its been understood in advance as just a coffee/drink whatever with no sexual interest.
A date (for me) is something I hope might lead to a more emotionally involved/romantic relationship. A good date is one that leads to another date.
When I joined Fab I probably confused the two and had some fantastic dates/socials, doing really interesting stuff together, but if there wasn't mutual sexual interest then to be honest it felt like a bit of a waste of time and energy afterwards (for both of us).
Now I'd only meet for a drink or food which seems like less pressure and expectation.
Hope that makes some sense ? 🤷♂️ And again, it's only the definition I apply to myself. |
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"A social is like a date no?
No
Why not? Genuinely curious?
This is only how I see the difference, but for a me a Fab social is a friendly, no strings meet (sorry Nora) as a possible prelude to sex, unless its been understood in advance as just a coffee/drink whatever with no sexual interest.
A date (for me) is something I hope might lead to a more emotionally involved/romantic relationship. A good date is one that leads to another date.
When I joined Fab I probably confused the two and had some fantastic dates/socials, doing really interesting stuff together, but if there wasn't mutual sexual interest then to be honest it felt like a bit of a waste of time and energy afterwards (for both of us).
Now I'd only meet for a drink or food which seems like less pressure and expectation.
Hope that makes some sense ? 🤷♂️ And again, it's only the definition I apply to myself."
It does make sense.
I use the term social on here just because that seems to be the accepted parlance that everyone uses. But I go on "dates" with people from dating apps where there's no expectation of romance either, just a more sex based relationship, and still call them dates. It's all semantics isn't it 🤷🏻♀️ |
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"A social is like a date no?
No
Why not? Genuinely curious?
This is only how I see the difference, but for a me a Fab social is a friendly, no strings meet (sorry Nora) as a possible prelude to sex, unless its been understood in advance as just a coffee/drink whatever with no sexual interest.
A date (for me) is something I hope might lead to a more emotionally involved/romantic relationship. A good date is one that leads to another date.
When I joined Fab I probably confused the two and had some fantastic dates/socials, doing really interesting stuff together, but if there wasn't mutual sexual interest then to be honest it felt like a bit of a waste of time and energy afterwards (for both of us).
Now I'd only meet for a drink or food which seems like less pressure and expectation.
Hope that makes some sense ? 🤷♂️ And again, it's only the definition I apply to myself.
It does make sense.
I use the term social on here just because that seems to be the accepted parlance that everyone uses. But I go on "dates" with people from dating apps where there's no expectation of romance either, just a more sex based relationship, and still call them dates. It's all semantics isn't it 🤷🏻♀️"
It is ! And I guess all that matters is that the people involved have a shared understanding. |
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"I love a date and haven't been on one for a while.
Drinks, food, great conversations, lots of flirting, kissing and hopefully date 2 where things progress to the bedroom.
❤️"
Exactly this but most on here think that’s a proper relationship  . People can want that without the commitment. To me that’s a FWB situation. Which is perfect. Unless someone wants more (which I wouldn’t). |
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"Sorry but I don't want to date I want to meet.
After all this is a swinging site. apologies was just throwing it out there apologies "
You don’t need to apologise, many people on here are actively hoping to find something more regular whether that be a FWB or a partner, alongside also looking for no strings.
The site is used in many different ways by many different people and none of them are wrong as long as people are upfront about what they want. |
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"A social is like a date no?
No
Why not? Genuinely curious?
This is only how I see the difference, but for a me a Fab social is a friendly, no strings meet (sorry Nora) as a possible prelude to sex, unless its been understood in advance as just a coffee/drink whatever with no sexual interest.
A date (for me) is something I hope might lead to a more emotionally involved/romantic relationship. A good date is one that leads to another date.
When I joined Fab I probably confused the two and had some fantastic dates/socials, doing really interesting stuff together, but if there wasn't mutual sexual interest then to be honest it felt like a bit of a waste of time and energy afterwards (for both of us).
Now I'd only meet for a drink or food which seems like less pressure and expectation.
Hope that makes some sense ? 🤷♂️ And again, it's only the definition I apply to myself."
You see things like I do.
I always offer a get togeth That might seem or feel like a date, but to stop beating around the bush, we are simply checking each other out hoping to get sexualy attracted in some way.
Let’s be honest why we are all made a profile (or most of us did.) and we can enjoy more good times, hopefully. |
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By *nnCeeWoman 13 weeks ago
East of Eden, West of Hell |
"Is a social not a date? Kinda. “A meet” ugh never use that phrase
Yes! It's painful.
How do you feel about the term playdate?
Oh god that’s worse. It’s up there with titties for me!
🩷 You're a good 'un.
What about tiddies?? I watched a youtube video the other day and the woman kept saying tiddies, I wanted to commit violence 🤬
Awful. Sorry you had to endure that, hope you're doing better now."
The Americans, and they way they've changed words (some of them, sorry, not attacking them all!) have a lot to answer for!!!
The word which aggrieves me is "aksed". I believe which you are trying to pronounced is "ASSSS-K-ED" Read the bloody letters.
The s is first, then the k!!!  |
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