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"So I have been on this site for over a year now keep paying the monthly subscription too. And I am still wacting for my first invite or meet. I am starting to give up all hope with this site. Surely. I thought women liked the dad bod looks theses day and it's not like I am hung like prawn down below I would say I was above average size Haha. . Like what the hell am I doing wrong on here. Any advice is more than welcome haha " You have a meet verification so what do you mean you’re awaiting your first meet? Or is it a fake verification? | |||
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"Red flags on your profile and we haven't even clicked into it! No divine right on here to a hook up 🤷🏼♂️" What do you mean red flags. I am picture verified and gold site supporter. What else do I need | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. " It says you were verified by a couple 8 months ago after a meet | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing " You blokes can, just do it in a aesthetically pleasing way. If you want to attract people that is. | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. " Use reply plus quote helps to know who you’re responding to If it’s to me it’s by 1 couple 8 months ago by a meet So this now tells me and everyone else that it’s a fake verification which for me is one of the biggest red flags on here | |||
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"So I have been on this site for over a year now keep paying the monthly subscription too. And I am still wacting for my first invite or meet. I am starting to give up all hope with this site. Surely. I thought women liked the dad bod looks theses day and it's not like I am hung like prawn down below I would say I was above average size Haha. . Like what the hell am I doing wrong on here. Any advice is more than welcome haha You have a meet verification so what do you mean you’re awaiting your first meet? Or is it a fake verification?" yes a very 8 months ago | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. " Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would of left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing " Semi nude is different to a penis pic | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. It says you were verified by a couple 8 months ago after a meet" God nars cause I haven't met no body | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing " You asked for advice why are you arguing with it? Do what you want. | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing " People can post whatever photos they want of course. But time and time again the advice from women and couples (those you're looking to meet) is that a dick profile pic and a gallery full of cock focused images aren't what floats they're boat. So you can take on board the feedback or choose to pass it by - its entirely your choice. Many things affect the 'luck' of single guys. Their photos. What they write in their profiles. Whether they can accomodate or not. Whether they look outside of just sending messages and get out in the real world via clubs, events and organised socials. Simply setting up a profile isn't any guarantee of meeting others. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"You have 19 pics and every one of them involves your cock. Your profile is a mixture of telling people what you are looking for - good and moaning about having no luck or that people don't reply - bad I have face pictureso hidden for privacy on my profile " | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would of left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared " no haven't met anyone yet so don't no why yous can see that. I certainly have to put it on | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would have left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared no haven't met anyone yet so don't no why yous can see that. I certainly have to put it on " So a fake verification which is showing…nice | |||
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" I have face pictureso hidden for privacy on my profile " No one has suggested you should display a face pic. They just say try something other than a dick pic. | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing You asked for advice why are you arguing with it? Do what you want. " Am not arguing I am just saying that's how it looks . All take any advice that's on offer. I am taking all the advice on board and will make changes | |||
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"Don't give him tips, gang - the red flags need to stay there. Think of it as a community service by not pointing them out " Some people don't have the capacity to change though, leopards and spots etc. | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would have left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared no haven't met anyone yet so don't no why yous can see that. I certainly have to put it on So a fake verification which is showing…nice " But it's not off I don't no how it's on there. I wouldn't say I haven't met any 1 if I already did. I will try and find the verification and delete it if it's possible to do that | |||
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"Don't give him tips, gang - the red flags need to stay there. Think of it as a community service by not pointing them out Some people don't have the capacity to change though, leopards and spots etc." I need advice. Why try and turn themy against me when I am asking for help and advice. | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would have left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared no haven't met anyone yet so don't no why yous can see that. I certainly have to put it on So a fake verification which is showing…nice But it's not off I don't no how it's on there. I wouldn't say I haven't met any 1 if I already did. I will try and find the verification and delete it if it's possible to do that " Veris dont magicaly appear, | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would have left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared no haven't met anyone yet so don't no why yous can see that. I certainly have to put it on So a fake verification which is showing…nice But it's not off I don't no how it's on there. I wouldn't say I haven't met any 1 if I already did. I will try and find the verification and delete it if it's possible to do that " No, you have to message admin for them to take it off | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would have left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared no haven't met anyone yet so don't no why yous can see that. I certainly have to put it on So a fake verification which is showing…nice But it's not off I don't no how it's on there. I wouldn't say I haven't met any 1 if I already did. I will try and find the verification and delete it if it's possible to do that " Your summary says u have a verification from a couple 8 months ago, if the couple have left the site the verification will have gone too but still remains in your summary you cant delete that | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would have left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared no haven't met anyone yet so don't no why yous can see that. I certainly have to put it on So a fake verification which is showing…nice But it's not off I don't no how it's on there. I wouldn't say I haven't met any 1 if I already did. I will try and find the verification and delete it if it's possible to do that Veris dont magicaly appear," Obviously someone has put it on but I definitely haven't met anyone off here yet. So I genuinely don't no how it ther | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would have left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared no haven't met anyone yet so don't no why yous can see that. I certainly have to put it on So a fake verification which is showing…nice But it's not off I don't no how it's on there. I wouldn't say I haven't met any 1 if I already did. I will try and find the verification and delete it if it's possible to do that No, you have to message admin for them to take it off" But then you have to admit it’s fake would be interesting to see if they verified each other | |||
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" Any advice is more than welcome haha " Don’t rely on luck. Even with the best luck in the world all those other things everyone is saying means it’s unlikely you’ll ever meet . | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would have left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared no haven't met anyone yet so don't no why yous can see that. I certainly have to put it on So a fake verification which is showing…nice But it's not off I don't no how it's on there. I wouldn't say I haven't met any 1 if I already did. I will try and find the verification and delete it if it's possible to do that Your summary says u have a verification from a couple 8 months ago, if the couple have left the site the verification will have gone too but still remains in your summary you cant delete that" But I haven't met anyone off here yet. I genuinely do the no how it's there. | |||
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"I can probably see why you're not having any success and every person has offered some good advise or things you may need to change on your profile. I would say why don't you sign up to a social event near you or visit a club and socialise with people.. it would certainly expand your social network. Secondly, may be best for you to change your view a bit.. I get its a swingers site, but a lot of people respond more to how you would approach people in real life. A friendly hello, a joke or two.. show of your personality more Good luck anyway bud "See nowhat this is sound advice that I can use. It's all good advice off most of yous. Like some 1said it's a community and communitys help each other not try and turn them.against individuals | |||
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"Jesus Christ people it's a verification, people can leave them for anyone you know. Most of them on here probably aren't real. I'm pretty sure that one veri isn't the reason for him not meeting anyone so does it really matter. " Thank you for that. I genuinely have no clue how that verify is even on there. | |||
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"What is the problem with leaving it on ?" cause it's fake and I don't no how it got on there so I would rather take it off to "stop the red flags" every 1 has gave me some good advice and I will certainly do some changes | |||
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"I suggest you delete the paragraph which starts "someone suggested I join this site ..."" I am really bad I filling stuff like that in that's how it looks and sounds so shit haha | |||
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"Jesus Christ people it's a verification, people can leave them for anyone you know. Most of them on here probably aren't real. I'm pretty sure that one veri isn't the reason for him not meeting anyone so does it really matter. Thank you for that. I genuinely have no clue how that verify is even on there. " Errr... When someone leaves a verification it gives you a choice to display or not.... | |||
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"I suggest you delete the paragraph which starts "someone suggested I join this site ..."" just deleted it there thanks | |||
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"Jesus Christ people it's a verification, people can leave them for anyone you know. Most of them on here probably aren't real. I'm pretty sure that one veri isn't the reason for him not meeting anyone so does it really matter. Thank you for that. I genuinely have no clue how that verify is even on there. Errr... When someone leaves a verification it gives you a choice to display or not...." I have just hidden it cause I can't delete it off | |||
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"Tone back a bit on the dick pics. It's a dick no matter what angle the picture is taken from. Chuck some images up of you in clothes so people can see what you're like in the outside world, and change your profile picture to something you think women could find a little more aesthetically pleasing. Good luck, hope you find what you're looking for." Bloody if I posted picture white clothes on to show what I am like in the realing world all I would have on is my work gear cause thats all I seem to be doing lately. All work and no play | |||
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"Tone back a bit on the dick pics. It's a dick no matter what angle the picture is taken from. Chuck some images up of you in clothes so people can see what you're like in the outside world, and change your profile picture to something you think women could find a little more aesthetically pleasing. Good luck, hope you find what you're looking for. Bloody if I posted picture white clothes on to show what I am like in the realing world all I would have on is my work gear cause thats all I seem to be doing lately. All work and no play " You've literally just given a reason why you don't meet anyone. | |||
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"You have 19 pics and every one of them involves your cock. Your profile is a mixture of telling people what you are looking for - good and moaning about having no luck or that people don't reply - bad " I stopped looking at his profile after the 4th pic 🤷🏼♂️ | |||
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"Tone back a bit on the dick pics. It's a dick no matter what angle the picture is taken from. Chuck some images up of you in clothes so people can see what you're like in the outside world, and change your profile picture to something you think women could find a little more aesthetically pleasing. Good luck, hope you find what you're looking for. Bloody if I posted picture white clothes on to show what I am like in the realing world all I would have on is my work gear cause thats all I seem to be doing lately. All work and no play " Work clothes are better than umpteen dick pics | |||
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"Tone back a bit on the dick pics. It's a dick no matter what angle the picture is taken from. Chuck some images up of you in clothes so people can see what you're like in the outside world, and change your profile picture to something you think women could find a little more aesthetically pleasing. Good luck, hope you find what you're looking for. Bloody if I posted picture white clothes on to show what I am like in the realing world all I would have on is my work gear cause thats all I seem to be doing lately. All work and no play You've literally just given a reason why you don't meet anyone." Aye but when I finaly do get to meet then I can play more and work less. | |||
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"Tone back a bit on the dick pics. It's a dick no matter what angle the picture is taken from. Chuck some images up of you in clothes so people can see what you're like in the outside world, and change your profile picture to something you think women could find a little more aesthetically pleasing. Good luck, hope you find what you're looking for. Bloody if I posted picture white clothes on to show what I am like in the realing world all I would have on is my work gear cause thats all I seem to be doing lately. All work and no play Work clothes are better than umpteen dick pics" Depend if peoeveryone like to see men in the Nissan manufacturing grey bottoms and grey tshirts haha | |||
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"Tone back a bit on the dick pics. It's a dick no matter what angle the picture is taken from. Chuck some images up of you in clothes so people can see what you're like in the outside world, and change your profile picture to something you think women could find a little more aesthetically pleasing. Good luck, hope you find what you're looking for. Bloody if I posted picture white clothes on to show what I am like in the realing world all I would have on is my work gear cause thats all I seem to be doing lately. All work and no play " I'm pretty sure you don't work 24/7 so why not find some time when you're home to take some decent photos of yourself. Take a look at some of the men on this site who do well and get some inspiration from their photos. All I've noticed is all the cock pics, which is a total turn off. | |||
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" Work clothes are better than umpteen dick pics" I agree. One of my pics is me in a hi-vis vest with a spirit level | |||
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" Depend if peoeveryone like to see men in the Nissan manufacturing grey bottoms and grey tshirts haha " There have been whole threads about women finding men in grey joggers sexy | |||
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" Work clothes are better than umpteen dick pics I agree. One of my pics is me in a hi-vis vest with a spirit level" Great photo but you should have held it in a perfect horizontal level between your nipples 🤭 | |||
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"Tone back a bit on the dick pics. It's a dick no matter what angle the picture is taken from. Chuck some images up of you in clothes so people can see what you're like in the outside world, and change your profile picture to something you think women could find a little more aesthetically pleasing. Good luck, hope you find what you're looking for. Bloody if I posted picture white clothes on to show what I am like in the realing world all I would have on is my work gear cause thats all I seem to be doing lately. All work and no play Work clothes are better than umpteen dick pics Depend if peoeveryone like to see men in the Nissan manufacturing grey bottoms and grey tshirts haha " Ad rather see anything other than a dick pic.. if a dick is all you feel represnts you then no wonder your not getting meets | |||
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" Depend if peoeveryone like to see men in the Nissan manufacturing grey bottoms and grey tshirts haha There have been whole threads about women finding men in grey joggers sexy" What about suits? Suits are sexy, right? 🤞🤓 | |||
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" Great photo but you should have held it in a perfect horizontal level between your nipples 🤭" Top tip | |||
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" Great photo but you should have held it in a perfect horizontal level between your nipples 🤭 Top tip "Top tips | |||
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" Great photo but you should have held it in a perfect horizontal level between your nipples 🤭 Top tip
Top tips "Top tits | |||
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"Are you always so argumentative when people offer advice? Do you always cry and moan when things don’t go your way? Hmmmm. Maybe this is a YOU problem " Well said | |||
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"Are you always so argumentative when people offer advice? Do you always cry and moan when things don’t go your way? Hmmmm. Maybe this is a YOU problem Well said" Why thank you dear | |||
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"Yet blokes like myself who do everything right, make an effort etc etc get ignored or ghosted yet this guy has an awful profile, made no effort and expects the world. " Expects but will he get it? | |||
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"Yet blokes like myself who do everything right, make an effort etc etc get ignored or ghosted yet this guy has an awful profile, made no effort and expects the world. Expects but will he get it? " The world works in odd ways so who knows haha | |||
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"Yet blokes like myself who do everything right, make an effort etc etc get ignored or ghosted yet this guy has an awful profile, made no effort and expects the world. Expects but will he get it? The world works in odd ways so who knows haha " Ah yes I forgot the irony tax | |||
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"Dunno can't see your profile, says you have blocked me. Seems strange as you don't live anywhere near me "It's their loss not living in Devon 
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"So I have been on this site for over a year now keep paying the monthly subscription too. And I am still wacting for my first invite or meet. I am starting to give up all hope with this site. Surely. I thought women liked the dad bod looks theses day and it's not like I am hung like prawn down below I would say I was above average size Haha. . Like what the hell am I doing wrong on here. Any advice is more than welcome haha " blocked | |||
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"I think he expects loads women to go messaging him 🤣🤣" He’s got more chance of meeting the tooth fairy | |||
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"I think he expects loads women to go messaging him 🤣🤣 He’s got more chance of meeting the tooth fairy" Well he has met the veri fairy, so you never know😂 | |||
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"I think he expects loads women to go messaging him 🤣🤣 He’s got more chance of meeting the tooth fairy Well he has met the veri fairy, so you never know😂" 😂😂👏🏻 | |||
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"Dunno can't see your profile, says you have blocked me. Seems strange as you don't live anywhere near me
It's their loss not living in Devon
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"Too negative. No public pics and the old manners cliche. Good luck with your search." I have only just put my picturns all into private cause the advice I got was too many cock pictures I am gonna upload some normal pictures soon. I am in the process of changing few things on my profile. As per all the good advice that people have fave me instead of been so negative towards me | |||
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"OP, you do have some good bio, but I'd probably get rid of the part about answering to messages. Women can get tons of messages and most find it impossible to go through all of them, let alone reply. Also, it is in FAQs that no reply means no, thank you. So by you talking about you'd reply to all messages and implying not replying is rude, you could be alienating the people you'd like to meet. You have zero public photos (from reading the thread, the public pics you had were no better)- most women do check profile, usually in ninja mode so you wouldn't see us looking, and decide whether they want to reply or not. We do like to at least have a general idea of how the person looks like- it doesn't have to be face pic, but it's usually preferable not a dick pic, either. Have a think about the age range, as at present, it's very limited. Last but not least- the fact you cannot accommodate will be a massive red flag for people, it's normally read as "married/attached and playing away". If your situation is different than that, it would be helpful if you explained in your bio. " I have just putried all my pictures into private cause they were all cock pictures. And I am going to upload some normal 1's soon. And I can't accommodate because I have had to move everything back to my parents on the short term due to personal problems but can't put stuff like that in my bio haha | |||
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"I think he expects loads women to go messaging him 🤣🤣 He’s got more chance of meeting the tooth fairy" 🧚she said nope 🤣 | |||
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"Forgot one thing - being photo verified and site supporter means nothing. Only meet in person verification can prove the person is genuine. With you saying your "meet in person" verification is fake, you're not helping your case. But maybe you saw them on cam? That would still give you the green tick. If not, either contact admin to get it sorted, or start a new profile. " I have hidden it off my profile so hopefully nobody can see it now. Till admin delete it for me | |||
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"And I can't accommodate because I have had to move everything back to my parents on the short term due to personal problems but can't put stuff like that in my bio haha " You can and you should if you don't want people assuming you are playing away. You don't have to go into great details. | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing " With that attitude, you have your answer | |||
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"You under no obligation to explain why you can't accommodate. People who assume you are cheating because you don't host are just cynical. No one questions women who don't accommodate... There's still a bunch of moaning in your bio. It will put people off." Of course he's under no obligation to explain, nobody is. But as most people on here assume that, if you can't accommodate, you must be cheating, it might help OP's situation if he does explain. But it is still entirely up to him - I was just pointing one of the reasons he may not be getting replies. | |||
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"You under no obligation to explain why you can't accommodate. People who assume you are cheating because you don't host are just cynical. No one questions women who don't accommodate... There's still a bunch of moaning in your bio. It will put people off." Agree. Assuming men are attached who don’t accommodate is probably the thing that annoys me most reading these forums. Men are supposed to not be choosy and wary and let anyone into their homes don’t ya know | |||
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"You under no obligation to explain why you can't accommodate. People who assume you are cheating because you don't host are just cynical. No one questions women who don't accommodate... There's still a bunch of moaning in your bio. It will put people off. Agree. Assuming men are attached who don’t accommodate is probably the thing that annoys me most reading these forums. Men are supposed to not be choosy and wary and let anyone into their homes don’t ya know " Fab forum double standards don’t ya know. J | |||
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"You under no obligation to explain why you can't accommodate. People who assume you are cheating because you don't host are just cynical. No one questions women who don't accommodate... There's still a bunch of moaning in your bio. It will put people off. Agree. Assuming men are attached who don’t accommodate is probably the thing that annoys me most reading these forums. Men are supposed to not be choosy and wary and let anyone into their homes don’t ya know Fab forum double standards don’t ya know. J" Isn’t it just | |||
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"A few things. You don't have any public pics. People want tos ee who they're meeting. Your profile is very "woe is me" from moaning about meters and messages being deleted to saying you have a membership (who cares). Profiles are a place to show your best self, I don't think this does that. Personally there also a little bit of bad grammar/spelling that is off-putting too but that's because I'm a bit of a weirdo like that. " I have just put my pictures into private cause of advice I was given and I am gonna upload normal 1's soon. And doing a few changes in my bio too. My grammar will never change cause I am not the best at spelling and wrighting stuff haha | |||
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"I think he expects loads women to go messaging him 🤣🤣 He’s got more chance of meeting the tooth fairy🧚she said nope 🤣" At least she replied 😂😂 | |||
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"You under no obligation to explain why you can't accommodate. People who assume you are cheating because you don't host are just cynical. No one questions women who don't accommodate... There's still a bunch of moaning in your bio. It will put people off. Of course he's under no obligation to explain, nobody is. But as most people on here assume that, if you can't accommodate, you must be cheating, it might help OP's situation if he does explain. But it is still entirely up to him - I was just pointing one of the reasons he may not be getting replies. " Most people don't assume that. Any forward thinking person will be able to consider circumstances why a man can't host He doesn't want to He has kids He shares accomodation He's caring for a parent He doesn't want to... People who assume he's cheating are best avoided imo | |||
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"You under no obligation to explain why you can't accommodate. People who assume you are cheating because you don't host are just cynical. No one questions women who don't accommodate... Agree. Assuming men are attached who don’t accommodate is probably the thing that annoys me most reading these forums. Men are supposed to not be choosy and wary and let anyone into their homes don’t ya know Fab forum double standards don’t ya know. J" I agree with all of this, but to be fair; the majority of single ladies in Fab rarely step outside of a swinger club these days, so whether a guy can accommodate or not, is largely irrelevant…. | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing " Why not just listen to the advice instead of kicking up a fuss?!  | |||
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"A few things. You don't have any public pics. People want tos ee who they're meeting. Your profile is very "woe is me" from moaning about meters and messages being deleted to saying you have a membership (who cares). Profiles are a place to show your best self, I don't think this does that. Personally there also a little bit of bad grammar/spelling that is off-putting too but that's because I'm a bit of a weirdo like that. I have just put my pictures into private cause of advice I was given and I am gonna upload normal 1's soon. And doing a few changes in my bio too. My grammar will never change cause I am not the best at spelling and wrighting stuff haha " Best of luck to you. As has been said socials, meeting people with sex not on the cardsz that'll often lead to more invitations. Good luck | |||
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Most women ignore messages from a blank silhouette profile though, so at least display one pic of yourself which will show when the ladies are scrolling down the huge list of messages in their inbox….
Your profile text could use a re-write. It does make you sound a bit of a moaner? Sorry to be so blunt, but there it is. Read it yourself, ask would you reply, if you were a woman looking for someone like you?
Perhaps spread your age range a little? Do you think many 18 year olds will be looking for a man in his 40’s? There are far more ladies in their 30’s and 50’s in here generally…..
Fab is a challenge, for everyone! My profile has evolved over the 13 years I’ve been using this site, as we ourselves change…..
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing Why not just listen to the advice instead of kicking up a fuss?! "I have took everyones advice. I really don't see when I have kicked up a fuss about them giving me advice. I have took the first bit of advice and put all my nudes into private and going to upload normal pictures soon. Nearly everyone has been helpfull just the little minority of these are people just can't help them self but be nasty and take the piss. | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing Why not just listen to the advice instead of kicking up a fuss?!
I have took everyones advice. I really don't see when I have kicked up a fuss about them giving me advice. I have took the first bit of advice and put all my nudes into private and going to upload normal pictures soon. Nearly everyone has been helpfull just the little minority of these are people just can't help them self but be nasty and take the piss. "Which comments have been nasty and took the piss? | |||
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"You don’t have to pay to use this site mate. Fab is the only ‘contact site’ on the web, where a solo male can use it to send, receive, and read messages completely free of charge, indefinitely, and that fact alone, is truly a good thing
Most women ignore messages from a blank silhouette profile though, so at least display one pic of yourself which will show when the ladies are scrolling down the huge list of messages in their inbox….
Your profile text could use a re-write. It does make you sound a bit of a moaner? Sorry to be so blunt, but there it is. Read it yourself, ask would you reply, if you were a woman looking for someone like you?
Perhaps spread your age range a little? Do you think many 18 year olds will be looking for a man in his 40’s? There are far more ladies in their 30’s and 50’s in here generally…..
Fab is a challenge, for everyone! My profile has evolved over the 13 years I’ve been using this site, as we ourselves change…..
Good luck! "I have always paid the fee to use this site is didn't no it was free for men and my pictures are all provate for now till I upload some normal 1's nearly every 1 has said about my pictures not public. They were public till this morning when I was advised to probably post normal pictures. So I am going to upload some soon as I find some half decent normal of my self haha | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing Why not just listen to the advice instead of kicking up a fuss?!
I have took everyones advice. I really don't see when I have kicked up a fuss about them giving me advice. I have took the first bit of advice and put all my nudes into private and going to upload normal pictures soon. Nearly everyone has been helpfull just the little minority of these are people just can't help them self but be nasty and take the piss.
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing Why not just listen to the advice instead of kicking up a fuss?!
I have took everyones advice. I really don't see when I have kicked up a fuss about them giving me advice. I have took the first bit of advice and put all my nudes into private and going to upload normal pictures soon. Nearly everyone has been helpfull just the little minority of these are people just can't help them self but be nasty and take the piss.
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"You’ve been on here ages this morning & said multiple times you’re gonna take some new pics. That could’ve been done by now. Instead you just stay on the forum having a moan about advice people try to give you. " 
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"Maybe the verification was from a guy or TV? It said a cpl" Never saw it, any idea what it said? | |||
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"Maybe the verification was from a guy or TV? It said a cpl Never saw it, any idea what it said? " It was hidden | |||
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" So soon as I get back home in can sort them.out. " Where are you now ? | |||
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"Maybe the verification was from a guy or TV? It said a cpl Never saw it, any idea what it said? It was hidden" I winder what it was hiding? | |||
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"I didn't even no I had 1. That's news to me. When I look thru my account I don't see any. Did you meet a couple or not 8 months ago? They would have left the site, that’s why they’re hidden write up has disappeared no haven't met anyone yet so don't no why yous can see that. I certainly have to put it on " Please don’t take offence but if you communicate this way when messaging it’s maybe putting people off. You come across a little abrasive | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing " Not everyone wants to see it... | |||
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" So soon as I get back home in can sort them.out. Where are you now ?" well I was at work till 10:30. BBut it was overtime just cleaning the robots. And now I am going to do the stuff I couldn't do thru the week case I was working. | |||
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"But its OK for you and others to have semi nudes on the profile picture but us blokes can't show yous what we are packing Not everyone wants to see it..." Yeah I get that now henice the reason all my pictures are now private till I get home and upload some half decent 1s of my self haha | |||
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"Unfortunately can’t say anything apart from you came pre blocked OP so perhaps that’s your clue here?" Yeah I am taking the advice of the group to change my profile so the pictures are private till I get home and upload half decent 1's | |||
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"Maybe the verification was from a guy or TV? It said a cpl Never saw it, any idea what it said? It was hidden I winder what it was hiding? " They could have left the site therefore he couldnt show it | |||
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"OP I've read the whole thread. Your first reply came across as hostile and it set the tone for the thread. Being a gold supporter means nothing but people think it means entitlement to meet without any effort. I did not see the penis pics and I can see you've removed them from public, honestly, it would with your camera on the phone, take 1 min to upload a pic, can be anything, feet thighs anything, and have that as a profile pic because a high percentage of people will not even click on a silhouette so they won't read your bio. The bio is heavily written on what you want. It's all I I I Also you've been here a year, you're not new to this. For the more experienced members that know how to use the site and the tools, they would see red flags. There are 100s of profile advice threads, there's threads on how to use the site tools, how to set filters, FAQS and your own common sense " I have never really thought about it till recently. Yeah I have been on a while but I just kept telling myself that someone soon will want to speak to me or something. But now after getting everyone's feedback I realise it's my profile that's the problem so I am going to chaget a few things on it when I get back home so I can sit and do it in stead of having to stop what I am.doing every 5 min hahaha | |||
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"Maybe the verification was from a guy or TV? It said a cpl Never saw it, any idea what it said? It was hidden I winder what it was hiding? They could have left the site therefore he couldnt show it" The verify wasn't even genuine. God narsave how it got there. I avnth met nobody off for here yet. But I have now hidden it till admin delete it for me | |||
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"OP I've read the whole thread. Your first reply came across as hostile and it set the tone for the thread. Being a gold supporter means nothing but people think it means entitlement to meet without any effort. I did not see the penis pics and I can see you've removed them from public, honestly, it would with your camera on the phone, take 1 min to upload a pic, can be anything, feet thighs anything, and have that as a profile pic because a high percentage of people will not even click on a silhouette so they won't read your bio. The bio is heavily written on what you want. It's all I I I Also you've been here a year, you're not new to this. For the more experienced members that know how to use the site and the tools, they would see red flags. There are 100s of profile advice threads, there's threads on how to use the site tools, how to set filters, FAQS and your own common sense I have never really thought about it till recently. Yeah I have been on a while but I just kept telling myself that someone soon will want to speak to me or something. But now after getting everyone's feedback I realise it's my profile that's the problem so I am going to chaget a few things on it when I get back home so I can sit and do it in stead of having to stop what I am.doing every 5 min hahaha " Hate to point out but if you've got time to write a reply on the thread............... Maybe step away from the phone, finish your work instead of keep replying lol | |||
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"And I can't accommodate because I have had to move everything back to my parents on the short term due to personal problems but can't put stuff like that in my bio haha You can and you should if you don't want people assuming you are playing away. You don't have to go into great details. " Why should he? I can't accommodate either and I give no reason for that in my bio because it's nobody's business until I make it their business | |||
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"Some comments are pretty harsh, the guy asked for advice not a bashing....There for the grace of God hey. I hope you have managed to take something constructive out of the comments OP. Good luck " The only way to avoid a savaging on fab is to ask for advice on an already perfect profile. Or just not be a man. God forbid a man turns up with a question he doesn't know the answer to already. The baying mob loves nothing more than a guy who's asking for it. Literally. | |||
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"I was going to have a go at you, but changed my mind. I kind word with some advice is better than been a shit head. So here goes. Don't have a dic pic as your profile picture, have a full length semi nude or a seductive pic. Be brutally honest in your profile. Put what you are looking for what your not, some of your likes, leave some back for conversation. Get yourself to a few socials, make connections these connections will then lead to verifications and hopefully 1 to 1 meets and maybe party invites. Have a good attitude and remember your not going to be everyone's cup of tea like in vanilla life. Most importantly be respectful of those you come into contact with and understand no really means no. Don't send 50 messages if you don't get a reply. No reply is a reply. And honestly just be sound and have the craic. " shouldn't he know this anyway | |||
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"And I can't accommodate because I have had to move everything back to my parents on the short term due to personal problems but can't put stuff like that in my bio haha You can and you should if you don't want people assuming you are playing away. You don't have to go into great details. · Why should he? I can't accommodate either and I give no reason for that in my bio because it's nobody's business until I make it their business." • I couldn't agree more. 🩷 | |||
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"Some comments are pretty harsh, the guy asked for advice not a bashing....There for the grace of God hey. I hope you have managed to take something constructive out of the comments OP. Good luck " It's the status and bio though that he just hasn't seemed to grasp after multiple people highlighting it. Nobody has been nasty. The reason people are being slightly sarky has been born of the defensive position taken and still stand by the OP. I don't think ignorance is bliss when you're asking people to be objective then arguing about it 🤷♂️ | |||
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"A few things. You don't have any public pics. People want tos ee who they're meeting. Your profile is very "woe is me" from moaning about meters and messages being deleted to saying you have a membership (who cares). Profiles are a place to show your best self, I don't think this does that. Personally there also a little bit of bad grammar/spelling that is off-putting too but that's because I'm a bit of a weirdo like that. I have just put my pictures into private cause of advice I was given and I am gonna upload normal 1's soon. And doing a few changes in my bio too. My grammar will never change cause I am not the best at spelling and wrighting stuff haha " If you are not the best at spelling or grammar write it in a “word” document first, spell and grammar check, then copy and paste to your profile | |||
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"Mate. I've been on for way longer than that and followed every single bit of advice and not had a meet .. this used not a site for single guys, you are wasting your time, genuinely. It takes us single guys a year to fanny about trying to chat with women to realise that lol .. try elsewhere save your sanity, genuinely. You'll find that on many of the dating apps certain ladies you will far more likely meet on there also have a hidden fab profile. It does happen. Honestly try elsewhere, don't spend all day constructing perfect messages to hundreds of people and get one or two replies that end up going nowhere. It is a waste of time and isn't good for your mental health lol .. seriously. I'm just here for the pics and the odd bit of chat with a few long standing ladies." This whole thread has been a rollercoaster of highs, lows and a range of sound advice, humerous observation and witty retorts ...but for the life of me, I cannot decide whether this comment is heartfelt advice or genius irony?! Good luck OP, you got this! | |||
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"So I have been on this site for over a year now keep paying the monthly subscription too. And I am still wacting for my first invite or meet. I am starting to give up all hope with this site. Surely. I thought women liked the dad bod looks theses day and it's not like I am hung like prawn down below I would say I was above average size Haha. . Like what the hell am I doing wrong on here. Any advice is more than welcome haha " Fuck me dude, I bet you never envisaged your thread would get a response like THIS.  | |||
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"So I have been on this site for over a year now keep paying the monthly subscription too. And I am still wacting for my first invite or meet. I am starting to give up all hope with this site. Surely. I thought women liked the dad bod looks theses day and it's not like I am hung like prawn down below I would say I was above average size Haha. . Like what the hell am I doing wrong on here. Any advice is more than welcome haha " . Oh mate, I think you’re just boring sorry but I know the truth hurts accept it or move on | |||
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"So I have been on this site for over a year now keep paying the monthly subscription too. And I am still wacting for my first invite or meet. I am starting to give up all hope with this site. Surely. I thought women liked the dad bod looks theses day and it's not like I am hung like prawn down below I would say I was above average size Haha. . Like what the hell am I doing wrong on here. Any advice is more than welcome haha . Oh mate, I think you’re just boring sorry but I know the truth hurts accept it or move on" That was rather mean and uncalled for Donna | |||
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"...Oh mate, I think you’re just boring sorry but I know the truth hurts accept it or move on" • Rest assured on that very remark the women on this thread, in addition to any lurkers, are probably making good use of the Notes function about you and your comments. ✔️ #TheLackOfMaleSolidarity | |||
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"...Oh mate, I think you’re just boring sorry but I know the truth hurts accept it or move on • Rest assured on that very remark the women on this thread, in addition to any lurkers, are probably making good use of the Notes function about you and your comments. ✔️ #TheLackOfMaleSolidarity" Fabicide occurs at least once a week 🤓 | |||
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"...Oh mate, I think you’re just boring sorry but I know the truth hurts accept it or move on • Rest assured on that very remark the women on this thread, in addition to any lurkers, are probably making good use of the Notes function about you and your comments. ✔️ #TheLackOfMaleSolidarity" There really should be a "gun against your head" emoji....
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"So I have been on this site for over a year now keep paying the monthly subscription too. And I am still wacting for my first invite or meet. I am starting to give up all hope with this site. Surely. I thought women liked the dad bod looks theses day and it's not like I am hung like prawn down below I would say I was above average size Haha. . Like what the hell am I doing wrong on here. Any advice is more than welcome haha . Oh mate, I think you’re just boring sorry but I know the truth hurts accept it or move on" Profile advice not personal attacks, petty and uncalled for.🧐 | |||
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