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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So my daughter is in her final week of school before here exams. When did leaving school become such a massive faff and an unbelievable expense for the parents.
Firstly there’s the Prom! It’s been a constant topic of conversation for months. The expensive dress, hair, makeup. The parties the after prom parties. Not to mention a suitable vehicle to deliver them to prom. Presents for 12 Teachers, arts and crafts designed outfits for the last day, oh and a leavers hoodie!! When did that become a thing?
I know I’m going to sound like an old bastard but I remember that when I left school we wrote on each other’s shirts, got out of there as quickly as possible headed up town for a Wimpy and a can of Castlemaine XXXX. I think there might have been a disco in the school hall but I didn’t go. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well we all know the old days were better and EVERYTHING these days has to be a fucking event, but I try to not piss on the youngsters' chips.
They have enough to worry about."
I totally agree, this is just my own personal little vent on here. My daughter has everything she has asked for and deserves. She’s working incredibly hard towards her exams.
I’m just blown away by what an event it’s become. I mean seriously 'Prom!?' I thought that was only an American thing? |
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Leaving Presents for teachers! Jesus, when did that become a thing.
We just had a form that had to be signed by all your teachers to say you had returned any school books/property, once you had all the signatures you handed it in and you were out the door into the world.
Left school one morning, started work the next morning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I couldn’t get outta there quick enough soon as last exam done I was gone and never went back
Most went up to
Get results I just waited to the posted mine out as was working before they were released |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Leaving Presents for teachers! Jesus, when did that become a thing.
We just had a form that had to be signed by all your teachers to say you had returned any school books/property, once you had all the signatures you handed it in and you were out the door into the world.
Left school one morning, started work the next morning. "
My teacher friend gets at least half a dozen Worlds Best Teacher mugs each end of year, a few at Christmas as well. He takes them to his rifle club for practice.  |
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As everyone is saying, another American incursion into British culture (or the lack of British culture  )
Anyhow, my daughter is quite introverted & something of an alt girl, so I’m pretty sure she won’t be arsed with attending a prom & I will be fully supporting her decision not to do so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Crazy I don’t have kids thankfully
Like everything it’s a money making racket imo
Just like all this league table of schools in my day you just went to the local school end off pretty much |
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It was a few years after I left that the prom stuff started. I wouldn't have been allowed to go anyway, Cinderella life. Now, even the little ones have graduations from nursery! 🤭 Leavers hoodies start in year 6 now 🤯 I'd have probably got one of those though.
I can't see our eldest wanting to go to prom, but I think our second will... We better start saving, they're in consecutive school years 🤣 |
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"Wait until there is kindergarten graduation. It never stops."
It’s already here. My nephew had a nursery graduation. They had a flat cap and gown for the kids to have their picture taken in and everything! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Such pressure … on the parents and kids to fit in and not be ostracised
We are More and more likely to adopt Americanisms. I guess the momentum now is so strong it’s impossible to reverse
Mine a leavers disco , promises made , snogs for all, half bottles of vodka stored in the bogs from days before
On the whole memorable, fun and with out the Americans |
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"There are hire places for people who are struggling so you can hire prom dresses & suits for the boys to look into it hope this helps some "
A couple of our larger local charity shops have ball / prom gowns at excellent prices. |
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"But why would kids want to go I wouldn’t
FOMO.
Plus, that sort of stuff is fun when you're young."
Wouldn’t have been my idea of fun never wanted to go to school
Discos or such like when I went to school I hated the place |
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"There are hire places for people who are struggling so you can hire prom dresses & suits for the boys to look into it hope this helps some
A couple of our larger local charity shops have ball / prom gowns at excellent prices. "
it’s fantastic for people no one should feel there child should miss out |
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"So my daughter is in her final week of school before here exams. When did leaving school become such a massive faff and an unbelievable expense for the parents.
Firstly there’s the Prom! It’s been a constant topic of conversation for months. The expensive dress, hair, makeup. The parties the after prom parties. Not to mention a suitable vehicle to deliver them to prom. Presents for 12 Teachers, arts and crafts designed outfits for the last day, oh and a leavers hoodie!! When did that become a thing?
I know I’m going to sound like an old bastard but I remember that when I left school we wrote on each other’s shirts, got out of there as quickly as possible headed up town for a Wimpy and a can of Castlemaine XXXX. I think there might have been a disco in the school hall but I didn’t go. "
The prom, another shit import from America! |
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"Leaving Presents for teachers! Jesus, when did that become a thing.
We just had a form that had to be signed by all your teachers to say you had returned any school books/property, once you had all the signatures you handed it in and you were out the door into the world.
Left school one morning, started work the next morning.
My teacher friend gets at least half a dozen Worlds Best Teacher mugs each end of year, a few at Christmas as well. He takes them to his rifle club for practice. "
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"So my daughter is in her final week of school before here exams. When did leaving school become such a massive faff and an unbelievable expense for the parents.
Firstly there’s the Prom! It’s been a constant topic of conversation for months. The expensive dress, hair, makeup. The parties the after prom parties. Not to mention a suitable vehicle to deliver them to prom. Presents for 12 Teachers, arts and crafts designed outfits for the last day, oh and a leavers hoodie!! When did that become a thing?
I know I’m going to sound like an old bastard but I remember that when I left school we wrote on each other’s shirts, got out of there as quickly as possible headed up town for a Wimpy and a can of Castlemaine XXXX. I think there might have been a disco in the school hall but I didn’t go. "
Mmmmmm Wimpy |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
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Prom is just a name. I finished high school in SA in 1985, and the Matric Dance was an established rite of passage, even then. That was just a Prom by another name. Did you not have those in the UK?
I'm more than happy for the kids to celebrate with all of these rituals. My daughter finished in 2020 - no Prom (we'd already bought the dress, too), no leavers' muck-up day, no school prizegiving, no gifts and farewells to much-loved teachers. I felt very sad for her as her school years just melted away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My Daughter just had the prom. Party in the school and nothing else apart from dressing up.
Present for one teacher.
Love the Hoodie idea. She still wears hers now. |
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We always had a winter and Summer ball at my school for all years, but it was only an event within the senior part of the school. Alcohol limited but we managed to sneak in our own. The final summer ball was renamed leavers ball for the older seniors, dinner party followed by a disco and a grope of.your crush and a snog if you were lucky.
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Our place heavily subsidises tickets so pupils don't have to pay through points earned. They're very easy to get so just go for nothing. I appreciate the everything else is expensive though. Year book, hoodies. It goes on and on. Most stay on at the 6th form with the same bunch of people too 🤷♀️
But maybe I'm just miserable. I never went for stuff like that myself! |
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I never attended my last day of school, I just went out on the bike for a couple of hours. I didn't bother with the school disco, as it was called back then.
I couldn't wait to get out of that place. |
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"So my daughter is in her final week of school before here exams. When did leaving school become such a massive faff and an unbelievable expense for the parents.
Firstly there’s the Prom! It’s been a constant topic of conversation for months. The expensive dress, hair, makeup. The parties the after prom parties. Not to mention a suitable vehicle to deliver them to prom. Presents for 12 Teachers, arts and crafts designed outfits for the last day, oh and a leavers hoodie!! When did that become a thing?
I know I’m going to sound like an old bastard but I remember that when I left school we wrote on each other’s shirts, got out of there as quickly as possible headed up town for a Wimpy and a can of Castlemaine XXXX. I think there might have been a disco in the school hall but I didn’t go. "
One of my work mates, had to share the cos of hiring a helicoptor to take his kids to the school prom. |
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"So my daughter is in her final week of school before here exams. When did leaving school become such a massive faff and an unbelievable expense for the parents.
Firstly there’s the Prom! It’s been a constant topic of conversation for months. The expensive dress, hair, makeup. The parties the after prom parties. Not to mention a suitable vehicle to deliver them to prom. Presents for 12 Teachers, arts and crafts designed outfits for the last day, oh and a leavers hoodie!! When did that become a thing?
I know I’m going to sound like an old bastard but I remember that when I left school we wrote on each other’s shirts, got out of there as quickly as possible headed up town for a Wimpy and a can of Castlemaine XXXX. I think there might have been a disco in the school hall but I didn’t go.
One of my work mates, had to share the cos of hiring a helicoptor to take his kids to the school prom."
The best I've ever seen is the kid who turned up on his nan's mobility scooter |
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"Wait until there is kindergarten graduation. It never stops.
It’s already here. My nephew had a nursery graduation. They had a flat cap and gown for the kids to have their picture taken in and everything! "
Yes my grandson did. It was very cute |
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Slight tangent... The last company I worked for got bought out a couple of years ago, and knowing that the employees would either be made redundant or absorbed into the huge machine that was the new business, someone came up with the wonderful idea of leavers hoodies for the employees. I wear my regularly and it fills me with great memories.
But maybe cos I went to a single sex school (yes I'm that old!) we didn't have any kind of leavers disco or party - at least not one that I went to! We were all given a commemorative mug and signed each others shirts and then went home. We didn't even go back to school to pick up our results as the local authority had sold the building and land and the bulldozers went in a week after we left, ready to pave the way for a new housing estate. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
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"So my daughter is in her final week of school before here exams. When did leaving school become such a massive faff and an unbelievable expense for the parents.
Firstly there’s the Prom! It’s been a constant topic of conversation for months. The expensive dress, hair, makeup. The parties the after prom parties. Not to mention a suitable vehicle to deliver them to prom. Presents for 12 Teachers, arts and crafts designed outfits for the last day, oh and a leavers hoodie!! When did that become a thing?
I know I’m going to sound like an old bastard but I remember that when I left school we wrote on each other’s shirts, got out of there as quickly as possible headed up town for a Wimpy and a can of Castlemaine XXXX. I think there might have been a disco in the school hall but I didn’t go.
One of my work mates, had to share the cos of hiring a helicoptor to take his kids to the school prom."
Oh, one of my daughter's classmates arrived for their Year 11 Prom in a helicopter her dad had chartered. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I think my kids got something decent from Primark and one of the parents did the driving in a sports car owned. You have to let your kids know that you are bringing them up your way, not their way or their friends parents way, but starting that conversation at 15 isn’t gonna be easy. They will thank you for it though. I actually got called into the school once when I banned homework in my house 😂 |
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school disco for us but was held before the exams started in july
one issue though if you left in easter there was no school disco whilst the rest could goto it.
whilst we could call the school disco a prom im glad it wasnt called that.
but that day was also a dress in what you want day and pay to do so as well.
there was no expense unless you wanted to do, same with the hair and makeup. |
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