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Straight away being asked to move onto WhatsApp or Telegram
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It always feels a bit "scammy" when somebody insists on moving straight away. I always decline and insist on a bit more back and forth here before moving anywhere else.
Too many scam artists or even folk trying to sell content on here these days |
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"It always feels a bit "scammy" when somebody insists on moving straight away. I always decline and insist on a bit more back and forth here before moving anywhere else.
Too many scam artists or even folk trying to sell content on here these days"
Oh I didn't know that. I always felt like it wasn't a good idea because of scams but I didn't know what type they might be. |
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Just say no kids 😎
Here is perfectly fine.
Unless/until plans to make plans be being thought of in an abstract, maybe, will we, won't we kinda way.
Then I would shift to somewhere that has notifications switched on. Give it a little bit more of my attention. |
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I recently had that here and did, everything seemed to be fine then suddenly quiet and the telegram name changed to a totally different one. No response to anything, blocked and moved on just didn't smell right |
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Probably nothing sinister at all.
A lot of people live on whatsapp and never bother answering ordinary phone calls or text messages.
Effectively,! Seldom bother staying in touch with them any more as I have no intention of moving there to join them.
With me, there is less concern over the urgency of moving there than there is over being there at all.
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"I don't chat off here unless arranging a meet and that's after chatting/flirting for a while.... I cba to block on 50 different apps 😂"
Same here. I don't give away my phone number unless it's the day of the meet or the day before, so they can contact me in case of emergency. |
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I prefer to message on
WhatsApp , it’s just so much easier. If I’m talking to somebody should be on a few messages it’s normally because there’s a mutual interest people that don’t use WhatsApp typically are not for me. |
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It’s hard to build up a connection 3/4 ways on here - it feels like you’re on dial-up internet, waiting for a reply and if it’s a couple wondering which one has replied.
If we feel the conversation is going well and there’s a connection then we ask to take it away from FAB…it makes a difference to us, as we can see how invested people are and they can also see how much each one of us replies.
We don’t share numbers so it’s telegram and we’ve never scammed anyone…
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"It’s hard to build up a connection 3/4 ways on here - it feels like you’re on dial-up internet, waiting for a reply and if it’s a couple wondering which one has replied.
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Yeah, it’s probably one of the worst platforms for messaging there is. Limited media types rubbish message management, no app , no notifications, it really is like going back 20 years in time |
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"I don't chat off here unless arranging a meet and that's after chatting/flirting for a while.... I cba to block on 50 different apps 😂
Same here. I don't give away my phone number unless it's the day of the meet or the day before, so they can contact me in case of emergency. "
Even when I'm meeting I don't share my phone number   |
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I think many guys feel they’ll get undivided attention if you move to whatsapp or telegram etc- truth is that I forget who they are and the chat dies over there- whereas when I am online here, I truly *am* here and would be able to chat… on whatsapp I wouldn’t be so “available” so to speak.
I have never been scammed or attempted to scam me *touch wood* long may it continue |
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"I don't chat off here unless arranging a meet and that's after chatting/flirting for a while.... I cba to block on 50 different apps 😂
Same here. I don't give away my phone number unless it's the day of the meet or the day before, so they can contact me in case of emergency.
Even when I'm meeting I don't share my phone number "
Unrelated, but …
JAYSUS WOMAN, THAT PHOTO!!!! 🤤 🤤 🌷 ❤️
☎️ xx  |
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FAB is everything I want it to be without moving the conversation to anywhere else, often get some saying they have ran out of messages (I’ve never ran out?) then there’s those who send a phone no in their first message |
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Just to clarify - we wouldn’t go onto a different platform without chatting for a while on here and exchanging face pics.
No point getting on telegram and realising there’s no attraction.
We like to meet early if there’s an attraction and connection to see if that’s there in person too.
We’ve never thought of anyone being part of a scam - as we only chat to verified users and not randoms. |
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I won't share my mobile and it's important to remember that WhatsApp and fb are now sharing data so....
Not an option for privacy reasons.
Telegram is better than others since you can choose to restrict who sees your mobile. |
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"WhatsApp... I always say no. How do you feel about it?
If you have done it how has it worked out for you?
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Takes me a good while to go to WhatsApp, I'm just not ready to have them move into my phone that quickly
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"I think it always goes a bit stale when moved to whatsapp"
My process behind moving to WhatsApp means the 'situation' is progressing, getting to know them better before we met - I've had a few move to WhatsApp but only one ended up in a 'situation'
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"I don't chat off here unless arranging a meet and that's after chatting/flirting for a while.... I cba to block on 50 different apps 😂
Same here. I don't give away my phone number unless it's the day of the meet or the day before, so they can contact me in case of emergency.
Even when I'm meeting I don't share my phone number
Unrelated, but …
JAYSUS WOMAN, THAT PHOTO!!!! 🤤 🤤 🌷 ❤️
☎️ xx "
🙈🙈🙈 Oh God I don't think it will be up for long 😁😁 it's far too risque for my PG profile  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 11 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Theres little reason to move to a different platform to chat. Its here or nothing.
"Its easier" they claim."
It can be, especially for couples where you can have 3/4 way conversations where you can see who's commenting.
But as always, it's personal choice when and if you take things off site. Nobody NEEDS to do anything they're not happy with and you can always say no.
Personally it's only ever something I/we've done when looking to progress things with someone we've established interest with on here to make planning meets easier and contact swifter. People aren't always logged on to Fab but a ping on a message app tends to get noticed and picked up more promptly.
And much like here, you can easily block someone should there be a need. 🤷♂️ |
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We always move over to whatsapp once we've established were all compatible.
Messaging on here when couples are trying to get to know each other is a pain in the arse. Its slow and feels clunky.
Plus you never really know who's talking.
Whatsapp is far superior.
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Typically it's weeks or a month/s or so after initial contact AND on the behest of the other person if we're both ready; I never instigate it.
Recently, as an exception, I suggested moving onto to Telegram. There was context behind it: I wanted to share photographs that I took on a smartphone photography workshop that I attended. It was the more convenient option. |
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By *eliWoman 11 weeks ago
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I've never been asked to move straight away. Generally it's a few weeks, sometimes months. It depends on how we communicate, some people the conversation style works better on Fab. Others away from. |
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I'm happy to move platforms if we're chatting well, but have never initiated it myself, don't want to put any pressure on anyone. Some of the messaging platforms out there are better suited to chatting. I've recently been introduced to Telegram which seems very secure, phone number can be withheld, it will notify if the other user downloads a copy of your picture or video and media can set to auto destruct (disappears from the chat) as soon as the other person has viewed it |
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By *dalisqueWoman 11 weeks ago
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I have no issue moving to WhatsApp if someone is intriguing enough.
I lose messages too quickly on here .
I have never had a bad experience & i enjoy the voice notes,videocalls & fluidity of chat.
Unsolicited garden videos is the worst it has ever been.😅 |
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It depends at what stage messaging has gotten to. This is a sex site, you're not vetting life partners here.
That said, we'd say the point where we'd expect more direct comms is when we've actually set a date and place for a meet.
There's a lot of time wasters on here but from our experience of trying pushing for contact or WhatsApp numbers early isn't a good the best filter. We can certainly understand why some people try it though as time wasters are frustrating. |
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Know the person well enough 1st.
I know a lady off here who had her number put on a public forum site by a guy she turned down for sex. He put her number there as a call girl and she got flooded with messages and had to change her number.
Be safe and have fun you sexy lot. |
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"Know the person well enough 1st.
I know a lady off here who had her number put on a public forum site by a guy she turned down for sex. He put her number there as a call girl and she got flooded with messages and had to change her number.
Be safe and have fun you sexy lot. "
Wow he's a nice guy then! How awful! |
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"The last time I downloaded telegram I found my family are on there so it’s a no no now 
You can stop it from suggesting contacts"
oh right because my son & his partner are on it maybe I’ll take another look at it thanks |
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"I’ve never been convinced there’s any advantage moving to another messaging platform.
It’s fine on here. "
I like to swap phone numbers if I've arranged to meet someone. I won't open fab if I'm out and about |
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I've had a few messages in the last couple of months from women looking to move the chat to an external app.
I don't have the app and told them I had deleted all chat apps because I wasn't using them and I don't swap phone numbers with anyone I haven't met at least a couple of times.
Strangely enough that seems enough to put them off and I don't hear from them again even though they were extremely keen to chat beforehand.
These were women with more verifications than I have and who are very active on the site. |
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"The last time I downloaded telegram I found my family are on there so it’s a no no now
You can stop it from suggesting contacts oh right because my son & his partner are on it maybe I’ll take another look at it thanks "
When you start the registration it asks if you want to sync your contacts - say no to that and no one will know you’re on it.
Telegram gets used for many things so it’s not a seedy chat site…I’m in a chat group that has nothing to do with sex 😇 |
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"Know the person well enough 1st.
I know a lady off here who had her number put on a public forum site by a guy she turned down for sex. He put her number there as a call girl and she got flooded with messages and had to change her number.
Be safe and have fun you sexy lot. "
I know quite a few men who used to be regular users of the lounge and the Irish forum who are no longer here because they refused to have sex with certain women and had their names, phone numbers and fab details posted on social media by the coven. |
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I'm only happy to move once comfortable the conversation will last and the rapport is genuine (although have had chats die following the move over and found that may not have been the case)
I do much prefer Telegram though, for the fact voicenotes are a godsend (cos I can waffle a fair bit and it's easier to talk than type!), GIF's are the worlds funniest form of communication, and photo's (not just the filth) are a better quality.
But also, this text box on here is shocking; the amount of times I've lost three or four paragraphs of writing just from a doubletouch of the screen, or minimising the window and reopening it; drives me nuts! |
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"The last time I downloaded telegram I found my family are on there so it’s a no no now
You can stop it from suggesting contacts oh right because my son & his partner are on it maybe I’ll take another look at it thanks
When you start the registration it asks if you want to sync your contacts - say no to that and no one will know you’re on it.
Telegram gets used for many things so it’s not a seedy chat site…I’m in a chat group that has nothing to do with sex 😇"
 thanks |
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I done it once next thing I know small amounts of money coming off my PayPal account giving ur phone number makes access easier to scam you deleted PayPal and now will only add people I know with confidence |
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"I done it once next thing I know small amounts of money coming off my PayPal account giving ur phone number makes access easier to scam you deleted PayPal and now will only add people I know with confidence "
We don't give our number out - you don't have to with Telegram, just a username. It's not connected in anyway to PayPal. I've used it for 6 years without a single problem.
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As a couple on here, or when chatting with a couple, it's really difficult to ascertain who's chatting.
For this reason, we do like to move the chat over to a group chat, like Telegram, once everyone is happy. It's just easier to have dynamic conversations and all know who's talking.
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I just say no and leave. My profile clearly states I don't chat elsewhere, so just confirms that they either haven't bothered to read it, or think it doesn't apply to them. Neither really make me want to continue chatting. |
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I would never use WhatsApp or give my number (learnt the hard way with that) but I do use telegram for those I have chatted to for a while and have a rapport with or am meeting. Never straight away as I like to keep my telegram inbox light. |
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For me, what is great about not being on whatsapp is that I don't have to keep in touch with people when they go abroad.
My phone deals are UK only.
'FaF today?' text messages work fine with my ad hoc lifestyle! |
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"We use telegram to share pics that can't be saved or screenshoted. We never use WhatsApp and don't feel comfortable giving our our numbers"
This for me too, can keep my number private so telegram works |
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By *usty kayWoman 11 weeks ago
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If its someone I have interest in staying in touch with then I much prefer moving to another platform. Messaging on here is awful when in the middle of a conversation.
Also if I'm talking to just one person I get a wall of yellow because I'm online and I feel the pressure to read them all when all I want to do is either respond to a message or check if the last one has been responded to.
Far easier elsewhere. You also can't call from here and I do like to speak to someone before taking it further.
If the app develops ever turn this place into a real messaging app then I'd keep it all in one place but until then I will continue using here as a screening place before moving elsewhere |
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By *agic.MMan 11 weeks ago
Orpington |
If there's mutual interest from the start, it's better for me to move on to telegram or whaatsapp, as I use telegram mostly for fab meets, and I have a second whaatsapp that I use only for these type of encounters, which cannot be traced back to any of my personal information. I noticed that conversations on fab rapidly loose engagement due to the "ping pong" dynamic (they send a message, than 2 hours pass you send a message, than back and forth until it just becomes boring) and I prefer real time conversations and engagements...plus the only way you can know someone is not fake or a scammer, is if you facetime them. I say have a platform that you can use for real time conversations and videocalls (but do not have any of your personal information) and move away from fab as soon as possible, if you actually want to meet someone- the more time you spend on fab messaging with someone the less likely it is you will actually meet. |
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Send me your snap/telegram/kik or WhatsApp!
One: I'm nearly 40 years old I don't use snap or even have it, two; don't have half these chat apps, and 3: why would we even move to WhatsApp after a "few" messages 🤔 |
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It's a no from me
I don't have a 'fuck phone'
Pre any first meets, I wouldn't communicate any other way than via here
Once we have met, that changes should my gut tell me you're OK
I've not been wrong yet (there is always a first time though ) |
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I only like an easy life, despite sometimes doing things that counter that 
Keeping things here, until likely about to meet, keeps things much easier.
Some clueless hair brained idea to get off site immediately doesn't cut it, it just adds complexity for no good reason for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"I always say no. How do you feel about it?
If you have done it how has it worked out for you?
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I (Bev) have a 'fab phone' that I use purely for WhatsApp conversations.
I find conversations stumble on here for all the reasons mentioned above.
I do not however move straight there. If I see potential for a meet after we've been conversing on here, I'll switch.
It actually works well for me. I like to know someone before I give up my free time to meet.
WhatsApp is a great filter let me know whobis genuinely interested and who just wants to get their rocks off |
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"It always feels a bit "scammy" when somebody insists on moving straight away. I always decline and insist on a bit more back and forth here before moving anywhere else.
Too many scam artists or even folk trying to sell content on here these days"
Indeed, been badly affected by a scammer from here. Don't ever give out phone numbers unless totally totally sure that they are genuine and resoectful |
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It really annoys me when people want to move onto other platforms right away. It's hard keeping up with lots of different conversations on lots of different platforms. Some want telegram, some want WhatsApp, some want discord. Never Snapchat (they definitely just want some wank fodder). I find a lot of the time it's because they just want your undivided attention.
If I feel early on that I like someone and I'm enjoying the conversation I will move across elsewhere, but I usually like to chat and get to know someone on here first before deciding that. If there's an indication of wanting to meet up and arrange plans then I'm also happy to move elsewhere. But when the opener or second/third message is asking then sorry its a no ⛔ |
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I got a message today asking them to message on telegram, out of boredom I relplied on telegram, they then proceded to ask me to like and follow their cousin's youtube channel about fairgrounds because "he is having a hard time"
Very odd, blocked on both telegram and here
But in general I much prefer to communicate on here, possibly after a successful social I would be inclined to use other platforms |
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"I always say no. How do you feel about it?
If you have done it how has it worked out for you?
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It means they want to wank and they expect you to provide them with photos and videos over those apps.
Every. Single. Time. |
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"I got a message today asking them to message on telegram, out of boredom I relplied on telegram, they then proceded to ask me to like and follow their cousin's youtube channel about fairgrounds because "he is having a hard time"
Very odd, blocked on both telegram and here
But in general I much prefer to communicate on here, possibly after a successful social I would be inclined to use other platforms"
That’s hilarious  |
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This has probably already been said but the thread is too long. On WhatsApp, access is via a phone number. You have probably already given them your first name. A google on both may well give them more info, particularly if you are self employed. With more information they may find you on Facebook. It doesn't take a lot to find people on here and extort or just simply sell your details on to scammers. |
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I tend to politely decline, ask if we can talk here for a couple more days first. If they agree, that's great, and you can swap numbers later if you're feeling it. If they kick off, or ignore/block you, then congrats for dodging a potential bullet XD |
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