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By *inx000 OP Couple 10 weeks ago
Manchester |
Sorry for the boring post but I just wanted to ask how has being on Fab affected you?I hope most of you have managed to find what you were looking for or even had the chance to make new friends and good connections with people you can keep in touch with regularly as that's what this site is supposed to be all about isn't it?!
Sadly for me I feel it isn't what it used to be.
Getting fed up of wasting my efforts on too many time wasters and fakes.
When you do find someone you think is genuine to talk to you just ignored or blocked straight away.
Taking some time out away from it all!
Good luck to everyone on here finding what you are looking for as I know it's more difficult for some but for those that are happy with what they've found on fab I hope it continues and you have fun exploring the world of Fab.
If we have spoken before and you would like to keep in touch please DM me  |
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I found some early connections that were very formative in shaping my journey and experiences.
I've had highs and lows along the way ... Including an early realization that a large majority of men (#notall) were just picture collectors and I was definitely too naive to understand that ...there are pictures that I would not have sent now I'm older and wiser 
Along the way I've formed some trusted friendships and relationships and its also given me both the best and worst moments of my life... But I wouldn't change any of it.
I'm 55 in a few weeks so will probably start to step back a bit - it's really nice seeing some of the newbies finding their feet and bringing a fresh approach
Overall fab has been a really positive experience for me, with a lot of personal growth |
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Met some great folks I wouldn't have otherwise, opened my mind a bit to some different kinks and ways to enjoy sex. Chatted shit with some nice people. Built my confidence, reflected on myself how I come across, etx |
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By *bi HaiveMan 10 weeks ago
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I've always said if Fab isn't working for anyone then take a break or leave. Why put time and effort into something that isn't producing the results you desire? Why let something optional get you down or stressed?
I took a break for a few years once, with only the occasional lurk in the forums. Served its purpose and I came back when ready.
Life's too short to spend time focusing on things that don't make you happy. 🤷♂️ |
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"I've always said if Fab isn't working for anyone then take a break or leave. Why put time and effort into something that isn't producing the results you desire? Why let something optional get you down or stressed?
I took a break for a few years once, with only the occasional lurk in the forums. Served its purpose and I came back when ready.
Life's too short to spend time focusing on things that don't make you happy. 🤷♂️"
Exactly this. I've been let down so many times. Took numerous breaks and always come back with an evergrowing enthusiasm |
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Well I was chatting with someone yesterday, been talking for a bit. Got to the face pics bit. She said I look too young and then blocked. Just like that. Wasn't offended. Glad I look younger than I am. But still... fab can be tough and harsh at times. |
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"Well I was chatting with someone yesterday, been talking for a bit. Got to the face pics bit. She said I look too young and then blocked. Just like that. Wasn't offended. Glad I look younger than I am. But still... fab can be tough and harsh at times. "
That's one of those good problems mate. |
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I've made some great friends through fab in the 9 years I've been here and it has mostly been a positive experience.
I've never had my time wasted or had a no show but I have chatted to people who haven't been as genuine as they pretended to be.
I've had my friendship abused and used to further their climb up the fab ladder by passing my personal details to those they wish to make an impression with.
Real life has always taken priority so for that reason I haven't been meeting for 5 years now but I have become more cynical as time passes due to the words and actions of some who will literally do and say anything to remain relevant.
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For me its left me feeling pretty crap tbh.
My husband and I don't really have sex anymore, sometimes we have intimate moments but because of health issues sex doesn't happen. He doesn't mind me meeting other men and in the past he's met other women so I have the option .. however the men normally go silent after sex. I'm not after much but when there's lots of communication before then after they have sex they don't even send a friendly good to meet u.. thanks for last night or anything just silent its left me feeling pretty shit.
Then there's the users who try and borrow money or are all take never offer anything in return like half on a hotel room or whatever |
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"For me its left me feeling pretty crap tbh.
My husband and I don't really have sex anymore, sometimes we have intimate moments but because of health issues sex doesn't happen. He doesn't mind me meeting other men and in the past he's met other women so I have the option .. however the men normally go silent after sex. I'm not after much but when there's lots of communication before then after they have sex they don't even send a friendly good to meet u.. thanks for last night or anything just silent its left me feeling pretty shit.
Then there's the users who try and borrow money or are all take never offer anything in return like half on a hotel room or whatever "
There's users who actually try to borrow money? Damn 😐😐 |
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"Ask not what fab has done for you but what you can do for fab 😉
It's just a bit of fun.
Can't be making it a pillar of your life."
I relate to this, when I read a profile I look for that balance of what someone has to offer and their wants too. If it's just a list of wants and donts, the interest fades.
Met some lovely people, had some great laughs, learnt a lot on the forums about the breadth and width of people's views and personalities. That has grounded my perception of life a lot more. I certainly feel better informed and sexually enriched.
Good memories, good people, good laughs. |
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"Sorry for the boring post but I just wanted to ask how has being on Fab affected you?I hope most of you have managed to find what you were looking for or even had the chance to make new friends and good connections with people you can keep in touch with regularly as that's what this site is supposed to be all about isn't it?!
Sadly for me I feel it isn't what it used to be.
Getting fed up of wasting my efforts on too many time wasters and fakes.
When you do find someone you think is genuine to talk to you just ignored or blocked straight away.
Taking some time out away from it all!
Good luck to everyone on here finding what you are looking for as I know it's more difficult for some but for those that are happy with what they've found on fab I hope it continues and you have fun exploring the world of Fab.
If we have spoken before and you would like to keep in touch please DM me "
Sorry you're having a hard time of it. Having break at least should help with the frustration. I hope you find what you're looking for later if you come back. |
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Genuinely? Fab has made me aware of who I am, my needs, my desires, and that I’m not alone in what I seek. It’s been liberating and has encouraged my self-acceptance. It’s also sparked many conversations with Mr about ourselves and our relationship, and we are able to be more honest and open with each other than ever.
I know, pass the sick bucket. I’m not saying fab is a perfect place but it’s been a catalyst for many good things in my life.
Mrs TMN x |
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Ive friends that met over 20 years ago, that are so special, Met some lovely single and couples, as a much older male can say whatever age or needs are, there are some very genuine people on here, besides the so called key board wankers. So my thanks to fabs for giving me a life that is so good for me |
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"Genuinely? Fab has made me aware of who I am, my needs, my desires, and that I’m not alone in what I seek. It’s been liberating and has encouraged my self-acceptance. It’s also sparked many conversations with Mr about ourselves and our relationship, and we are able to be more honest and open with each other than ever.
I know, pass the sick bucket. I’m not saying fab is a perfect place but it’s been a catalyst for many good things in my life.
Mrs TMN x"
I'd just like to echo what Mrs TMN said, really... 🤷♀️
I'd also add that I've met, and have stayed in touch with some wonderful people that I didn't know I needed in my life. 🫶 |
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"Genuinely? Fab has made me aware of who I am, my needs, my desires, and that I’m not alone in what I seek. It’s been liberating and has encouraged my self-acceptance. It’s also sparked many conversations with Mr about ourselves and our relationship, and we are able to be more honest and open with each other than ever.
I know, pass the sick bucket. I’m not saying fab is a perfect place but it’s been a catalyst for many good things in my life.
Mrs TMN x
I'd just like to echo what Mrs TMN said, really... 🤷♀️
I'd also add that I've met, and have stayed in touch with some wonderful people that I didn't know I needed in my life. 🫶"
Yes, very much this too! X |
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"Enjoy your break OP  "
^happy to see them leave.
Op, take a break, have a Kit-Kat
I think someone said above, do t wait for Fab to be good to you, what can you give fab?
I’ve gone to socials and made the effort to put myself out there and been lucky to make some good contacts.
There’s lots of negative people which will in turn bring negative experiences. We need to avoid these. |
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Like midnight said (I think it was midnight!) most of my connections were made years ago and some I still see now. Not sure if it’s my age or if I’m fussier, I dunno, but I just can’t seem to find anyone compatible these days.
Enjoy your break lovely, I’ve taken loads of breaks in the past. I’m probably not on here enough to need a break these days tbh xxx |
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"Introduced my partner to a man she fell in love with and left me for. Destroyed my relationship with her, broke up our family home and did the same to his family"
thats not fabs fault thats down to you and your partner |
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By *ripfillMan 10 weeks ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
For me it’s given me confidence again, plus to see in colour
I have met some lovely people on here - one lady I need to say a special thank you too ( and have numerous times! )
It’s a bit addictive however and I feel it’s an enhancement to one’s life so sorry OP you have been let down, and been faked too …
That’s ineffective bad for everyone
Good luck OP XX BIG hug just at the moment from Cyprus but back to Hampshire soon |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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Met some hot guys
Met some not so hot guys
Fucked some hot guys, and some not so hot guys
On a whole, there was hot guys involved so it's been pretty good. I like I can attract guys that wouldn't normally look twice at me. Those I talk generally always stay. Or leave and come back. Again and again. |
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"apart from the opening two lines of the song*, I'd say the lyrics to Frank Sinatra's "My Way" pretty much cover it!
*cos I'm not finished yet"
Is the tea made yet though.... enquiring minds wanna know. And is that milk in mine, or.... |
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I've had some nice chats with some nice people.
That said, in the... many years I've been on and off this site, I've only met two people, and probably only really chatting with 4 or 5.
Mostly what FAB has done for me, is the same that Tinder and apps like that have done... they've helped me feel more unappealing and inadequate! 😂 |
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"I've had some nice chats with some nice people.
That said, in the... many years I've been on and off this site, I've only met two people, and probably only really chatting with 4 or 5.
Mostly what FAB has done for me, is the same that Tinder and apps like that have done... they've helped me feel more unappealing and inadequate! 😂 "
That's sad. You are definitely not unappealing you just must get lost in the crowd. |
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Met some lovely people, some of whom have become close friends, led to a chat with someone that allowed me to recoup thousands of pounds, and allowed me to experience sexual experiences that I thought only existed in fantasies.
And it's not done yet.
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"Sorry for the boring post but I just wanted to ask how has being on Fab affected you?I hope most of you have managed to find what you were looking for or even had the chance to make new friends and good connections with people you can keep in touch with regularly as that's what this site is supposed to be all about isn't it?!
Sadly for me I feel it isn't what it used to be.
Getting fed up of wasting my efforts on too many time wasters and fakes.
When you do find someone you think is genuine to talk to you just ignored or blocked straight away.
Taking some time out away from it all!
Good luck to everyone on here finding what you are looking for as I know it's more difficult for some but for those that are happy with what they've found on fab I hope it continues and you have fun exploring the world of Fab.
If we have spoken before and you would like to keep in touch please DM me "
Not a boring post at all. I joined fab in the beginning when I read married and soon my wife got involved too. After 7 years we divorced for other reasons.
I had several nets on here and dating sites and met people and loved it.
A few years later I met another lady socially and found her profile on here, so we hooked up and ended up as a couple also with an open relationship.
This lady wanted to party a lot abs eventually it split us amicably.
As I'm much older and fab has changed a lot it's harder to meet now and my priorities in life have changed. But I like the chat, forums etc so I stay around.  |
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"I've had some nice chats with some nice people.
That said, in the... many years I've been on and off this site, I've only met two people, and probably only really chatting with 4 or 5.
Mostly what FAB has done for me, is the same that Tinder and apps like that have done... they've helped me feel more unappealing and inadequate! 😂
That's sad. You are definitely not unappealing you just must get lost in the crowd. "
That's very kind of you to say.
I guess I don't really stand out. Specially as we men vastly outnumber you ladies! |
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On the whole I would say my experience has been really positive. I have met some really lovely people over the years, some from my very early Fab days I still keep in touch with. I’ve had some amazing meets, some suboptimal ones but none I regret (apart from the guy who then became a stalker). The biggest triumph is finding a wing woman who has become a friend and daily check in.
There are of course a handful of time wasters and quite a number of not rights but you just move on. I only stay active until I get bored and then will take a break for a while and come back with a refreshed hunger … and so the cycle begins again. |
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"Mostly what FAB has done for me, is the same that Tinder and apps like that have done... they've helped me feel more unappealing and inadequate!
Same. "
Speaking as someone who feels unappealing and inadequate all the time, I would politely suggest that fab is merely a facilitator. Get out and go to socials and clubs. Connect with people in the real world who also inhabit fab. Engage in more forums and don't let it get you down when you get ignored.
I get ignored lots on here. Remember, someone will see you, for good or ill, and who knows where it will lead.
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"Mostly what FAB has done for me, is the same that Tinder and apps like that have done... they've helped me feel more unappealing and inadequate!
Same.
Speaking as someone who feels unappealing and inadequate all the time, I would politely suggest that fab is merely a facilitator. Get out and go to socials and clubs. Connect with people in the real world who also inhabit fab. Engage in more forums and don't let it get you down when you get ignored.
I get ignored lots on here. Remember, someone will see you, for good or ill, and who knows where it will lead.
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Fab has been great for me. It gave me connections with brilliant people as I became more sexually liberated after my first marriage ended. I also met my current husband through Fab and we have been together for almost 9 years, married for nearly a year.
Together we have met lovely people, and enjoyed ourselves greatly. We are not prolific swingers and these days we are not prolific forum users but that's not because we feel Fab has changed greatly, it's more likely that we have changed. In all honesty we hardly have enough spare time to dedicate to Fab.
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"Met some lovely people, some of whom have become close friends, led to a chat with someone that allowed me to recoup thousands of pounds, and allowed me to experience sexual experiences that I thought only existed in fantasies.
And it's not done yet.
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Bragging again?  |
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I can't say the site has done much for me in terms of meeting someone or making friends. It does provide a distraction when I pop in though.
OP I hope the break from here does you good and then when you return hopefully you'll make connections with a better class of person. |
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I am sorry to hear of your disappointment with the fab experience.
I am not entirely sure what fab is supposed to be about. What you are looking for seems quite reasonable though.
I feel obliged to insert a platitude at this juncture.
Party on dudes - and be excellent to each other. |
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Ooooh… where do I start?
Fab gave me my confidence back, at a time when I really, really needed it.
It’s given me immense pleasure and countless orgasms
And I have met incredible people-though right now it is not as easy as it used to be. But no matter, it’s given me my two best friends in life. One with benefits, one without. 🤭 both muchly loved ❤️🥰 |
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By *icentiousCouple 10 weeks ago
Up on them there hills |
Had a stunning D/s relationship.
L has been able to explore her Bi- side and formed fantastic friends relationships
Used it to follow events in clubs.
allowed us to make contact with people who have like minded interests
Apart from that not much really |
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Fab along with another site help us both get started in the world of swinging some fifteen years ago. We had some great MFM and Couples meets and learnt a lot about ourselves.
As we matured we started to focus on specific things and as time went on we realised it’s not a life to be taken too seriously and to be wide awake to fools, time waster and people who simply shouldn’t be anywhere near this site or swinging.
We have a small number of select friends we can reach out to at home and holidays so we use these platforms less now for meetings.
Overall we have liked the site for how it’s assisted us all these years. We dislike the volume of fools and the how narrow minded many on here can be.
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Strengthened my marriage, made me feel more confident in talking to my wife about not only what I would like to experience but what she would too.
We are very much still a work in progress but if nothing else I no longer feel ashamed or scared in talking to her about desires and fantasies
On the negative side as a tool to beat myself up with not being hung |
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Going to swinging clubs
Meeting lots of new friends
Was straight now bi oral
Done fantasy I have never considered
Enjoy walking around around naked in a clubs and been to a nudist beach and enjoy people looking at me
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By *edSirenWoman 10 weeks ago
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It’s just nice to be part of a community that gets it. There are a few out there that are determined to bring the overall experience down. I’ve had some virtually stalk me, threaten me and also those who try to bring me down a peg 🙄 but to me they’re the tiniest minority and nothing I would take notice of anymore than an annoying fly.
Ive made some true friends via fab, and for that I love it. But even then, it’s just a superfluous part of my social life. Nothing more 🤷🏻♀️ |
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"Well I was chatting with someone yesterday, been talking for a bit. Got to the face pics bit. She said I look too young and then blocked. Just like that. Wasn't offended. Glad I look younger than I am. But still... fab can be tough and harsh at times. "
I had similar.
Met a couple my age (60s)
We had a great evening.
Later she said i looked young for my age...I said i like to feel i look and act much younger ...when I asked to meet again...the male said sorry but the Mrs likes her men to look in their 70s... |
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"Sorry for the boring post but I just wanted to ask how has being on Fab affected you?I hope most of you have managed to find what you were looking for or even had the chance to make new friends and good connections with people you can keep in touch with regularly as that's what this site is supposed to be all about isn't it?!
Sadly for me I feel it isn't what it used to be.
Getting fed up of wasting my efforts on too many time wasters and fakes.
When you do find someone you think is genuine to talk to you just ignored or blocked straight away.
Taking some time out away from it all!
Good luck to everyone on here finding what you are looking for as I know it's more difficult for some but for those that are happy with what they've found on fab I hope it continues and you have fun exploring the world of Fab.
If we have spoken before and you would like to keep in touch please DM me "
We wouldn't be blocking you in a hurry... |
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I've made some fucking amazing friendships, met some awesome people, explored myself and my sexuality in so many ways, had some amazing sexual experiences, become more confident, more outgoing, more willing to ask for what I want, realised it's okay to be a woman who loves sex without shame and I don't have to settle for less than I want. |
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I get it OP, the list of things that need ticking off are endless… plus when I seem to be a good match on paper I don’t get a response (read) but no response or I get a text and reply politely, then nothing..
I have also met some great people but it’s hard for single guys and now it seems couples too.
I always consider giving up but then someone comes through and makes this whole situation worthwhile |
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I've been very pleased with Fab and I've tried all the other obvious sites in the past and come away dis-satisfied. I've met some great people - still am - and having a good amount of fun. Expanded my horizons both socially and sexually. Fabs not perfect but it's fine for me. |
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Made some good friends both online and in person, but for the most part it's confirmed my suspicions that I really don't like people in general and I can't be arsed to fit into a 'box' just to conform to what other people think I ought to be. |
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Gonna be honest, growing up as an openly bi lad was hard as a teenager, a lot of shame, stigma and biphobia and such from all corners, and fab kinda made me feel a little freer in exploring my desires, wants and needs with less stigma and risk than making the wrong move in my offline life, kinda made me appreciate the value of online spaces for people to connect |
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I find it a huge shame people are unable to get something out of this site. And if I'm honest very surprised.
Here you have like minded people. Someone here that would be perfect to hang out with somebody else.
Why bullshit, fake or even be pushy?
You're bound to tick a box with someone. Be honest for starters ..and patience!!
I dont get it. For a lousy fiver and a few pictures, the world is your oyster on here. |
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"I found some early connections that were very formative in shaping my journey and experiences.
I've had highs and lows along the way ... Including an early realization that a large majority of men (#notall) were just picture collectors and I was definitely too naive to understand that ...there are pictures that I would not have sent now I'm older and wiser
Along the way I've formed some trusted friendships and relationships and its also given me both the best and worst moments of my life... But I wouldn't change any of it.
I'm 55 in a few weeks so will probably start to step back a bit - it's really nice seeing some of the newbies finding their feet and bringing a fresh approach
Overall fab has been a really positive experience for me, with a lot of personal growth"
Please dont step away from Fab.
You have a marvelous profile and you look amazing the number 55 is only a number to be ignored |
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We met on here so FAB has completely changed our lives 😍
We’ve also met some amazing people who we will be friends beyond here.
We’ve been to places that we’d never have visited if it wasn’t for FAB.
That said, FAB can completely wear you down. The BS that comes from some people and the deception from some just to meet you is shocking and so it definitely makes you think twice about meeting from here.
Overall though, FAB has been a huge bonus.
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