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By *hechonkyduoCouple 10 weeks ago
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You can use message filters the stop single guys messaging you to start, you can do that then move that bit from the profile.
I know it's frustrating but complaining its hard to get replies can put people off.
Pics are good though.
You could state why you can't accom as well. |
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Look for a thread that was very recent, as in a few hours ago asking similar and have a look at the posts
There was a really great post that I don't want to copy and paste because it's someone else's words but it was good advice.
A lot of people will look at profiles in ninja and if the profile doesn't stand out it just gets passed by
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"Look for a thread that was very recent, as in a few hours ago asking similar and have a look at the posts
There was a really great post that I don't want to copy and paste because it's someone else's words but it was good advice.
A lot of people will look at profiles in ninja and if the profile doesn't stand out it just gets passed by
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The thread is called Unread |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"Thanks messaged like 100 plus women just wondering what I'm doing wrong haha"
You found over a hundred women that match what you're looking for? I struggle to find one guy in a year. |
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OP, have a good look at your profile, is it showing you in the best light it can? Does it tell your potential play partners what you can bring to the party, why they should choose you over the thousands of other guys on here? For me, you are way too young and your Snap/Insta filters are a massive turn off but that's just me. |
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"Anything more just ask" suggests relaxed attitude.
Snap URL link on profile suggests otherwise. I highly doubt any woman would just randomly follow that.
Also (likely personal preference) but an adult using filters on photos like dog ears, devil horns and the like only highlights the fact you're quite young for here which also might make meeting a challenge. |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"Haha no I understand completely lol just the insane amount of messages I've sent that are completely friendly and creep free and I still get nothing "
Press reply and quote so we know who you are replying to.
So all these messages you've found that many women that are of interest to you? Or is any hole a goal? |
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By *dalisqueWoman 10 weeks ago
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"I've been here 3 months and I'm verified thought that would be enough haha "
You are only photo verified,which doesn't mean anything.
The childish filters on pictures & Snapchat link don't help you look adult.
Think about what attracted you to the 100 profiles you messaged & how you would like them to view you.
It really is important.
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"Had a hard time getting a reply from any female's on this site don't know what I'm doing wrong tbh any advice "
Your profile says "only men message me". This can be interpreted as you only want messages from men, not women |
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"Had a hard time getting a reply from any female's on this site don't know what I'm doing wrong tbh any advice "
Honesty, it’s not just you.. visit a club and get known in the circles and engage more on threads but it’s the long game .. just be you and block out the noise my friend  |
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It might seem simple advice but message when they are on line so your message doesn’t fall to 50th in line lol, woman are bombarded and ultimately are going to prioritise what stands out (who wouldn’t). |
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You're potentially doing nothing wrong, if you're selling yourself to the best and we can make a good choice, when we review you.
But most people are not mutually compatible - so 99% of people you like, won't have the same feelings.
As long as you don't have much negativity around you - which puts people off - and you focus on what you can give a partner, you're doing the right thing. It does take significant effort to be invested. |
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OP, dear chap, with respect, your profile is a total car crash.
The first line in your profile simply reiterates your age and location which is already stated in your profile. Your second sentence states "Message if interested...(women only)" - interested in what? You haven't said anything at this stage.
Then you've said "Only men message me". Make up your mind - are you straight or not, are you looking for men or women, or both...?
And...Snapchat? Are you a teenager? Snapchat for what? |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"OP, dear chap, with respect, your profile is a total car crash.
The first line in your profile simply reiterates your age and location which is already stated in your profile. Your second sentence states "Message if interested...(women only)" - interested in what? You haven't said anything at this stage.
Then you've said "Only men message me". Make up your mind - are you straight or not, are you looking for men or women, or both...?
And...Snapchat? Are you a teenager? Snapchat for what?"
I was about to say the same thing
“Only men message me”
For some that may seem you only want men to message you |
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You messaging over a 100 women of all ages gives off the any hole is a goal vibe.
Plus as other ladies have suggested if you have Snapchat you are perhaps not a mature headed guy, or you are not being wholly truthful about your relationship status or perhaps worse.
I would suggest you go to a few socials and clubs and get some verifications from that and make some friends and contacts.Then perhaps you might decide you have some preferences too and can find your people.
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You are doing nothing wrong. It is a simple case of supply and demand. All dating sites have a lot more men than women. A few years ago i made a female account on Plenty of Fish to test this theory. I used one photo of a plain ordinary looking girl, a 6 at best. I didn't even bother to answer the questions or fill in the profile. Within an hour i had over a hundred messages. It would have made no difference what the men put on their profile. There were so many coming in every day that i wouldn't have had time to even look at them. If you want to meet a woman you have to forget about online sites and get out into the real world and approach them. Supermarkets have been successful for me. You can ask where something is or ask cooking advice. Suddenly you are talking to them in an environment where they feel safe. If it leads to a chat you are half way there, if not just move on to the next one. |
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Sorry to say this, but you profile is like a charity shop window, its dull and wishy washy.
It doesn't really say anything about you, who you are, what you want and what you have to offer that sets you apart from the hundreds of single males on here.
Put a little more effort into it, make it interesting.
Ditch the snap and the filters photo |
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Hey Stan! Head off to a social or event and make friends in the community.
I did that many years ago at 28 and never looked back.
Had several profiles on here as a single guy and couples, I never put much weight into it, it's a handy way of keeping in touch with like minded people.
I've a few friends on here and I've made no effort on my profile.
But then again, I'm not here looking for anything so my profile reflects exactly what the profile is meant for.
Does yours, is the question.
Just be yourself, have no expectations. You'll get a lot of people telling you to do this or that, I've yet to see one of them write a book on how to have the best profile on fab but yet they criticise very quickly, like they are experts.
That says a lot about the person. Keep that in mind when reaching out.
Also, there is some really great people on here with profiles that are heavily into the lifestyle that put on events and genuinely help people out.
Make contact with the ones you think where you can be a solid member of the community, local helps.
It's all about building bridges, making friends, having fun, and respect.
Best of luck |
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This is just me, but I find after one or two messages from single guys, they are asking to meet straight away, or the 1st message is asking if I’m free for a meet.
Some haven’t even asked my name or a photo of what I look like. As I meet without the husband, I kind of like a conversation before meets. So if they ask for a meet within a couple of messages, it puts me right off.
That’s just me though.
Good luck xxx |
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"This is just me, but I find after one or two messages from single guys, they are asking to meet straight away, or the 1st message is asking if I’m free for a meet.
Some haven’t even asked my name or a photo of what I look like. As I meet without the husband, I kind of like a conversation before meets. So if they ask for a meet within a couple of messages, it puts me right off.
That’s just me though.
Good luck xxx"
This happens with couples and single females also. |
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" This happens with couples and single females also.
Happens with everyone I guess x"
It does, and this can be confusing for guys fairly new to the site, when I was new I never knew the best way to approach a woman due to this, its only from experience of being on here a while and experience of properly checking a profile that I can now approach a woman with what I think will interest her. |
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"Thanks mate qnd yeah I could put more effort into my profile tbh which is what most of thr women that replied to this thread have said "
Well you have had 17 hours worth of advice and I'm thinking you have not amended it yet. |
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By *inetyz OP Man 10 weeks ago
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"What does that do
It let's us know who you are replying to
Just start typing after the last ]
Oh ok thank you didn't know
It's a lot easier to reply directly to a person that posts in a thread "
Yeah most definitely thank you 😊 |
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