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Before people start, I know socials aren't for everyone and some of you like to just get straight down to business...
But those of us who like a social to kick things off, what makes the perfect social for you?
Drinks? Coffee? A walk in the park? Quick trip to aldi to check out the middle aisle? Three course dinner?
Enlighten me. |
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"Before people start, I know socials aren't for everyone and some of you like to just get straight down to business...
But those of us who like a social to kick things off, what makes the perfect social for you?
Drinks? Coffee? A walk in the park? Quick trip to aldi to check out the middle aisle? Three course dinner?
Enlighten me. "
Honeslty food. 🤣
And drink is a second 😁
Zoo too! |
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"Before people start, I know socials aren't for everyone and some of you like to just get straight down to business...
But those of us who like a social to kick things off, what makes the perfect social for you?
Drinks? Coffee? A walk in the park? Quick trip to aldi to check out the middle aisle? Three course dinner?
Enlighten me. "
I always prefer drinks, I think it’s because I can get a little more dressed up😇 pretty dress and heels to make a killer first impression 🔥😝
I want a social for all the fab forum girls some night.. wine and giggles please..😇❤️ |
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Really depends on who it's with. Some people seem more suited to a drink in a pub than they do a walk along the river.
With socials I usually do a drink in a pub or a cafe. Mostly because I don't want to overcommit my time to someone where things might be uncomfortable. I like a time limit to get out of there. |
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As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess.  |
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I don't drink but a nice NA beer somewhere or a coffee is always nice, something low stakes, I love dining out but can be difficult for a first date if you don't click and you're both sat there awkwardly eating profiteroles lmao |
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess. "
What if they are a read every bit of text next to every exhibit or painting kind of person? Or one of those let me take a picture of everything they see person? And you're stuck. |
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By *dalisqueWoman 8 weeks ago
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I have had quite a few beach socials, obviously during nicer weather.
Swimming,frolicking,bbq,wine drinking & appreciating the sunset was a particular favourite , although it is the company that makes it.
Anything with the right person makes it fun & exciting 🩵 |
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I’ve done a mixture of coffee shops, bars, hotel bars, walks, picnic … all depends on the person and the lead up. Tend to leave a more intimate encounter to the second meeting; although I sometimes waive that rule. |
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By *aizyWoman 8 weeks ago
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess. "
I'd go to The Serial Killer Exhibition with you Pickles. |
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"I like a social in a hotel bar, if the spark is there up to a room!"
I don't do just a social but I do this.Though to be honest after a rum or 2 I'm anyone's. |
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"Before people start, I know socials aren't for everyone and some of you like to just get straight down to business...
But those of us who like a social to kick things off, what makes the perfect social for you?
Drinks? Coffee? A walk in the park? Quick trip to aldi to check out the middle aisle? Three course dinner?
Enlighten me.
I always prefer drinks, I think it’s because I can get a little more dressed up😇 pretty dress and heels to make a killer first impression 🔥😝
I want a social for all the fab forum girls some night.. wine and giggles please..😇❤️"
Yep it's always nice to get dressed up and make an effort, but it can be disappointing when you get there and they're dressed super casual like they've just nipped out for some milk got to make sure you're both on the same page with how much effort you're making! |
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"I have had quite a few beach socials, obviously during nicer weather.
Swimming,frolicking,bbq,wine drinking & appreciating the sunset was a particular favourite , although it is the company that makes it.
Anything with the right person makes it fun & exciting 🩵"
Walk along the beach is the dream, bit less romantic alongside the Mersey "Oh look darling, the local wildlife have constructed a dam made of shopping trolleys, how quaint" |
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"Really depends on who it's with. Some people seem more suited to a drink in a pub than they do a walk along the river.
With socials I usually do a drink in a pub or a cafe. Mostly because I don't want to overcommit my time to someone where things might be uncomfortable. I like a time limit to get out of there. "
Yes this is a good point, you don't want to get tied into a long activity with someone when there's no chemistry and it's a bit awkward 😬 |
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By *aizyWoman 8 weeks ago
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"I like a social in a hotel bar, if the spark is there up to a room!
I don't do just a social but I do this.Though to be honest after a rum or 2 I'm anyone's. "
I have just recently found a love for Daiquiri's 😋😍😍 |
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The weather has a big part to play. Days like today I'd definitely suggest somewhere outside. Whether that be a park, beach, beer garden.
But yeah, I have no strict one place. I travel a lot too so it helps to find locally known places that I can find easily |
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"I like a social in a hotel bar, if the spark is there up to a room!
I don't do just a social but I do this.Though to be honest after a rum or 2 I'm anyone's.
I have just recently found a love for Daiquiri's 😋😍😍"
I’m amazed you can spell it!
Never wanted you more. |
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By *aizyWoman 8 weeks ago
west midlands |
"I like a social in a hotel bar, if the spark is there up to a room!
I don't do just a social but I do this.Though to be honest after a rum or 2 I'm anyone's.
I have just recently found a love for Daiquiri's 😋😍😍
I’m amazed you can spell it!
Never wanted you more."
I can't, I googled it, it took google a while to work out what I was trying to spell! |
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I prefer a social first, coffee or a nice stroll in the park. I had a social a couple of weeks ago, we met and took her dog for a walk. nice relaxing pleasant walk together on neutral ground.
It was a success in every way.  |
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess.
I'd go to The Serial Killer Exhibition with you Pickles."
What about the vagina museum?
If not then ill go to the serial killer one if you’re serial |
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess.
What if they are a read every bit of text next to every exhibit or painting kind of person? Or one of those let me take a picture of everything they see person? And you're stuck. "
Oh then I’m keeping them. |
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess. "
Yes, I do agree, fab seems to have its own rules on etiquette. I suppose I just mean what is your perfect initial "getting to know you and checking you're a real person" meet with someone.
For lots of people you have one "social", check the chemistry/attraction is there and every meet after that is just for sex. I suppose it depends what you are using fab for really!
I like hanging out beyond sex even when it's just FWBs so I would use social/date interchangeably really. If I become friends with someone I wouldn't say "do you fancy a social Saturday!" though I'd just say "do you fancy doing X, Y or Z? Or do you wanna go for a drink/cinema/this show and stay at mine?"
Ah, semantics! |
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By *eliWoman 8 weeks ago
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It depends on the other person really. I quite like a quieter speakeasy. One where the drinks are really good and there are dark corners for whispered conversations and kissing. A nice coffee shop. I've been to museums, bookshops, a picnic, countryside walks, beautiful hotel bars.... my favourite are relatively low pressure.
Great kissing and then we decide if we want to continue at a later date. It's very rare I have sex on the same day. |
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"I prefer a social first, coffee or a nice stroll in the park. I had a social a couple of weeks ago, we met and took her dog for a walk. nice relaxing pleasant walk together on neutral ground.
It was a success in every way. "
I went on a social where we went for a walk with my dog ... he lunged after a bird just as I tripped on uneven pavement and I couldn't correct myself in time. Broke my wrist. Blood all over my hands and knee. Cried. All in front of this man. |
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"I prefer a social first, coffee or a nice stroll in the park. I had a social a couple of weeks ago, we met and took her dog for a walk. nice relaxing pleasant walk together on neutral ground.
It was a success in every way. "
My first ever fab social was taking his puppy for a walk around the park |
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"I prefer a social first, coffee or a nice stroll in the park. I had a social a couple of weeks ago, we met and took her dog for a walk. nice relaxing pleasant walk together on neutral ground.
It was a success in every way.
I went on a social where we went for a walk with my dog ... he lunged after a bird just as I tripped on uneven pavement and I couldn't correct myself in time. Broke my wrist. Blood all over my hands and knee. Cried. All in front of this man."
OMG that sound awful 🫣 poor you |
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"I prefer a social first, coffee or a nice stroll in the park. I had a social a couple of weeks ago, we met and took her dog for a walk. nice relaxing pleasant walk together on neutral ground.
It was a success in every way.
I went on a social where we went for a walk with my dog ... he lunged after a bird just as I tripped on uneven pavement and I couldn't correct myself in time. Broke my wrist. Blood all over my hands and knee. Cried. All in front of this man."
That would be me for sure, absolute demic me, hope your wrist is OK! |
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New to the scene , never been to a Fab social but have some friends who go regularly. I might pop along to one. Tea and cake meet l find are always good, because if don't gel or the /'spark at least you both get cake. |
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"I don't drink but a nice NA beer somewhere or a coffee is always nice, something low stakes, I love dining out but can be difficult for a first date if you don't click and you're both sat there awkwardly eating profiteroles lmao"
Just laughed out loud at the profiteroles comment  |
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"I don't drink but a nice NA beer somewhere or a coffee is always nice, something low stakes, I love dining out but can be difficult for a first date if you don't click and you're both sat there awkwardly eating profiteroles lmao
Just laughed out loud at the profiteroles comment "
Thanks, I do try haha |
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Socials aren't for everyone??? I love socials!
Typically tea/coffee with cake and an artisanal panini, in a quirky coffee shop or some hipster café, however most often it's a more elaborate affair: an informal light luncheon, a walk around an art gallery, museum or some other cultural emporium.
If it's autumn then a walk around a quaint public garden drinking piping-hot mulled wine from a paper cup and holding hands... ...if we wish to take things further then... mågïç happens in some joyously joyful and delicious way.
(Admittedly, there have been a couple of exceptions where there's been a preordained 'date' and a social on the same day, but this has been on the back of established chemistry and sexual 'frisson' through protracted messaging and phone calls over weeks or months) |
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By *eliWoman 8 weeks ago
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"...but this has been on the back of established chemistry and sexual 'frisson' through protracted messaging and phone calls over weeks or months)"
Yay for another slow burner! It normally takes me months, going in to years before I meet people. Things progress to meeting up. |
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"Socials aren't for everyone??? I love socials!
Typically tea/coffee with cake and an artisanal panini, in a quirky coffee shop or some hipster café, however most often it's a more elaborate affair: an informal light luncheon, a walk around an art gallery, museum or some other cultural emporium.
If it's autumn then a walk around a quaint public garden drinking piping-hot mulled wine from a paper cup and holding hands... ...if we wish to take things further then... mågïç happens in some joyously joyful and delicious way.
(Admittedly, there have been a couple of exceptions where there's been a preordained 'date' and a social on the same day, but this has been on the back of established chemistry and sexual 'frisson' through protracted messaging and phone calls over weeks or months)"
I've seen a few "I'm not here to make friends why would I want a social?" comments over the years. I guess people use fab differently. But your socials sound like delightful afternoons. |
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"Had a great social recently as the guy drove me to Loch Lomond. Sat outside for drinks in the sun. It was really lovely. "
That does sound lovely, not sure I'd want that for a first meeting though. I'd be worrying what if he's a weirdo and want to get away from him I'm glad you enjoyed it! |
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"Pub or coffee shop usually. Somewhere innocuous.
I like when the innocuous start leads to raucous conversation and then a rush to find a hotel room.
But always, always, the innocuous start."
Me too! That’s the ideal 😃 |
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"I've seen a few "I'm not here to make friends why would I want a social?" comments over the years. I guess people use fab differently.
But your socials sound like delightful afternoons."
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 Who are these philistines?? Who are these counter-culture renegades?? Where are these aesthetically devoid reprobates?!? Within which dark and musty lair do they hide??
Seriously, you'll find more culture in a pot of bio yoghurt than these heathens. I'll visit you in the Chester of Man soon enough. 🌿🩶🤍💙🌿 |
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess.
Yes, I do agree, fab seems to have its own rules on etiquette. I suppose I just mean what is your perfect initial "getting to know you and checking you're a real person" meet with someone.
For lots of people you have one "social", check the chemistry/attraction is there and every meet after that is just for sex. I suppose it depends what you are using fab for really!
I like hanging out beyond sex even when it's just FWBs so I would use social/date interchangeably really. If I become friends with someone I wouldn't say "do you fancy a social Saturday!" though I'd just say "do you fancy doing X, Y or Z? Or do you wanna go for a drink/cinema/this show and stay at mine?"
Ah, semantics! "
To make sure someone is real I would just go for a drink or walk or coffee. Nothing else.
If I was going on a date I would not limit myself to those options. That’s the main difference for me. |
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"Before people start, I know socials aren't for everyone and some of you like to just get straight down to business...
But those of us who like a social to kick things off, what makes the perfect social for you?
Drinks? Coffee? A walk in the park? Quick trip to aldi to check out the middle aisle? Three course dinner?
Enlighten me.
I always prefer drinks, I think it’s because I can get a little more dressed up😇 pretty dress and heels to make a killer first impression 🔥😝
I want a social for all the fab forum girls some night.. wine and giggles please..😇❤️"
I agree. Sexy 1st impressions. Jeans and trainers not for me. We should both be attempting to seduce the other. |
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If it’s just a social to meet up and nothing more, we are having a coffee.
If it’s to check each other out if we might fancy each other and take things back to a comfy bed, then that’s a different answer. |
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"Before people start, I know socials aren't for everyone and some of you like to just get straight down to business...
But those of us who like a social to kick things off, what makes the perfect social for you?
Drinks? Coffee? A walk in the park? Quick trip to aldi to check out the middle aisle? Three course dinner?
Enlighten me.
I always prefer drinks, I think it’s because I can get a little more dressed up😇 pretty dress and heels to make a killer first impression 🔥😝
I want a social for all the fab forum girls some night.. wine and giggles please..😇❤️
I agree. Sexy 1st impressions. Jeans and trainers not for me. We should both be attempting to seduce the other."
I turned up to meet a guy in t-shirt leggings and trainers once. If he doesn't want me when I'm dressed down, he isn't getting me when I make an effort. |
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"Had a great social recently as the guy drove me to Loch Lomond. Sat outside for drinks in the sun. It was really lovely.
That does sound lovely, not sure I'd want that for a first meeting though. I'd be worrying what if he's a weirdo and want to get away from him I'm glad you enjoyed it! "
We had met previously in a club setting so he wasn't really a stranger. Obviously the weather made the location better and it turned out to be a fantastic day. |
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"Before people start, I know socials aren't for everyone and some of you like to just get straight down to business...
But those of us who like a social to kick things off, what makes the perfect social for you?
Drinks? Coffee? A walk in the park? Quick trip to aldi to check out the middle aisle? Three course dinner?
Enlighten me.
I always prefer drinks, I think it’s because I can get a little more dressed up😇 pretty dress and heels to make a killer first impression 🔥😝
I want a social for all the fab forum girls some night.. wine and giggles please..😇❤️
I agree. Sexy 1st impressions. Jeans and trainers not for me. We should both be attempting to seduce the other.
I turned up to meet a guy in t-shirt leggings and trainers once. If he doesn't want me when I'm dressed down, he isn't getting me when I make an effort. "
I almost always show up in whatever I've worn that day. Some people think that's me not making an effort but to me it's ...this is what I look like, and what I wear. I'm setting expectations early. Sure, some days I might look fancier but usually? no. Do you want me or the fantasy version of me? |
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Not a social on here...but went on a vanilla date once at the bodyworlds exhibition by gunther von hagens, the German pathologist.
We looked at dissected cadavers all day. It was rather brilliant.. |
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"Not a social on here...but went on a vanilla date once at the bodyworlds exhibition by gunther von hagens, the German pathologist.
We looked at dissected cadavers all day. It was rather brilliant.."
I think I'd genuinely love this |
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"I turned up to meet a guy in t-shirt leggings and trainers once. If he doesn't want me when I'm dressed down, he isn't getting me when I make an effort.
I almost always show up in whatever I've worn that day. Some people think that's me not making an effort but to me it's ...this is what I look like, and what I wear. I'm setting expectations early. Sure, some days I might look fancier but usually? no. Do you want me or the fantasy version of me?"
I see no issue with this if that's what you're comfortable doing and you're both on the same page about expectations. |
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"Not a social on here...but went on a vanilla date once at the bodyworlds exhibition by gunther von hagens, the German pathologist.
We looked at dissected cadavers all day. It was rather brilliant..
I think I'd genuinely love this "
I'll keeps a look out if it comes to Manchester again...  |
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By *aizyWoman 8 weeks ago
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"Not a social on here...but went on a vanilla date once at the bodyworlds exhibition by gunther von hagens, the German pathologist.
We looked at dissected cadavers all day. It was rather brilliant..
I think I'd genuinely love this "
Me too!!! |
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"Not a social on here...but went on a vanilla date once at the bodyworlds exhibition by gunther von hagens, the German pathologist.
We looked at dissected cadavers all day. It was rather brilliant..
I think I'd genuinely love this
Me too!!!"
It was very memorable!
A 3-some date it is... |
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess.
What if they are a read every bit of text next to every exhibit or painting kind of person? Or one of those let me take a picture of everything they see person? And you're stuck. "
And there's also the 'I need to escape easily in case they're a fruit loop, or the vibe just feels off' aspect, so drinks or a coffee then first time wins for me. If the vibe is there then absolutely those kind of activities are on the table for subsequent socials as far as I'm concerned. |
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess.
What if they are a read every bit of text next to every exhibit or painting kind of person? Or one of those let me take a picture of everything they see person? And you're stuck.
And there's also the 'I need to escape easily in case they're a fruit loop, or the vibe just feels off' aspect, so drinks or a coffee then first time wins for me. If the vibe is there then absolutely those kind of activities are on the table for subsequent socials as far as I'm concerned."
I’ve had a great first date at an exhibition. We’re still friends now. |
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess.
What if they are a read every bit of text next to every exhibit or painting kind of person? Or one of those let me take a picture of everything they see person? And you're stuck.
And there's also the 'I need to escape easily in case they're a fruit loop, or the vibe just feels off' aspect, so drinks or a coffee then first time wins for me. If the vibe is there then absolutely those kind of activities are on the table for subsequent socials as far as I'm concerned.
I’ve had a great first date at an exhibition. We’re still friends now. "
But I totally get that men are weird. Just explaining why I’m open to exhibitions on first dates. (NOT for socials) |
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"Not a social on here...but went on a vanilla date once at the bodyworlds exhibition by gunther von hagens, the German pathologist.
We looked at dissected cadavers all day. It was rather brilliant..
I think I'd genuinely love this
Me too!!!
It was very memorable!
A 3-some date it is..."
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By *dalisqueWoman 8 weeks ago
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"I have had quite a few beach socials, obviously during nicer weather.
Swimming,frolicking,bbq,wine drinking & appreciating the sunset was a particular favourite , although it is the company that makes it.
Anything with the right person makes it fun & exciting 🩵
Walk along the beach is the dream, bit less romantic alongside the Mersey "Oh look darling, the local wildlife have constructed a dam made of shopping trolleys, how quaint""
An artistically placed shopping trolley can be so evocative 😅🩵 |
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"Before people start, I know socials aren't for everyone and some of you like to just get straight down to business...
But those of us who like a social to kick things off, what makes the perfect social for you?
Drinks? Coffee? A walk in the park? Quick trip to aldi to check out the middle aisle? Three course dinner?
Enlighten me. "
I love the social aspect of meeting someone, just a simple drink and a chat, a kiss at the end to seal the deal 😉 |
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Cocktail bars, pubs, coffee shops..
Best one was IKEA. We walked round, stopped for coffee, I bought some yellow bag stuff. She even helped me carry my purchases to the car.
Never heard from her again though. |
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"Not a social on here...but went on a vanilla date once at the bodyworlds exhibition by gunther von hagens, the German pathologist.
We looked at dissected cadavers all day. It was rather brilliant.."
Omg, now that's my kind of date!
We went to the museum in Amsterdam. Brilliant! |
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Hate this part. Hate it hate it hate it.
Have gone a stroll, got a coffee, had drinks.
They all made me constantly itch to look for the exit the entire time.
It's sooooo unnatural. Pretending you're comfortable just doing normal things with a relative stranger that you've seen virtually naked and had dirty flirty chats with. It's the oddest contradiction.
I actually feel more at ease if we're both on the same page and cut out the awkward toe shuffling. |
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By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
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"Not a social on here...but went on a vanilla date once at the bodyworlds exhibition by gunther von hagens, the German pathologist.
We looked at dissected cadavers all day. It was rather brilliant..
Omg, now that's my kind of date!
We went to the museum in Amsterdam. Brilliant!"
This is proving popular.
An idea for the future..
"The autopsy social"
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"It's sooooo unnatural. Pretending you're comfortable just doing normal things with a relative stranger that you've seen virtually naked and had dirty flirty chats with. It's the oddest contradiction."
That’s exactly what I like about it! 😅 |
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By *sWyldWoman 8 weeks ago
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I like socials to feel like dates and not hook ups.
A nice place, or even a lovely walk. Lots of good conversations, punctuated with laughs and kisses that leave you wanting more.
I prefer not going straight to the physical stuff as I want that mutual excitement and anticipation.
Equally I'm also not the type to have all the sex chat before we meet so I could potentially seem a bit disinterested.
Really, I just don't want pressure or expectations. |
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"Hate this part. Hate it hate it hate it.
Have gone a stroll, got a coffee, had drinks.
They all made me constantly itch to look for the exit the entire time.
It's sooooo unnatural. Pretending you're comfortable just doing normal things with a relative stranger that you've seen virtually naked and had dirty flirty chats with. It's the oddest contradiction.
I actually feel more at ease if we're both on the same page and cut out the awkward toe shuffling."
Hard disagree from me. I love it I love talking about debauched things in a lovely bar while the people around us pretend not to be listening in. I love the juxtaposition. |
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"I love talking about debauched things in a lovely bar while the people around us pretend not to be listening in. I love the juxtaposition. "
Same. (It’s possible to get carried away and lose track of time though. As you well know.) |
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"I love talking about debauched things in a lovely bar while the people around us pretend not to be listening in. I love the juxtaposition.
Same. (It’s possible to get carried away and lose track of time though. As you well know.)"
Haha. “Shhh, people are listening!” While looking around the room. |
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"I love talking about debauched things in a lovely bar while the people around us pretend not to be listening in. I love the juxtaposition.
Same. (It’s possible to get carried away and lose track of time though. As you well know.)
Haha. “Shhh, people are listening!” While looking around the room. "
I've had that said to me a few times |
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Never commit to a meal though…
Only socials where it’s possible to depart quickly with the minimum of fuss…
For those that have misrepresented themselves on their profiles or the realisation that the person who was seemingly an absolute cracker via messages turns out to be a dud in real life.. |
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By *dalisqueWoman 8 weeks ago
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"Before people start, I know socials aren't for everyone and some of you like to just get straight down to business...
But those of us who like a social to kick things off, what makes the perfect social for you?
Drinks? Coffee? A walk in the park? Quick trip to aldi to check out the middle aisle? Three course dinner?
Enlighten me.
I love the social aspect of meeting someone, just a simple drink and a chat, a kiss at the end to seal the deal 😉 "
The kiss ...that is how you know 🩵 |
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"A walk and a drink, or some kind of activity I'm no good at sitting still straight away it can make me nervous.
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Same here, had a couple of decent walks and good chat by the local river, couple of good pubs on the way too.... it's more relaxing. |
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"Not a social on here...but went on a vanilla date once at the bodyworlds exhibition by gunther von hagens, the German pathologist.
We looked at dissected cadavers all day. It was rather brilliant..
Omg, now that's my kind of date!
We went to the museum in Amsterdam. Brilliant!
This is proving popular.
An idea for the future..
"The autopsy social"
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In! |
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I recently met someone in a beer garden close to where they lived.
Lesson learnt for next time - go further afield - his tipsy uncle accosted us and my friend had fab open at the time for some reason  his uncle reported the encounter to his aunt, who told his mum and sister ..who rocked up on the doorstep wanting to know about the girl with bright aubergine hair 😳😳😆🤣😆 |
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"I recently met someone in a beer garden close to where they lived.
Lesson learnt for next time - go further afield - his tipsy uncle accosted us and my friend had fab open at the time for some reason his uncle reported the encounter to his aunt, who told his mum and sister ..who rocked up on the doorstep wanting to know about the girl with bright aubergine hair 😳😳😆🤣😆"
Dye your hair babe |
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"I recently met someone in a beer garden close to where they lived.
Lesson learnt for next time - go further afield - his tipsy uncle accosted us and my friend had fab open at the time for some reason his uncle reported the encounter to his aunt, who told his mum and sister ..who rocked up on the doorstep wanting to know about the girl with bright aubergine hair 😳😳😆🤣😆"
😨😨😨 |
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"I prefer a social first, coffee or a nice stroll in the park. I had a social a couple of weeks ago, we met and took her dog for a walk. nice relaxing pleasant walk together on neutral ground.
It was a success in every way. "
I met someone to walk her dog. It was very pleasant.
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I think it all depends on the vibe with a particular person but the reoccurring theme for me is somewhere we can relax and laugh and hopefully flirt!
For me that has been anything from a coffee to indoor skydiving. Walks, meals, dancing…… |
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess. "
I actually feel this brother. |
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"As in what activity makes for a good social?
If it is a ‘social’ and not a date then probably drinks and a walk. Or just drinks. Or just coffee.
‘Socials’ are weird on fab. It feels like you only ever do them once with the person. And people don’t want to do something like an activity or a museum/ gallery exhibition etc. Fab is just not romantic enough for me I guess.
I actually feel this brother."
I see you KING |
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