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If I dressed like a slut… would it work?
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Let’s be honest, when a woman throws on a short skirt, heels, and something that hugs her curves… she knows exactly what she’s doing. And I salute her for it. It’s sexy as hell and it works.
But if a bloke like me tried the same approach with something like tight shorts, open shirt, chest out, I feel like I’d just look like I’d taken a wrong turn onto a gay club dancefloor, or ready to do a Magic Mike routine for a ‘hen night’ No hate, just facts. 🌈
So here’s my question to the ladies…
What does work on a guy if he wants to turn you on with his outfit alone? Is there a “male slut uniform” that actually hits the mark? Or should we just stick to grey joggers and hope for the best?
Genuinely curious. Please post your tips, fantasies, or guilty outfit pleasures below. I’ll take notes… and maybe a mirror selfie. 😏 |
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By *linyMan 5 weeks ago
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I think you can’t go wrong with a nice fitted white shirt, 2 buttons undone from the collar, dark blue jeans and smart shoes and smelling good. That’s my go to version of LBD and killer heels |
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"Let’s be honest, when a woman throws on a short skirt, heels, and something that hugs her curves… she knows exactly what she’s doing. And I salute her for it. It’s sexy as hell and it works."
I think this paragraph along with the title of the thread are going to do you no favours. |
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To answer your question- I think women, in my experience, are more interested in individuals than outfits. But grey joggers or a suit seem to be favourites. Which is funny because I spend so much time and effort trying to dress well.  |
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"So women dress in short tight fitting clothes and heels to look like sluts for the male gaze? "
I dunno? What do you think?
I can’t believe this is what people have taken from this post. 🤷♂️
Yes, I’ve had DM’s too.
Just to be clear, I definitely wasn’t calling women sluts in a negative way. I was using the word playfully, the way people sometimes refer to themselves, like “sexy” energy, not judgement. I completely understand how people could read wrong, though, especially out of context.
I wanted to know how I can dress with the same type of ‘slutty’ energy.
Or forget i said anything.
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"Let’s be honest, when a woman throws on a short skirt, heels, and something that hugs her curves… she knows exactly what she’s doing. And I salute her for it. It’s sexy as hell and it works.
I think this paragraph along with the title of the thread are going to do you no favours. "
I am biting my tongue so hard 
I wrote a response, then decided it wasn't worth it and deleted. |
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"Let’s be honest, when a woman throws on a short skirt, heels, and something that hugs her curves… she knows exactly what she’s doing. And I salute her for it. It’s sexy as hell and it works.
I think this paragraph along with the title of the thread are going to do you no favours.
I am biting my tongue so hard
I wrote a response, then decided it wasn't worth it and deleted. "
Speak your truth  |
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"So women dress in short tight fitting clothes and heels to look like sluts for the male gaze?
I dunno? What do you think?
I can’t believe this is what people have taken from this post. 🤷♂️
Yes, I’ve had DM’s too.
Just to be clear, I definitely wasn’t calling women sluts in a negative way. I was using the word playfully, the way people sometimes refer to themselves, like “sexy” energy, not judgement. I completely understand how people could read wrong, though, especially out of context.
I wanted to know how I can dress with the same type of ‘slutty’ energy.
Or forget i said anything.
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I mean your first paragraph is a powerful statement so it's not surprising that is the take home message of your OP.
What I think? I think it's total tosh. I go to a female only dance class. Sometimes I turn up in baggy clothes in others not a lot. In my opinion we're wearing clothes is part of our own self expression.
Depends on what you define as "slutty energy"?
I'm going to define it as sexual empowerment (but I'm not putting words in your mouth) to me it is not about what you're wearing. It's about the confidence you have in our own sexuality and that encompasses both your body and your mind. So what you wear has little to do with it. |
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It’s totally possible to feel that way, it’s all in the preparation and how seriously you take it.
Why do you think getting ready for a night out is a major part of the fun for woman. It’s about treating yourself.
For example next night out take the time to go get a hair cut and maybe some Turkish style pampering, the shave, the hot towel. Go from there to a shop buy a nice shirt/T-shirt and some new undies (it helps to spend a bit extra on nice ones or actually have “night out undies”). Maybe go for a long bath or shower, put some good tunes on getting dressed and splash your favourite after shave.
Fell that sass pal, persuade yourself your sexy as fuck before leaving the house, woman are great at doing this for their pals, guys well it’s a bit of a solo prep but you can totally get that feeling.
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"Let’s be honest, when a woman throws on a short skirt, heels, and something that hugs her curves… she knows exactly what she’s doing. And I salute her for it. It’s sexy as hell and it works.
I think this paragraph along with the title of the thread are going to do you no favours.
I am biting my tongue so hard
I wrote a response, then decided it wasn't worth it and deleted.
Speak your truth "
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Women tend to be less visually driven when it comes to sex.
Anyone dressing "slutty' is going to attract more attention from men than women.
When I wear high heels and a short skirt it's because I like the way I look in them. It isn't about being slutty for men. It's about feeling good about the way I look.
Wear what you feel most comfortable and attractive in. Women are more likely to be attracted to the confidence than the specific outfit 💜 |
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By *enelope2UWoman 5 weeks ago
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Actually taking effort. Clean coordinated outfit that's not sloppy last minute afterthought.
Smell nice, showered, washed hair, trimmed groomed beards, clean nails, clean socks clean shoes..
The basics isn't even deemed basic for most men on here. So ANY effort stands out. |
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"So women dress in short tight fitting clothes and heels to look like sluts for the male gaze?
I dunno? What do you think?
I can’t believe this is what people have taken from this post. 🤷♂️
Yes, I’ve had DM’s too.
Just to be clear, I definitely wasn’t calling women sluts in a negative way. I was using the word playfully, the way people sometimes refer to themselves, like “sexy” energy, not judgement. I completely understand how people could read wrong, though, especially out of context.
I wanted to know how I can dress with the same type of ‘slutty’ energy.
Or forget i said anything.
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It’s not what I took from the post at first read but I can see now how people can read into that. I guess they’re coming from a different perspective in the new era offence is taken it’s always the person’s fault even if they didn’t intend it because they should’ve thought more carefully about what they were saying and how it might be interpreted by minority or majority maybe in this case who knows you would have to do an extensive pole of all the women to know
I agree in some ways I can’t think of anything I could just slip on that would get the heads turning like certain things. A woman can just slip on and get their heads turning. Maybe that’s just because men are so basic rather than anything to do with women.
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And I wouldn’t take the responses to negatively either generally people only respond if they want to be negative if they want to say something positive or agree especially with a man’s post they will either not do it or message you private |
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"And I wouldn’t take the responses to negatively either generally people only respond if they want to be negative if they want to say something positive or agree especially with a man’s post they will either not do it or message you private"
So it’s not just me with the observation of that in many posts, I was wondering when it would come to one of mine.
I liked your reply above, I think you could have worded it with none of my mis-timed humour. |
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"Oh. But if you want to know visual things that do tend to excite women some, just do a search for "Menfolk of the lounge" to see what visuals have been requested 💜"
I was going to ask for one of your corsets if I’m honest. 😏 |
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"It’s totally possible to feel that way, it’s all in the preparation and how seriously you take it.
Why do you think getting ready for a night out is a major part of the fun for woman. It’s about treating yourself.
For example next night out take the time to go get a hair cut and maybe some Turkish style pampering, the shave, the hot towel. Go from there to a shop buy a nice shirt/T-shirt and some new undies (it helps to spend a bit extra on nice ones or actually have “night out undies”). Maybe go for a long bath or shower, put some good tunes on getting dressed and splash your favourite after shave.
Fell that sass pal, persuade yourself your sexy as fuck before leaving the house, woman are great at doing this for their pals, guys well it’s a bit of a solo prep but you can totally get that feeling.
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^ this is really good advice. If you feel good on the inside it'll show on the outside |
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Someone I met last week was wearing a nice, really, REALLY white, absolutely creaseless T-shirt that hugged his broad torso. Lovely fitting jeans. And just the right amount of fragrance. PHWOAR.
Regardless of individual items to wear, it has to be what suits people. I do like my legs but I find I get many more compliments and successful meets when I wear longer dresses or even black leggings… go figure! And the fact that I can’t wear heels now doesn’t seem to be a problem haha!
But I do look at men’s dress sense and make no excuse for it. No space for grey joggers here…  |
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"Let’s be honest, when a woman throws on a short skirt, heels, and something that hugs her curves… she knows exactly what she’s doing. And I salute her for it. It’s sexy as hell and it works.
I think this paragraph along with the title of the thread are going to do you no favours.
I am biting my tongue so hard
I wrote a response, then decided it wasn't worth it and deleted.
Speak your truth
Nice input. "
I gave you an answer to your question though 
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I have these super ripped Jack Jones jeans , fairly tight around the groin, shows what’s in there pretty well. I think there is a picture on my profile. I’m wearing them sat on an aeroplane.
When I wear them with brown timberland boots quite a tight fit ting T-shirt and brown leather jacket that seems to work - doesn’t get heads turning I dint think but when I’m with someone they struggle to keep their hands off me |
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"Oh. But if you want to know visual things that do tend to excite women some, just do a search for "Menfolk of the lounge" to see what visuals have been requested 💜
I was going to ask for one of your corsets if I’m honest. 😏"
I'm not sure a well defined waist is often considered hot in men. Cum gutters maybe. But y'all generally just don't have the hips to make a corset worthwhile 💜 |
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"Oh. But if you want to know visual things that do tend to excite women some, just do a search for "Menfolk of the lounge" to see what visuals have been requested 💜
I was going to ask for one of your corsets if I’m honest. 😏
I'm not sure a well defined waist is often considered hot in men. Cum gutters maybe. But y'all generally just don't have the hips to make a corset worthwhile 💜 "
It might puff up my chest though? Like Johnny Bravo. |
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"Let’s be honest, when a woman throws on a short skirt, heels, and something that hugs her curves… she knows exactly what she’s doing. And I salute her for it. It’s sexy as hell and it works.
But if a bloke like me tried the same approach with something like tight shorts, open shirt, chest out, I feel like I’d just look like I’d taken a wrong turn onto a gay club dancefloor, or ready to do a Magic Mike routine for a ‘hen night’ No hate, just facts. 🌈
So here’s my question to the ladies…
What does work on a guy if he wants to turn you on with his outfit alone? Is there a “male slut uniform” that actually hits the mark? Or should we just stick to grey joggers and hope for the best?
Genuinely curious. Please post your tips, fantasies, or guilty outfit pleasures below. I’ll take notes… and maybe a mirror selfie. 😏"
For me it would be either
a crisp, white, figure hugging t-shirt and a great fitting pair of jeans that are tight on a pert arse! 🥵🔥
Or black tie look, end if the night - smart black trousers, black shoes, white shirt with top buttons undone and sleeves rolled up and the real bow tie undone and just laying round rhe next 😃🥵🔥 |
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By *tr8MrEMan 5 weeks ago
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"Let’s be honest, when a woman throws on a short skirt, heels, and something that hugs her curves… she knows exactly what she’s doing. And I salute her for it. It’s sexy as hell and it works.
But if a bloke like me tried the same approach with something like tight shorts, open shirt, chest out, I feel like I’d just look like I’d taken a wrong turn onto a gay club dancefloor, or ready to do a Magic Mike routine for a ‘hen night’ No hate, just facts. 🌈
So here’s my question to the ladies…
What does work on a guy if he wants to turn you on with his outfit alone? Is there a “male slut uniform” that actually hits the mark? Or should we just stick to grey joggers and hope for the best?
Genuinely curious. Please post your tips, fantasies, or guilty outfit pleasures below. I’ll take notes… and maybe a mirror selfie. 😏
For me it would be either
a crisp, white, figure hugging t-shirt and a great fitting pair of jeans that are tight on a pert arse! 🥵🔥
Or black tie look, end if the night - smart black trousers, black shoes, white shirt with top buttons undone and sleeves rolled up and the real bow tie undone and just laying round rhe next 😃🥵🔥"
Guess which one I'd choose...I'd be insanely happy if you wore profile outfit under a gorgeous short figure hugging dress 😈😈 |
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"Oh. But if you want to know visual things that do tend to excite women some, just do a search for "Menfolk of the lounge" to see what visuals have been requested 💜
I was going to ask for one of your corsets if I’m honest. 😏
I'm not sure a well defined waist is often considered hot in men. Cum gutters maybe. But y'all generally just don't have the hips to make a corset worthwhile 💜
It might puff up my chest though? Like Johnny Bravo. "
More likely to just give you back rolls 💜 |
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I don’t take offence to this one bit OP.
I don’t think there was any reason to, it’s obvious to me there was not an intention to upset.
I think men’s version of slutty is tight trousers.. shirt or tight fitted clothes that make girls go 🥵😍 |
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"Oh. But if you want to know visual things that do tend to excite women some, just do a search for "Menfolk of the lounge" to see what visuals have been requested 💜
I was going to ask for one of your corsets if I’m honest. 😏
I'm not sure a well defined waist is often considered hot in men. Cum gutters maybe. But y'all generally just don't have the hips to make a corset worthwhile 💜
It might puff up my chest though? Like Johnny Bravo.
More likely to just give you back rolls 💜"
Haha. Brilliant |
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By *eliWoman 5 weeks ago
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You've been on the forum for a few years OP, you know how things go. Certain wording isn't well received. 
That aside, if you're talking about slutty in a playful, reclaiming liberatdd sense rather than some fusty old patriarchal view, for me it's when a man is more confident and relaxed. Feeling himself.
If a man feels good in a well fitted suit, his (bow)tie is slightly askew and he rolls up his sleeves, that's a bit slutty. Add in flustered cheeks and I'm a puddle.
In contrast, a really good chunky knit fisherman's jumper with jeans? That can be slutty. Even a simple t-shirt can be slutty on the right man. It varies so much, what makes you feel good Op? Confident when you're meeting someone with the possibility of sex. Go for that. |
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By *vaRoseWoman 5 weeks ago
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"Oh. But if you want to know visual things that do tend to excite women some, just do a search for "Menfolk of the lounge" to see what visuals have been requested 💜
I was going to ask for one of your corsets if I’m honest. 😏
I'm not sure a well defined waist is often considered hot in men. Cum gutters maybe. But y'all generally just don't have the hips to make a corset worthwhile 💜 "
Ooh but a men’s corset vest 🥵🥵🥵🥵🥵🥵
Yes fucking please |
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"Oh. But if you want to know visual things that do tend to excite women some, just do a search for "Menfolk of the lounge" to see what visuals have been requested 💜
I was going to ask for one of your corsets if I’m honest. 😏
I'm not sure a well defined waist is often considered hot in men. Cum gutters maybe. But y'all generally just don't have the hips to make a corset worthwhile 💜
Ooh but a men’s corset vest 🥵🥵🥵🥵🥵🥵
Yes fucking please "
Oh, just a well fitted waistcoat on the right figure 💜 |
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"Forget it.
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Baron, you know as well as I people like to pick a fight on here.
Sometimes you can't post anything without it being scrutinized to death.
I get your point tho,if a guy wanted to dress "sluttishly"
White cycling shorts no underwear, tight vest top and oiled up chest and arm's, and a dodgy pair of espadrilles
It's what my stripper mate Eddie used to wear back in the 80's when we used to go to the market ona Sunday morning,his sole intention was to get women to (and I directly quote him here) " stare at my narny"
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"Let’s be honest, when a woman throws on a short skirt, heels, and something that hugs her curves… she knows exactly what she’s doing. And I salute her for it. It’s sexy as hell and it works.
But if a bloke like me tried the same approach with something like tight shorts, open shirt, chest out, I feel like I’d just look like I’d taken a wrong turn onto a gay club dancefloor, or ready to do a Magic Mike routine for a ‘hen night’ No hate, just facts. 🌈
So here’s my question to the ladies…
What does work on a guy if he wants to turn you on with his outfit alone? Is there a “male slut uniform” that actually hits the mark? Or should we just stick to grey joggers and hope for the best?
Genuinely curious. Please post your tips, fantasies, or guilty outfit pleasures below. I’ll take notes… and maybe a mirror selfie. 😏"
Or
Go for a short skirt, heels and a tight blouse and if questioned why say
"It's what I like to wear for me"
I mean what woman wouldn't want to see a guy's ball's hanging out of a short miniskirt? |
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By *enelope2UWoman 5 weeks ago
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"Nice to see a guy wanting to make an effort, nothing worse when you dress to impress for a date/meet and he rocks up in jeans or joggers "
Or shorts and trainers and grungy t-shirt greasy hair |
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