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"I'm not entirely clear what you are asking. It means being attached somebody and wanting to be with them in a way that is more than platonic. Is that too literal? "
For me, it definitely is. I have someone in my life that matches your description but I wouldn't say it's love between us. there's something missing there which would be the space that love filled if it existed between us (but it doesn't)
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I know you said Romantic Love but that is very subjective and therefore different for everyone.
I guess my romantic love would be someone who could 'see' me and know me and listens carefully. Someone who enjoys the same humour as me and has the same values and principles. Someone who is happy to spend time with me , just being.
True love to me is the love from inside yourself that you give freely to all.
It isn't love if you are bargaining with it.
Is that an answer ? |
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"Sorry for the overemotional sentimentality lately but I'm going through a thing.
With regards to the question, I'm specifically asking about romantic love. What does romantic love mean to you?"
Personally, romantic love means caring for someone irrespective of whether they are with you or not, respecting their choices and boundaries just to watch them be happy. |
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There's lots of criteria I could point to, but it's more a feeling of our shared bubble. When that's there then all the rest of it becomes ancillary.
I can just lie beside that person anywhere and feel content, just to be with them. |
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"I'm not entirely clear what you are asking. It means being attached somebody and wanting to be with them in a way that is more than platonic. Is that too literal?
For me, it definitely is. I have someone in my life that matches your description but I wouldn't say it's love between us. there's something missing there which would be the space that love filled if it existed between us (but it doesn't)
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"Love" is not an easy word to define. Are you looking for a label for the feelings you have for this person? |
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"Sorry for the overemotional sentimentality lately but I'm going through a thing.
With regards to the question, I'm specifically asking about romantic love. What does romantic love mean to you?"
This is a really deep question OP, and I hope you're ok. I know we don't know each other, but I'm here if you need to reach out and talk.
But returning back to your question. I honestly don't know. I think I've felt extreme lust before now, and a huge desire to be wanted and needed, but I'm not convinced I've ever been 'in love' with anyone from a romantic perspective, and I wonder if I've now got too old and cynical to recognise it if it were to happen.
Everyone I've ever asked this question has different answers, and I think this sometimes even changes depending on what 'phase' a relationship is going through, and at different life stages.
So whilst I can't answer your question, I'd really hope that my gut instinct would let me know if I find that romantic love. |
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I’ve been in love once, it was nothing like any of my other relationships, not even my marriage. When I was with her I didn’t want to be with anyone or anywhere else, I felt happy and content, and when I wasn’t, well, obviously I wanted to be with her and thought of her all the time |
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By *vaRoseWoman 4 weeks ago
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I don’t know that I have the right words but here goes
Romantic love feels like being seen. Not just the polished surface or the faces I wear for the world, but the sharp edges underneath, and being wanted for all of it.
It is not about being needed, fixed, or rescued. It is about being chosen. Not for what I offer, but for who I am. Love isn’t completion, I’m already a complete person but it fits without force.
It is ease and electricity, soft and sharp. The kind of silence that’s comfortable and laughter that feels like home. I always know when it is there. And I know, when it is not.
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Romantic love, to me is the special person in your life that you're willing to do anything for, but it also needs to be reciprocated.
One sided love isn't true love, more an infatuation. The other side has to love you back in the same manner.
I've been with a number of ladies over the years, but I only ever truly loved one of them. |
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"Sorry for the overemotional sentimentality lately but I'm going through a thing.
With regards to the question, I'm specifically asking about romantic love. What does romantic love mean to you?
This is a really deep question OP, and I hope you're ok. I know we don't know each other, but I'm here if you need to reach out and talk.
But returning back to your question. I honestly don't know. I think I've felt extreme lust before now, and a huge desire to be wanted and needed, but I'm not convinced I've ever been 'in love' with anyone from a romantic perspective, and I wonder if I've now got too old and cynical to recognise it if it were to happen.
Everyone I've ever asked this question has different answers, and I think this sometimes even changes depending on what 'phase' a relationship is going through, and at different life stages.
So whilst I can't answer your question, I'd really hope that my gut instinct would let me know if I find that romantic love."
I didn't believe in true love, until I fell in love with my ex wife. It does exist. I feel for those who say they have never experienced such love. |
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"I'm not entirely clear what you are asking. It means being attached somebody and wanting to be with them in a way that is more than platonic. Is that too literal?
For me, it definitely is. I have someone in my life that matches your description but I wouldn't say it's love between us. there's something missing there which would be the space that love filled if it existed between us (but it doesn't)
"Love" is not an easy word to define. Are you looking for a label for the feelings you have for this person? "
It's not about that person at all! I'm just interested in everyone's answers  |
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For me, it’s a mix of lust, trust, friendship, saftey. Knowing someone and letting them know you. Not just the nice bits, either, the difficult, messy parts too. It means not shying away from those tricky conversations because there’s emotional safety both ways. It’s about respect, compassion, autonomy, shared humour, and a good sense of common ground. Feeling like you’re met, not managed, not moulded, but really met.
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"I know you said Romantic Love but that is very subjective and therefore different for everyone.
I guess my romantic love would be someone who could 'see' me and know me and listens carefully. Someone who enjoys the same humour as me and has the same values and principles. Someone who is happy to spend time with me , just being.
True love to me is the love from inside yourself that you give freely to all.
It isn't love if you are bargaining with it.
Is that an answer ? "
Definitely an answer! And a good one. |
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This is a really deep question OP, and I hope you're ok. I know we don't know each other, but I'm here if you need to reach out and talk.
But returning back to your question. I honestly don't know. I think I've felt extreme lust before now, and a huge desire to be wanted and needed, but I'm not convinced I've ever been 'in love' with anyone from a romantic perspective, and I wonder if I've now got too old and cynical to recognise it if it were to happen.
Everyone I've ever asked this question has different answers, and I think this sometimes even changes depending on what 'phase' a relationship is going through, and at different life stages.
So whilst I can't answer your question, I'd really hope that my gut instinct would let me know if I find that romantic love."
The idea of never having been in love with someone actually breaks my heart. |
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"I don’t know that I have the right words but here goes
Romantic love feels like being seen. Not just the polished surface or the faces I wear for the world, but the sharp edges underneath, and being wanted for all of it.
It is not about being needed, fixed, or rescued. It is about being chosen. Not for what I offer, but for who I am. Love isn’t completion, I’m already a complete person but it fits without force.
It is ease and electricity, soft and sharp. The kind of silence that’s comfortable and laughter that feels like home. I always know when it is there. And I know, when it is not.
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This is beautiful, I think you’ve captured it fairly well ❤️ |
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"I don’t know that I have the right words but here goes
Romantic love feels like being seen. Not just the polished surface or the faces I wear for the world, but the sharp edges underneath, and being wanted for all of it.
It is not about being needed, fixed, or rescued. It is about being chosen. Not for what I offer, but for who I am. Love isn’t completion, I’m already a complete person but it fits without force.
It is ease and electricity, soft and sharp. The kind of silence that’s comfortable and laughter that feels like home. I always know when it is there. And I know, when it is not.
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This is beautiful ❤️ |
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I can tell and feel the difference but defining it is difficult. I have platonic love for my friends and romantic love for my partners. Even though I fancy and have sex with some of those friends the feeling is different. There’s an intensity to begin with. And over time that becomes an openness and vulnerability. |
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"Sorry for the overemotional sentimentality lately but I'm going through a thing.
With regards to the question, I'm specifically asking about romantic love. What does romantic love mean to you?"
Hope you get through your thing stronger & wiser 🫂
This definition pretty much captures my view: strong feelings of passion, infatuation, and desire for another person, often involving sexual attraction and a desire for a committed relationship |
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"I'm not entirely clear what you are asking. It means being attached somebody and wanting to be with them in a way that is more than platonic. Is that too literal?
For me, it definitely is. I have someone in my life that matches your description but I wouldn't say it's love between us. there's something missing there which would be the space that love filled if it existed between us (but it doesn't)
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I think as you get older you realise it doesn’t really exist, I think what you’re describing in that gap is probably just your expectations for something better? Better alignment of values, more thoughtfulness, less cynicism / negativity, more sexual attraction, whatever it is, when you’re feeling what you think is love it is simply because the person ticks most the boxes you have. Love’s not a real thing, it just means you like them a lot. |
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"I'm not entirely clear what you are asking. It means being attached somebody and wanting to be with them in a way that is more than platonic. Is that too literal?
For me, it definitely is. I have someone in my life that matches your description but I wouldn't say it's love between us. there's something missing there which would be the space that love filled if it existed between us (but it doesn't)
"Love" is not an easy word to define. Are you looking for a label for the feelings you have for this person?
It's not about that person at all! I'm just interested in everyone's answers "
In that case I think love involves wanting some sort of commitment toa person that leads to a deeper relationship. It's an investment. |
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"Sorry for the overemotional sentimentality lately but I'm going through a thing.
With regards to the question, I'm specifically asking about romantic love. What does romantic love mean to you?"
I hope you get through your thing OP 😘
Romantic love to me is hard to pin down. I’ve given it freely a number of times and it hasn’t been reciprocated, even in my marriages.
I live in hope I will find it. Eventually. I’m an old romantic me 😘 |
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By *_Mia_XTV/TS 4 weeks ago
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Romantic love for me is like something out of a Disney movie—when their hand fits perfectly in yours, and the world suddenly feels a little more magical. It’s glances that feel like fireworks, late-night talks that last until sunrise, and a kiss that makes time stop. It’s believing in happily-ever-afters, not because life is perfect, but because they’re by your side. Like a fairytale written just for your heart. Maybe I’m a little wishful but that would be my idea |
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Too many say they love you but actually don't.. it then becomes a word that's used to gain something yet devalues the actual meaning of it..
It could be said the same about today's society.. it's false ..
Too many shallow souls .. honesty , love and trust are the bedrock of every relationship..yet like Meatloaf said.. " two out of three ain't bad " .!!
Sorry deep..but true |
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I always remember these words from a song.
"love is a bit like quick sand, the more you wriggle, the deeper you fall, that's why I do believe, I'm guilty, quilty of loving you"
Dunno why just rings true for me  |
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To me love is just wanting them in your life, to laugh, hold, wipe away the tears.
To look after each other when one isn't well.
Sitting in quiet, gabbling nine to the dozen when you have excitement to share.
Supporting each other in everything they do and then when they've gone not being able to replace them but live if their memories |
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"Sorry for the overemotional sentimentality lately but I'm going through a thing.
With regards to the question, I'm specifically asking about romantic love. What does romantic love mean to you?
I hope you get through your thing OP 😘
Romantic love to me is hard to pin down. I’ve given it freely a number of times and it hasn’t been reciprocated, even in my marriages.
I live in hope I will find it. Eventually. I’m an old romantic me 😘"
About as good as I could ever put it. I like to think it's finding someone who's excited by the mundane as much as the amazing. |
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To me love isn't all the happy times the rainbows the butterflies that's just a small percentage
Love to me is who is there when you have nothing and I mean nothing.
Nothing to give nothing to say nothing to do when your at your absolute worst and can't see a way out
The person that is there for you in that moment that's love the person that would go out off there way and ask for nothing in return just to help you get back to who you are that's love the ones who are there when nobody else is the ones sorting this pile off shit you left yourself in not for money or gratitude but because the know who you are and your potential and they can't bare to see you I. Pain hurting or slowly killing yourself with your actions
Love is the person that helps you not for them self's but to see you become you again
I'm in a situation right now and when I say I found who is here for Me in times off darkness I have and I can count them on one finger
Love isn't the materialistic things love isn't the things people do for you day to day love is been there and doing what no one else would
How can you love someone and what them struggle? I mean don't help if they ain't going to help them self I get tough love but really people watching people they claim to love sleep rough? Not eating? Destroying them self? Nah not me they not helping because it's not benefiting them
Honestly I don't even know what am waffling on about now but it makes sense in my head lol |
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I'd say it's a deep emotional connection. It’s affection, passion, intimacy, attraction, understanding, and connection.
You feel seen, valued, and cared for. You enjoy the simplicity of just being together, doing nothing, aswell as the excitement of new (or even familiar) experiences. You support eachother, in good and bad times. They're your safe space, and you're theirs. 🫶 |
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"I'd say it's a deep emotional connection. It’s affection, passion, intimacy, attraction, understanding, and connection.
You feel seen, valued, and cared for. You enjoy the simplicity of just being together, doing nothing, aswell as the excitement of new (or even familiar) experiences. You support eachother, in good and bad times. They're your safe space, and you're theirs. 🫶"
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