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"Trust and safety
That’s interesting, it’s kind of a given for me - and possibly most guys - to feel safe and trust your partner - I think you need more than that but great sex don’t you? "
I need definitely more, those are my top 2 though....probably why I don't have much sex 😫 |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"No i dont think I can. You can have same sex with two different people, one with chemistry and one without.
Totally different experiences"
Ive never had the same sex with two people! Everybody’s bodies feel different, they move differently, respond differently , sound differently, taste differently… |
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"No i dont think I can. You can have same sex with two different people, one with chemistry and one without.
Totally different experiences
Ive never had the same sex with two people! Everybody’s bodies feel different, they move differently, respond differently , sound differently, taste differently…"
It was an example, some people you have chemistry with and some you dont. It's simple |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"No i dont think I can. You can have same sex with two different people, one with chemistry and one without.
Totally different experiences
Ive never had the same sex with two people! Everybody’s bodies feel different, they move differently, respond differently , sound differently, taste differently…It was an example, some people you have chemistry with and some you dont. It's simple"
Some people bang on about experience & techniques, it’s never done anything for me personally. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Consider the other persons needs both physically and emotionally during it.
And trust would be my two.
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Do you think it’s important that you both have the same types of needs so that almost happens naturally? |
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"Consider the other persons needs both physically and emotionally during it.
And trust would be my two.
Do you think it’s important that you both have the same types of needs so that almost happens naturally?"
I think they would need to be somewhat similar or you would need to be open to the idea of the other persons needs or it wouldnt work. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Trust and communication "
See, I can have great trust and great communication, but if they are kissing me in a way that I don’t like and neither of us is having orgasms then to me that is not it’s not great sex |
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"Trust and communication
See, I can have great trust and great communication, but if they are kissing me in a way that I don’t like and neither of us is having orgasms then to me that is not it’s not great sex"
100% agree with this |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Can you describe the components of great sex without using subjective words like chemistry/connection ?
Surely great sex is subjective. So subjective words are probably the best to describe it."
You never laid that after a mind blowing session, where are you both explode at exactly the same moment and it seems to last forever , sheets soaked, barely able to breathe and pondered what exactly made that so good? |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Dig bick "
Can’t comment as I’m straight but as a heterosexual man I find different types of vaginal tightness can lead to great sex and sometimes just very good sex so I’m not sure that part of the anatomy is a major contributor |
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"Can you describe the components of great sex without using subjective words like chemistry/connection ?
Surely great sex is subjective. So subjective words are probably the best to describe it.
You never laid that after a mind blowing session, where are you both explode at exactly the same moment and it seems to last forever , sheets soaked, barely able to breathe and pondered what exactly made that so good? "
Yes, it’s those subjective things like chemistry and connection 😁 |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Can you describe the components of great sex without using subjective words like chemistry/connection ?
Surely great sex is subjective. So subjective words are probably the best to describe it.
You never laid that after a mind blowing session, where are you both explode at exactly the same moment and it seems to last forever , sheets soaked, barely able to breathe and pondered what exactly made that so good?
Yes, it’s those subjective things like chemistry and connection 😁"
Yeah, but, yeah but… I just think that’s a bit woolly |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Being relaxed, focused and comfortable seems to help but it’s hard to answer without wishy washy words like connection or chemistry!  "
I’m relaxed, focused and comfortable lying on a cushionpainting the skirting boards…..
A beautiful penis ? Nice soft bouncy boobs?  |
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"Being relaxed, focused and comfortable seems to help but it’s hard to answer without wishy washy words like connection or chemistry!
I’m relaxed, focused and comfortable lying on a cushionpainting the skirting boards…..
A beautiful penis ? Nice soft bouncy boobs? "
Those things don’t matter.
I like the wishy washy words. 
It’s great sex when there’s a great vibe! |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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Well, I don’t agree with any of you I think connection chemistry vibes are all important - because if they’re not there I would not be putting my penis in the person.
If all sex is great, how do you know it’s not all actually mediocre? |
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"Well, I don’t agree with any of you I think connection chemistry vibes are all important - because if they’re not there I would not be putting my penis in the person.
If all sex is great, how do you know it’s not all actually mediocre? "
I think that’s what I said 😝 |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Passion and intensity where you're in that animalistic togetherness.
Bit of growling, grunting and biting 
All hot and sweaty.... a bit like right now accept it's the heat "
That’s not all sweat by the way…..some of its piss i mean sqirt |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Trust, feeling safe, adored and knowing your partner is enjoying you and wants to pleasure you in return."
Yeah, I think knowing they are really enjoying as much as you is important. There’s so many different ways to communicate and pick this up |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Kissing (loads of it)
Bloke on top
Cock deep in me
No condoms
He cums deep in me with my legs wrapped tightly around him and whispers "I love you" in my ear as he cums
Bliss"
And hopefully you come at exactly the same time |
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"Ladies, what about a nice hard cock and some stamina ? Or is a floppy cock and two pumps and a squirt great sex as long as there is a connection / chemistry.
That goes without saying
Why ? "
isn't that obvious lol |
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"Ladies, what about a nice hard cock and some stamina ? Or is a floppy cock and two pumps and a squirt great sex as long as there is a connection / chemistry.
That goes without saying
Why ? "
Well why wouldn't it? My original reply was what adds to great sex. Who wants a a floppy 2 minute wonder? Connection or not. |
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"Ladies, what about a nice hard cock and some stamina ? Or is a floppy cock and two pumps and a squirt great sex as long as there is a connection / chemistry.
That goes without saying
Why ? isn't that obvious lol"
Exactly 😂 |
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By *vaRoseWoman 2 weeks ago
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"Can you describe the components of great sex without using subjective words like chemistry/connection ? "
Good sex involves continuous observation and adaptation. Tempo and pacing change in response to how the other person’s body reacts. Stimulation shifts to maintain arousal and build up. Pressure, rhythm, or technique is adjusted to focus on the areas that generate the strongest responses. The goal is sustained engagement and shared physical pleasure. Both people contribute, respond, and act based on the other’s cues to please both
This isn’t an easy task because without good chemistry you won’t be engaged enough to want to be as observant as you need to be to make sex great |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Can you describe the components of great sex without using subjective words like chemistry/connection ?
Good sex involves continuous observation and adaptation. Tempo and pacing change in response to how the other person’s body reacts. Stimulation shifts to maintain arousal and build up. Pressure, rhythm, or technique is adjusted to focus on the areas that generate the strongest responses. The goal is sustained engagement and shared physical pleasure. Both people contribute, respond, and act based on the other’s cues to please both
This isn’t an easy task because without good chemistry you won’t be engaged enough to want to be as observant as you need to be to make sex great "
I like your description, I like it when it all happens naturally without any thinkinglike your whole body is one big sensor,
Do you think if there’s lots of conversation about do this or don’t do that, a bit to the left a bit to the right or try this or try that …. it implies a lack of chemistry?
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It starts with the eye contact, and then the kissing 💋 😘
For me its the desire, passion, touching....
Feeling the hands on you, soft yet urgent. When you respond to each other and can read what the other wants and needs 🥵😈 |
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By *vaRoseWoman 2 weeks ago
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"Can you describe the components of great sex without using subjective words like chemistry/connection ?
Good sex involves continuous observation and adaptation. Tempo and pacing change in response to how the other person’s body reacts. Stimulation shifts to maintain arousal and build up. Pressure, rhythm, or technique is adjusted to focus on the areas that generate the strongest responses. The goal is sustained engagement and shared physical pleasure. Both people contribute, respond, and act based on the other’s cues to please both
This isn’t an easy task because without good chemistry you won’t be engaged enough to want to be as observant as you need to be to make sex great
I like your description, I like it when it all happens naturally without any thinkinglike your whole body is one big sensor,
Do you think if there’s lots of conversation about do this or don’t do that, a bit to the left a bit to the right or try this or try that …. it implies a lack of chemistry?
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Not necessarily
I think there’s got to be an open line of communication, what works for you, what doesn’t…. But it’s how it’s delivered that’s kind of key. I don’t want to be directed like a marionette puppet but I do want to know if something I’m doing isn’t hitting the spot or could be improved. I find the in most natural partnerships that doesn’t always mean a full breakdown of things, because your own observation and adjustment does that. You can always discuss and learn between encounters - I quite enjoy that part. Discussing what we want to try next, what really fucking made their toes curl and what they would love. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Can you describe the components of great sex without using subjective words like chemistry/connection ?
Good sex involves continuous observation and adaptation. Tempo and pacing change in response to how the other person’s body reacts. Stimulation shifts to maintain arousal and build up. Pressure, rhythm, or technique is adjusted to focus on the areas that generate the strongest responses. The goal is sustained engagement and shared physical pleasure. Both people contribute, respond, and act based on the other’s cues to please both
This isn’t an easy task because without good chemistry you won’t be engaged enough to want to be as observant as you need to be to make sex great
I like your description, I like it when it all happens naturally without any thinkinglike your whole body is one big sensor,
Do you think if there’s lots of conversation about do this or don’t do that, a bit to the left a bit to the right or try this or try that …. it implies a lack of chemistry?
Not necessarily
I think there’s got to be an open line of communication, what works for you, what doesn’t…. But it’s how it’s delivered that’s kind of key. I don’t want to be directed like a marionette puppet but I do want to know if something I’m doing isn’t hitting the spot or could be improved. I find the in most natural partnerships that doesn’t always mean a full breakdown of things, because your own observation and adjustment does that. You can always discuss and learn between encounters - I quite enjoy that part. Discussing what we want to try next, what really fucking made their toes curl and what they would love. "
If I start getting instructions from a woman, I just conclude, we won’t reach the level of great sex that I’ve experienced in the past. That’s because intuition is dominant on my MBTI, |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Great sex just flows naturally. You're in sync with each other, and your bodies fit like jigsaw pieces."
I think I’d break the jigsaw if I handled it like my version of great sex
But yes, spot-on I agree 100% |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"I feel like being a really compliment heavy person means you get a more genuine connection with the other person (depending how accepting they are of said compliments) "
I think being deliberate with compliments can help if your partner has low self-esteem, but I find the greatest sex when people have just the right amount of confidence |
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