I don’t know about any other men / woman on here but for some reason, unknown to me you can literally be ghosted
Chatted for a good while now and had arranged to meet tomorrow
Meal cooked by me
Today came along and the clues appeared that no reply to messages on telegram then telegram deleted then defriended here then blocked all with in 5 mins
Maybe just maybe there is a genuinely decent guy at the other end of the phone.
Maybe you should try and act like an adult, have some real manners, respect and when showing care be real.
I would never treated people like that and I expect the same
Poor show rant over 😡😡😡😡 |
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By *sWyldWoman 4 weeks ago
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I understand that is frustrating but maybe they just changed their mind?
Everybody has the right to change their mind at anytime .
Maybe they didn't feel you would take that very well.
Yes,its annoying but it happens. How you respond to it is all you can control |
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It can be annoying but its best people show theirselves before you get involved with them. Their reasons for doing so isnt important, your reaction to it is.. move on and if they resurface, no second chances. |
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Yeh I would agree with you normally but it was exactly the same the last time with the same person and I brushed it of as a gentleman saying not to worry etc etc
And then the same again
Good manners and repspect go a long way xx
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"Yeh I would agree with you normally but it was exactly the same the last time with the same person and I brushed it of as a gentleman saying not to worry etc etc
And then the same again
Good manners and repspect go a long way xx
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Don't ignore red flags op, if they do it once, no second chances.
Sorry you had this happen, some people get off on this sort of thing judging by all the threads on it. Report them to admin though. |
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"I don’t know about any other men / woman on here but for some reason, unknown to me you can literally be ghosted
Chatted for a good while now and had arranged to meet tomorrow
Meal cooked by me
Today came along and the clues appeared that no reply to messages on telegram then telegram deleted then defriended here then blocked all with in 5 mins
Maybe just maybe there is a genuinely decent guy at the other end of the phone.
Maybe you should try and act like an adult, have some real manners, respect and when showing care be real.
I would never treated people like that and I expect the same
Poor show rant over 😡😡😡😡"
perhaps the reality kicked in if it was a single female coming around to yours maybe arrange a social in a public place next time so there’s less pressure for both of you 🤷🏻♀️ |
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"Again being something that had been discussed on numerous occasions she wanted it to be at mine as she would be more comfortable than a coffee shop or restaurant xx oh right sorry  "
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"Again being something that had been discussed on numerous occasions she wanted it to be at mine as she would be more comfortable than a coffee shop or restaurant xx"
Perhaps she wasn't in the mood for sex on the day, or got her period or something and didn't like to say... |
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"Again being something that had been discussed on numerous occasions she wanted it to be at mine as she would be more comfortable than a coffee shop or restaurant xx
Perhaps she wasn't in the mood for sex on the day, or got her period or something and didn't like to say..."
Perhaps
or more likely she is just very disrespectful with no manners
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It's potentially safer to meet in a public place, which wouldn't have to be a bar or coffee shop. It's lovely that you cooked a meal but a lone woman in a man's home does have safety issues, as does consumption of what he provides for her.
I'd be especially dubious if someone didn't fulfil a prior meeting. People could meet at Fab socials together, so they'll have security and be surrounded by people who understand too. |
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I agree it's kinda rude and moreso when you have made specific plans. I've pulled out at the last min as had a change of heart - but have said so not ghosted as I do think its childish. Yes we can change our minds - no-one owes anyone - but saying so does feel kinder.
Also agree tho that we can't control what others do but can only control our response, so... |
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"I agree it's kinda rude and moreso when you have made specific plans. I've pulled out at the last min as had a change of heart - but have said so not ghosted as I do think its childish. Yes we can change our minds - no-one owes anyone - but saying so does feel kinder.
Also agree tho that we can't control what others do but can only control our response, so... "
agree 100% of you come on and expect to be respected like you say don’t act like your in kinder garden |
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"It's potentially safer to meet in a public place, which wouldn't have to be a bar or coffee shop. It's lovely that you cooked a meal but a lone woman in a man's home does have safety issues, as does consumption of what he provides for her.
I'd be especially dubious if someone didn't fulfil a prior meeting. People could meet at Fab socials together, so they'll have security and be surrounded by people who understand too. "
Having been here for a considerable time I have had a couple of ghosts this to me is just childish
Like many have said it’s how you act after it that matters
Being a real person with good manners and respect for others isn’t hard to have they just seem hard to find in some sadly |
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"Again being something that had been discussed on numerous occasions she wanted it to be at mine as she would be more comfortable than a coffee shop or restaurant xx"
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Did you exchange voice notes/telephone calls prior to this 'date'? I would have insisted (and persisted) on meeting for a coffee in a public place. If her caveat was to meet at mine then I would say no thank you and look for closure. |
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By *eliWoman 4 weeks ago
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Don't invest too much energy in to someone before you've met them. Once you have and are certain? Sure. Before then, you don't know who you're talking to. At all.
It's crap it's happened, hopefully it won't again. There'll be better fits out there. |
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"Yeh I would agree with you normally but it was exactly the same the last time with the same person and I brushed it of as a gentleman saying not to worry etc etc
And then the same again
Good manners and respect go a long way xx
Don't ignore red flags op, if they do it once, no second chances.
Sorry you had this happen, some people get off on this sort of thing judging by all the threads on it. Report them to admin though. "
As above, no second chances, had a similar situation with a hotel meet recently. was blocked like the OP after a 'no show' with no explanation. Hey presto, two weeks later I'm not blocked anymore, and received a friend request. The icing on the cake was this same woman coming up and sitting next to me at a party last weekend wanting to chat  |
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"Don't invest too much energy in to someone before you've met them. Once you have and are certain? Sure. Before then, you don't know who you're talking to. At all.
It's crap it's happened, hopefully it won't again. There'll be better fits out there."
Oh I have been here a while and felt there was a bit of investment on both sides
Respect and manners cost nothing xxx |
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"I understand that is frustrating but maybe they just changed their mind?
Are we going to continue justifying terrible behaviour with this excuse? "
Yeah, I think if people are making what appears to be a solid plan to meet and then changing their mind, it's flaky behaviour |
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By *WANDTGCouple 4 weeks ago
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We always try and arrange a meet around our interests in a public place, so if there's a no shower we can go for a meal or a shopping trip, That's why we choose Bluewater or Glades at Bromley. Even when couples have turned up, we've still done shopping and had a meal. |
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It can happen to anyone OP I’m afraid. It’s horrible to experience and I’ve even had it in a relationship.
You’ll never get the answer why but just remind yourself, you wouldn’t do it. So you haven’t lowered yourself to their level. Keep smiling 🌈 |
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I agree with whoever said people can change their mind and actually sometimes wise to do so in some cases. To be honest I have done before when realised it would not be right kt whatever other reason. After speaking to someone for so long and making specific plans, if you change your mind is absolutely fine but to just block is appaling behaviour whatever else anyone thinks. |
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"I understand that is frustrating but maybe they just changed their mind?
Are we going to continue justifying terrible behaviour with this excuse? "
It's fine for people to change their mind I just wish that they would actually tell me so I don't waste my free time and look for someone that actually meets.
In the last 6 years the amount of people not turning up and not bothering to message to let me know is disgusting I'd never dream of messing someone about like that. |
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