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I'm friends with one of mine (we ended things 18 months ago). And being friends with him is normally fine.
Except recently I told him I'd enjoyed seeing a musical in London and today I found out that he took his partner to see it to celebrate her birthday. On my recommendation and I just  |
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I am in contact with my ex husband because we have 2 kids together. Thankfully our youngest turned 18 this year and contact has naturally become less stressful.
OP, in relation to your ex taking his new partner to see a show you enjoyed. See it as a positive, you have great taste.
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I'm not in contact with any 'romantic' exes. I do keep in touch with ex lovers though.
I'd be very flattered if a friend took their partner to see something I'd enjoyed and recommended to them. Unless of course I'd asked them to go with me and they declined and instead took their partner. That would irk me. |
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Ex girlfriend of 4 years...we finished about 15 years ago.. still good friends though.. she's up in the north east we chat on the phone now and again and sometimes we meet up if she's down London... totally nothing sexual between us... just friends..she actually gave me a makeover once and has given me make up advice.... Shame I didn't heed it ....😹😹😹 |
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I'm good friends with one, but that's because I secretly hope to reignite it with her when her home life settles down.
The kids dad, contact is an evil necessary for now. I'm friendly with most other past dalliances though.
I'd take it as a compliment (after feeling a bit initially odd) that your ex took his girlfriend to the show you praised. |
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By *ookie46Woman 2 weeks ago
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I’ve only had three serious relationships in my whole life
Ev husband no, we have kids together but they are all young adults now so the contact if wished can go through them
First serious ex I was engaged to we never kept in contact, he cheated so I cut all ties
Last serious relationship of four years no contact as turned out he was a Walter Mitty type character
Casual boyfriends I’ve had over the years still keep in touch with a few as we parted on good terms
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I still live with her! It's far from ideal and massively inconvenient, but it's a temporary arrangement. We've a child to consider, and the financial implications of living separately make a phased exit the most sensible approach. |
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After a period of acrimony after we divorced my ex and I are on good terms now. Meet for coffee etc. She is always dressed to impress when we meet, and although I've never mentioned anything there is some flirting. We always kiss each other hello and goodbye on the lips. Don't think I would ever go further with her but I have to admit it's tempting.  |
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I'm not quite sure I understand the problem with him going to see something you told him you enjoyed. He thinks your opinion is worthwhile, going with you would be inappropriate with the situation even if you did want to see it again. I'm not sure what the correct course of action would have been otherwise.
I'm friends with the majority of my exes.
There's a couple of shitty ones that needed utterly cut out, but mostly the people I've cared about as partners but eventually determined that we weren't working that way I continue caring about. Sometimes needs a little time completely apart for the dust to settle immediately after the breakup, but once that bit is taken care of going back to being friends is the norm for me 💜 |
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Don't look at mine as a failed marriage, but a good one that didn't last. I realised I didn't need to forgive her, as there was nothing to forgive her for. Everything that ever happens is OK, because however bad it seemed, it all brought you to this perfect moment..... |
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"...recently I told him I'd enjoyed seeing a musical in London and today I found out that he took his partner to see it to celebrate her birthday. On my recommendation and I just "
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I'm really struggling with this 'issue'...you made a recommendation and, having placed trust and value on that recommendation, he went to see the musical (with a partner).
I don't see anything untoward or nefarious in his actions. |
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"...recently I told him I'd enjoyed seeing a musical in London and today I found out that he took his partner to see it to celebrate her birthday. On my recommendation and I just
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I'm really struggling with this 'issue'...you made a recommendation and, having placed trust and value on that recommendation, he went to see the musical (with a partner).
I don't see anything untoward or nefarious in his actions."
Don't you know that if your ex sees something first you're never allowed to see it, especially if they enjoy it? Thems the rules. Apparently 💜 |
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"...recently I told him I'd enjoyed seeing a musical in London and today I found out that he took his partner to see it to celebrate her birthday. On my recommendation and I just
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I'm really struggling with this 'issue'...you made a recommendation and, having placed trust and value on that recommendation, he went to see the musical (with a partner).
I don't see anything untoward or nefarious in his actions.
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Don't you know that if your ex sees something first you're never allowed to see it, especially if they enjoy it? Thems the rules. Apparently 💜"
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I think you and I need to engage in some serious coquettish courtship to test this theory. It's long overdue. |
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By *enda83Man 2 weeks ago
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I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year
The mother of my kids I talk to if I have too, don’t particularly like the horrible cunt but can manage to be civil and offered to help her when she was having money trouble as stupid as thst may sound she still has my daughter half the time so despite my feelings for her wouldn’t see her struggle
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"I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year
The mother of my kids I talk to if I have too, don’t particularly like the horrible cunt but can manage to be civil and offered to help her when she was having money trouble as stupid as thst may sound she still has my daughter half the time so despite my feelings for her wouldn’t see her struggle
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Fair play for being a decent guy doing that.... many wouldn’t |
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By *enda83Man 2 weeks ago
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"I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year
The mother of my kids I talk to if I have too, don’t particularly like the horrible cunt but can manage to be civil and offered to help her when she was having money trouble as stupid as thst may sound she still has my daughter half the time so despite my feelings for her wouldn’t see her struggle
Fair play for being a decent guy doing that.... many wouldn’t "
Cheers mate being completely honest though if she didn’t have my daughter half the time I probably wouldn’t care in the slightest haha |
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"I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year
The mother of my kids I talk to if I have too, don’t particularly like the horrible cunt but can manage to be civil and offered to help her when she was having money trouble as stupid as thst may sound she still has my daughter half the time so despite my feelings for her wouldn’t see her struggle
Fair play for being a decent guy doing that.... many wouldn’t
Cheers mate being completely honest though if she didn’t have my daughter half the time I probably wouldn’t care in the slightest haha "
I bet! 🤣 |
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"I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year
The mother of my kids I talk to if I have too, don’t particularly like the horrible cunt but can manage to be civil and offered to help her when she was having money trouble as stupid as thst may sound she still has my daughter half the time so despite my feelings for her wouldn’t see her struggle
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Good on you for trying to keep the peace for the sake of your daughter. Respect mate. |
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By *enda83Man 2 weeks ago
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"I still text back and forth with an ex from years go but never spoke to her for 20+ years only stated speaking again this year
The mother of my kids I talk to if I have too, don’t particularly like the horrible cunt but can manage to be civil and offered to help her when she was having money trouble as stupid as thst may sound she still has my daughter half the time so despite my feelings for her wouldn’t see her struggle
Good on you for trying to keep the peace for the sake of your daughter. Respect mate. "
Thank you mate |
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Every ex is different, some i miss , some i wonder what i ever saw in them
One ex was seeing my mate behind my back and got pregnant by him - i dont hate anyone but im glad she is out of my life
Another i still see around, she is the most wonderful person you could meet. i was too young and blew it, she is one of the nicest people on the planet |
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I’m still in contact with the ex husband as he is my son’s dad. Conversation is limited to essentials about parenting decisions and logistics though despite his best efforts. He still wants me back and I couldn’t think of anything worse.
Not in contact with the ex fwb and I don’t expect I ever will be after the way he treated me. Still in contact with a couple of previous partners but I wouldn’t count them as ex’s as there was never anything serious between us. |
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Only cos of the kids for joint essentials. It's generally polite & amicable with occasional flash points. Where once I'd have taken her back, what I learned during split/divorce/since, absolutely not, not the woman I thought I married. Selfish, shallow & materialistic despite denials. |
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