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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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Do you ever think or have you ever thought ‘I’m really punching here’ with someone you’ve met?
I’m talking looks only.
If someone asked you and the last person you slept with ‘who was punching?’ What do you think would be the answer?  |
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I did for a while, then when she told me how she didnt like the way other people said how lucky I was and stuff. Made me realise, I'm a pretty good catch too!
Was an interesting perspective to gain! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"I did for a while, then when she told me how she didnt like the way other people said how lucky I was and stuff. Made me realise, I'm a pretty good catch too!
Was an interesting perspective to gain! "
Oh you should always believe you’re a catch! |
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"I did for a while, then when she told me how she didnt like the way other people said how lucky I was and stuff. Made me realise, I'm a pretty good catch too!
Was an interesting perspective to gain!
Oh you should always believe you’re a catch! "
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"Do you ever think or have you ever thought ‘I’m really punching here’ with someone you’ve met?
I’m talking looks only.
If someone asked you and the last person you slept with ‘who was punching?’ What do you think would be the answer? "
I'm punching every time, but I think that just proves that my taste is impeccable  |
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"I've only just started to love myself and my body, so I've always seen it as im punching above my weight, however personality wise, alot having been punching with me in that respect 😅"
I don't think people realise just how much men can be insecure about how they look too. I've often thought oh I'm not good enough and had negative thoughts from time to time. Thankfully like you I've learned to take it easy and love myself more. |
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Always Pickles.
The self confidence is low, the comparison rate against others is high.
Not just for me but for men in general I feel like there's a lot of societal pressure to be the tallest or most ripped or have the biggest appendage or the broadest back or the strongest shoulders, etc, etc, you get my drift.
I'm learning to accept who I am but I'd be lying if I said it was an easy mindset to get into.
Until I feel comfortable within myself and realise my own value (whatever that may be) there's always bravado and banter to hide behind and that keeps me on an even keel while I journey through self-discovery. |
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No. But I’ve been flattered that they like me because I liked them enough to want to meet them, I’d hate to think they had ‘settled’. I hope they fancied me on the par with how I viewed them. Hot as fuck! |
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Having been married and monogamous for the best part of 20 years, it's not something I've really considered. And now that I am thinking about it, I dont like it, sexual attraction is about so much more than a beauty standard defined by a multi million industry to make them more money. |
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"Do you ever think or have you ever thought ‘I’m really punching here’ with someone you’ve met?
I’m talking looks only.
If someone asked you and the last person you slept with ‘who was punching?’ What do you think would be the answer? "
Yes, 100%. But I think that’s healthy no? Shows I’m into that person. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Do you ever think or have you ever thought ‘I’m really punching here’ with someone you’ve met?
I’m talking looks only.
If someone asked you and the last person you slept with ‘who was punching?’ What do you think would be the answer?
Yes, 100%. But I think that’s healthy no? Shows I’m into that person. "
I agree with this i dont necassarily think of it as a negative. I guess if its because of a negative thought/low opinion of yourself its different. |
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"Do you ever think or have you ever thought ‘I’m really punching here’ with someone you’ve met?
I’m talking looks only.
If someone asked you and the last person you slept with ‘who was punching?’ What do you think would be the answer?
Yes, 100%. But I think that’s healthy no? Shows I’m into that person. "
I guess it depends on the person. But when I was in that frame of mind it certainly wasn't a healthy thought process |
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I have in the past, pretty much numerous times and almost felt like I had to try too hard to keep their attention because I didn't want to completely fuck up that opportunity at a connection.
Recently, I've tried to be a bit kinder to myself by realising they must feel the same way about me or they wouldn't be there and it's generally chilled me out and helped my confidence |
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I felt like that in my first long-term relationship. He was a real pretty boy and frequently liked to remind me of how lucky I was (in his eyes).
I've not viewed people and attraction through that lens since I was 20. |
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A few years ago I definitely felt that way.
These days I don't feel it.
But I am quite conventionally attractive and visually striking, so if anyone did comment like that on my partners it would probably be that two of them are punching. But I find them fucking beautiful regardless of the beauty standard 💜 |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"No. I’m awesome and anybody I go with is as lucky to have me as I am to have them."
this is the right sentiment
we're all weird and wonderful in our own little ways, unless any of us has questionable attitudes that seriously needs to be addressed, then we're all lucky to have the play partners we have and vice versa |
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I've never felt I was 'really punching', no idea if the people I've met thought I was. 🤷♀️
If someone thinks they're punching to meet me I wish they wouldn't it would only end in their disappointment |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Oh my days....I met my dream woman here. Never saw her coming. She was my ultimate woman. Still think about her now ....I was punching way way above me. Never did know what she saw in me. Felt amazing to have been able to be with her. |
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"Yup... Mrs is punching way above her level 😂
Mr F.
It’s been almost an hour and there’s been no simping or thirsty replies. I just want you to know, Forumites, that I am proud of you all."
Weird response. Are you actually OK?  |
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"The last person i was with i was 100% punching 😂
If you found each other attractive, nobody is 'punching' 🤓"
Going off physical appearance he was most definitely out of my league surely that makes me the one punching 😂 no complaints here though i got me some! |
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"The last person i was with i was 100% punching 😂
If you found each other attractive, nobody is 'punching' 🤓
Going off physical appearance he was most definitely out of my league surely that makes me the one punching 😂 no complaints here though i got me some! "
Maybe he thought he was 'punching'? If someone is naked in front of me, I'm guessing we're 'same weight' 😉🤓 |
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"No.
I think it's quite conceited for anyone to think they are better than anyone else."
I think it’s usually the other way round? The person who thinks they’re punching consider the other person to be more attractive? |
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By *vaRoseWoman 39 weeks ago
Ankh-Morpork |
Yes, no, maybe?
It really depends what the person asking about. If they value athleticism and consider larger ladies “lower value” then yes I’m punching, and I’ve had some pretty rotten messages telling me so.
However I’ve also had many more that tell us how lucky he is, and how lucky we both are.
I’d say for many reasons - someone else’s opinion doesn’t fucking matter so long as the people who are meeting are happy. |
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"With my long term partner, definitely.
When he calls me his beautiful girl, I look at his face and body and think "and lucky" 
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He was the last person I had sex with. I'd say I'm punching. I don't know what he would sat. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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In a twisted way I always like to feel like I’m punching. When I like someone, I like hard and passionately. I don’t see it as a slight on myself as I also know what I bring to the table. I see it as a good thing as it shows that I’m genuinely attracted to that person. I like nice things 😊 |
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By *ete hMan 39 weeks ago
Penzance |
I've been with someone who I thought was easily more attractive than me, but she told me she thought I was theore attractive one. And I've also been told by a different gf's friend they thought I was punching which may well have been correct. So it's definitely a very subjective kinda thing. People's views of relative attraction always is 🤷🏻♂️ |
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"Punching can get out. I don’t enjoy comparisons, I don’t think it’s good for anyone.
Mrs TMN x
Just a fun thread. 🤷🏾♂️
Just a straight answer my love "
He must be stunning if he's not punching as she's incredible  |
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By *on_20Couple 4 days ago
Manchester and Cardiff |
C is objectively more physically attractive than me
C has been with women more physically attractive than me
I don’t think I’m punching and I’m not overly keen on that statement either.
When two people choose each other it is for more than just appearances |
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I have in the past.
One ex was an absolute stunner...pole dancer lady. Wayyyyyy out of my league . Fuck knows what she saw in me.
Another was way you get than me. Absolute fitty ....
Sadly both came to there senses.
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